In John 16, right before the very first Easter, Jesus promises to turn the grief of the disciples into joy. How does He do that, and how does that help us?
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Well, good morning, everyone. My name is Nate. I get to be one of the pastors here. Thank you so much for making grace a part of your Easter celebration. I just want to mention real quick to just some of you. Not everyone will have noticed this, but some of you did, and I feel like it needs to be addressed. In that last song, there's a line that says, all that I have is a hallelujah. And if you, being grammatically correct, change it to an alleluia while you were singing, then you're fine. Okay, that's okay. And God's still honored with your correct grammar. We have been moving through a series called Final Thoughts. And I know on Easter that we have friends and guests and family members who have not been a part of the previous weeks. So to give you just a little bit of context for where we are and what we're talking about as we reach the ultimate sermon in this series. In John, in the Gospel of John, chapters 13 through 17, Jesus is with the disciples in the upper room the night that he's arrested. So Jesus is about to be arrested and then tried and then crucified. And then three days later, we find the empty tomb and he's conquered sin and death. But right before that happens, he's celebrating Passover with the disciples. And after Judas leaves to betray him, Jesus gets serious and he starts talking to the disciples and what's known as the upper room discourse. And it's all of his final thoughts to download to them before he goes and he does what he needs to do. So these are hugely impactful words that we find in John 13 through 17. And we've spent seven or eight weeks in those words. This week, we arrive at a text that I'm going to read here in a little bit that talks about Jesus is going to die and they're going to grieve, but he's going to turn that sorrow, that grief into joy. And so as I was reflecting on this passage, it was required that I would reflect upon grief. And so what I wanted to do this morning, just to celebrate Easter, the most joyful day of the year, is to invite you to think about the time of your deepest grief in your whole life. But really, I do want you to go there. And I know it doesn't make a whole lot of sense on Easter, but it will. Each one of us, if we're old enough, have experienced something in life that brought us tremendous grief. Each one of us has walked the path of sorrow. If we haven't, we will. No one dodges the raindrops of suffering their whole life. And as I was reflecting on grief that I've experienced personally, that I've experienced through others, this occurred to me that grief doesn't just mourn what you lost, but also what you thought you would have. There's this two-pronged element to grief. I don't know what it is, where your mind went when I said, when's the time in your life of great grief? Very rarely does that grief only grieve and experience pain over what was lost. Very often that grief is also mourning over what we thought we would have. I remember the first time in my life when I experienced profound grief was when Jen and I miscarried our first child. We had struggled a lot to become pregnant. And when we finally did, we were overjoyed. And then we found out about eight weeks in that we weren't pregnant anymore. And that grief hit us like a wave. That grief hit us like a wave. And as I've reflected on it, obviously I was sad over the life lost, but really I was grieved over the life I thought I was going to have now. Now I get to be a father. Now Jen gets to be a mother. Now we get to be a family. Now we're off and going. This is the next stage in life, one that we've longed for so much. Now we're there. And then we're not. And we're grieving the future that we were anticipating. If you've lost a loved one too early, too soon, and only those that love others get to decide what that is. But if you've lost someone too soon, you don't just grieve who you lost. You grieve the years ahead. You grieve the grandkids that won't know them. You grieve the stages of life when you can't call them. When you sit in the wake of a divorce, a shattered marriage, or a shattered life, you're not only grieving over the marriage that was lost and the covenant that was broken, but you're grieving over the loss of growing old together, of watching grandkids together. You're grieving over the life that you thought you would have. And so, very often in grief, there is a mourning not for only what was lost, but also for what we thought we would have. And this, I think, is the grief that we find in the disciples that Jesus is referring to in this passage. In John chapter 16, verses 19 and 20, Jesus tells the disciples, I'm going to die, and then I'm going to come back from the dead. And the disciples, just like you and I would in that moment, go, what do you think he's talking about? They still didn't understand. And he says, while the world is rejoicing, because the world crucifies Christ, while the world is rejoicing, you will mourn and then I will turn your mourning and your grief into joy. Because you're going to be sad. You're going to be hurt. And this grief of the disciples, what I think of is Saturday. Friday is the last supper. Saturday, they're sitting in the midst of the unknown. Sunday, we find an empty tomb and questions are answered. But on Saturday, the grief that they're experiencing on Saturday is the grief of a future lost. Because what we know about the disciples is that even at the death of Christ, even as Christ hung on the cross, as the crucified Messiah was there, the disciples did not know what he really came to do. The disciples still thought that Jesus came to be an earthly king on an earthly throne, ruling an earthly kingdom. They still believed that Jesus was going to rise to the throne of David, take over Israel, and then Israel would be his international superpower, and Jesus would be the king of kings from the throne of David. And we know this because on their way into Jerusalem, the Sunday before Easter on Palm Sunday, they're following Jesus, arguing about who gets to be what in this new kingdom. I get to be the vice president and I get to be the secretary of defense and you have to be the secretary of transportation. They were arguing about those things. And so we know that the expectation of the disciples was for Jesus to establish this perfect earthly kingdom and be an earthly king. And when this man is hanging on the cross and he breathes his last, so is the last breath of that dream breathed. So is their future dead. They don't know now what the point of everything was. They think it's over and it's lost and it's done. And on Saturday, they sit quietly in a room together trying to figure out what just happened. Because on Friday, they scattered, scared that they would be associated with Jesus and then tried like him. And so the sheep scattered. On Saturday, they get back together and they go, what did we just do? What did we just lose? And they're sitting in this grief over a future that they thought Jesus was going to bring about. They thought by hitching their wagons to this guy that this is our future. This is our life. We will be men of prominence. This is going in this direction. And when it stopped going in that direction, they were miffed and mystified. They were grieving the loss of a future that they presumed Jesus would bring about for them. And in this way, I believe that we can relate to the disciples. I believe that we can very much sit in the grief that they were sitting in. All of us, I believe, have grieved a presumed future with Jesus. All of us have grieved over the loss of a future we thought we would have with Christ. We know this. And I believe that many of us in different ways and in different times have grieved a future, the loss of a future that we thought Jesus was going to bring about. We gathered around someone we loved. We gathered around someone we cared about who got cancer too early or got a disease too soon or had an accident and we were praying for their recovery. We've gathered around. We've gathered two or more in Jesus' name and we've asked in Jesus' name for them to be healed. And he could have, but he didn't. And maybe we thought that Jesus was going to let this person be in our life longer than he did. And then he did it, so we grieved the loss of that future. And we grieved the loss of the future that we thought Jesus was going to bring about. We prayed for a child for years. We got pregnant. We lost that child. Now Jesus has let us down because we thought he was going to bless our future and bring about that future for us. And he didn't then. He did later. Some of us have become Christians. believing because of maybe poor teaching, maybe being overly presumptuous, that when we get saved, our life gets better. When I give my life to Christ, he protects me. And now there's this umbrella, this force field around my life that prevents me from pain, that prevents me from hardship. And we found out subsequent to our salvation that that's not how that works. And the future that we thought that we were bringing about by inviting Jesus into our life isn't what happened. And so now we're grieving the disappointment that we have at Jesus not doing what we thought he was going to do. Maybe when we were young children, we were handed a simple faith by the leaders around us and by our parents. And then as we grew up and we began to experience complicated life, we realized that this simple faith was not adequate for the life that we were experiencing. And that tension became so great that eventually we made the difficult decision to step away from faith, to deprioritize it in our life. Because we were told when we were little that Jesus was going to bring about a certain kind of future that he didn't bring about. And so now we're grieving the loss of that future, and we're grieving stepping away from who we grew up and how we grew up and what we were taught, and that hurts, and that's a painful thing. And it's painful to know that in making that choice, you're also hurting the people who taught you that faith. And so now there's communal grief over this future that we thought Jesus was going to bring about. And he didn't. Maybe we are parents and we did everything we could to train up a child in the way that they must go. And then we watched them depart from it. And Jesus did not bring about the future that we thought he would. So we grieve the loss of that future. There are more examples. We could go on. But I would contend that a vast majority of us in this room have grieved as the disciples grieved over a loss of a presumed future we thought Jesus had for us. Because we can relate so deeply to the disciples and their Saturday grief, it should interest us a great deal. How Jesus manages to turn that grief into joy. That sorrow into laughter. And here's how I think that grief got transformed to joy. I think that our grief turns to joy when we discover what Jesus was really up to. Our grief turns to joy when we discover what Jesus has really been trying to do. The verse that Aaron shared in worship, when they saw Jesus, they were, they sprung to joy so great. They stood up, they were in disbelief. It was a joy that brought about disbelief. This is so amazing. This is so fantastic. I can't believe it's happening. I'm going to stand up, arms raised, mouth agape. I can't believe this is going on. That kind of joy. How does Jesus turn that deep grief of a lost future into a joy that is speechless? By showing you what he's really been up to. And what he was showing the disciples in that moment and what they began to progressively understand over the next 40 days leading into Pentecost is that Jesus did not come to establish an earthly kingdom here. He came to establish an eternal kingdom there. He did not come to make this place perfect. He came to craft a perfect eternity for you forever and for the disciples forever. And what he was showing the disciples is, guys, what I have imagined and what I came to do is so much bigger and grander and more marvelous and more wonderful and more miraculous than anything you've imagined. I did not come to sit on an earthly throne and be an earthly kingdom that is beneath me. I came to establish an eternal throne and an eternal kingdom and to make a way for you to be there with me. That's why Jesus tells the disciples in the upper room discourse, I'm going to my father's house and I'm going to go prepare a place for you. And I'm the way to that place. And Easter makes Jesus the way to that place. And I just happen to think, to be naive enough to cling to this idea, that Jesus will also turn our grief into joy. And he will do it when we see what he's really been up to. What he's really been doing behind the scenes, what he's really been working on, how much bigger and more grand and more miraculous his imagination for us is than what ours is. Some of us have the opportunity to see this in this temporal place, in this world. We've seen the child grow up in the way that they're supposed to go and then wander away from the faith. And it hurts us, and we watch them, and they make mistakes, and they run into walls, and they trip over themselves, and we want to stop them, but we can't. And we just pray that they would come back, and then one day they get married, or they have a kid, or some life event happens, or something stark in their life goes on, and they come back to a faith. And when they come back to the faith, they do it with this vibrancy and this ownership that would have never taken place had they not had those years in the wilderness. And now, with a decade of hindsight, we see those necessary wanderings that solidified the faith of our children. We can think back, many of us, to moments of grief in our life when we shook our fists at God. and we said, this isn't fair. How could you let this happen? And a decade hence, with hindsight, we know exactly why it happened. We know exactly why it was fair. And we see exactly how God was working in ways that we couldn't fathom. And that's just here in this world. Because if you want to know what Jesus has really been up to, if you want to know what he's really doing, we find that in Revelation. I love this passage. I preach it at every funeral I do because it is the most hope-filled passage I can find in the Bible. This is what Jesus has really been up to in Revelation 21, verses 1 through 4. longer any sea. I saw the holy city, the new Jerusalem, coming down out of heaven from God, prepared as a bride, beautifully dressed for her husband. And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying, look, God's dwelling place is now among the people. Listen. And he will dwell with them. They will be with his people, and God himself will be with their God, and he will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain for the old order of things has passed away. That's what Jesus has been up to. I say if you come not on Easter, I say very often that when Jesus returns, he's going to make all the wrong things right and the sad things untrue. This is how. He did not come to make this earth perfect for us now. He came to make a path to the perfect new earth and new heaven that he's creating. If you want to know what Jesus is up to now, he's preparing a place for us so that one day we will be sitting before the throne of God and we will be with our God and he will be with his people and there will be no more weeping and no more crying and no more pain anymore for the former things. Death and abuse and divorce and grief and loss and illness and sickness and sadness, the former things, will have passed away. And Jesus punched our ticket to that perfect eternity. Do you know how he did it? Easter. He did it with the empty tomb. He did it by overcoming sin and death and shame for you and for me. And so when we celebrate Easter, we call it the most joyful day of the year. Because on Easter, Jesus conquered death so that when we die, it's not goodbye forever, it's goodbye for now. When we pray for healing, that will be answered either in this life or the next when we place our faith in Christ and what he did on the cross and what he proved on Easter. We follow a Jesus that turns our grief into joy. So I don't know where your head went when I asked you what your greatest grief was. I'm confident some of you are walking through it right now. I'm confident all of us have more grief waiting on us in this life. But what I'm certain of is, no matter what that grief was, is, or will be, that Jesus has turned that grief into joy. And when we find out what he has been up to, it will be so much bigger, more miraculous, more wonderful, more awe-inspiring, more mysterious than we could ever imagine. And that's the future that Easter wins for us. So let's go celebrate with our families. Let's smile and laugh and enjoy and eat well. But let's do it knowing that whatever grief we have experienced or will experience will be turned into joy because Jesus died on the cross and conquered death and sin by raising from the grave. And he's gone to prepare a perfect future for us. And when we find out what he has been up to, it will blow us away even more than it shocked and surprised the disciples, and we will stand mouth agape in joyous wonder at what Jesus has been doing. Let's cling to that and continue to celebrate Easter together. Let me pray for you. Father, we're so grateful for Easter and what it is and what it represents. Thank you for covering over our sin and our shame. Thank you for making a path through your son to experience a perfect eternity with you. God, we thank you that your imagination is bigger than ours, that your hope for our future is better than ours, that what you can envision for us and what you want to do for us is so much more than we could ask or even think to imagine. God, if there are those here with us this morning or listening online who are grieving, would you give them belief and hope that you will turn that to joy? God, would we revel in the power of Easter and what it is and what it means? Give us good celebrations with our family. Give us good thoughtful discussions with our friends. And God, help us today celebrate you and all that you've done to bring us into this perfect place that you're preparing. In Jesus' name, amen.