Good morning. My name is Nate. I get to be one of the pastors here. If I haven't gotten a chance to meet you, I'd love to do that. As I always say on holiday weekends, and just want to reiterate for you, God does love you more because you're here in church, especially in the rain. He loves you double today. So good job. If you're watching online from your beach house or wherever, He does not love you the same as he loves the people here. I'm sorry. That's just how it goes. It's in the Bible somewhere. This is the last part in our series called Big Emotions, where we've been looking at blow ups and blow outs in the Bible and learning how God responds to the emotions of his children, learning how God would have us manage and navigate some of our bigger emotions. And as we wrap up the series, I thought it would be appropriate to focus on the big emotions of God, on one of God's biggest emotions. And it's interesting to me that God is the one that tells us this about himself. A lot of the descriptions of God in the Bible are people, the authors of the Bible, telling us who they understand God to be, how they've experienced God. But it's not very often in scripture that God comes out and is interested in describing himself to us and telling us more about him and even especially ascribing emotions to himself. And if I were to ask you, how does God feel about you? What's the first way that he says he feels about you in the Bible? I would be willing to bet, now some of you know, but I would be willing to bet that jealousy is not what you would say first. You probably do know that God is a jealous God. I'm sure you've heard that. But it's interesting to me that God, who holds back so much in describing himself and allows us to kind of pursue him and learn who he is through experience and through others, that it's important to him to come out of the gates and say, I am a jealous God. He says this in Exodus chapter 20, verses 3 through 5. This is what things, but he describes himself as a God. Now he goes on from there and talks about more things, but he describes himself to us as a jealous God. He is, and what he's jealous of is you. He's jealous of your affection, your attention, your devotion. He wants you to be focused on him. God knows that we all wake up in the morning thinking about something. There's something that's driving us. There's something that we want to pursue, and God wants to be the thing that we wake up thinking about. He wants to be the last thing we think about when we put our head on the pillow at night. God is jealous of our affection and devotion. This is interesting to me, not only because it's kind of the attribute that God leads with as he introduces himself to us at the beginning of the story, but it also kind of flies in the face of everything else that the Bible has to say about jealousy. There's a lot of passages about envy and jealousy in the Bible. God typically does not shed a positive light on that. We're not pro-jealousy. We don't raise our children to be jealous. The exact opposite. And so there's a lot of passages that I could go to to say, hey, this is pretty much what the Bible has to say about jealousy. But I found the one that synopsizes it the best for me is in James tells us, there will be disorder and every vile practice, all the corruption, all the greed, all the selfishness, wherever it exists. And yet it exists in God. So how can these things be true? How can we marry God describing himself as a jealous God for us? And also that where jealousy exists, so does every vile practice. Those two things don't seem to line up. And as I thought about it, and thought about what jealousy is, jealousy is wanting someone's attention or devotion for yourself. And it's acknowledging that when we are jealous of something, we place desire on that thing. What occurred to me with the nature of jealousy and why it's good for God to be jealous and it's bad for us to be jealous of other things besides God, is that God's jealousy is rooted in what he wants for you, not from you. God's jealousy for you is rooted in what he wants to see come about for you, not what he wants to get from you. And when we think about the things that we are jealous of, when we think about the things that we give our affection to, we are hoping to get something from them, right? When we pour ourselves into a person, we want that affirmation to come back to us. When we pour ourselves into career, we want the things that come along with that to come back to us. I saw it very clearly this week. The early part of the week, I had an opportunity to go down to Miami and stay in a resort on South Beach, which is, that's where I belong. I mean, that makes sense. I got a great body for that. I got, you know, the $20 Casio watch. I fit right in down there. I was definitely the country mouse. I got a buddy that I didn't just decide to go to Miami. Like, you know what I'm going to do? I'm going to go to a resort. I got a buddy that travels for work, and sometimes the company that uses him puts him up in the La Quinta, and other times they put him up at the nicest resort on South Beach and he gets a suite and he says, dude, you should come with me. And I'm like, all right, I'll go free Miami. So I go. And I don't know. Last time I was in Miami was 20 years ago. My grandparents lived down there and it was Boca Raton. I didn't see Miami. But now, I've seen Miami. And that's a whole scene. I don't need to go back to Miami. But as I'm down there, I'm thinking about this sermon, and the things that we're jealous for, and God's jealousy for us. And I'm just looking at this world down there that's different than Raleigh. And thinking about how easy it would be to get caught up in what that place is selling. How easy it would be to live there, to visit there, to look around, to see the yachts in the harbor. And they go, I want one of those. To see the nice watches, the nice jewelry, the beauty, the success, the wealth, the power, the affluence. It costs $300 to rent a circular bed for a day on the edge of the pool. And people paid it. And then they just sat there all day long. That's just dumb money. That's just, hey, look, everybody, I got money. I'm spending it on a lawn chair for the day. A cabana was $3,000. It would be easy to look at that stuff and to say, I want that. And to give that our attention and our affection and our devotion. And to begin to build our life around the inquirement of those things. And now here in Raleigh, in our lives, it's not as in your face. It's not as overt. But suddenly those forces still play on all of us, don't they? We get out of college, we get a job, people around us get promoted. We want to get promoted, so we put our head down and we work hard for that. We get a little older, our friends start getting nicer cars, we want nicer cars. Our friends start taking nicer vacations, we want nicer vacations. Oh, dude bought a lake house? I want a lake house. And we just start to work for it. Or we want someone who's beautiful to tell us that we are. We want someone that we're attracted to to tell us that we are attractive. Or we pour ourselves into learning or into knowledge or into whatever it might be, but we give our affection and our devotion to the things of this world. And we give it to them because of what we want it to do for us. We pour ourselves, we idolize this relationship because this relationship makes me feel secure and whole. So we pour ourselves into it. We pour ourselves into career because from career, I get status, I get power, I get wealth, I get a sense of accomplishment. I get whatever I get. We pour ourselves into family because our family growing up let us down and I don't want to do that for my kids, and so it's my idol. I'm just going to pour myself into being the best parent that I can possibly be at the sake of everything else. And all of those things are, for the most part, good desires and have their place. But when we're jealous for those things, for what the world has to offer us, our affection and devotion is misplaced. See, we give things our affection hoping that they will satisfy our souls. That's why we do it. The things we think about when we wake up in the morning, the next thing on the horizon that we want to accomplish, the way we spend our money and our time, we pour ourselves into those things hoping that they will satisfy our souls. And the thing is, they never do. They never do. It's this empty black hole tunnel that we can pour all we want into it, and our souls will never be truly satisfied. They will always be restless. They will always be wanting. They will always crave more and drive us further. And this gets to, for me, the heart of what it must feel like for God to be jealous for us. I picture it like this, and this is why I say God is jealous for us because of what he wants for us. I'm not thinking of anyone in particular. This is a total hypothetical situation. I do not have a story to go with this, but I was thinking this week trying to understand the jealousy of God as he watches us give our attention and affection to things other than him. I was thinking about a 16, 17-year-old girl and her parents watching that life. And let's assume that she's pretty and that she's charming and that she's smart and that she's capable and that she's ambitious and she's got the world at her fingertips, right? But when she's 16, 17 years old, she meets a boy. And she makes that boy her world. And she wakes up thinking about him and she goes to bed thinking about him. And she begins to make her choices around her affection for this boy and her desire to feel affection from him. The way that she dresses, The color of her hair. Maybe the classes that she chooses in school. What she chooses to be involved with after school. Whether or not she engages in this or that extracurricular or works at this or that place. And then maybe her affection for that boy is so great that she allows that to heavily inform her college decision and she doesn't go to the place where she could have gone. How painful must it be for those parents to watch that girl misplace her affection and devotion and so squander her potential on something that essentially does not matter. Dating is fine. I'm not here to criticize it or critique it. But I will say that for the most part, if you're dating in high school, you ain't getting married to that one, okay? So just relax. Just chill out. If you are going to get married to them, they'll still be there in six years. Like, it's not a big deal. I used to teach high school and do student ministry, and I would tell all the kids, whoever you're dating, you're not going to marry. One of you is going to break up with the other one. It's just going to happen. So conduct yourselves accordingly in the relationship. Every now and again, I'm wrong, and high school sweethearts get married, and that's fine, but to watch your daughter with the world at her fingertips, to squander away that potential because of affection for a boy must be a uniquely painful thing. To watch a son who's incredibly capable, who has the world at his fingertips, to squander that potential on a girl or on something else that doesn't matter, that takes his attention off of what he could do and who he could be, has got to be a pretty painful thing for a parent to walk through, to see your hopes and dreams of this child and to see what they're capable of and to watch them squander that on something that doesn't matter and will not return the affection that they need. That's what it must be like for God to watch us fritter our lives away on things that don't matter. That's what it must be like for our Father in Heaven to watch us as we put our head down and just think about career and wealth and money and status. As we make the next God in our life the beach house or the promotion or the job or the company. As we make the God in our life our marriage. shepherd their daughter through the season. I think you would want to ask the question, what is actually worth our primary affection? Mom, dad, where would you have her put her affection and devotion? What do you want her waking up thinking about? School? Class? Job? Building a resume? What do you want her thinking about? And then for us, what is it that we should wake up thinking about? What is it that should be most important to us? I would contend and direct us to the Bible telling us so, that only God can satisfy our souls. If we're to say, what is worthy of that girl's affection and devotion? What is worthy of her life's pursuit? God alone would say, I am. Because in me she will find satisfaction. In me she, she will find affirmation. In me, she will find love. In me, she will find identity. In me, she will find what she needs. I will be enough for her. In God, you will find affection. In God, you will find affirmation. In God, you will finally feel like you are enough. In God, you will finally see your identity and know who you are and what he created you to do and be. In God, you will find the affection that he lavishes on you so that you can lavish it onto others. In God, you will find the love that allows you to be the spouse that you've always wanted to be. In God, you will find the affection that you need to pour out on your kids when they need it the most. In God, we find all we need for all the other things. In God, our restless souls finally find rest. I think that's part of what Jesus was talking about when he says this in Matthew chapter 11. He says, God is jealous for us, for our affection and our devotion because he knows that it is only in him that our restless souls can rest. He knows it is only in him that our greatest needs can be met. So our God is a jealous God, not because of what he wants from you, but because of what he wants for you. And what God wants for you is for your soul to rest. What God wants for you is found in Psalm 1611. At his right hand there are pleasures forevermore. In his presence there is fullness of joy. What God wants for you is John 10.10 that you might have life and have it to the full. What God wants for you is that you would know what love is and it abounds so much that you never have to question yourself or your identity ever again. What God wants for you is for you to be a conduit of his grace and love and affection from him onto others. And so God is jealous for you. When he sees you prioritizing things in your life over and above him, when he knows you're waking up thinking about things that are not things of God, that are not him, that are not in your life because of him. When he knows that you go to bed thinking about things that are not in your life from God, that are not there because of him, he's jealous for you. Not because he's petty and envious and he somehow needs your attention. No, he sees you squandering your affection and devotion on things that cannot satisfy your soul. So he's jealous for you for your sake so that you can be who he created you to be, so that you can experience the love that he created you to experience, and so you can express the love that he created you to express. So when we think of our God and we say that he is a jealous God, it's important to me that we understand that jealousy not to be petty jealousy like we have where we want something from the object of our affection. No, no. It's an altruistic jealousy where he knows he is the only worthy object of your affection and devotion. And when we offer it to him, everything else falls into place. He's jealous for you because he wants you to find rest in him. As we have a day off tomorrow with our families or our friends, I hope that we'll take part of today and part of tomorrow in rest and reflect on what we have been jealous of. Reflect on where we have placed our affection and our devotion. And maybe let's take this holiday weekend to recalibrate and place our affection and devotion back on God and the things of God because he is jealous for us, for our sakes. Let's pray. Father, thank you for being jealous for us. Thank you for wanting what's best for us. I pray, God, that we would see you as the only thing that is worthy of our life's devotion. May our souls find satisfaction and rest in you. May we be encouraged by you. May we feel loved and seen by you. God, I am the most guilty of placing my priorities on other things, of seeing the shiny thing and chasing after it, of waking up and thinking about myriad things, of seeing the shiny thing and chasing after it, of waking up and thinking about myriad things that are not related to my devotion to you. And so, God, I pray for my brothers and sisters who might be like me, that we would recalibrate this weekend, that we would slow down and make you the object of our affection. Thank you for being a jealous God. In Jesus' name, amen.