Well, good morning, everybody. It's good to see you. Thanks for making grace a part of your Sunday. My name is Nate. I get to be one of the pastors here. If you have a Bible with you, go ahead and open it up and turn it to Ephesians chapter 3, verses 14 through 19. If you don't have a Bible, there's one in the seat back in front of you. We have been spending the month of January in this prayer, this prayer that Paul prays over the church in Ephesus. And I've mentioned that he prays similar prayers over the other churches that he helped to start or founded, and then ministers to through letters and through visits as he continues his life. So this prayer is indicative of what I believe Paul prays for all of his churches. We've got a lot of work to do today. This Sunday we arrive at this two-fold petition at the end that we would know the love of Christ and that we would be filled with the fullness of God. And it's pretty much the whole point of the series. Today is what I think about when I think about this prayer. So my prayer today is that God would give me clarity of thought with what to share and how to say it, because this represents for me like four or five years of thought that I really want you guys to get today. So let's get going as we finish up this prayer. I'm going to read one more time with feeling the whole prayer all the way through, and then we'll focus on verses 18 and 19 and really kind of dig into Paul's request and what he's asking for and what it means. Verse 14, And so we arrive at the climactic request, the climatic petition of the prayer where we see here in verse 18 that he's saying, because you're saved, first of all, the very first thing he prays in verse 14 and 15 is that you would be saved through God's goodness, through the power of the Holy Spirit, that Christ would indwell in your hearts through faith. That's that you would be saved, that you would be a Christian, that you would know Jesus. Now that you know Jesus, you're rooted in his love. We talked about those deep roots and how important that is to anchor our faith. We talked about how the communal nature of our faith along with all the saints, but now that he's established those things, he punches. He gets to the thing that he's really asking, and what he's really asking is this twofold petition that you would know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, and that you would be filled with the fullness of God. That's what he's praying for in this prayer. That's what he prays over them. That's what he prays over you. So this morning, we have to wrestle to the ground what it means to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, and to be filled with the fullness of God. We have to talk about what that means, which is a really difficult task. When I'm studying, and I'm in particular studying a verse, I really want to understand a verse. One of the places I'll go is a series that a pastor from Minnesota named John Piper does online. He's retired now, but I think he still does some of these. There's a ton out there. I think it's called, and I should have done my research on this, but I think it's called A Look in the Book. And it's just, it's a black screen with a verse on it, and he's not in the video. It's just his voice in the video, and he just explains the verses to you. He's circling this and drawing lines over here and making notes at the bottom and references to other things. If you are one who enjoys Bible study, if you want help in understanding different passages, Google John Piper, a look at the book, and there's so many verses that he walks through. It's such a helpful resource. That may be the most helpful thing I say to you this morning. The rest of this may be garbage, but hopefully not. But I went and I was, and I was, he did, he does a series, like a 10-part series on these verses. And so I was watching the one where he explains the knowledge that surpasses understanding and the fullness of God because I wanted to see what he had to say about it. He's one of the most theologically deep and professorial pastors I've encountered in my life. And so I wanted to know what he thought. And he made a great point that we're going to make up front here. This is him from that video. He says, the phrasing itself, talking about the verse, admits that we are over our heads in attempting to rationally understand these things. If in the verse, Paul says that the love of Christ surpasses knowledge, and then it's kind of this nebulous, wispy phrase filled with the fullness of God. What does that mean? It's intentionally nebulous. It's intentionally difficult to grasp because it's bigger than we can comprehend. We cannot rationally understand these things, but rather we must experientially understand God and Christ if we are going to understand what Paul is talking about here. And so that's the first thing I would point out to you if we're going to say, what is the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge? What is that? Well, I think the best way to approach it is to say this, a true knowledge of Christ comes from experiencing him, not simply learning about him. A true knowledge of Christ comes from experiencing him, not simply learning about him. I think about it this way. I don't want to brag, but I've been in the ocean a few times. I've been in the Atlantic and in the Gulf. I've been in the Pacific. I've seen where the waters of the Indian Ocean and the Atlantic Ocean meet off the southern coast of South Africa, which I'm just bragging there. But I have seen it. I've swam in the ocean. When I was a kid, my grandpa lived in Florida. He had a sailboat, and they lived off the intercoastal, and so we would go up and down the intercoastal and look at Christmas lights and stuff, and one time, we went out in the ocean, sails up and everything. I got horrifically seasick and realized I'm a sissy, and that's just my life. I just have to deal with that. So no more sailboating for me. But I've been around the ocean, not as much as some of y'all. Some of y'all have beach houses, you love the water, you've got a boat, you're out there. You'll never find a Salt Life sticker on any car that I own. But I have been there, and I do like it. However, I don't know anything about the ocean compared to a sailor. I don't know anything about the ocean compared to a fisherman who does it professionally. Those guys with the thousand-yard stare, and you look at them, and you're like, those eyes have seen some things. They have some tales to tell about the sea. I don't know the ocean like they know the ocean. They've lived in it. They've experienced it, the good and the bad and the ugly. They know it. We can read about it. We can learn about it. You can learn facts. We can Google pictures. We can look at it from the beach. But until you've lived in it like they've lived in it, you'll never understand the ocean like they understand the ocean either. Jesus works the same way. When we walk with Jesus, we abide with him. When we pursue him day in and day out, we have a lifetime of walking with him. We know him in a way that you can't get to know him by simply listening to sermons or simply reading about him. We should do those things. But those things are introductory things. As we grow to know who Christ is with a knowledge that surpasses understanding, it's an experiential knowledge. These people we know who have been walking with Christ for decades and just seem to have a peace that we don't have. Those people have walked with Jesus. They know him in the way that Paul is describing here. So the question then becomes, if we know Christ through experiencing him, then we have to ask, and I hope you're already asking it in your heads, how do we experience Christ? How do I do that? How do I allow Jesus to show up in my life? I think we experience Christ by this. We experience Christ by taking steps of faith that allow him to show up in our lives. We experience Christ by taking steps of faith that give him the opportunity to show up in our life. I think of a trip I took to Honduras somewhere around 2010. I was a school teacher at the time, a high school Bible teacher and a chaplain. Those were some very lucky kids. And I took the senior class to Honduras. And while we were there, one night, one of my students, this girl named Allison, a really sharp, bright girl, wonderful parents, she kind of came to me and she said, I'm just, I'm really struggling with my faith. And I said, okay. And she said, I just, I'm having a hard time believing in Jesus sometimes. I just, I just kind of feel unsure. I don't want to let anybody down, but I just have some doubts and some struggles. And first of all, that's a wonderful conversation. I think every Christian needs to have that conversation at some point, probably multiple times throughout your life. That's a healthy thing to want to work through. And so we talked about it a little bit, and I said, Allison, I know that this is going to sound funny, but tomorrow we're going to go to this village and we're going to give rice out to the women of the village. And they really need it. So they're going to be really excited to get it. And I'm not going to position you inside the truck where you're grabbing the rice and you're handing it to another student and they're working it down the line. I'm going to put you at the end of the truck handing it out to the ladies. Because Jesus says that whatever you do for the least of these, you do for me. And I just kind of believe that if you look those ladies in the eye that Jesus will meet you there. I believe you'll see him as you do his work. And she said, okay. Okay, I'll try it. So that morning, I prayed for her that she would encounter Christ in the service that afternoon. And sure enough, the next night, she came back to me with tears in her eyes, and she said, I saw Jesus. I saw him. I can't explain it. I still have questions, but I believe he's real. Thanks. She made space for him to show up in her life. She said, hey, I need you here. I need to see you today. I need to encounter you today. She made space. She took a step of faith, and he showed up. I can't tell you how many times I've thought, I've had like a nagging sin or a nagging attitude, something that was in my life that I know didn't need to be in my life, but it didn't feel like a big deal. And I got kind of comfortable with it. It was kind of like John every day, my son John, he's two and a half. Every day he grabs a different toy and that's his toy for the day. He's just, there's no favorites. It rotates. It's totally unpredictable what it's going to be. Today it's a puzzle piece of zebra. That's what it is. Great. Tomorrow it'll be something totally different. It'll probably belong to Lily and cause a fight in our house for the entire day. Sometimes we have sins like that that we just kind of carry around. They're just our little pet sin. Not that big of a deal. I'm going to pick a different one, whatever it is. We'll have that. And we don't even want to get rid of it. But I can't tell you how many times I've prayed, God, would you work in me to want to not want to do this? Would you work in me to want to repent of this and get it away from me? And how almost always the same day I pray that prayer, something happens and I get disgusted with that part of myself. And I get so sickened by it that it becomes very easy to just move away. It becomes very easy to repent. And that's nothing more than creating space for Jesus to show up in my life. If you feel like you need to encounter and experience Jesus, pray that he'll show up somewhere. Take a step of faith and make some space for him to show up. Make some space for him to show up in a relationship. Make some space for him to show up in the waiting. Make some space for Jesus to show up in different ways, and he will. And it will deepen your faith, and you'll begin to grow in this experiential knowledge of Christ. So that doesn't wrestle that to the ground all the way, but I think it gives us at least some handles around what it might mean to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge. But we still need to understand what it means to be filled with the fullness of God. And I'll be honest with you, I did a bunch of research on that phrase. I did more research on that phrase than the last time I did that much research on anything was when I preached through Revelation for you guys. Other than that, I don't think I've ever done this much research, just trying to get to the bottom of what that meant. But nothing I could find, not even St. John Piper, nothing I could find was sufficient. Nothing I could find made me go, yeah, yeah, that's how I want to explain this to them. Nothing helped me. The one thing that was pointed out that I thought was really helpful and interesting was that being filled with God means there's no part of you left untouched by his goodness and grace. When a container is filled with something, that something touches every part of that container. So to be filled with the fullness of God means that he has touched with his goodness and his grace every aspect of your life, your thought life, your prayer life, your anxieties and your worries, your successes and your failures, your values, your checkbook, your calendar. Do people still have checkbooks anymore? Your credit card and your Venmo account. To be filled with God truly means that he has touched every aspect of your life, which also begats this reality that being filled with God is a gradual process. It's something that takes a lifetime. Because when God hasn't touched a part of our life, it's not because he doesn't want to. It's not because he's not trying to. It's not because he's not telling us that he would like to be involved there too. It's because we're not letting him. Either intentionally or unintentionally, when God hasn't touched a portion of our life, it's not from lack of effort or desire on his part. It's from lack of effort or desire on our part. So it's a progressive thing. I think, honestly, that being a Christian is just to grow in a progressive revelation of the parts of you that God has not touched yet. To grow in a progressive revelation of things that I have not given over to the Father. Through His goodness and grace and His mercy, the Holy Spirit will just show us the next thing and the next thing and the next thing. That's why we say that at Grace we're step-takers because everybody has a next step of obedience that God is beckoning them to take. And it's just going deeper and realizing parts of our life that we have not given over to him yet. But as I tried to wrestle this to the ground and was coming up empty with a good scholarly explanation to offer you guys, I just kind of hit the reset button and thought, well, what is it about the prayer that moves me so much? What is it that I love so much about it that it's on the wall of my office, that I pray it over my family, for myself, that I pray it in every situation, that I pray it over you in every situation that you're in? Anytime God brings to mind somebody while I'm praying, this prayer is what I pray for them. So what is it about this prayer that's so powerful for me? I thought maybe if I could share that, that would be helpful for you as we seek to understand what Paul's praying for here. And for me, the power of the prayer is in the simplicity of the petition that we would know God. The power of the prayer is in the simplicity of the petition that you would know God. That's what he's praying. That's all he's praying. The whole time in a bunch of different ways that you would know God. First thing out of the gates, what's he praying? That you would know Christ. Along with all the saints that you would understand his love that he has for you, that you would be filled with the fullness of God. This whole time through, all Paul is praying is that you would know God. And I pointed out in the first week that I find this remarkable because he's praying for a church that he founded, the success of which he earnestly desires. He wants that church to be successful. He wants that church to grow. He wants that church to impact their community. And yet he does not pray for success. This church is in an era of persecution, high infant mortality rates, low average lifespans. These people knew tragedy. Certainly, I would bet a lot of money or Chick-fil-A sandwich, I bet you Chick-fil-A sandwich, that Paul was acutely aware of suffering happening inside the church. Somebody sick, somebody experiencing grief or loss or persecution. I would bet that Paul knew of specific instances where people were hurting, and yet he does not pray for safety. He does not pray for security. He does not pray for health. He does not pray for circumstances. He does not pray for success. He doesn't pray for any of those things. And I think that speaks volumes because all he does pray is that they would know God. That's it. That's all he wanted for them, that they would know God as if it's a light that shines so brightly that the brighter it gets, the more everything fades away. When I stand up here on Sunday, these lights are in my face. I hate them, but it's part of the deal. They're at like 40% right now. They were so bright a few weeks ago, I couldn't see any of you. I forget, I think it was the rooted sermon. I couldn't see any of you. It was so distracting for me. I was in my head the whole time. These lights can get so bright that everything else fades. And if we have in our hearts a burning desire to know our creator, that light begins to burn so brightly that everything else just kind of fades in importance. There's really nothing else that matters outside of pursuing God. It is the apex pursuit in life. Success doesn't matter. Relatively speaking, health doesn't matter. Failures don't matter as long as they bring us to a place where we know God more deeply. And my prayer for you is that that light will burn so brightly in your life and in your mind and in your conscience that everything else will begin to fade in comparison to knowing God. And this is biblical. Paul talks about it, David talks about it, and Jesus talks about it. In Philippians chapter 3, verses 7 and 8, Paul says that he considers everything rubbish compared to the surpassing greatness of knowing God. David says in Psalms, better is one day in your courts, Father, than a thousand elsewhere. This is a king that has experienced the highest highs that life has to offer, and he says you can keep a thousand of those days if I can spend one of them with you. Jesus in Matthew chapter 13 describes the kingdom of God as something that you sell everything that you own to go claim because of the surpassing value of knowing God. It is the chief desire of Paul. It is the chief desire of God himself that you would know him. And it should be our chief desire that burns so brightly in us that everything else fades away. That's why this is the prayer that I pray for you. That's why this is the prayer I pray over the church, for myself, and over my family. And when I pray it, it sounds like this. This is what I pray. I put it in writing so that maybe it will help you as you pray, but this is the thought that's in my head whenever I pray for anyone or anything. It's this, Heavenly Father, would the events of this circumstance conspire to draw them into a deeper knowledge of you? Whatever the situation is, whatever's happening, my first thought, dear God, with the things that are about to happen to them, to this family, to that place, would those events conspire to bring those people to a deeper knowledge of you? Towards the end of last year, many of you know one of our great partners, one of the great people of grace had a stroke. And we did not know how he was going to be doing. Praise God, he's doing a lot better. But as soon as I heard it, I dropped to my knees and I prayed. And I did not pray that he would be healed. I did second. I did not pray first that his family would be okay. I did not pray first for his safety or his health. The first thing I prayed was, God, would the events surrounding this circumstance somehow conspire to draw him and his family into a deeper knowledge of you? This is an awful thing that's happened. And we don't have to make it a good thing, and we don't have to pretend like it happened because God has a lesson to teach us. I don't think that's how it works. I think cruddy things just happen in a broken world. And when those cruddy things happen, we ought to remind ourselves to say, God, I care deeply about the circumstances and the people in them. But before that, would you please use them to conspire to draw him and his children and his wife into a deeper relationship with you? Would you use this opportunity to show up and show off, Father? I think it's such an important prayer to pray in success and in failure. And I think it's such an important prayer to pray because it does this. I'm going to read this slowly because I think it's important. This prayer brings peace and purpose in suffering, patience in waiting, perseverance in trial, and humility and gratitude in success. When we pray that prayer, God, whatever happens here, whatever's going to happen, would what we take out of it be a deeper knowledge of you? When we pray that prayer, it imbues our suffering with purpose. It imbues our waiting and our grief with purpose and peace. Some of you are in moments of waiting. You're in a season of your life where you're praying for a prayer to be answered and it's not yet and so you're waiting. Some of you are in a season of trial. It's difficult. It's trying. It's hard. Some of you are in seasons of grief. I want you to know, if we pray this prayer over them, those are holy seasons. Those are holy moments. I know that you're hurting. I know that you want the thing. I know that the wait is tough. And I know that it seems unfair. But that's a holy place where God is shaping you. And he's beckoning you. And he's drawing you into a deeper faith in him. Whatever the outcome is of your waiting, it will be a marker in your life when God showed up. So we do not always pray away those things because they're holy moments. And I don't want you to be so drugged down in your waiting and in your hurting that you miss God's drawing in the midst of that suffering. Similarly, when we pray this prayer in the face of success, it begets humility and gratitude. When we sell the company, when we get the job, when our kid wins the thing at the place, when we make the sale, when life goes really good, our very first response should be, God, this success is great. It's really fun. Thank you. Would the events of this success conspire to bring me to a deeper knowledge of you? Whatever happens, however it goes, whatever we decide to do, whatever the next thing is, as I celebrate this God, and maybe even sometimes look to a new reality because of the opportunities that you've just brought me, as I do that, God, would you not let me lose sight of you? Would the events of the circumstances of this success conspire to bring me to a deeper knowledge of you? That puts the success in its proper place, which is simply a positive experience to be used by God to draw you close to him. If you have the success and it doesn't bring us any closer to the father, then the success has no point. Nobody cares. And they're not going to talk about it at your funeral. I know you think they will. I do funerals. We do not talk about your business success at your funerals. Yeah, it's going to hurt. It's going to be hard to walk through. But God, I pray that I would grow to a deeper knowledge of you through it. Yes, this is great. This is wonderful. It's a good thing that happened. But God, let me not lose sight of you. Let it help me walk in a deeper knowledge of you. So I hope and I pray that you'll make this your prayer in 2024. I believe Jordan told you at the beginning of the service, we have magnets on the table right out there. You can put wherever you want to see them. It says one per family, but if you're lingering for like 10 minutes and there's still a bunch and you want a bunch, grab a bunch. Nobody cares. I hope that you'll make that your prayer for yourself and for your family this year. I hope that this prayer will be pressed into your conscience the way that it's been pressed into mine and that it will be your abiding prayer for your family and for your children and for your friends and for your loved one and for your church for the rest of your days. And I hope that the desire to know God will burn so brightly in all of us that everything else will simply fade as we pursue him. Let's pray together. Father, I don't know what's going to happen this year. The way it's shaping up, it's probably going to be nuts. Lord, would you use the things that happen in our lives and around our lives to conspire, to draw us more closely to you? Father, would the desire to know you burn so brightly that everything else fades? Would we be people who desperately want to know and experience the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge? Would we be people who invite you into every part of our life so that we may be filled with your fullness and your goodness and your grace and your mercy. God, we make that our prayer over grace this year, our prayer over our families, our prayer over our friends and loved ones. Help us to know you more, God. In Jesus' name, amen.
Well, good morning, everybody. It's good to see you. Thanks for making grace a part of your Sunday. My name is Nate. I get to be one of the pastors here. If you have a Bible with you, go ahead and open it up and turn it to Ephesians chapter 3, verses 14 through 19. If you don't have a Bible, there's one in the seat back in front of you. We have been spending the month of January in this prayer, this prayer that Paul prays over the church in Ephesus. And I've mentioned that he prays similar prayers over the other churches that he helped to start or founded, and then ministers to through letters and through visits as he continues his life. So this prayer is indicative of what I believe Paul prays for all of his churches. We've got a lot of work to do today. This Sunday we arrive at this two-fold petition at the end that we would know the love of Christ and that we would be filled with the fullness of God. And it's pretty much the whole point of the series. Today is what I think about when I think about this prayer. So my prayer today is that God would give me clarity of thought with what to share and how to say it, because this represents for me like four or five years of thought that I really want you guys to get today. So let's get going as we finish up this prayer. I'm going to read one more time with feeling the whole prayer all the way through, and then we'll focus on verses 18 and 19 and really kind of dig into Paul's request and what he's asking for and what it means. Verse 14, And so we arrive at the climactic request, the climatic petition of the prayer where we see here in verse 18 that he's saying, because you're saved, first of all, the very first thing he prays in verse 14 and 15 is that you would be saved through God's goodness, through the power of the Holy Spirit, that Christ would indwell in your hearts through faith. That's that you would be saved, that you would be a Christian, that you would know Jesus. Now that you know Jesus, you're rooted in his love. We talked about those deep roots and how important that is to anchor our faith. We talked about how the communal nature of our faith along with all the saints, but now that he's established those things, he punches. He gets to the thing that he's really asking, and what he's really asking is this twofold petition that you would know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, and that you would be filled with the fullness of God. That's what he's praying for in this prayer. That's what he prays over them. That's what he prays over you. So this morning, we have to wrestle to the ground what it means to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, and to be filled with the fullness of God. We have to talk about what that means, which is a really difficult task. When I'm studying, and I'm in particular studying a verse, I really want to understand a verse. One of the places I'll go is a series that a pastor from Minnesota named John Piper does online. He's retired now, but I think he still does some of these. There's a ton out there. I think it's called, and I should have done my research on this, but I think it's called A Look in the Book. And it's just, it's a black screen with a verse on it, and he's not in the video. It's just his voice in the video, and he just explains the verses to you. He's circling this and drawing lines over here and making notes at the bottom and references to other things. If you are one who enjoys Bible study, if you want help in understanding different passages, Google John Piper, a look at the book, and there's so many verses that he walks through. It's such a helpful resource. That may be the most helpful thing I say to you this morning. The rest of this may be garbage, but hopefully not. But I went and I was, and I was, he did, he does a series, like a 10-part series on these verses. And so I was watching the one where he explains the knowledge that surpasses understanding and the fullness of God because I wanted to see what he had to say about it. He's one of the most theologically deep and professorial pastors I've encountered in my life. And so I wanted to know what he thought. And he made a great point that we're going to make up front here. This is him from that video. He says, the phrasing itself, talking about the verse, admits that we are over our heads in attempting to rationally understand these things. If in the verse, Paul says that the love of Christ surpasses knowledge, and then it's kind of this nebulous, wispy phrase filled with the fullness of God. What does that mean? It's intentionally nebulous. It's intentionally difficult to grasp because it's bigger than we can comprehend. We cannot rationally understand these things, but rather we must experientially understand God and Christ if we are going to understand what Paul is talking about here. And so that's the first thing I would point out to you if we're going to say, what is the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge? What is that? Well, I think the best way to approach it is to say this, a true knowledge of Christ comes from experiencing him, not simply learning about him. A true knowledge of Christ comes from experiencing him, not simply learning about him. I think about it this way. I don't want to brag, but I've been in the ocean a few times. I've been in the Atlantic and in the Gulf. I've been in the Pacific. I've seen where the waters of the Indian Ocean and the Atlantic Ocean meet off the southern coast of South Africa, which I'm just bragging there. But I have seen it. I've swam in the ocean. When I was a kid, my grandpa lived in Florida. He had a sailboat, and they lived off the intercoastal, and so we would go up and down the intercoastal and look at Christmas lights and stuff, and one time, we went out in the ocean, sails up and everything. I got horrifically seasick and realized I'm a sissy, and that's just my life. I just have to deal with that. So no more sailboating for me. But I've been around the ocean, not as much as some of y'all. Some of y'all have beach houses, you love the water, you've got a boat, you're out there. You'll never find a Salt Life sticker on any car that I own. But I have been there, and I do like it. However, I don't know anything about the ocean compared to a sailor. I don't know anything about the ocean compared to a fisherman who does it professionally. Those guys with the thousand-yard stare, and you look at them, and you're like, those eyes have seen some things. They have some tales to tell about the sea. I don't know the ocean like they know the ocean. They've lived in it. They've experienced it, the good and the bad and the ugly. They know it. We can read about it. We can learn about it. You can learn facts. We can Google pictures. We can look at it from the beach. But until you've lived in it like they've lived in it, you'll never understand the ocean like they understand the ocean either. Jesus works the same way. When we walk with Jesus, we abide with him. When we pursue him day in and day out, we have a lifetime of walking with him. We know him in a way that you can't get to know him by simply listening to sermons or simply reading about him. We should do those things. But those things are introductory things. As we grow to know who Christ is with a knowledge that surpasses understanding, it's an experiential knowledge. These people we know who have been walking with Christ for decades and just seem to have a peace that we don't have. Those people have walked with Jesus. They know him in the way that Paul is describing here. So the question then becomes, if we know Christ through experiencing him, then we have to ask, and I hope you're already asking it in your heads, how do we experience Christ? How do I do that? How do I allow Jesus to show up in my life? I think we experience Christ by this. We experience Christ by taking steps of faith that allow him to show up in our lives. We experience Christ by taking steps of faith that give him the opportunity to show up in our life. I think of a trip I took to Honduras somewhere around 2010. I was a school teacher at the time, a high school Bible teacher and a chaplain. Those were some very lucky kids. And I took the senior class to Honduras. And while we were there, one night, one of my students, this girl named Allison, a really sharp, bright girl, wonderful parents, she kind of came to me and she said, I'm just, I'm really struggling with my faith. And I said, okay. And she said, I just, I'm having a hard time believing in Jesus sometimes. I just, I just kind of feel unsure. I don't want to let anybody down, but I just have some doubts and some struggles. And first of all, that's a wonderful conversation. I think every Christian needs to have that conversation at some point, probably multiple times throughout your life. That's a healthy thing to want to work through. And so we talked about it a little bit, and I said, Allison, I know that this is going to sound funny, but tomorrow we're going to go to this village and we're going to give rice out to the women of the village. And they really need it. So they're going to be really excited to get it. And I'm not going to position you inside the truck where you're grabbing the rice and you're handing it to another student and they're working it down the line. I'm going to put you at the end of the truck handing it out to the ladies. Because Jesus says that whatever you do for the least of these, you do for me. And I just kind of believe that if you look those ladies in the eye that Jesus will meet you there. I believe you'll see him as you do his work. And she said, okay. Okay, I'll try it. So that morning, I prayed for her that she would encounter Christ in the service that afternoon. And sure enough, the next night, she came back to me with tears in her eyes, and she said, I saw Jesus. I saw him. I can't explain it. I still have questions, but I believe he's real. Thanks. She made space for him to show up in her life. She said, hey, I need you here. I need to see you today. I need to encounter you today. She made space. She took a step of faith, and he showed up. I can't tell you how many times I've thought, I've had like a nagging sin or a nagging attitude, something that was in my life that I know didn't need to be in my life, but it didn't feel like a big deal. And I got kind of comfortable with it. It was kind of like John every day, my son John, he's two and a half. Every day he grabs a different toy and that's his toy for the day. He's just, there's no favorites. It rotates. It's totally unpredictable what it's going to be. Today it's a puzzle piece of zebra. That's what it is. Great. Tomorrow it'll be something totally different. It'll probably belong to Lily and cause a fight in our house for the entire day. Sometimes we have sins like that that we just kind of carry around. They're just our little pet sin. Not that big of a deal. I'm going to pick a different one, whatever it is. We'll have that. And we don't even want to get rid of it. But I can't tell you how many times I've prayed, God, would you work in me to want to not want to do this? Would you work in me to want to repent of this and get it away from me? And how almost always the same day I pray that prayer, something happens and I get disgusted with that part of myself. And I get so sickened by it that it becomes very easy to just move away. It becomes very easy to repent. And that's nothing more than creating space for Jesus to show up in my life. If you feel like you need to encounter and experience Jesus, pray that he'll show up somewhere. Take a step of faith and make some space for him to show up. Make some space for him to show up in a relationship. Make some space for him to show up in the waiting. Make some space for Jesus to show up in different ways, and he will. And it will deepen your faith, and you'll begin to grow in this experiential knowledge of Christ. So that doesn't wrestle that to the ground all the way, but I think it gives us at least some handles around what it might mean to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge. But we still need to understand what it means to be filled with the fullness of God. And I'll be honest with you, I did a bunch of research on that phrase. I did more research on that phrase than the last time I did that much research on anything was when I preached through Revelation for you guys. Other than that, I don't think I've ever done this much research, just trying to get to the bottom of what that meant. But nothing I could find, not even St. John Piper, nothing I could find was sufficient. Nothing I could find made me go, yeah, yeah, that's how I want to explain this to them. Nothing helped me. The one thing that was pointed out that I thought was really helpful and interesting was that being filled with God means there's no part of you left untouched by his goodness and grace. When a container is filled with something, that something touches every part of that container. So to be filled with the fullness of God means that he has touched with his goodness and his grace every aspect of your life, your thought life, your prayer life, your anxieties and your worries, your successes and your failures, your values, your checkbook, your calendar. Do people still have checkbooks anymore? Your credit card and your Venmo account. To be filled with God truly means that he has touched every aspect of your life, which also begats this reality that being filled with God is a gradual process. It's something that takes a lifetime. Because when God hasn't touched a part of our life, it's not because he doesn't want to. It's not because he's not trying to. It's not because he's not telling us that he would like to be involved there too. It's because we're not letting him. Either intentionally or unintentionally, when God hasn't touched a portion of our life, it's not from lack of effort or desire on his part. It's from lack of effort or desire on our part. So it's a progressive thing. I think, honestly, that being a Christian is just to grow in a progressive revelation of the parts of you that God has not touched yet. To grow in a progressive revelation of things that I have not given over to the Father. Through His goodness and grace and His mercy, the Holy Spirit will just show us the next thing and the next thing and the next thing. That's why we say that at Grace we're step-takers because everybody has a next step of obedience that God is beckoning them to take. And it's just going deeper and realizing parts of our life that we have not given over to him yet. But as I tried to wrestle this to the ground and was coming up empty with a good scholarly explanation to offer you guys, I just kind of hit the reset button and thought, well, what is it about the prayer that moves me so much? What is it that I love so much about it that it's on the wall of my office, that I pray it over my family, for myself, that I pray it in every situation, that I pray it over you in every situation that you're in? Anytime God brings to mind somebody while I'm praying, this prayer is what I pray for them. So what is it about this prayer that's so powerful for me? I thought maybe if I could share that, that would be helpful for you as we seek to understand what Paul's praying for here. And for me, the power of the prayer is in the simplicity of the petition that we would know God. The power of the prayer is in the simplicity of the petition that you would know God. That's what he's praying. That's all he's praying. The whole time in a bunch of different ways that you would know God. First thing out of the gates, what's he praying? That you would know Christ. Along with all the saints that you would understand his love that he has for you, that you would be filled with the fullness of God. This whole time through, all Paul is praying is that you would know God. And I pointed out in the first week that I find this remarkable because he's praying for a church that he founded, the success of which he earnestly desires. He wants that church to be successful. He wants that church to grow. He wants that church to impact their community. And yet he does not pray for success. This church is in an era of persecution, high infant mortality rates, low average lifespans. These people knew tragedy. Certainly, I would bet a lot of money or Chick-fil-A sandwich, I bet you Chick-fil-A sandwich, that Paul was acutely aware of suffering happening inside the church. Somebody sick, somebody experiencing grief or loss or persecution. I would bet that Paul knew of specific instances where people were hurting, and yet he does not pray for safety. He does not pray for security. He does not pray for health. He does not pray for circumstances. He does not pray for success. He doesn't pray for any of those things. And I think that speaks volumes because all he does pray is that they would know God. That's it. That's all he wanted for them, that they would know God as if it's a light that shines so brightly that the brighter it gets, the more everything fades away. When I stand up here on Sunday, these lights are in my face. I hate them, but it's part of the deal. They're at like 40% right now. They were so bright a few weeks ago, I couldn't see any of you. I forget, I think it was the rooted sermon. I couldn't see any of you. It was so distracting for me. I was in my head the whole time. These lights can get so bright that everything else fades. And if we have in our hearts a burning desire to know our creator, that light begins to burn so brightly that everything else just kind of fades in importance. There's really nothing else that matters outside of pursuing God. It is the apex pursuit in life. Success doesn't matter. Relatively speaking, health doesn't matter. Failures don't matter as long as they bring us to a place where we know God more deeply. And my prayer for you is that that light will burn so brightly in your life and in your mind and in your conscience that everything else will begin to fade in comparison to knowing God. And this is biblical. Paul talks about it, David talks about it, and Jesus talks about it. In Philippians chapter 3, verses 7 and 8, Paul says that he considers everything rubbish compared to the surpassing greatness of knowing God. David says in Psalms, better is one day in your courts, Father, than a thousand elsewhere. This is a king that has experienced the highest highs that life has to offer, and he says you can keep a thousand of those days if I can spend one of them with you. Jesus in Matthew chapter 13 describes the kingdom of God as something that you sell everything that you own to go claim because of the surpassing value of knowing God. It is the chief desire of Paul. It is the chief desire of God himself that you would know him. And it should be our chief desire that burns so brightly in us that everything else fades away. That's why this is the prayer that I pray for you. That's why this is the prayer I pray over the church, for myself, and over my family. And when I pray it, it sounds like this. This is what I pray. I put it in writing so that maybe it will help you as you pray, but this is the thought that's in my head whenever I pray for anyone or anything. It's this, Heavenly Father, would the events of this circumstance conspire to draw them into a deeper knowledge of you? Whatever the situation is, whatever's happening, my first thought, dear God, with the things that are about to happen to them, to this family, to that place, would those events conspire to bring those people to a deeper knowledge of you? Towards the end of last year, many of you know one of our great partners, one of the great people of grace had a stroke. And we did not know how he was going to be doing. Praise God, he's doing a lot better. But as soon as I heard it, I dropped to my knees and I prayed. And I did not pray that he would be healed. I did second. I did not pray first that his family would be okay. I did not pray first for his safety or his health. The first thing I prayed was, God, would the events surrounding this circumstance somehow conspire to draw him and his family into a deeper knowledge of you? This is an awful thing that's happened. And we don't have to make it a good thing, and we don't have to pretend like it happened because God has a lesson to teach us. I don't think that's how it works. I think cruddy things just happen in a broken world. And when those cruddy things happen, we ought to remind ourselves to say, God, I care deeply about the circumstances and the people in them. But before that, would you please use them to conspire to draw him and his children and his wife into a deeper relationship with you? Would you use this opportunity to show up and show off, Father? I think it's such an important prayer to pray in success and in failure. And I think it's such an important prayer to pray because it does this. I'm going to read this slowly because I think it's important. This prayer brings peace and purpose in suffering, patience in waiting, perseverance in trial, and humility and gratitude in success. When we pray that prayer, God, whatever happens here, whatever's going to happen, would what we take out of it be a deeper knowledge of you? When we pray that prayer, it imbues our suffering with purpose. It imbues our waiting and our grief with purpose and peace. Some of you are in moments of waiting. You're in a season of your life where you're praying for a prayer to be answered and it's not yet and so you're waiting. Some of you are in a season of trial. It's difficult. It's trying. It's hard. Some of you are in seasons of grief. I want you to know, if we pray this prayer over them, those are holy seasons. Those are holy moments. I know that you're hurting. I know that you want the thing. I know that the wait is tough. And I know that it seems unfair. But that's a holy place where God is shaping you. And he's beckoning you. And he's drawing you into a deeper faith in him. Whatever the outcome is of your waiting, it will be a marker in your life when God showed up. So we do not always pray away those things because they're holy moments. And I don't want you to be so drugged down in your waiting and in your hurting that you miss God's drawing in the midst of that suffering. Similarly, when we pray this prayer in the face of success, it begets humility and gratitude. When we sell the company, when we get the job, when our kid wins the thing at the place, when we make the sale, when life goes really good, our very first response should be, God, this success is great. It's really fun. Thank you. Would the events of this success conspire to bring me to a deeper knowledge of you? Whatever happens, however it goes, whatever we decide to do, whatever the next thing is, as I celebrate this God, and maybe even sometimes look to a new reality because of the opportunities that you've just brought me, as I do that, God, would you not let me lose sight of you? Would the events of the circumstances of this success conspire to bring me to a deeper knowledge of you? That puts the success in its proper place, which is simply a positive experience to be used by God to draw you close to him. If you have the success and it doesn't bring us any closer to the father, then the success has no point. Nobody cares. And they're not going to talk about it at your funeral. I know you think they will. I do funerals. We do not talk about your business success at your funerals. Yeah, it's going to hurt. It's going to be hard to walk through. But God, I pray that I would grow to a deeper knowledge of you through it. Yes, this is great. This is wonderful. It's a good thing that happened. But God, let me not lose sight of you. Let it help me walk in a deeper knowledge of you. So I hope and I pray that you'll make this your prayer in 2024. I believe Jordan told you at the beginning of the service, we have magnets on the table right out there. You can put wherever you want to see them. It says one per family, but if you're lingering for like 10 minutes and there's still a bunch and you want a bunch, grab a bunch. Nobody cares. I hope that you'll make that your prayer for yourself and for your family this year. I hope that this prayer will be pressed into your conscience the way that it's been pressed into mine and that it will be your abiding prayer for your family and for your children and for your friends and for your loved one and for your church for the rest of your days. And I hope that the desire to know God will burn so brightly in all of us that everything else will simply fade as we pursue him. Let's pray together. Father, I don't know what's going to happen this year. The way it's shaping up, it's probably going to be nuts. Lord, would you use the things that happen in our lives and around our lives to conspire, to draw us more closely to you? Father, would the desire to know you burn so brightly that everything else fades? Would we be people who desperately want to know and experience the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge? Would we be people who invite you into every part of our life so that we may be filled with your fullness and your goodness and your grace and your mercy. God, we make that our prayer over grace this year, our prayer over our families, our prayer over our friends and loved ones. Help us to know you more, God. In Jesus' name, amen.
Well, good morning, everybody. It's good to see you. Thanks for making grace a part of your Sunday. My name is Nate. I get to be one of the pastors here. If you have a Bible with you, go ahead and open it up and turn it to Ephesians chapter 3, verses 14 through 19. If you don't have a Bible, there's one in the seat back in front of you. We have been spending the month of January in this prayer, this prayer that Paul prays over the church in Ephesus. And I've mentioned that he prays similar prayers over the other churches that he helped to start or founded, and then ministers to through letters and through visits as he continues his life. So this prayer is indicative of what I believe Paul prays for all of his churches. We've got a lot of work to do today. This Sunday we arrive at this two-fold petition at the end that we would know the love of Christ and that we would be filled with the fullness of God. And it's pretty much the whole point of the series. Today is what I think about when I think about this prayer. So my prayer today is that God would give me clarity of thought with what to share and how to say it, because this represents for me like four or five years of thought that I really want you guys to get today. So let's get going as we finish up this prayer. I'm going to read one more time with feeling the whole prayer all the way through, and then we'll focus on verses 18 and 19 and really kind of dig into Paul's request and what he's asking for and what it means. Verse 14, And so we arrive at the climactic request, the climatic petition of the prayer where we see here in verse 18 that he's saying, because you're saved, first of all, the very first thing he prays in verse 14 and 15 is that you would be saved through God's goodness, through the power of the Holy Spirit, that Christ would indwell in your hearts through faith. That's that you would be saved, that you would be a Christian, that you would know Jesus. Now that you know Jesus, you're rooted in his love. We talked about those deep roots and how important that is to anchor our faith. We talked about how the communal nature of our faith along with all the saints, but now that he's established those things, he punches. He gets to the thing that he's really asking, and what he's really asking is this twofold petition that you would know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, and that you would be filled with the fullness of God. That's what he's praying for in this prayer. That's what he prays over them. That's what he prays over you. So this morning, we have to wrestle to the ground what it means to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, and to be filled with the fullness of God. We have to talk about what that means, which is a really difficult task. When I'm studying, and I'm in particular studying a verse, I really want to understand a verse. One of the places I'll go is a series that a pastor from Minnesota named John Piper does online. He's retired now, but I think he still does some of these. There's a ton out there. I think it's called, and I should have done my research on this, but I think it's called A Look in the Book. And it's just, it's a black screen with a verse on it, and he's not in the video. It's just his voice in the video, and he just explains the verses to you. He's circling this and drawing lines over here and making notes at the bottom and references to other things. If you are one who enjoys Bible study, if you want help in understanding different passages, Google John Piper, a look at the book, and there's so many verses that he walks through. It's such a helpful resource. That may be the most helpful thing I say to you this morning. The rest of this may be garbage, but hopefully not. But I went and I was, and I was, he did, he does a series, like a 10-part series on these verses. And so I was watching the one where he explains the knowledge that surpasses understanding and the fullness of God because I wanted to see what he had to say about it. He's one of the most theologically deep and professorial pastors I've encountered in my life. And so I wanted to know what he thought. And he made a great point that we're going to make up front here. This is him from that video. He says, the phrasing itself, talking about the verse, admits that we are over our heads in attempting to rationally understand these things. If in the verse, Paul says that the love of Christ surpasses knowledge, and then it's kind of this nebulous, wispy phrase filled with the fullness of God. What does that mean? It's intentionally nebulous. It's intentionally difficult to grasp because it's bigger than we can comprehend. We cannot rationally understand these things, but rather we must experientially understand God and Christ if we are going to understand what Paul is talking about here. And so that's the first thing I would point out to you if we're going to say, what is the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge? What is that? Well, I think the best way to approach it is to say this, a true knowledge of Christ comes from experiencing him, not simply learning about him. A true knowledge of Christ comes from experiencing him, not simply learning about him. I think about it this way. I don't want to brag, but I've been in the ocean a few times. I've been in the Atlantic and in the Gulf. I've been in the Pacific. I've seen where the waters of the Indian Ocean and the Atlantic Ocean meet off the southern coast of South Africa, which I'm just bragging there. But I have seen it. I've swam in the ocean. When I was a kid, my grandpa lived in Florida. He had a sailboat, and they lived off the intercoastal, and so we would go up and down the intercoastal and look at Christmas lights and stuff, and one time, we went out in the ocean, sails up and everything. I got horrifically seasick and realized I'm a sissy, and that's just my life. I just have to deal with that. So no more sailboating for me. But I've been around the ocean, not as much as some of y'all. Some of y'all have beach houses, you love the water, you've got a boat, you're out there. You'll never find a Salt Life sticker on any car that I own. But I have been there, and I do like it. However, I don't know anything about the ocean compared to a sailor. I don't know anything about the ocean compared to a fisherman who does it professionally. Those guys with the thousand-yard stare, and you look at them, and you're like, those eyes have seen some things. They have some tales to tell about the sea. I don't know the ocean like they know the ocean. They've lived in it. They've experienced it, the good and the bad and the ugly. They know it. We can read about it. We can learn about it. You can learn facts. We can Google pictures. We can look at it from the beach. But until you've lived in it like they've lived in it, you'll never understand the ocean like they understand the ocean either. Jesus works the same way. When we walk with Jesus, we abide with him. When we pursue him day in and day out, we have a lifetime of walking with him. We know him in a way that you can't get to know him by simply listening to sermons or simply reading about him. We should do those things. But those things are introductory things. As we grow to know who Christ is with a knowledge that surpasses understanding, it's an experiential knowledge. These people we know who have been walking with Christ for decades and just seem to have a peace that we don't have. Those people have walked with Jesus. They know him in the way that Paul is describing here. So the question then becomes, if we know Christ through experiencing him, then we have to ask, and I hope you're already asking it in your heads, how do we experience Christ? How do I do that? How do I allow Jesus to show up in my life? I think we experience Christ by this. We experience Christ by taking steps of faith that allow him to show up in our lives. We experience Christ by taking steps of faith that give him the opportunity to show up in our life. I think of a trip I took to Honduras somewhere around 2010. I was a school teacher at the time, a high school Bible teacher and a chaplain. Those were some very lucky kids. And I took the senior class to Honduras. And while we were there, one night, one of my students, this girl named Allison, a really sharp, bright girl, wonderful parents, she kind of came to me and she said, I'm just, I'm really struggling with my faith. And I said, okay. And she said, I just, I'm having a hard time believing in Jesus sometimes. I just, I just kind of feel unsure. I don't want to let anybody down, but I just have some doubts and some struggles. And first of all, that's a wonderful conversation. I think every Christian needs to have that conversation at some point, probably multiple times throughout your life. That's a healthy thing to want to work through. And so we talked about it a little bit, and I said, Allison, I know that this is going to sound funny, but tomorrow we're going to go to this village and we're going to give rice out to the women of the village. And they really need it. So they're going to be really excited to get it. And I'm not going to position you inside the truck where you're grabbing the rice and you're handing it to another student and they're working it down the line. I'm going to put you at the end of the truck handing it out to the ladies. Because Jesus says that whatever you do for the least of these, you do for me. And I just kind of believe that if you look those ladies in the eye that Jesus will meet you there. I believe you'll see him as you do his work. And she said, okay. Okay, I'll try it. So that morning, I prayed for her that she would encounter Christ in the service that afternoon. And sure enough, the next night, she came back to me with tears in her eyes, and she said, I saw Jesus. I saw him. I can't explain it. I still have questions, but I believe he's real. Thanks. She made space for him to show up in her life. She said, hey, I need you here. I need to see you today. I need to encounter you today. She made space. She took a step of faith, and he showed up. I can't tell you how many times I've thought, I've had like a nagging sin or a nagging attitude, something that was in my life that I know didn't need to be in my life, but it didn't feel like a big deal. And I got kind of comfortable with it. It was kind of like John every day, my son John, he's two and a half. Every day he grabs a different toy and that's his toy for the day. He's just, there's no favorites. It rotates. It's totally unpredictable what it's going to be. Today it's a puzzle piece of zebra. That's what it is. Great. Tomorrow it'll be something totally different. It'll probably belong to Lily and cause a fight in our house for the entire day. Sometimes we have sins like that that we just kind of carry around. They're just our little pet sin. Not that big of a deal. I'm going to pick a different one, whatever it is. We'll have that. And we don't even want to get rid of it. But I can't tell you how many times I've prayed, God, would you work in me to want to not want to do this? Would you work in me to want to repent of this and get it away from me? And how almost always the same day I pray that prayer, something happens and I get disgusted with that part of myself. And I get so sickened by it that it becomes very easy to just move away. It becomes very easy to repent. And that's nothing more than creating space for Jesus to show up in my life. If you feel like you need to encounter and experience Jesus, pray that he'll show up somewhere. Take a step of faith and make some space for him to show up. Make some space for him to show up in a relationship. Make some space for him to show up in the waiting. Make some space for Jesus to show up in different ways, and he will. And it will deepen your faith, and you'll begin to grow in this experiential knowledge of Christ. So that doesn't wrestle that to the ground all the way, but I think it gives us at least some handles around what it might mean to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge. But we still need to understand what it means to be filled with the fullness of God. And I'll be honest with you, I did a bunch of research on that phrase. I did more research on that phrase than the last time I did that much research on anything was when I preached through Revelation for you guys. Other than that, I don't think I've ever done this much research, just trying to get to the bottom of what that meant. But nothing I could find, not even St. John Piper, nothing I could find was sufficient. Nothing I could find made me go, yeah, yeah, that's how I want to explain this to them. Nothing helped me. The one thing that was pointed out that I thought was really helpful and interesting was that being filled with God means there's no part of you left untouched by his goodness and grace. When a container is filled with something, that something touches every part of that container. So to be filled with the fullness of God means that he has touched with his goodness and his grace every aspect of your life, your thought life, your prayer life, your anxieties and your worries, your successes and your failures, your values, your checkbook, your calendar. Do people still have checkbooks anymore? Your credit card and your Venmo account. To be filled with God truly means that he has touched every aspect of your life, which also begats this reality that being filled with God is a gradual process. It's something that takes a lifetime. Because when God hasn't touched a part of our life, it's not because he doesn't want to. It's not because he's not trying to. It's not because he's not telling us that he would like to be involved there too. It's because we're not letting him. Either intentionally or unintentionally, when God hasn't touched a portion of our life, it's not from lack of effort or desire on his part. It's from lack of effort or desire on our part. So it's a progressive thing. I think, honestly, that being a Christian is just to grow in a progressive revelation of the parts of you that God has not touched yet. To grow in a progressive revelation of things that I have not given over to the Father. Through His goodness and grace and His mercy, the Holy Spirit will just show us the next thing and the next thing and the next thing. That's why we say that at Grace we're step-takers because everybody has a next step of obedience that God is beckoning them to take. And it's just going deeper and realizing parts of our life that we have not given over to him yet. But as I tried to wrestle this to the ground and was coming up empty with a good scholarly explanation to offer you guys, I just kind of hit the reset button and thought, well, what is it about the prayer that moves me so much? What is it that I love so much about it that it's on the wall of my office, that I pray it over my family, for myself, that I pray it in every situation, that I pray it over you in every situation that you're in? Anytime God brings to mind somebody while I'm praying, this prayer is what I pray for them. So what is it about this prayer that's so powerful for me? I thought maybe if I could share that, that would be helpful for you as we seek to understand what Paul's praying for here. And for me, the power of the prayer is in the simplicity of the petition that we would know God. The power of the prayer is in the simplicity of the petition that you would know God. That's what he's praying. That's all he's praying. The whole time in a bunch of different ways that you would know God. First thing out of the gates, what's he praying? That you would know Christ. Along with all the saints that you would understand his love that he has for you, that you would be filled with the fullness of God. This whole time through, all Paul is praying is that you would know God. And I pointed out in the first week that I find this remarkable because he's praying for a church that he founded, the success of which he earnestly desires. He wants that church to be successful. He wants that church to grow. He wants that church to impact their community. And yet he does not pray for success. This church is in an era of persecution, high infant mortality rates, low average lifespans. These people knew tragedy. Certainly, I would bet a lot of money or Chick-fil-A sandwich, I bet you Chick-fil-A sandwich, that Paul was acutely aware of suffering happening inside the church. Somebody sick, somebody experiencing grief or loss or persecution. I would bet that Paul knew of specific instances where people were hurting, and yet he does not pray for safety. He does not pray for security. He does not pray for health. He does not pray for circumstances. He does not pray for success. He doesn't pray for any of those things. And I think that speaks volumes because all he does pray is that they would know God. That's it. That's all he wanted for them, that they would know God as if it's a light that shines so brightly that the brighter it gets, the more everything fades away. When I stand up here on Sunday, these lights are in my face. I hate them, but it's part of the deal. They're at like 40% right now. They were so bright a few weeks ago, I couldn't see any of you. I forget, I think it was the rooted sermon. I couldn't see any of you. It was so distracting for me. I was in my head the whole time. These lights can get so bright that everything else fades. And if we have in our hearts a burning desire to know our creator, that light begins to burn so brightly that everything else just kind of fades in importance. There's really nothing else that matters outside of pursuing God. It is the apex pursuit in life. Success doesn't matter. Relatively speaking, health doesn't matter. Failures don't matter as long as they bring us to a place where we know God more deeply. And my prayer for you is that that light will burn so brightly in your life and in your mind and in your conscience that everything else will begin to fade in comparison to knowing God. And this is biblical. Paul talks about it, David talks about it, and Jesus talks about it. In Philippians chapter 3, verses 7 and 8, Paul says that he considers everything rubbish compared to the surpassing greatness of knowing God. David says in Psalms, better is one day in your courts, Father, than a thousand elsewhere. This is a king that has experienced the highest highs that life has to offer, and he says you can keep a thousand of those days if I can spend one of them with you. Jesus in Matthew chapter 13 describes the kingdom of God as something that you sell everything that you own to go claim because of the surpassing value of knowing God. It is the chief desire of Paul. It is the chief desire of God himself that you would know him. And it should be our chief desire that burns so brightly in us that everything else fades away. That's why this is the prayer that I pray for you. That's why this is the prayer I pray over the church, for myself, and over my family. And when I pray it, it sounds like this. This is what I pray. I put it in writing so that maybe it will help you as you pray, but this is the thought that's in my head whenever I pray for anyone or anything. It's this, Heavenly Father, would the events of this circumstance conspire to draw them into a deeper knowledge of you? Whatever the situation is, whatever's happening, my first thought, dear God, with the things that are about to happen to them, to this family, to that place, would those events conspire to bring those people to a deeper knowledge of you? Towards the end of last year, many of you know one of our great partners, one of the great people of grace had a stroke. And we did not know how he was going to be doing. Praise God, he's doing a lot better. But as soon as I heard it, I dropped to my knees and I prayed. And I did not pray that he would be healed. I did second. I did not pray first that his family would be okay. I did not pray first for his safety or his health. The first thing I prayed was, God, would the events surrounding this circumstance somehow conspire to draw him and his family into a deeper knowledge of you? This is an awful thing that's happened. And we don't have to make it a good thing, and we don't have to pretend like it happened because God has a lesson to teach us. I don't think that's how it works. I think cruddy things just happen in a broken world. And when those cruddy things happen, we ought to remind ourselves to say, God, I care deeply about the circumstances and the people in them. But before that, would you please use them to conspire to draw him and his children and his wife into a deeper relationship with you? Would you use this opportunity to show up and show off, Father? I think it's such an important prayer to pray in success and in failure. And I think it's such an important prayer to pray because it does this. I'm going to read this slowly because I think it's important. This prayer brings peace and purpose in suffering, patience in waiting, perseverance in trial, and humility and gratitude in success. When we pray that prayer, God, whatever happens here, whatever's going to happen, would what we take out of it be a deeper knowledge of you? When we pray that prayer, it imbues our suffering with purpose. It imbues our waiting and our grief with purpose and peace. Some of you are in moments of waiting. You're in a season of your life where you're praying for a prayer to be answered and it's not yet and so you're waiting. Some of you are in a season of trial. It's difficult. It's trying. It's hard. Some of you are in seasons of grief. I want you to know, if we pray this prayer over them, those are holy seasons. Those are holy moments. I know that you're hurting. I know that you want the thing. I know that the wait is tough. And I know that it seems unfair. But that's a holy place where God is shaping you. And he's beckoning you. And he's drawing you into a deeper faith in him. Whatever the outcome is of your waiting, it will be a marker in your life when God showed up. So we do not always pray away those things because they're holy moments. And I don't want you to be so drugged down in your waiting and in your hurting that you miss God's drawing in the midst of that suffering. Similarly, when we pray this prayer in the face of success, it begets humility and gratitude. When we sell the company, when we get the job, when our kid wins the thing at the place, when we make the sale, when life goes really good, our very first response should be, God, this success is great. It's really fun. Thank you. Would the events of this success conspire to bring me to a deeper knowledge of you? Whatever happens, however it goes, whatever we decide to do, whatever the next thing is, as I celebrate this God, and maybe even sometimes look to a new reality because of the opportunities that you've just brought me, as I do that, God, would you not let me lose sight of you? Would the events of the circumstances of this success conspire to bring me to a deeper knowledge of you? That puts the success in its proper place, which is simply a positive experience to be used by God to draw you close to him. If you have the success and it doesn't bring us any closer to the father, then the success has no point. Nobody cares. And they're not going to talk about it at your funeral. I know you think they will. I do funerals. We do not talk about your business success at your funerals. Yeah, it's going to hurt. It's going to be hard to walk through. But God, I pray that I would grow to a deeper knowledge of you through it. Yes, this is great. This is wonderful. It's a good thing that happened. But God, let me not lose sight of you. Let it help me walk in a deeper knowledge of you. So I hope and I pray that you'll make this your prayer in 2024. I believe Jordan told you at the beginning of the service, we have magnets on the table right out there. You can put wherever you want to see them. It says one per family, but if you're lingering for like 10 minutes and there's still a bunch and you want a bunch, grab a bunch. Nobody cares. I hope that you'll make that your prayer for yourself and for your family this year. I hope that this prayer will be pressed into your conscience the way that it's been pressed into mine and that it will be your abiding prayer for your family and for your children and for your friends and for your loved one and for your church for the rest of your days. And I hope that the desire to know God will burn so brightly in all of us that everything else will simply fade as we pursue him. Let's pray together. Father, I don't know what's going to happen this year. The way it's shaping up, it's probably going to be nuts. Lord, would you use the things that happen in our lives and around our lives to conspire, to draw us more closely to you? Father, would the desire to know you burn so brightly that everything else fades? Would we be people who desperately want to know and experience the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge? Would we be people who invite you into every part of our life so that we may be filled with your fullness and your goodness and your grace and your mercy. God, we make that our prayer over grace this year, our prayer over our families, our prayer over our friends and loved ones. Help us to know you more, God. In Jesus' name, amen.
Well, good morning, and welcome to Grace. My name is Nate. I get to be one of the pastors here. If I hadn't had the chance to meet you, I would love to do that in the lobby after the service, only because now is not really a good time. This is the second part of our series called Rooted, where we're looking at a prayer found in Ephesians 3, verses 14-19, and we're saying that we're going to make this the prayer for Grace for this year. I've encouraged you to make it your prayer for yourself and for your families. And I shared with you last week that this prayer really colors how I do ministry, how I live life, how I pray for everyone whenever I pray. And so we're taking the first four weeks of the year and we're saturating ourselves in this prayer. For just a little bit of context for those that may have missed last week, or were not paying attention to this part of the sermon, this prayer is found in Ephesians. It's in the middle of the grouping of Paul's letters. If you've not been exposed to the Bible or Paul's letters or Pauline epistles and aren't sure what those are. The Apostle Paul wrote about two-thirds of the New Testament. And the books of Romans, 1 and 2 Corinthians, Galatians, Ephesians, Philippians, Colossians, and 1 and 2 Thessalonians are written to churches that he started and then wrote letters of advice and counsel and encouragement and conviction, whatever was necessary in those churches, wrote those letters back to them. We preserved them, we put them in the Bible, and now we use them to lead our churches. And in those books, you will find times when he says, hey, when I pray for you, this is what I pray. And they're all very similar to the prayer that we're looking at this year. This just happens to be, to me, the most eloquent one. And so we're looking at it together. Last week, we looked at how we opened the prayer and prayed for everyone's salvation. This is first priority for everyone that he meets. We talked about how that shapes us when that's our first priority. And in that sermon, incidentally, I laid out the clearest explanation I know how to lay out on how to become saved and what it means to be saved. So if you have some questions around that, you can go back to last week's message and listen to that, and hopefully that will help you at least begin to think about things, frame things up for you. Before I dive in this week to the next petition that we find in Paul's prayer, I just wanted to read the whole passage and then we'll focus back on verse 17 and a phrase that we're going to spend our time in this morning. Really, we're going to spend all of our time this morning on one word, rooted, and what it means. So if you have a Bible, open it to Ephesians chapter 3. I asked you guys towards the end of last year to be in the habit of bringing your Bibles and looking through Scripture with me. One of the wonderful benefits of doing that is in the off chance that I say something meaningful to you, you can write it in your Bible. And then years later when you're reading it, that note can pop up and remind you of past lessons learned. So I also have been told, and I'm very sorry for this, that some people for Christmas got ESV Bibles because they're like, we're going to be able to follow along with Nate now in the service. And I think that's a wonderful thing. And then right out of the gate, January 7th, first service of the year, I was like, hey guys, I'm switching to NIV when I preach, just so you know. I ruined a middle schooler's Christmas. That was like his big gift. So I'm going to get you a Bible. I'm going to buy you one. I promise you. It's going to show up at your house, NIV, leather bound. It's going to be fancy. I hate that I ruined your Christmas. Read with me if you have a Bible these verses from 14 to 19 in Ephesians 3, and then some of them will show up on the screen and we'll talk of God. That's the whole passage. This week, we're going to be centered in on verse 17. So that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith, and I pray that you, being rooted and established in love. And then from there, if you look at the verse, he makes some petitions. Because you're now rooted in love. So because you're saved, because you know Christ, because the Godhead has had the threefold effort to bring you to a knowledge of Christ, because God according to His riches has offered you salvation, the Spirit and His power has moved in your heart to want salvation, and now Christ dwells in your heart through faith. So because the Godhead has moved and you know Christ and you are now saved, he considers you that now you are rooted and established in love. Now you're rooted in love. And listen, today I'm going to say you're rooted in love. You're rooted in the love of Christ. You're rooted in the love of God. You're rooted in Christ. To me, for the concept for this verse, that's all synonymous. Okay. Iocating some things here. So, I'm going to say all those words, but what I mean is rooted and grounded in the love of Christ, which I think totally agrees with Paul's intent when he was writing this. So, because you're saved, you're now rooted and grounded in love. And because you are, here's what I pray for you, that you would have the strength to comprehend with all the saints. And that's what we're going to look at next week is the communion of the saints. And why that's always so important. And then to know the love that surpasses knowledge. That you'd be loved by Jesus. That you'd be filled with all the fullness of God. So in that way, this concept that we're looking at today of being rooted in Christ's love is the fulcrum of the whole passage. I sum it up like this. Being rooted in Christ's love is the concept through which the rest of the prayer flows. Because you're saved, you're rooted in the love of Christ. Because I know that you're rooted in the love of Christ. Here's what I pray for you. I think the other petitions flow from this petition. So it's important for us, if it's the fulcrum of the passage and the prayer, if it's kind of the therefore, we need to understand what it means to be rooted and established in the love of Christ. We need to know what that means and have an appreciation of it. If we don't value that, if we don't understand it, if we can't define it, then we really can't comprehend the rest of the prayer. So when I sat down to write the sermon, I knew that was where I needed to focus. What does it mean to be rooted in the love of Christ? We're naming the whole series Rooted. So this must be a pretty important idea. And I have sometimes, often for series, I'll have a series guide where whenever I sat down and kind of framed up the series, which for me, this was in October or November that I framed this up. I keep a document on my computer because I don't know where else you keep a document. And I'll sum up each week. Let's focus on these verses this week. And I'll usually leave myself a two or three sentence guide, sometimes more, of what to think about and what to talk about and how to approach it so that when I hit the week that I'm prepping it and that I'm actually writing it, I'm not hitting it fresh. I've already done a little bit of prep work for it. So I opened up the document a couple weeks ago when I was writing this sermon, and it said, you know, verse 17, rooted, established, and loved. And then the guidance that I gave myself was, explore what it means to be rooted and established in love. Like, thanks, November Nate, because you're not helping January Nate at all. So whenever I don't know what to do, I just read stuff on the internet that other people have written about this until I get an idea. They teach that in seminary. And one of the places I wanted to go is to explore root systems. Let me just understand roots more and see if that sparks something. And I'll be honest with you. I kind of don't like when pastors do this, when they take one word. I'm going to do a lot of research about this word, and we're going to draw out a ton of lessons from this one concept, from this one word. Look at everything I've learned about root systems, right? Because I don't think it's totally fair to what the author intended, because Paul did not have Google, and he was a tent maker from a relatively cosmopolitan city. I do not think he had an exhaustive knowledge of what root systems do when he wrote this. So for me to go and dig deeper into it to figure out what we can learn about root systems and how we can apply that to the passage isn't necessarily fair to his intention when he wrote it. And sometimes when pastors do this, we kind of mislead the congregation, the people who are listening, to believe that this was the original author's intent too, and this is the only way to understand the passage. So I'm just saying that up front so you know I'm not trying to do that this morning. What I will say is, as I began to learn about root systems, which was some exciting stuff. I was on like botany websites in like college. I started to read like a scientific, I don't even know what you call it, write up on it, paper. And I bailed. I was like, yeah, this is not, I can't understand this. But as I did the research and started learning, to me there's just so many parallels firing off that I thought this is worth it to sit in here and figure out what we can learn about root systems that also apply to our spiritual lives. So that's what we're going to do this morning. One of the things I saw and read about, and this is not a surprise to anyone, if what I'm about to say about how root systems function, if this first point surprises you, if you learn right now, you need to go back to school, I think. But one of the first things that I think is profoundly important about root systems is this. Being rooted in Christ anchors us. Being rooted in Christ anchors us. On, I believe, Tuesday of this week, we had a big storm. The big storm blew through sustained winds of 25 to 30 miles an hour, gusts of 45 to 50 miles an hour. It was a big storm. They even canceled school. We did a half day for school, which, as an aside, is patently absurd, all right? I went to elementary school in the 80s and 90s, and there's no way in the world it was going to be so windy that we canceled school. Like, it's going to be really raining hard when you get off the bus, so we're just going to let your mom pick you up at 12. That didn't happen. They didn't care if a stick blew off a tree and hit you in the head on the way home. That didn't matter to them. We're doing school, but now the world is run by sissies, so we come home at noon. Fine. I just need to get that off my chest. Thanks, guys. When I woke up the next day, I go outside to assess the damage, and my neighbor has recently redone his yard, and he has some plants that he's planted, and then over those plants, he's placed a basket about this tie. It's like tent structure. It's got some meshing around it. And I think it's to keep so that the deer don't eat the plants and so that the people who own the plants can never actually enjoy them. I guess they have to walk up and take over the basket and go, boy, that's a beauty. And then they just put it right back down. I don't know. It seems to defeat the purpose of plants. But that had blown into my yard, which no problem. I picked it up. I walk it over. I don't know what, I just picked one. It's just because this is the plant it needs to protect. But do you know why the basket was in my yard and the bush wasn't? Because the basket wasn't rooted. The bush has roots. None of you woke up after that storm on Wednesday morning and noticed that your shrubbery had blown completely out of your yard because they're all rooted. So one of the first things that roots do is they keep us anchored. And here's why that's important. Because sometimes the winds of life blow, and those winds would seek to uproot us from our faith if they can. There are things that happen in life, grief, loss, tragedy, disappointment, disillusionment, doubts, that when they occur, if we are not deeply rooted, we will blow away and we will lose And in that loss, they had deep questions of their faith. But they stayed grounded where they were because their roots were deep. It reminds me of the parable of the sower, where the sower sows seeds and it lands on different kinds of soil, and some of it lands on shallow soil and the roots don't grow deep and the enemy will come and snatch them up, or things will happen and they will be uprooted. We need deep roots to keep us grounded in our faith. I remember a time in my life that's more recent than you'd probably want it to be if I'm your pastor, where I experienced profound doubt in my faith. The way that I kind of describe it is I grew up in the church, good leaders, good folks. I went to Bible college. I went to seminary. And I feel like those things kind of equipped me with boxes or categories to place all my experiences in life, to be able to explain why do bad things happen to good people and why do good things happen to bad people. I've got a box for that. I can explain it. Why did we experience this loss? I've got a box for that. I can explain it. What should I do in this situation that's morally gray? It's not morally gray. It's black and white. Let me explain to you why I've got a box for that. I can explain it. And so I felt like I kind of got pushed into adult life with a set of boxes and categories that could explain everything that has happened to me and will happen to me and will happen to the people around me. And then I became a pastor. And I started noticing, slowly but surely, that everything I experienced doesn't necessarily fit into one of my boxes. I started to need new boxes. I started to need different categories. And that pushed me into a season of profound doubt, of not being sure if it was all true true anyways because my experiences in life did not fit to the categories I had been given I'll say this here if this resonates with you if that's something that you've walked through or are walking through or are experiencing I would love to have coffee with you and talk about that but I can can tell you this. The only thing that kept me in my faith was the fact that God and his goodness over time had developed deep roots for me in my faith. And I could not abandon it. And the wind was blowing hard. But it kept me grounded where I was because I agreed with Peter in that confession. You are the Christ. Where else are we going to go? When we struggle or are disillusioned or disappointed, it's important that we have roots to keep us grounded in our faith. I think that this is probably what the author of Hebrews was referring to when he wrote this verse in chapter 6. Read it with me on the soul, firm and secure. It enters the inner sanctuary behind the curtain, and then he continues. He writes about this anchor that we cling to for our soul. And that hope that we have that we cling to is a hope in Christ. It's a belief in Christ that anchors our soul in Him. And so our roots serve us as an anchor that holds fast to our faith no matter what the world is doing, no matter how hard the winds are blowing. So the first thing that jumped off the screen to me as I read was that our faith anchors us. That's incredibly important. Our being anchored in the love of Christ anchors our faith. The next thing I learned, and again, this is not a shocker, but I think thinking about it can be profound for us. Being rooted in Christ nurtures us. Being rooted in Christ nurtures us. The primary function of the root system, and I didn't know this, which is, I should probably go back to school. I did not do well in science. The primary function of the root system is to draw nutrients out of the soil. Yes, it anchors it, but the primary thing that those roots are doing is drawing life out of the soil. I thought the leaves were responsible for that. That's a different deal. It's the roots. They draw life out of the soil. And so when we are rooted in Christ, we are drawing life from the very soil in which we are planted. This is very similar to what Jesus talks about in John chapter 15, verse 5, when he says this, I am the vine, you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit. Apart from me, you can do nothing. Other versions have the word abide. If you abide in me and I in you, if you remain attached to me, if you stay rooted in me, you will bear much fruit. It will nurture you. You don't have to worry about all the other things. You don't have to worry about how it's going to work out. You don't have to worry about the right thing to do all the time. You focus on being rooted in me, and I will produce in you what I need. I will care for you, and you don't have to worry about the rest of it. I'm not going to belabor this point, because in the spring we're going to a series called Final Thoughts where we go through the Upper Room Discourse which is found in John chapters 14 through 17. It's Jesus' last thoughts with the disciples before He leaves and goes to Heaven to prepare a place for us. In the middle of that, chapter 15, He talks about abiding me and I in you and you will bear much fruit. We're going to spend two whole weeks on that in March. So I'm not going to belabor it here. I'm going to draw up two points about this nurturing thing that I think matter today. The first is this. When a plant has a good root system, you can cut it to the quick. And if the roots are healthy, that plant will grow back. Even though there's nothing on the surface, even though it looks dead, even though it looks like things are done for that plant. And we all know that this is true instinctively because weeds. Because we all hate pulling weeds. Maybe you don't. I hate it. I hate pulling weeds. I hated like like, when I was a kid, and my dad would be like, all right, we've got to work in the yard today. Let's go pull weeds. I'm like, oh, no. And he would always say, get it by the root. And I never would. I would just rip it out. Sorry, Dad, he's right there. I never would do it. He knows this anyways. I'd just rip it out and throw it away. You can't see it. It's gone. What happens? That's coming back. Now, as a grown-up with my own yard, when I'm pulling a weed and I'm trying to jiggle it and do what you're supposed to do to get it out by the roots and it breaks off and I don't get it, I'm like, dadgummit. I know it's just coming back. I'm going to do this in another couple of weeks. When a plant has a good root system, it doesn't need anything above the surface. It can just regrow, oftentimes bigger and stronger than it was before. Sometimes life cuts us to the quick. Sometimes we get chopped all the way down, and we're not even really sure if we see a path forward. But because the root system in Christ is healthy, we grow and we flourish. If you've been coming to Grace for a while, you've heard me talk now and again about my college roommate, Chris Gerlach, who, when he was 30, died of a widow-maker heart attack. Perfectly healthy guy, just throwing a Frisbee and dropped dead. He left behind Carla, my wife Jen's college roommate. We're all really close friends. And two boys. Five and three. And I remember sitting with Carla at the visitation. And even the day of the funeral. Just in this back room with her and some friends. And I just remember watching her vacillate between tears and just kind of icy numbness, thousand yard stare. And I remember Jen talking to her in the weeks and months subsequent to Chris's loss. Carla had been cut to the quick. She didn't know how she was going to go forward. And as Jen talked to her, we both saw, slowly but surely, hope begin to creep back into Carla's life. Belief that her voice could be okay. Belief that she might find joy again. Clinging to Christ, letting him be the anchor. Remaining committed to being a person of devotion and to prayer. And we saw her slowly but surely grow back and begin to flourish again. This last October marked 10 years since Chris's death. Carla is married to a wonderful man who loves Jesus and loves her boys, and her boys love him. They have a daughter together. It's a new life. She's flourishing in Christ. When our roots are deep and healthy, even when we are cut to the quick, we can still, because of Jesus, regrow and flourish. Some of us today may have come in here feeling like you were just sheared down to the ground. There will be hope. Your roots in Christ will serve you, and you will flourish again. Here's the other thing I learned about root systems that I did not know. The deeper the roots, the more mature a system of roots, the less irrigation and fertilization matter to that plant. Did you know that I did not know that? The deeper the roots are the less fertilization and irrigation matter to a particular plant and I think this has really interesting implications in the Christian life because what it means is the deeper our roots in Christ the more established with we are, the more mature our faith, the less all the extra stuff on the surface matters as much. Meaning, when you're a new believer, when your root system isn't really firmly developed, you're just learning and exploring, you need good sermons. You need good worship. You need the books that the latest pastor, Christian influencer has written and then are showing up on Instagram. You need those things. You need the Bible studies. You need the small groups. You need all the extra sprinkles of Jesus in your life. You need the Instagram feed that comes up and shows you a verse and a thought for the day. You need all those things. Those things are good and they're helpful and their return on investment is good. But the deeper you get, the longer you walk, the more mature you are, the healthier and deeper your roots, the less those things impact you. The less your faith needs those things. It doesn't mean that they're not helpful. It doesn't mean that it's not helpful if I preach a good sermon for you, if you listen to a good podcast or another pastor during the week or even another pastor on a Sunday, whatever. It doesn't mean that sermons don't help you. What it means is if you don't get them, you're fine because you've got this and you've got prayer. There is a time. I'm not even sure if I would call it a threshold, but there is a level of depth and maturity that a Christian develops where a church service and a sermon and worship really are not what move the needle for them spiritually. What moves the needle for them spiritually is spending time in God's word and time in prayer. That's why I always say that's the most important single habit that anyone can develop is to get up every day and do those things. There comes a time when your communion with God is so deep and so rich and so good that if that's all you had, you would flourish. And we know this is true because we can think of the older saints that we know, people with weathered faiths, with deep roots, where you get the profound sense that they kind of come to church for you. They're not coming for them. They're coming to serve. They're coming to help. I think of old pastors that I know that are flourishing with God because all they need is their Bible and prayer and they grow and they flourish and their faith sustains. I think it's really interesting, the idea that the closer we grow to God, the deeper our roots, the more established we are, the less we need all the extra stuff, and all we really need is him. Last thought. Being rooted in Christ awes us. It amazes us. The last thing that I noticed or that I learned was that botanists are really good at explaining what's happening in a plant above ground, but they're remarkably bad at explaining to you what's happening in a plant below ground. Root systems are really tough to study. They're really difficult to learn about. It takes a whole lot of effort to even see what they're doing. They don't understand how the roots are taking nutrients from the soil. It doesn't make sense to them. They can't explain it. They can explain a lot about what's happening above the surface, but they can explain very little about what's actually, comparatively speaking, about what's happening below the surface so much that in botany circles, which is not a phrase I ever expected to use in a sermon, but in botany circles, or in life, really, in botany circles, the roots are known as the hidden half, which is like, yeah, duh. But what they mean is they just don't understand it. And in the same way, and here's the thing too, is what's happening above the surface is almost entirely reflective of what's happening below the surface. They know it's true, they just can't explain how it works. And in the same way that a botanist or a scientist can't fully explain to you what's happening below the surface to produce what's happening above the surface, neither can a pastor or a theologian fully explain to you what God is doing in the depths of your heart as he works on your soul to produce what's happening above the surface. It's even more mysterious. I don't know or understand how God works in our heart to change us and mold us and make us more like him. I just know that he does. I can't explain to you all the ins and outs of how it works, but we see on the surface kindness, goodness, and faithfulness, and gentleness, and self-control. We see the fruits of the Spirit being born on the surface. We see graciousness, and magnanimity, and kindness, and patience being born out on the surface. But we can't explain to you in detail, with precision, what's going on under the surface. God just works in mysterious ways. We're told His ways are higher than our ways. We're told in this passage that the love of Christ surpasses knowledge. I wish I could explain to you everything that goes on in your heart when Jesus takes up residence in there and how he changes us. I just, I can't. I just know that he does. I can't explain to you. I have a friend back home. I went to my old church. His story, his testimony is that he was an alcoholic and dealt with it for years and woke up one morning after a bender and just felt awful, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, physically wrecked. And he cried out to God. He said, God, I hate this. I believe in you. I give you my life. Please take this addiction from me. And he will tell you, from that moment on, not only did he not ever touch alcohol again, he's never even wanted it. Now that, some would argue, is miraculous. It defies science. Addiction recovery does not work like that. But it did for him. I can't explain that to you. And I also can't explain why for some people the battles and struggles they carry into a profession of faith, for some people, those battles are instantly over. And for other people, they linger for mind-numbingly frustrating years and decades. I don't know why God removes some sin or some proclivities or some addictions overnight in some people and over long, difficult, tearful battles for others. I don't know why he does that, but that's what he does. I don't know how this concept works. One of my favorite psalms, one of my favorites. A concept that I love, that I think about a lot, is this psalm that says, Delight yourself in the laws of the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart. Which sounds like it means, it sounds like God can serve as kind of a genie if you'll just focus on Him. Right? Just delight yourself in the laws of God, and in His statutes, and His words, and His holiness holiness and pursuing the things of God. And he will give you anything that your heart desires, which for me used to be like maybe a yacht and a private chef. But now if I could just get two kids who weren't picky eaters and didn't wine, I'd be like, this is, hallelujah, I'm all in God. But that's not what that verse means, and we know that. What that concept means, if we delight ourselves in the things of God, in the holiness of God, in the pursuit of God, in the law of God, in the word of God, that as we do that, he will slowly, over time, shape our heart to beat in rhythm with his. And the things that we desire will be the very things that God desires, and in that way, he will give us the desires of our heart because God's will triumphs all eventually. Now, how does he shape our heart to beat with his? I don't know. For some, it's pain. For others, it's success. For others, it's time. For others, it's an experience. For some, it's reading. For some, it's music. For some, it's nature. For some, it's hiking. For some, it's church. For some, it's small group. For some, it's prayer. He uses all of those things to shape us over time so that our heart beats with his. How does he do it? I don't know, and there's no formula for everybody. If there was a formula that we knew, our small groups ministry would be a lot better. But we don't know the formula. We just know that when we're rooted in Christ, over time, he produces in our life fruit that sometimes we can't explain. This is why circling all the way back to the beginning, I believe that Paul prays that we would be rooted and established in the love of Christ. Because when we are rooted in the love of Christ, we are anchored against anything that life can throw at us. We are nurtured by our connection to Christ and can weather the storms and eventually can commune in ways that we don't yet understand. And then, because we're rooted in that way, we can have the strength to comprehend with all the saints the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge and be filled with all the fullness of God. So now that we understand why it's important to be rooted, we can come back in the next two weeks and better understand what it means when he talks about the saints, the love of Christ, and the fullness of God. We're now prepared to understand the rest of the passage. All right, let's pray and we'll worship together. Father, thank you for this morning. Thank you for the folks that you've brought to grace. Thank you for the folks who aren't able to make it but are participating online. Lord, I pray that you would develop in each of us very deep roots, that we would be rooted in your love and your son in such a way that nothing can tear us apart from you. God, for those who have been cut to the quick, I pray that they would see a glimmer of hope for flourishing. For those for whom the winds are blowing pretty hard right now, I pray that you would keep them anchored to the hope of Christ. And God, if we can encourage people around us with this, I pray that we would. It's in your son's name we ask these things. Amen.
Well, good morning, and welcome to Grace. My name is Nate. I get to be one of the pastors here. If I hadn't had the chance to meet you, I would love to do that in the lobby after the service, only because now is not really a good time. This is the second part of our series called Rooted, where we're looking at a prayer found in Ephesians 3, verses 14-19, and we're saying that we're going to make this the prayer for Grace for this year. I've encouraged you to make it your prayer for yourself and for your families. And I shared with you last week that this prayer really colors how I do ministry, how I live life, how I pray for everyone whenever I pray. And so we're taking the first four weeks of the year and we're saturating ourselves in this prayer. For just a little bit of context for those that may have missed last week, or were not paying attention to this part of the sermon, this prayer is found in Ephesians. It's in the middle of the grouping of Paul's letters. If you've not been exposed to the Bible or Paul's letters or Pauline epistles and aren't sure what those are. The Apostle Paul wrote about two-thirds of the New Testament. And the books of Romans, 1 and 2 Corinthians, Galatians, Ephesians, Philippians, Colossians, and 1 and 2 Thessalonians are written to churches that he started and then wrote letters of advice and counsel and encouragement and conviction, whatever was necessary in those churches, wrote those letters back to them. We preserved them, we put them in the Bible, and now we use them to lead our churches. And in those books, you will find times when he says, hey, when I pray for you, this is what I pray. And they're all very similar to the prayer that we're looking at this year. This just happens to be, to me, the most eloquent one. And so we're looking at it together. Last week, we looked at how we opened the prayer and prayed for everyone's salvation. This is first priority for everyone that he meets. We talked about how that shapes us when that's our first priority. And in that sermon, incidentally, I laid out the clearest explanation I know how to lay out on how to become saved and what it means to be saved. So if you have some questions around that, you can go back to last week's message and listen to that, and hopefully that will help you at least begin to think about things, frame things up for you. Before I dive in this week to the next petition that we find in Paul's prayer, I just wanted to read the whole passage and then we'll focus back on verse 17 and a phrase that we're going to spend our time in this morning. Really, we're going to spend all of our time this morning on one word, rooted, and what it means. So if you have a Bible, open it to Ephesians chapter 3. I asked you guys towards the end of last year to be in the habit of bringing your Bibles and looking through Scripture with me. One of the wonderful benefits of doing that is in the off chance that I say something meaningful to you, you can write it in your Bible. And then years later when you're reading it, that note can pop up and remind you of past lessons learned. So I also have been told, and I'm very sorry for this, that some people for Christmas got ESV Bibles because they're like, we're going to be able to follow along with Nate now in the service. And I think that's a wonderful thing. And then right out of the gate, January 7th, first service of the year, I was like, hey guys, I'm switching to NIV when I preach, just so you know. I ruined a middle schooler's Christmas. That was like his big gift. So I'm going to get you a Bible. I'm going to buy you one. I promise you. It's going to show up at your house, NIV, leather bound. It's going to be fancy. I hate that I ruined your Christmas. Read with me if you have a Bible these verses from 14 to 19 in Ephesians 3, and then some of them will show up on the screen and we'll talk of God. That's the whole passage. This week, we're going to be centered in on verse 17. So that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith, and I pray that you, being rooted and established in love. And then from there, if you look at the verse, he makes some petitions. Because you're now rooted in love. So because you're saved, because you know Christ, because the Godhead has had the threefold effort to bring you to a knowledge of Christ, because God according to His riches has offered you salvation, the Spirit and His power has moved in your heart to want salvation, and now Christ dwells in your heart through faith. So because the Godhead has moved and you know Christ and you are now saved, he considers you that now you are rooted and established in love. Now you're rooted in love. And listen, today I'm going to say you're rooted in love. You're rooted in the love of Christ. You're rooted in the love of God. You're rooted in Christ. To me, for the concept for this verse, that's all synonymous. Okay. Iocating some things here. So, I'm going to say all those words, but what I mean is rooted and grounded in the love of Christ, which I think totally agrees with Paul's intent when he was writing this. So, because you're saved, you're now rooted and grounded in love. And because you are, here's what I pray for you, that you would have the strength to comprehend with all the saints. And that's what we're going to look at next week is the communion of the saints. And why that's always so important. And then to know the love that surpasses knowledge. That you'd be loved by Jesus. That you'd be filled with all the fullness of God. So in that way, this concept that we're looking at today of being rooted in Christ's love is the fulcrum of the whole passage. I sum it up like this. Being rooted in Christ's love is the concept through which the rest of the prayer flows. Because you're saved, you're rooted in the love of Christ. Because I know that you're rooted in the love of Christ. Here's what I pray for you. I think the other petitions flow from this petition. So it's important for us, if it's the fulcrum of the passage and the prayer, if it's kind of the therefore, we need to understand what it means to be rooted and established in the love of Christ. We need to know what that means and have an appreciation of it. If we don't value that, if we don't understand it, if we can't define it, then we really can't comprehend the rest of the prayer. So when I sat down to write the sermon, I knew that was where I needed to focus. What does it mean to be rooted in the love of Christ? We're naming the whole series Rooted. So this must be a pretty important idea. And I have sometimes, often for series, I'll have a series guide where whenever I sat down and kind of framed up the series, which for me, this was in October or November that I framed this up. I keep a document on my computer because I don't know where else you keep a document. And I'll sum up each week. Let's focus on these verses this week. And I'll usually leave myself a two or three sentence guide, sometimes more, of what to think about and what to talk about and how to approach it so that when I hit the week that I'm prepping it and that I'm actually writing it, I'm not hitting it fresh. I've already done a little bit of prep work for it. So I opened up the document a couple weeks ago when I was writing this sermon, and it said, you know, verse 17, rooted, established, and loved. And then the guidance that I gave myself was, explore what it means to be rooted and established in love. Like, thanks, November Nate, because you're not helping January Nate at all. So whenever I don't know what to do, I just read stuff on the internet that other people have written about this until I get an idea. They teach that in seminary. And one of the places I wanted to go is to explore root systems. Let me just understand roots more and see if that sparks something. And I'll be honest with you. I kind of don't like when pastors do this, when they take one word. I'm going to do a lot of research about this word, and we're going to draw out a ton of lessons from this one concept, from this one word. Look at everything I've learned about root systems, right? Because I don't think it's totally fair to what the author intended, because Paul did not have Google, and he was a tent maker from a relatively cosmopolitan city. I do not think he had an exhaustive knowledge of what root systems do when he wrote this. So for me to go and dig deeper into it to figure out what we can learn about root systems and how we can apply that to the passage isn't necessarily fair to his intention when he wrote it. And sometimes when pastors do this, we kind of mislead the congregation, the people who are listening, to believe that this was the original author's intent too, and this is the only way to understand the passage. So I'm just saying that up front so you know I'm not trying to do that this morning. What I will say is, as I began to learn about root systems, which was some exciting stuff. I was on like botany websites in like college. I started to read like a scientific, I don't even know what you call it, write up on it, paper. And I bailed. I was like, yeah, this is not, I can't understand this. But as I did the research and started learning, to me there's just so many parallels firing off that I thought this is worth it to sit in here and figure out what we can learn about root systems that also apply to our spiritual lives. So that's what we're going to do this morning. One of the things I saw and read about, and this is not a surprise to anyone, if what I'm about to say about how root systems function, if this first point surprises you, if you learn right now, you need to go back to school, I think. But one of the first things that I think is profoundly important about root systems is this. Being rooted in Christ anchors us. Being rooted in Christ anchors us. On, I believe, Tuesday of this week, we had a big storm. The big storm blew through sustained winds of 25 to 30 miles an hour, gusts of 45 to 50 miles an hour. It was a big storm. They even canceled school. We did a half day for school, which, as an aside, is patently absurd, all right? I went to elementary school in the 80s and 90s, and there's no way in the world it was going to be so windy that we canceled school. Like, it's going to be really raining hard when you get off the bus, so we're just going to let your mom pick you up at 12. That didn't happen. They didn't care if a stick blew off a tree and hit you in the head on the way home. That didn't matter to them. We're doing school, but now the world is run by sissies, so we come home at noon. Fine. I just need to get that off my chest. Thanks, guys. When I woke up the next day, I go outside to assess the damage, and my neighbor has recently redone his yard, and he has some plants that he's planted, and then over those plants, he's placed a basket about this tie. It's like tent structure. It's got some meshing around it. And I think it's to keep so that the deer don't eat the plants and so that the people who own the plants can never actually enjoy them. I guess they have to walk up and take over the basket and go, boy, that's a beauty. And then they just put it right back down. I don't know. It seems to defeat the purpose of plants. But that had blown into my yard, which no problem. I picked it up. I walk it over. I don't know what, I just picked one. It's just because this is the plant it needs to protect. But do you know why the basket was in my yard and the bush wasn't? Because the basket wasn't rooted. The bush has roots. None of you woke up after that storm on Wednesday morning and noticed that your shrubbery had blown completely out of your yard because they're all rooted. So one of the first things that roots do is they keep us anchored. And here's why that's important. Because sometimes the winds of life blow, and those winds would seek to uproot us from our faith if they can. There are things that happen in life, grief, loss, tragedy, disappointment, disillusionment, doubts, that when they occur, if we are not deeply rooted, we will blow away and we will lose And in that loss, they had deep questions of their faith. But they stayed grounded where they were because their roots were deep. It reminds me of the parable of the sower, where the sower sows seeds and it lands on different kinds of soil, and some of it lands on shallow soil and the roots don't grow deep and the enemy will come and snatch them up, or things will happen and they will be uprooted. We need deep roots to keep us grounded in our faith. I remember a time in my life that's more recent than you'd probably want it to be if I'm your pastor, where I experienced profound doubt in my faith. The way that I kind of describe it is I grew up in the church, good leaders, good folks. I went to Bible college. I went to seminary. And I feel like those things kind of equipped me with boxes or categories to place all my experiences in life, to be able to explain why do bad things happen to good people and why do good things happen to bad people. I've got a box for that. I can explain it. Why did we experience this loss? I've got a box for that. I can explain it. What should I do in this situation that's morally gray? It's not morally gray. It's black and white. Let me explain to you why I've got a box for that. I can explain it. And so I felt like I kind of got pushed into adult life with a set of boxes and categories that could explain everything that has happened to me and will happen to me and will happen to the people around me. And then I became a pastor. And I started noticing, slowly but surely, that everything I experienced doesn't necessarily fit into one of my boxes. I started to need new boxes. I started to need different categories. And that pushed me into a season of profound doubt, of not being sure if it was all true true anyways because my experiences in life did not fit to the categories I had been given I'll say this here if this resonates with you if that's something that you've walked through or are walking through or are experiencing I would love to have coffee with you and talk about that but I can can tell you this. The only thing that kept me in my faith was the fact that God and his goodness over time had developed deep roots for me in my faith. And I could not abandon it. And the wind was blowing hard. But it kept me grounded where I was because I agreed with Peter in that confession. You are the Christ. Where else are we going to go? When we struggle or are disillusioned or disappointed, it's important that we have roots to keep us grounded in our faith. I think that this is probably what the author of Hebrews was referring to when he wrote this verse in chapter 6. Read it with me on the soul, firm and secure. It enters the inner sanctuary behind the curtain, and then he continues. He writes about this anchor that we cling to for our soul. And that hope that we have that we cling to is a hope in Christ. It's a belief in Christ that anchors our soul in Him. And so our roots serve us as an anchor that holds fast to our faith no matter what the world is doing, no matter how hard the winds are blowing. So the first thing that jumped off the screen to me as I read was that our faith anchors us. That's incredibly important. Our being anchored in the love of Christ anchors our faith. The next thing I learned, and again, this is not a shocker, but I think thinking about it can be profound for us. Being rooted in Christ nurtures us. Being rooted in Christ nurtures us. The primary function of the root system, and I didn't know this, which is, I should probably go back to school. I did not do well in science. The primary function of the root system is to draw nutrients out of the soil. Yes, it anchors it, but the primary thing that those roots are doing is drawing life out of the soil. I thought the leaves were responsible for that. That's a different deal. It's the roots. They draw life out of the soil. And so when we are rooted in Christ, we are drawing life from the very soil in which we are planted. This is very similar to what Jesus talks about in John chapter 15, verse 5, when he says this, I am the vine, you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit. Apart from me, you can do nothing. Other versions have the word abide. If you abide in me and I in you, if you remain attached to me, if you stay rooted in me, you will bear much fruit. It will nurture you. You don't have to worry about all the other things. You don't have to worry about how it's going to work out. You don't have to worry about the right thing to do all the time. You focus on being rooted in me, and I will produce in you what I need. I will care for you, and you don't have to worry about the rest of it. I'm not going to belabor this point, because in the spring we're going to a series called Final Thoughts where we go through the Upper Room Discourse which is found in John chapters 14 through 17. It's Jesus' last thoughts with the disciples before He leaves and goes to Heaven to prepare a place for us. In the middle of that, chapter 15, He talks about abiding me and I in you and you will bear much fruit. We're going to spend two whole weeks on that in March. So I'm not going to belabor it here. I'm going to draw up two points about this nurturing thing that I think matter today. The first is this. When a plant has a good root system, you can cut it to the quick. And if the roots are healthy, that plant will grow back. Even though there's nothing on the surface, even though it looks dead, even though it looks like things are done for that plant. And we all know that this is true instinctively because weeds. Because we all hate pulling weeds. Maybe you don't. I hate it. I hate pulling weeds. I hated like like, when I was a kid, and my dad would be like, all right, we've got to work in the yard today. Let's go pull weeds. I'm like, oh, no. And he would always say, get it by the root. And I never would. I would just rip it out. Sorry, Dad, he's right there. I never would do it. He knows this anyways. I'd just rip it out and throw it away. You can't see it. It's gone. What happens? That's coming back. Now, as a grown-up with my own yard, when I'm pulling a weed and I'm trying to jiggle it and do what you're supposed to do to get it out by the roots and it breaks off and I don't get it, I'm like, dadgummit. I know it's just coming back. I'm going to do this in another couple of weeks. When a plant has a good root system, it doesn't need anything above the surface. It can just regrow, oftentimes bigger and stronger than it was before. Sometimes life cuts us to the quick. Sometimes we get chopped all the way down, and we're not even really sure if we see a path forward. But because the root system in Christ is healthy, we grow and we flourish. If you've been coming to Grace for a while, you've heard me talk now and again about my college roommate, Chris Gerlach, who, when he was 30, died of a widow-maker heart attack. Perfectly healthy guy, just throwing a Frisbee and dropped dead. He left behind Carla, my wife Jen's college roommate. We're all really close friends. And two boys. Five and three. And I remember sitting with Carla at the visitation. And even the day of the funeral. Just in this back room with her and some friends. And I just remember watching her vacillate between tears and just kind of icy numbness, thousand yard stare. And I remember Jen talking to her in the weeks and months subsequent to Chris's loss. Carla had been cut to the quick. She didn't know how she was going to go forward. And as Jen talked to her, we both saw, slowly but surely, hope begin to creep back into Carla's life. Belief that her voice could be okay. Belief that she might find joy again. Clinging to Christ, letting him be the anchor. Remaining committed to being a person of devotion and to prayer. And we saw her slowly but surely grow back and begin to flourish again. This last October marked 10 years since Chris's death. Carla is married to a wonderful man who loves Jesus and loves her boys, and her boys love him. They have a daughter together. It's a new life. She's flourishing in Christ. When our roots are deep and healthy, even when we are cut to the quick, we can still, because of Jesus, regrow and flourish. Some of us today may have come in here feeling like you were just sheared down to the ground. There will be hope. Your roots in Christ will serve you, and you will flourish again. Here's the other thing I learned about root systems that I did not know. The deeper the roots, the more mature a system of roots, the less irrigation and fertilization matter to that plant. Did you know that I did not know that? The deeper the roots are the less fertilization and irrigation matter to a particular plant and I think this has really interesting implications in the Christian life because what it means is the deeper our roots in Christ the more established with we are, the more mature our faith, the less all the extra stuff on the surface matters as much. Meaning, when you're a new believer, when your root system isn't really firmly developed, you're just learning and exploring, you need good sermons. You need good worship. You need the books that the latest pastor, Christian influencer has written and then are showing up on Instagram. You need those things. You need the Bible studies. You need the small groups. You need all the extra sprinkles of Jesus in your life. You need the Instagram feed that comes up and shows you a verse and a thought for the day. You need all those things. Those things are good and they're helpful and their return on investment is good. But the deeper you get, the longer you walk, the more mature you are, the healthier and deeper your roots, the less those things impact you. The less your faith needs those things. It doesn't mean that they're not helpful. It doesn't mean that it's not helpful if I preach a good sermon for you, if you listen to a good podcast or another pastor during the week or even another pastor on a Sunday, whatever. It doesn't mean that sermons don't help you. What it means is if you don't get them, you're fine because you've got this and you've got prayer. There is a time. I'm not even sure if I would call it a threshold, but there is a level of depth and maturity that a Christian develops where a church service and a sermon and worship really are not what move the needle for them spiritually. What moves the needle for them spiritually is spending time in God's word and time in prayer. That's why I always say that's the most important single habit that anyone can develop is to get up every day and do those things. There comes a time when your communion with God is so deep and so rich and so good that if that's all you had, you would flourish. And we know this is true because we can think of the older saints that we know, people with weathered faiths, with deep roots, where you get the profound sense that they kind of come to church for you. They're not coming for them. They're coming to serve. They're coming to help. I think of old pastors that I know that are flourishing with God because all they need is their Bible and prayer and they grow and they flourish and their faith sustains. I think it's really interesting, the idea that the closer we grow to God, the deeper our roots, the more established we are, the less we need all the extra stuff, and all we really need is him. Last thought. Being rooted in Christ awes us. It amazes us. The last thing that I noticed or that I learned was that botanists are really good at explaining what's happening in a plant above ground, but they're remarkably bad at explaining to you what's happening in a plant below ground. Root systems are really tough to study. They're really difficult to learn about. It takes a whole lot of effort to even see what they're doing. They don't understand how the roots are taking nutrients from the soil. It doesn't make sense to them. They can't explain it. They can explain a lot about what's happening above the surface, but they can explain very little about what's actually, comparatively speaking, about what's happening below the surface so much that in botany circles, which is not a phrase I ever expected to use in a sermon, but in botany circles, or in life, really, in botany circles, the roots are known as the hidden half, which is like, yeah, duh. But what they mean is they just don't understand it. And in the same way, and here's the thing too, is what's happening above the surface is almost entirely reflective of what's happening below the surface. They know it's true, they just can't explain how it works. And in the same way that a botanist or a scientist can't fully explain to you what's happening below the surface to produce what's happening above the surface, neither can a pastor or a theologian fully explain to you what God is doing in the depths of your heart as he works on your soul to produce what's happening above the surface. It's even more mysterious. I don't know or understand how God works in our heart to change us and mold us and make us more like him. I just know that he does. I can't explain to you all the ins and outs of how it works, but we see on the surface kindness, goodness, and faithfulness, and gentleness, and self-control. We see the fruits of the Spirit being born on the surface. We see graciousness, and magnanimity, and kindness, and patience being born out on the surface. But we can't explain to you in detail, with precision, what's going on under the surface. God just works in mysterious ways. We're told His ways are higher than our ways. We're told in this passage that the love of Christ surpasses knowledge. I wish I could explain to you everything that goes on in your heart when Jesus takes up residence in there and how he changes us. I just, I can't. I just know that he does. I can't explain to you. I have a friend back home. I went to my old church. His story, his testimony is that he was an alcoholic and dealt with it for years and woke up one morning after a bender and just felt awful, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, physically wrecked. And he cried out to God. He said, God, I hate this. I believe in you. I give you my life. Please take this addiction from me. And he will tell you, from that moment on, not only did he not ever touch alcohol again, he's never even wanted it. Now that, some would argue, is miraculous. It defies science. Addiction recovery does not work like that. But it did for him. I can't explain that to you. And I also can't explain why for some people the battles and struggles they carry into a profession of faith, for some people, those battles are instantly over. And for other people, they linger for mind-numbingly frustrating years and decades. I don't know why God removes some sin or some proclivities or some addictions overnight in some people and over long, difficult, tearful battles for others. I don't know why he does that, but that's what he does. I don't know how this concept works. One of my favorite psalms, one of my favorites. A concept that I love, that I think about a lot, is this psalm that says, Delight yourself in the laws of the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart. Which sounds like it means, it sounds like God can serve as kind of a genie if you'll just focus on Him. Right? Just delight yourself in the laws of God, and in His statutes, and His words, and His holiness holiness and pursuing the things of God. And he will give you anything that your heart desires, which for me used to be like maybe a yacht and a private chef. But now if I could just get two kids who weren't picky eaters and didn't wine, I'd be like, this is, hallelujah, I'm all in God. But that's not what that verse means, and we know that. What that concept means, if we delight ourselves in the things of God, in the holiness of God, in the pursuit of God, in the law of God, in the word of God, that as we do that, he will slowly, over time, shape our heart to beat in rhythm with his. And the things that we desire will be the very things that God desires, and in that way, he will give us the desires of our heart because God's will triumphs all eventually. Now, how does he shape our heart to beat with his? I don't know. For some, it's pain. For others, it's success. For others, it's time. For others, it's an experience. For some, it's reading. For some, it's music. For some, it's nature. For some, it's hiking. For some, it's church. For some, it's small group. For some, it's prayer. He uses all of those things to shape us over time so that our heart beats with his. How does he do it? I don't know, and there's no formula for everybody. If there was a formula that we knew, our small groups ministry would be a lot better. But we don't know the formula. We just know that when we're rooted in Christ, over time, he produces in our life fruit that sometimes we can't explain. This is why circling all the way back to the beginning, I believe that Paul prays that we would be rooted and established in the love of Christ. Because when we are rooted in the love of Christ, we are anchored against anything that life can throw at us. We are nurtured by our connection to Christ and can weather the storms and eventually can commune in ways that we don't yet understand. And then, because we're rooted in that way, we can have the strength to comprehend with all the saints the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge and be filled with all the fullness of God. So now that we understand why it's important to be rooted, we can come back in the next two weeks and better understand what it means when he talks about the saints, the love of Christ, and the fullness of God. We're now prepared to understand the rest of the passage. All right, let's pray and we'll worship together. Father, thank you for this morning. Thank you for the folks that you've brought to grace. Thank you for the folks who aren't able to make it but are participating online. Lord, I pray that you would develop in each of us very deep roots, that we would be rooted in your love and your son in such a way that nothing can tear us apart from you. God, for those who have been cut to the quick, I pray that they would see a glimmer of hope for flourishing. For those for whom the winds are blowing pretty hard right now, I pray that you would keep them anchored to the hope of Christ. And God, if we can encourage people around us with this, I pray that we would. It's in your son's name we ask these things. Amen.
Well, good morning, and welcome to Grace. My name is Nate. I get to be one of the pastors here. If I hadn't had the chance to meet you, I would love to do that in the lobby after the service, only because now is not really a good time. This is the second part of our series called Rooted, where we're looking at a prayer found in Ephesians 3, verses 14-19, and we're saying that we're going to make this the prayer for Grace for this year. I've encouraged you to make it your prayer for yourself and for your families. And I shared with you last week that this prayer really colors how I do ministry, how I live life, how I pray for everyone whenever I pray. And so we're taking the first four weeks of the year and we're saturating ourselves in this prayer. For just a little bit of context for those that may have missed last week, or were not paying attention to this part of the sermon, this prayer is found in Ephesians. It's in the middle of the grouping of Paul's letters. If you've not been exposed to the Bible or Paul's letters or Pauline epistles and aren't sure what those are. The Apostle Paul wrote about two-thirds of the New Testament. And the books of Romans, 1 and 2 Corinthians, Galatians, Ephesians, Philippians, Colossians, and 1 and 2 Thessalonians are written to churches that he started and then wrote letters of advice and counsel and encouragement and conviction, whatever was necessary in those churches, wrote those letters back to them. We preserved them, we put them in the Bible, and now we use them to lead our churches. And in those books, you will find times when he says, hey, when I pray for you, this is what I pray. And they're all very similar to the prayer that we're looking at this year. This just happens to be, to me, the most eloquent one. And so we're looking at it together. Last week, we looked at how we opened the prayer and prayed for everyone's salvation. This is first priority for everyone that he meets. We talked about how that shapes us when that's our first priority. And in that sermon, incidentally, I laid out the clearest explanation I know how to lay out on how to become saved and what it means to be saved. So if you have some questions around that, you can go back to last week's message and listen to that, and hopefully that will help you at least begin to think about things, frame things up for you. Before I dive in this week to the next petition that we find in Paul's prayer, I just wanted to read the whole passage and then we'll focus back on verse 17 and a phrase that we're going to spend our time in this morning. Really, we're going to spend all of our time this morning on one word, rooted, and what it means. So if you have a Bible, open it to Ephesians chapter 3. I asked you guys towards the end of last year to be in the habit of bringing your Bibles and looking through Scripture with me. One of the wonderful benefits of doing that is in the off chance that I say something meaningful to you, you can write it in your Bible. And then years later when you're reading it, that note can pop up and remind you of past lessons learned. So I also have been told, and I'm very sorry for this, that some people for Christmas got ESV Bibles because they're like, we're going to be able to follow along with Nate now in the service. And I think that's a wonderful thing. And then right out of the gate, January 7th, first service of the year, I was like, hey guys, I'm switching to NIV when I preach, just so you know. I ruined a middle schooler's Christmas. That was like his big gift. So I'm going to get you a Bible. I'm going to buy you one. I promise you. It's going to show up at your house, NIV, leather bound. It's going to be fancy. I hate that I ruined your Christmas. Read with me if you have a Bible these verses from 14 to 19 in Ephesians 3, and then some of them will show up on the screen and we'll talk of God. That's the whole passage. This week, we're going to be centered in on verse 17. So that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith, and I pray that you, being rooted and established in love. And then from there, if you look at the verse, he makes some petitions. Because you're now rooted in love. So because you're saved, because you know Christ, because the Godhead has had the threefold effort to bring you to a knowledge of Christ, because God according to His riches has offered you salvation, the Spirit and His power has moved in your heart to want salvation, and now Christ dwells in your heart through faith. So because the Godhead has moved and you know Christ and you are now saved, he considers you that now you are rooted and established in love. Now you're rooted in love. And listen, today I'm going to say you're rooted in love. You're rooted in the love of Christ. You're rooted in the love of God. You're rooted in Christ. To me, for the concept for this verse, that's all synonymous. Okay. Iocating some things here. So, I'm going to say all those words, but what I mean is rooted and grounded in the love of Christ, which I think totally agrees with Paul's intent when he was writing this. So, because you're saved, you're now rooted and grounded in love. And because you are, here's what I pray for you, that you would have the strength to comprehend with all the saints. And that's what we're going to look at next week is the communion of the saints. And why that's always so important. And then to know the love that surpasses knowledge. That you'd be loved by Jesus. That you'd be filled with all the fullness of God. So in that way, this concept that we're looking at today of being rooted in Christ's love is the fulcrum of the whole passage. I sum it up like this. Being rooted in Christ's love is the concept through which the rest of the prayer flows. Because you're saved, you're rooted in the love of Christ. Because I know that you're rooted in the love of Christ. Here's what I pray for you. I think the other petitions flow from this petition. So it's important for us, if it's the fulcrum of the passage and the prayer, if it's kind of the therefore, we need to understand what it means to be rooted and established in the love of Christ. We need to know what that means and have an appreciation of it. If we don't value that, if we don't understand it, if we can't define it, then we really can't comprehend the rest of the prayer. So when I sat down to write the sermon, I knew that was where I needed to focus. What does it mean to be rooted in the love of Christ? We're naming the whole series Rooted. So this must be a pretty important idea. And I have sometimes, often for series, I'll have a series guide where whenever I sat down and kind of framed up the series, which for me, this was in October or November that I framed this up. I keep a document on my computer because I don't know where else you keep a document. And I'll sum up each week. Let's focus on these verses this week. And I'll usually leave myself a two or three sentence guide, sometimes more, of what to think about and what to talk about and how to approach it so that when I hit the week that I'm prepping it and that I'm actually writing it, I'm not hitting it fresh. I've already done a little bit of prep work for it. So I opened up the document a couple weeks ago when I was writing this sermon, and it said, you know, verse 17, rooted, established, and loved. And then the guidance that I gave myself was, explore what it means to be rooted and established in love. Like, thanks, November Nate, because you're not helping January Nate at all. So whenever I don't know what to do, I just read stuff on the internet that other people have written about this until I get an idea. They teach that in seminary. And one of the places I wanted to go is to explore root systems. Let me just understand roots more and see if that sparks something. And I'll be honest with you. I kind of don't like when pastors do this, when they take one word. I'm going to do a lot of research about this word, and we're going to draw out a ton of lessons from this one concept, from this one word. Look at everything I've learned about root systems, right? Because I don't think it's totally fair to what the author intended, because Paul did not have Google, and he was a tent maker from a relatively cosmopolitan city. I do not think he had an exhaustive knowledge of what root systems do when he wrote this. So for me to go and dig deeper into it to figure out what we can learn about root systems and how we can apply that to the passage isn't necessarily fair to his intention when he wrote it. And sometimes when pastors do this, we kind of mislead the congregation, the people who are listening, to believe that this was the original author's intent too, and this is the only way to understand the passage. So I'm just saying that up front so you know I'm not trying to do that this morning. What I will say is, as I began to learn about root systems, which was some exciting stuff. I was on like botany websites in like college. I started to read like a scientific, I don't even know what you call it, write up on it, paper. And I bailed. I was like, yeah, this is not, I can't understand this. But as I did the research and started learning, to me there's just so many parallels firing off that I thought this is worth it to sit in here and figure out what we can learn about root systems that also apply to our spiritual lives. So that's what we're going to do this morning. One of the things I saw and read about, and this is not a surprise to anyone, if what I'm about to say about how root systems function, if this first point surprises you, if you learn right now, you need to go back to school, I think. But one of the first things that I think is profoundly important about root systems is this. Being rooted in Christ anchors us. Being rooted in Christ anchors us. On, I believe, Tuesday of this week, we had a big storm. The big storm blew through sustained winds of 25 to 30 miles an hour, gusts of 45 to 50 miles an hour. It was a big storm. They even canceled school. We did a half day for school, which, as an aside, is patently absurd, all right? I went to elementary school in the 80s and 90s, and there's no way in the world it was going to be so windy that we canceled school. Like, it's going to be really raining hard when you get off the bus, so we're just going to let your mom pick you up at 12. That didn't happen. They didn't care if a stick blew off a tree and hit you in the head on the way home. That didn't matter to them. We're doing school, but now the world is run by sissies, so we come home at noon. Fine. I just need to get that off my chest. Thanks, guys. When I woke up the next day, I go outside to assess the damage, and my neighbor has recently redone his yard, and he has some plants that he's planted, and then over those plants, he's placed a basket about this tie. It's like tent structure. It's got some meshing around it. And I think it's to keep so that the deer don't eat the plants and so that the people who own the plants can never actually enjoy them. I guess they have to walk up and take over the basket and go, boy, that's a beauty. And then they just put it right back down. I don't know. It seems to defeat the purpose of plants. But that had blown into my yard, which no problem. I picked it up. I walk it over. I don't know what, I just picked one. It's just because this is the plant it needs to protect. But do you know why the basket was in my yard and the bush wasn't? Because the basket wasn't rooted. The bush has roots. None of you woke up after that storm on Wednesday morning and noticed that your shrubbery had blown completely out of your yard because they're all rooted. So one of the first things that roots do is they keep us anchored. And here's why that's important. Because sometimes the winds of life blow, and those winds would seek to uproot us from our faith if they can. There are things that happen in life, grief, loss, tragedy, disappointment, disillusionment, doubts, that when they occur, if we are not deeply rooted, we will blow away and we will lose And in that loss, they had deep questions of their faith. But they stayed grounded where they were because their roots were deep. It reminds me of the parable of the sower, where the sower sows seeds and it lands on different kinds of soil, and some of it lands on shallow soil and the roots don't grow deep and the enemy will come and snatch them up, or things will happen and they will be uprooted. We need deep roots to keep us grounded in our faith. I remember a time in my life that's more recent than you'd probably want it to be if I'm your pastor, where I experienced profound doubt in my faith. The way that I kind of describe it is I grew up in the church, good leaders, good folks. I went to Bible college. I went to seminary. And I feel like those things kind of equipped me with boxes or categories to place all my experiences in life, to be able to explain why do bad things happen to good people and why do good things happen to bad people. I've got a box for that. I can explain it. Why did we experience this loss? I've got a box for that. I can explain it. What should I do in this situation that's morally gray? It's not morally gray. It's black and white. Let me explain to you why I've got a box for that. I can explain it. And so I felt like I kind of got pushed into adult life with a set of boxes and categories that could explain everything that has happened to me and will happen to me and will happen to the people around me. And then I became a pastor. And I started noticing, slowly but surely, that everything I experienced doesn't necessarily fit into one of my boxes. I started to need new boxes. I started to need different categories. And that pushed me into a season of profound doubt, of not being sure if it was all true true anyways because my experiences in life did not fit to the categories I had been given I'll say this here if this resonates with you if that's something that you've walked through or are walking through or are experiencing I would love to have coffee with you and talk about that but I can can tell you this. The only thing that kept me in my faith was the fact that God and his goodness over time had developed deep roots for me in my faith. And I could not abandon it. And the wind was blowing hard. But it kept me grounded where I was because I agreed with Peter in that confession. You are the Christ. Where else are we going to go? When we struggle or are disillusioned or disappointed, it's important that we have roots to keep us grounded in our faith. I think that this is probably what the author of Hebrews was referring to when he wrote this verse in chapter 6. Read it with me on the soul, firm and secure. It enters the inner sanctuary behind the curtain, and then he continues. He writes about this anchor that we cling to for our soul. And that hope that we have that we cling to is a hope in Christ. It's a belief in Christ that anchors our soul in Him. And so our roots serve us as an anchor that holds fast to our faith no matter what the world is doing, no matter how hard the winds are blowing. So the first thing that jumped off the screen to me as I read was that our faith anchors us. That's incredibly important. Our being anchored in the love of Christ anchors our faith. The next thing I learned, and again, this is not a shocker, but I think thinking about it can be profound for us. Being rooted in Christ nurtures us. Being rooted in Christ nurtures us. The primary function of the root system, and I didn't know this, which is, I should probably go back to school. I did not do well in science. The primary function of the root system is to draw nutrients out of the soil. Yes, it anchors it, but the primary thing that those roots are doing is drawing life out of the soil. I thought the leaves were responsible for that. That's a different deal. It's the roots. They draw life out of the soil. And so when we are rooted in Christ, we are drawing life from the very soil in which we are planted. This is very similar to what Jesus talks about in John chapter 15, verse 5, when he says this, I am the vine, you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit. Apart from me, you can do nothing. Other versions have the word abide. If you abide in me and I in you, if you remain attached to me, if you stay rooted in me, you will bear much fruit. It will nurture you. You don't have to worry about all the other things. You don't have to worry about how it's going to work out. You don't have to worry about the right thing to do all the time. You focus on being rooted in me, and I will produce in you what I need. I will care for you, and you don't have to worry about the rest of it. I'm not going to belabor this point, because in the spring we're going to a series called Final Thoughts where we go through the Upper Room Discourse which is found in John chapters 14 through 17. It's Jesus' last thoughts with the disciples before He leaves and goes to Heaven to prepare a place for us. In the middle of that, chapter 15, He talks about abiding me and I in you and you will bear much fruit. We're going to spend two whole weeks on that in March. So I'm not going to belabor it here. I'm going to draw up two points about this nurturing thing that I think matter today. The first is this. When a plant has a good root system, you can cut it to the quick. And if the roots are healthy, that plant will grow back. Even though there's nothing on the surface, even though it looks dead, even though it looks like things are done for that plant. And we all know that this is true instinctively because weeds. Because we all hate pulling weeds. Maybe you don't. I hate it. I hate pulling weeds. I hated like like, when I was a kid, and my dad would be like, all right, we've got to work in the yard today. Let's go pull weeds. I'm like, oh, no. And he would always say, get it by the root. And I never would. I would just rip it out. Sorry, Dad, he's right there. I never would do it. He knows this anyways. I'd just rip it out and throw it away. You can't see it. It's gone. What happens? That's coming back. Now, as a grown-up with my own yard, when I'm pulling a weed and I'm trying to jiggle it and do what you're supposed to do to get it out by the roots and it breaks off and I don't get it, I'm like, dadgummit. I know it's just coming back. I'm going to do this in another couple of weeks. When a plant has a good root system, it doesn't need anything above the surface. It can just regrow, oftentimes bigger and stronger than it was before. Sometimes life cuts us to the quick. Sometimes we get chopped all the way down, and we're not even really sure if we see a path forward. But because the root system in Christ is healthy, we grow and we flourish. If you've been coming to Grace for a while, you've heard me talk now and again about my college roommate, Chris Gerlach, who, when he was 30, died of a widow-maker heart attack. Perfectly healthy guy, just throwing a Frisbee and dropped dead. He left behind Carla, my wife Jen's college roommate. We're all really close friends. And two boys. Five and three. And I remember sitting with Carla at the visitation. And even the day of the funeral. Just in this back room with her and some friends. And I just remember watching her vacillate between tears and just kind of icy numbness, thousand yard stare. And I remember Jen talking to her in the weeks and months subsequent to Chris's loss. Carla had been cut to the quick. She didn't know how she was going to go forward. And as Jen talked to her, we both saw, slowly but surely, hope begin to creep back into Carla's life. Belief that her voice could be okay. Belief that she might find joy again. Clinging to Christ, letting him be the anchor. Remaining committed to being a person of devotion and to prayer. And we saw her slowly but surely grow back and begin to flourish again. This last October marked 10 years since Chris's death. Carla is married to a wonderful man who loves Jesus and loves her boys, and her boys love him. They have a daughter together. It's a new life. She's flourishing in Christ. When our roots are deep and healthy, even when we are cut to the quick, we can still, because of Jesus, regrow and flourish. Some of us today may have come in here feeling like you were just sheared down to the ground. There will be hope. Your roots in Christ will serve you, and you will flourish again. Here's the other thing I learned about root systems that I did not know. The deeper the roots, the more mature a system of roots, the less irrigation and fertilization matter to that plant. Did you know that I did not know that? The deeper the roots are the less fertilization and irrigation matter to a particular plant and I think this has really interesting implications in the Christian life because what it means is the deeper our roots in Christ the more established with we are, the more mature our faith, the less all the extra stuff on the surface matters as much. Meaning, when you're a new believer, when your root system isn't really firmly developed, you're just learning and exploring, you need good sermons. You need good worship. You need the books that the latest pastor, Christian influencer has written and then are showing up on Instagram. You need those things. You need the Bible studies. You need the small groups. You need all the extra sprinkles of Jesus in your life. You need the Instagram feed that comes up and shows you a verse and a thought for the day. You need all those things. Those things are good and they're helpful and their return on investment is good. But the deeper you get, the longer you walk, the more mature you are, the healthier and deeper your roots, the less those things impact you. The less your faith needs those things. It doesn't mean that they're not helpful. It doesn't mean that it's not helpful if I preach a good sermon for you, if you listen to a good podcast or another pastor during the week or even another pastor on a Sunday, whatever. It doesn't mean that sermons don't help you. What it means is if you don't get them, you're fine because you've got this and you've got prayer. There is a time. I'm not even sure if I would call it a threshold, but there is a level of depth and maturity that a Christian develops where a church service and a sermon and worship really are not what move the needle for them spiritually. What moves the needle for them spiritually is spending time in God's word and time in prayer. That's why I always say that's the most important single habit that anyone can develop is to get up every day and do those things. There comes a time when your communion with God is so deep and so rich and so good that if that's all you had, you would flourish. And we know this is true because we can think of the older saints that we know, people with weathered faiths, with deep roots, where you get the profound sense that they kind of come to church for you. They're not coming for them. They're coming to serve. They're coming to help. I think of old pastors that I know that are flourishing with God because all they need is their Bible and prayer and they grow and they flourish and their faith sustains. I think it's really interesting, the idea that the closer we grow to God, the deeper our roots, the more established we are, the less we need all the extra stuff, and all we really need is him. Last thought. Being rooted in Christ awes us. It amazes us. The last thing that I noticed or that I learned was that botanists are really good at explaining what's happening in a plant above ground, but they're remarkably bad at explaining to you what's happening in a plant below ground. Root systems are really tough to study. They're really difficult to learn about. It takes a whole lot of effort to even see what they're doing. They don't understand how the roots are taking nutrients from the soil. It doesn't make sense to them. They can't explain it. They can explain a lot about what's happening above the surface, but they can explain very little about what's actually, comparatively speaking, about what's happening below the surface so much that in botany circles, which is not a phrase I ever expected to use in a sermon, but in botany circles, or in life, really, in botany circles, the roots are known as the hidden half, which is like, yeah, duh. But what they mean is they just don't understand it. And in the same way, and here's the thing too, is what's happening above the surface is almost entirely reflective of what's happening below the surface. They know it's true, they just can't explain how it works. And in the same way that a botanist or a scientist can't fully explain to you what's happening below the surface to produce what's happening above the surface, neither can a pastor or a theologian fully explain to you what God is doing in the depths of your heart as he works on your soul to produce what's happening above the surface. It's even more mysterious. I don't know or understand how God works in our heart to change us and mold us and make us more like him. I just know that he does. I can't explain to you all the ins and outs of how it works, but we see on the surface kindness, goodness, and faithfulness, and gentleness, and self-control. We see the fruits of the Spirit being born on the surface. We see graciousness, and magnanimity, and kindness, and patience being born out on the surface. But we can't explain to you in detail, with precision, what's going on under the surface. God just works in mysterious ways. We're told His ways are higher than our ways. We're told in this passage that the love of Christ surpasses knowledge. I wish I could explain to you everything that goes on in your heart when Jesus takes up residence in there and how he changes us. I just, I can't. I just know that he does. I can't explain to you. I have a friend back home. I went to my old church. His story, his testimony is that he was an alcoholic and dealt with it for years and woke up one morning after a bender and just felt awful, emotionally, spiritually, mentally, physically wrecked. And he cried out to God. He said, God, I hate this. I believe in you. I give you my life. Please take this addiction from me. And he will tell you, from that moment on, not only did he not ever touch alcohol again, he's never even wanted it. Now that, some would argue, is miraculous. It defies science. Addiction recovery does not work like that. But it did for him. I can't explain that to you. And I also can't explain why for some people the battles and struggles they carry into a profession of faith, for some people, those battles are instantly over. And for other people, they linger for mind-numbingly frustrating years and decades. I don't know why God removes some sin or some proclivities or some addictions overnight in some people and over long, difficult, tearful battles for others. I don't know why he does that, but that's what he does. I don't know how this concept works. One of my favorite psalms, one of my favorites. A concept that I love, that I think about a lot, is this psalm that says, Delight yourself in the laws of the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart. Which sounds like it means, it sounds like God can serve as kind of a genie if you'll just focus on Him. Right? Just delight yourself in the laws of God, and in His statutes, and His words, and His holiness holiness and pursuing the things of God. And he will give you anything that your heart desires, which for me used to be like maybe a yacht and a private chef. But now if I could just get two kids who weren't picky eaters and didn't wine, I'd be like, this is, hallelujah, I'm all in God. But that's not what that verse means, and we know that. What that concept means, if we delight ourselves in the things of God, in the holiness of God, in the pursuit of God, in the law of God, in the word of God, that as we do that, he will slowly, over time, shape our heart to beat in rhythm with his. And the things that we desire will be the very things that God desires, and in that way, he will give us the desires of our heart because God's will triumphs all eventually. Now, how does he shape our heart to beat with his? I don't know. For some, it's pain. For others, it's success. For others, it's time. For others, it's an experience. For some, it's reading. For some, it's music. For some, it's nature. For some, it's hiking. For some, it's church. For some, it's small group. For some, it's prayer. He uses all of those things to shape us over time so that our heart beats with his. How does he do it? I don't know, and there's no formula for everybody. If there was a formula that we knew, our small groups ministry would be a lot better. But we don't know the formula. We just know that when we're rooted in Christ, over time, he produces in our life fruit that sometimes we can't explain. This is why circling all the way back to the beginning, I believe that Paul prays that we would be rooted and established in the love of Christ. Because when we are rooted in the love of Christ, we are anchored against anything that life can throw at us. We are nurtured by our connection to Christ and can weather the storms and eventually can commune in ways that we don't yet understand. And then, because we're rooted in that way, we can have the strength to comprehend with all the saints the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge and be filled with all the fullness of God. So now that we understand why it's important to be rooted, we can come back in the next two weeks and better understand what it means when he talks about the saints, the love of Christ, and the fullness of God. We're now prepared to understand the rest of the passage. All right, let's pray and we'll worship together. Father, thank you for this morning. Thank you for the folks that you've brought to grace. Thank you for the folks who aren't able to make it but are participating online. Lord, I pray that you would develop in each of us very deep roots, that we would be rooted in your love and your son in such a way that nothing can tear us apart from you. God, for those who have been cut to the quick, I pray that they would see a glimmer of hope for flourishing. For those for whom the winds are blowing pretty hard right now, I pray that you would keep them anchored to the hope of Christ. And God, if we can encourage people around us with this, I pray that we would. It's in your son's name we ask these things. Amen.
Good morning. How are you guys doing today? Good. If you're new, if you're visiting, my name is Aaron. I'm the worship pastor out here. And I don't know why, just to let you in on a little secret and give you a chance to laugh at me, whatever. I don't know why, whenever Nate's up here consistently and I come up here, one of my first instincts is to say, I'm not Nate. Like, you guys didn't know that. Like, for some reason, you thought, man, what happened to Nate over there? He just got a lot better looking suddenly. And I mean, maybe, maybe, but hey, really glad to be here. Nate, thanks so much, man, for the opportunity to come up and share what's been on my heart. To kind of launch us in, get our minds going in the direction that we're headed today. Have you noticed how the mistakes that we make speak so much louder to us than the right things that we do? To kind of give you an idea, so several years ago, my wife and I, we went to Miami, and I had been on this venture and this journey for a long time, trying to learn Spanish, trying to just get better at it. And I was doing the Rosetta Stone thing, all of that. I was doing really good. I could say, like, going to Mexico in October with the mission trip, I would have been perfectly fine asking where the bathroom was. I'm just good. I wouldn't know where they were telling me to go, but I could ask where it was, right? So I was halfway there. But I remember we went to Miami. And if you've never been, it's a culture that's largely influenced by the Latin culture, the Cuban culture down there. And so just the places that we went, I got to speak a lot of the Spanish that I knew, like restaurants and stuff, right? That was good. But when we got back, I was just, I was kind of feeling, like I was having a lot of confidence and I wanted to impress my wife, who is the love of my life. And so we were out one day and I was hungry and she was hungry. I was like, you know what? I know how to say I want to go to Five Guys. That was before the burgers cost 45 bucks. And so I was like, so I want to look at her with all the confidence that I could muster. I looked at her dead in the eyes and I said, quiero cinco hombres, right? Sounds good, right? But if you speak Spanish, you know what I said to my wife was not I want to go to Five Guys. What I said to my wife was, I want five men. And it was not what I meant to say to her because I did not want five men. I wanted to go get an overpriced bacon cheeseburger, right? And you know what I did after that? I did not say Spanish words that I did not understand until, what's funny is this true story. I tried it again last week. But let me encourage you. If you're trying to learn Spanish, don't use the words that you hear on video games because you could end up saying not good words in front of your grandma-in-law who does know very good Spanish. And she looks at you like, did you mean to say that? And I don't know. I just heard like she was getting shot at. And then I repeated what she said and it was whatever. But what's really funny about this, right? Like that, it struck me this week how vivid that memory was. And it's funny. We laugh about it. We can do whatever. Like it wasn't that big of a deal, but it really struck me how big of a mistake or how the mistake stuck with me all of these years. Isn't that true for all of us? We have these goals. We have these things and these places that we try to get to in life. And isn't it true that the failure en route to that goal, it seems to keep coming back over and over and over. It seems to play on repeat. And this isn't just a Christian thing, it's a human thing. But if you're a Christian, it's not just the goals that you have, is it? It's also who Christ has asked you to become. And so on the other side of those shortcomings, on the other side of those mistakes, man, it seems like that's an easy thing to point to. It's when the voice of shame starts to speak pretty loudly on repeat. I know what you did. You think they're going to accept you at church if they find that out? In this series, we're talking about emotions. Emotions that can overwhelm and emotions that can kind of take control and move you into being something you've never really wanted to be. And what I would argue is that a lot of the emotions that we're talking about, they're not to be demonized. Like the emotions that we experience aren't bad things. Like anger, for example. Anger left unchecked will completely wreck havoc in your life. But without anger, you would also not have passion. You would not be moved to act. Yesterday, we went to a lot of people at Grace Serves. We went to Rise Against Hunger. Without anger causing someone to be passionate about world hunger, they would not have that ministry. Fear, fear, unchecked, it will immobilize you. But it's also caused people to create a lot of safety in our world that we never would have seen otherwise. So a lot of these emotions are not bad, but shame, shame has no place in our world. I truly believe that shame is one of the most often used and effective tools of our spiritual enemy, consistently pointing at where we fell short. And the reason why shame is so powerful in our life is because shame not only points to your mistakes, but it identifies you by them. Like you are the sum total of the things that you have done wrong, and it plays on repeat. And so what's heartbreaking about this is our lives are often wrapped around, our identity is often wrapped around that one season in life, that one mistake, that one thing that you did or that one thing that was done to you. And we try as hard as we can, except we just can't forget it. That's what I want to talk about today. Because here's what we have learned. You can't quiet that voice. So how do you keep it from being so overwhelming? And if we're going to look at the life of anyone who has messed up time and time and time again, who else could it be except for Peter? Some of you thought I was going to say me, and that's not nice. Stop it. Right? But we're going to look at Peter. And to catch you up with where we are in the story, we're going to be in Matthew. But to catch you up with where we are, we're actually just within a few hours of what Nate talked about last week with Jesus in the garden. It started in the upper room with the Last Supper where Jesus is Jesus is predicting actually Peter's denial. Jesus says to Peter, hey, Pete, you know, listen, in a few hours, like you, actually, he says, all of you are going to abandon, turn your back and going to leave me. And Pete says, no, no, not me. Not me. I'd never do this. Well, Peter, funny, I love you. But it's not very smart to argue with the guy who can read your mind. But yes, you will do. This is something you're going to do. They move forward. They go into the garden, and Jesus simply asks them, hey, let's just stay awake and pray with me for a little bit. Jesus goes off to pray. It's probably interrupted by Peter snoring, and he comes back, and Peter's asleep. It does that twice. Then they move forward. Jesus is arrested. The guards come. Peter chops off the ear. Jesus puts it back on his head, so there's another correction. And then they go to the court. And that's where we're going to pick it up. In Matthew 26, we are met with this scene. Now, Peter was sitting outside in the courtyard. A servant girl approached him and said, you were with Jesus the Galilean too. He denied it in front of everyone. I don't know what you're talking about. Now, when Peter, when it says that Peter cursed with an oath, that's not the same kind of cursing that we do when somebody cuts us off in traffic, right? This was more along the lines of, may God strike me dead if I'm lying. That was how firm Peter was in saying, I don't know this man. And so he broke. The account of Luke actually tells us that Jesus and Peter made eye contact. And it was at that moment that he broke. And here's one of the reasons why I think that shame is such a powerful tool is because it's so easily mixed up with conviction, right? Like both shame and conviction point immediately at the thing that you don't want to see. The thing that you don't, it points at the mistake. And both make you feel bad about it. And so as a Christian, how do you discern the difference? Like which one is shame? I don't know what to do. And you end up just kind of stuck in the same spot. But the best way that I can come up with to describe the difference is this. Shame disqualifies, and conviction invites. Shame is always going to disqualify you from wherever it is that you're trying to go. Wherever it is that you're trying to accomplish, shame is going to look at you and say, you, you, you, you don't, you can't go there. Like, really? Like, you think that you can do that? But conviction is the opposite of a tool used by the enemy. It's the voice of the Holy Spirit in our life. And it's always inviting us to something. It's always inviting us to what's next. That's the difference. Shame points at our mistakes and shows us how we can never be anything other than that. While conviction points at our mistakes and says, hey, here's what's coming. This is where we go from here. This is what's next in our life. What's fascinating to me about this, like we just talked about where this scene began, there was three to four mistakes, probably about seven to eight if you include the three different times that Peter denied. This is at the end of the Gospels. This is at the end of the three-year window into Peter's mistakes. What has happened every single time? He's dropped the ball. This is what he's known for. He's the guy who messes up. He's the guy who puts his foot in his mouth, except he gets back up and he follows Jesus. He gets back up and goes where Jesus asks him to go over and over and over again, except for this time, it changes. We don't know exactly where Peter went after this moment. We don't know exactly what happened. But all four of the Gospels go to the next scene, which is Jesus' crucifixion. And at the scene of the cross, it lists several of the people who were there, most of which are some of the women who were following Jesus at that point in time. And the Gospel of John tells us that John was there as well. You know who wasn't mentioned? Peter. Like, we can't tell you exactly where Peter went, but with a pretty good amount of certainty, we can tell you where he wasn't. Probably the place that he wanted to be the most. The place with his best friend to support. I don't think Peter was merely flexing when he told Jesus, no, I won't deny you. But what we see is that shame disqualifies us from everything that Jesus invites us to do. Can we stop for a second? And like, it's easy to point a finger at Peter and say, yeah, Peter, you should have just went, man, you're forgiven, like all this other good stuff. But can I ask you, like, what is shame keeping you from that Jesus is inviting you to do? Where is Jesus inviting you in your life that you have convinced yourself that you don't deserve? Where in your life is it this accusation of shame that you could not lead your family towards Jesus? Why would they ever respect you? Who knows you better than them? Why? Do you really think you can go to church? Man, hypocrite. How dare you show your face there? Do you really want to try to have more spiritual disciplines in your life? Like, why are you faking it? That's not you. It's the voice of shame disqualifying you from where Jesus is inviting you. And here's what's true. In your life and in my life, we will never, we will never out-talk shame. I hate that. I remember when I was younger, there was a lady who told me that I had the gift of gab. What I really think she was saying is, Aaron, shut up a little bit, man. But here's what's true. You'll never out-talk and out-convince yourself of why shame is wrong. Do you know why? Because you're you. Like, who knows you better than you? As we try to move past this moment, what are you reminded of? Well, another one. For every one failure, we've got 40 others. And that's where our mind keeps going to, which is why I love what Jesus' response was. To all of this, Jesus shows up in the gospel of John chapter 21. Now, you have several of the disciples who have already went off. and I believe, and there's a lot of people who do believe, that what we're about to read is evidence that Peter went back to his old lifestyle. Peter went back to his old job. It doesn't mean that he is no longer caring for Jesus. He doesn't love Jesus anymore. It doesn't mean that even a little bit, but it just simply means maybe he felt like he couldn't do what Jesus is asking him to do. He couldn't be the person who Jesus was asking him to be, so he will sit into what he did before he knew Christ with a love for Christ. And then Jesus shows up on the beach. Jesus shows up while these guys are out there fishing. They go out fishing throughout the night, and they have been fishing all night. They haven't caught anything. Jesus shows up on the beach and says, hey, guys, you have any fish with you? And no, we haven't. And then we have, I skipped a slide. You can go ahead and jump to the verse, just so you can have the feel, and it says this. To become who Jesus, no, go back one, I'm sorry. What we're to do, let's start over. Let's roll the bumper. And so to become who Jesus says we can be, we must correct who shame says we are, right? Like that's the next point. I think it's at the bottom of your page, whatever. It'll be fine. So, but Jesus shows up on the beach, points at these guys and says, hey, listen, here's what's going on. What did he say? He said something. You guys messed me up so bad again. Where am I at, Nate? I'm just kidding. Don't do that. So Jesus shows up on the beach. These guys have no clue that it's him. They've been fishing all night, and Jesus asked them, hey, do you have any fish? He says, no. So he says, hey, throw your net on the other side of the boat. They throw the net down, and then there's so many fish, they could barely haul it in, and then something clicked. We don't know exactly what was going through Peter's mind, but we do know there was something different in this moment., he tied his outer clothing around him, for he had taken it off and he plunged into the sea. All right, so we can't breeze past all of that yet. Like we got to bring some attention to something because I love fishing. I do. I know a lot of you love fishing. I would love to go fishing with you unless you fish like Peter, which is no fish and in your underwear. Like that just, it's weird. Maybe if you catch fish, sure, I can get past the other thing, but just that's what's going on. Have no clue why it's in there, but John wrote it. So maybe he's just pointing out, look at this dummy, right? So who knows? But something happened in this moment. Something happened. This is the third time that Jesus has appeared to the disciples. And not once do you see this type of a reaction from Peter. So much so, he was so excited to see his Lord that he couldn't wait for the boat to go 100 yards to shore. He jumped out and swam just so he could get there. Peter remembered something. If this story sounds familiar to you, it had to to Peter as well. This is very similar to the very first invitation from Jesus to Peter, where he was sitting out in the water, very similar scene, all night fishing. Clearly, Peter's not very good at it. All night fishing, no fish. Jesus says, throw it on the other side. And they couldn't even bring in all the fish. So that happened and Peter remembered and it drew him to Christ. Some of you may know my story. Some of you don't. I grew up in the church. I wasn't a Christian at all. My father was a pastor. So really what that meant is I knew how to act like a good preacher's kid on Sunday morning, right? So I learned all the do's and all the don'ts. But the moment I had, the moment I had an opportunity to split and kind of leave the church was when I was 16. My parents divorced, and I took the path of least resistance. My entire family left the church and for the next several years of my life. It wasn't that I was ignoring God. I just didn't think of God. It wasn't a conscious decision saying, okay, I don't want anything to do with you. I was just living my life, doing my thing, doing what I wanted to do until I was about 19, 20 years old, had a car accident that should have killed me. And I remember whenever I went into the hospital, I was in the hospital for several weeks, had a shattered kneecap, a severed femur head in my left hip. If you're wondering why I walk with such a strut, that's the reason. But I remember while I was sitting at the hospital, the several years that I had spent just kind of doing my own thing, no consciousness of Jesus or God or anything along the lines of that, not one of the people that I knew hung out with anything, no one showed up. The people who did show up were the people from years and years ago. People that I went to church camp with, friends that I grew up in church with, some of my father's pastor friends, they showed up and they prayed with me. And this, I'm not saying anything about any of the people, but what that was is God reintroducing himself into my world. He began wooing me. And so I started this back and forth journey, right? Like this, this, this back and forth. Okay, God, I'll do the right thing. I'll do it, do it, do it, mess up. And then I kind of run off and then do my own thing again. I can't do that. Mess up, do it, do it, do it, run off, do my own thing again. And it was like this for a very long time because I reverted to what I knew. Like you have to be good enough. You have to be awesome enough. You have to be all of these other things. And then I remember I went to visit a lady named Carol McCraw, the same one who told me I talk a lot. She was a worship leader in our church growing up. And I went honestly, just simply to say hi. She was a very important person to our family. And I remember when I walked in and simply said hello. She saw, she was playing piano as the music was getting started, and she saw me. She got up, she ran, and just gave me a hug. And it was in that moment, it felt like God wrapped his arms around me, and there was nothing that I did. Now, I clearly wasn't carol, but God used her in a pretty big way because it was in that moment I surrendered my heart, and I could do, man, there was such a love for Jesus, and then I'm telling you, over the next several years, we can sit down and have some coffee or something at some point in time. But it's this journey of falling short. And it's these moments of shame floods my mind. And I consistently go back to this moment where all I did was walk into a place with no intention of seeing Jesus, simply to visit a friend. And it was in that moment, like I'm drawn to the compassion of God because of that personal experience. I'm drawn to the love of Christ in that moment because I realized I didn't deserve anything. Like I think about my past and I cringe, But the love of Christ accepted me for who I was and walked alongside of me. I believe that's what's happening in Peter's world right now. Maybe he went back to his old lifestyle. Who knows? Maybe they were hungry and they went fishing. But there was something in this moment that when he saw Jesus, he saw, oh wait, like something clicked and he remembered. He remembered the love that Jesus has for him. He remembered the last three years, not for the failures that he experienced, but for the Christ who picked him up, for the Christ who invited him into something different, for the Jesus, for the man who helped, who walked along the water with him, for the man who never gave up on him. And Peter saw, and he remembered, he didn't go to the beach, and he wasn't met with a stern rebuke. He wasn't met with some disappointed speech. He was met by his best friend who cooked breakfast for him. He got to hang out. Then he asked him the same question three times, right? He says, hey, Pete, do you love me? Yeah, yeah, yeah, Lord, I love you. Peter, do you love me? Yes, Lord, I love you. Feed my sheep. Hey, Peter, do you love me? Yes, you know I love you. Why are you asking me this? Like, Peter, because you need to remember. You were never, never with me because of how awesome you are. But I want to do something in and through you that will blow your mind. Then I have to believe that it popped back in Peter's mind when Jesus said, hey, I'm building a church and you are the rock on which I will build this church. Peter remembered not the failures that he had, but who Christ said he is. He didn't remember the mistakes that he's had. He remembered the promises of his Lord and Savior. Man, what is shame keeping you from that Jesus is inviting you to? How different would your world look if when the voice of shame started to creep up, you hushed it with the promises of God? How much more boldly and confidently could we walk into what Ephesians 3.20 tells us? That the same God who is working in you is working through you. How much more boldly could we run into that? If when shame said you don't deserve it, you say, I know. But in Christ, I am chosen. In Christ, I'm a child of God. Yeah, but they'll never accept you. They shouldn't. But in Christ, I am completely forgiven. You'll never change. In Christ, I am a new creation. I think that's why Peter told us in 2 Peter that you were chosen and dearly loved. What a shame robbing you from the joy of your salvation, the freedom in Christ. So at the bottom of the bulletin, there's one more blank, and we'll put it on the screen. It simply says this, I am blank in Christ. Now at the bottom of that, we've listed several things, but you can go through those on your own, or you can look throughout Scripture. But what I want you to answer is this. What do you need to know of the promise in Christ? Who do you need to remind yourself are? Who do you need to remind yourself that you are in Christ to hush the voice of shame in your life? Is it that you're new? Is it that you're forgiven? Is it that you're chosen and dearly loved? If you look through that and you don't see it, shoot me an email. I'd love to chat with you. I'd love to help you find whatever it is in your world that will quiet the voice of shame. But maybe put a piece of tape on that. Write it on a sticky. Put it on your dash. Put it on your whatever you need to. Wherever you need to put this so you can remind yourself not simply who you are, but who the Savior of the world says that you are. Who the God who created the heavens and the earth claims that you, his child, is. How different would your world look if we didn't settle with the accusations of shame? But we boldly corrected it with the promises of God. Let's pray. God, thank you. Thank you so much for your kindness. Thank you so much for your love. Thank you so much for your forgiveness that we do not deserve, Lord. As we go throughout our week, as we go throughout our life and inevitably fall short of what it is that you've asked from us, God, would you just send your Holy Spirit to remind us of your promises? Remind us of who you see us as. God, help us to find our identity in your love and in your grace and not our failures. We need you, Father, and we trust you. In Jesus' name, amen.
Good morning. How are you guys doing today? Good. If you're new, if you're visiting, my name is Aaron. I'm the worship pastor out here. And I don't know why, just to let you in on a little secret and give you a chance to laugh at me, whatever. I don't know why, whenever Nate's up here consistently and I come up here, one of my first instincts is to say, I'm not Nate. Like, you guys didn't know that. Like, for some reason, you thought, man, what happened to Nate over there? He just got a lot better looking suddenly. And I mean, maybe, maybe, but hey, really glad to be here. Nate, thanks so much, man, for the opportunity to come up and share what's been on my heart. To kind of launch us in, get our minds going in the direction that we're headed today. Have you noticed how the mistakes that we make speak so much louder to us than the right things that we do? To kind of give you an idea, so several years ago, my wife and I, we went to Miami, and I had been on this venture and this journey for a long time, trying to learn Spanish, trying to just get better at it. And I was doing the Rosetta Stone thing, all of that. I was doing really good. I could say, like, going to Mexico in October with the mission trip, I would have been perfectly fine asking where the bathroom was. I'm just good. I wouldn't know where they were telling me to go, but I could ask where it was, right? So I was halfway there. But I remember we went to Miami. And if you've never been, it's a culture that's largely influenced by the Latin culture, the Cuban culture down there. And so just the places that we went, I got to speak a lot of the Spanish that I knew, like restaurants and stuff, right? That was good. But when we got back, I was just, I was kind of feeling, like I was having a lot of confidence and I wanted to impress my wife, who is the love of my life. And so we were out one day and I was hungry and she was hungry. I was like, you know what? I know how to say I want to go to Five Guys. That was before the burgers cost 45 bucks. And so I was like, so I want to look at her with all the confidence that I could muster. I looked at her dead in the eyes and I said, quiero cinco hombres, right? Sounds good, right? But if you speak Spanish, you know what I said to my wife was not I want to go to Five Guys. What I said to my wife was, I want five men. And it was not what I meant to say to her because I did not want five men. I wanted to go get an overpriced bacon cheeseburger, right? And you know what I did after that? I did not say Spanish words that I did not understand until, what's funny is this true story. I tried it again last week. But let me encourage you. If you're trying to learn Spanish, don't use the words that you hear on video games because you could end up saying not good words in front of your grandma-in-law who does know very good Spanish. And she looks at you like, did you mean to say that? And I don't know. I just heard like she was getting shot at. And then I repeated what she said and it was whatever. But what's really funny about this, right? Like that, it struck me this week how vivid that memory was. And it's funny. We laugh about it. We can do whatever. Like it wasn't that big of a deal, but it really struck me how big of a mistake or how the mistake stuck with me all of these years. Isn't that true for all of us? We have these goals. We have these things and these places that we try to get to in life. And isn't it true that the failure en route to that goal, it seems to keep coming back over and over and over. It seems to play on repeat. And this isn't just a Christian thing, it's a human thing. But if you're a Christian, it's not just the goals that you have, is it? It's also who Christ has asked you to become. And so on the other side of those shortcomings, on the other side of those mistakes, man, it seems like that's an easy thing to point to. It's when the voice of shame starts to speak pretty loudly on repeat. I know what you did. You think they're going to accept you at church if they find that out? In this series, we're talking about emotions. Emotions that can overwhelm and emotions that can kind of take control and move you into being something you've never really wanted to be. And what I would argue is that a lot of the emotions that we're talking about, they're not to be demonized. Like the emotions that we experience aren't bad things. Like anger, for example. Anger left unchecked will completely wreck havoc in your life. But without anger, you would also not have passion. You would not be moved to act. Yesterday, we went to a lot of people at Grace Serves. We went to Rise Against Hunger. Without anger causing someone to be passionate about world hunger, they would not have that ministry. Fear, fear, unchecked, it will immobilize you. But it's also caused people to create a lot of safety in our world that we never would have seen otherwise. So a lot of these emotions are not bad, but shame, shame has no place in our world. I truly believe that shame is one of the most often used and effective tools of our spiritual enemy, consistently pointing at where we fell short. And the reason why shame is so powerful in our life is because shame not only points to your mistakes, but it identifies you by them. Like you are the sum total of the things that you have done wrong, and it plays on repeat. And so what's heartbreaking about this is our lives are often wrapped around, our identity is often wrapped around that one season in life, that one mistake, that one thing that you did or that one thing that was done to you. And we try as hard as we can, except we just can't forget it. That's what I want to talk about today. Because here's what we have learned. You can't quiet that voice. So how do you keep it from being so overwhelming? And if we're going to look at the life of anyone who has messed up time and time and time again, who else could it be except for Peter? Some of you thought I was going to say me, and that's not nice. Stop it. Right? But we're going to look at Peter. And to catch you up with where we are in the story, we're going to be in Matthew. But to catch you up with where we are, we're actually just within a few hours of what Nate talked about last week with Jesus in the garden. It started in the upper room with the Last Supper where Jesus is Jesus is predicting actually Peter's denial. Jesus says to Peter, hey, Pete, you know, listen, in a few hours, like you, actually, he says, all of you are going to abandon, turn your back and going to leave me. And Pete says, no, no, not me. Not me. I'd never do this. Well, Peter, funny, I love you. But it's not very smart to argue with the guy who can read your mind. But yes, you will do. This is something you're going to do. They move forward. They go into the garden, and Jesus simply asks them, hey, let's just stay awake and pray with me for a little bit. Jesus goes off to pray. It's probably interrupted by Peter snoring, and he comes back, and Peter's asleep. It does that twice. Then they move forward. Jesus is arrested. The guards come. Peter chops off the ear. Jesus puts it back on his head, so there's another correction. And then they go to the court. And that's where we're going to pick it up. In Matthew 26, we are met with this scene. Now, Peter was sitting outside in the courtyard. A servant girl approached him and said, you were with Jesus the Galilean too. He denied it in front of everyone. I don't know what you're talking about. Now, when Peter, when it says that Peter cursed with an oath, that's not the same kind of cursing that we do when somebody cuts us off in traffic, right? This was more along the lines of, may God strike me dead if I'm lying. That was how firm Peter was in saying, I don't know this man. And so he broke. The account of Luke actually tells us that Jesus and Peter made eye contact. And it was at that moment that he broke. And here's one of the reasons why I think that shame is such a powerful tool is because it's so easily mixed up with conviction, right? Like both shame and conviction point immediately at the thing that you don't want to see. The thing that you don't, it points at the mistake. And both make you feel bad about it. And so as a Christian, how do you discern the difference? Like which one is shame? I don't know what to do. And you end up just kind of stuck in the same spot. But the best way that I can come up with to describe the difference is this. Shame disqualifies, and conviction invites. Shame is always going to disqualify you from wherever it is that you're trying to go. Wherever it is that you're trying to accomplish, shame is going to look at you and say, you, you, you, you don't, you can't go there. Like, really? Like, you think that you can do that? But conviction is the opposite of a tool used by the enemy. It's the voice of the Holy Spirit in our life. And it's always inviting us to something. It's always inviting us to what's next. That's the difference. Shame points at our mistakes and shows us how we can never be anything other than that. While conviction points at our mistakes and says, hey, here's what's coming. This is where we go from here. This is what's next in our life. What's fascinating to me about this, like we just talked about where this scene began, there was three to four mistakes, probably about seven to eight if you include the three different times that Peter denied. This is at the end of the Gospels. This is at the end of the three-year window into Peter's mistakes. What has happened every single time? He's dropped the ball. This is what he's known for. He's the guy who messes up. He's the guy who puts his foot in his mouth, except he gets back up and he follows Jesus. He gets back up and goes where Jesus asks him to go over and over and over again, except for this time, it changes. We don't know exactly where Peter went after this moment. We don't know exactly what happened. But all four of the Gospels go to the next scene, which is Jesus' crucifixion. And at the scene of the cross, it lists several of the people who were there, most of which are some of the women who were following Jesus at that point in time. And the Gospel of John tells us that John was there as well. You know who wasn't mentioned? Peter. Like, we can't tell you exactly where Peter went, but with a pretty good amount of certainty, we can tell you where he wasn't. Probably the place that he wanted to be the most. The place with his best friend to support. I don't think Peter was merely flexing when he told Jesus, no, I won't deny you. But what we see is that shame disqualifies us from everything that Jesus invites us to do. Can we stop for a second? And like, it's easy to point a finger at Peter and say, yeah, Peter, you should have just went, man, you're forgiven, like all this other good stuff. But can I ask you, like, what is shame keeping you from that Jesus is inviting you to do? Where is Jesus inviting you in your life that you have convinced yourself that you don't deserve? Where in your life is it this accusation of shame that you could not lead your family towards Jesus? Why would they ever respect you? Who knows you better than them? Why? Do you really think you can go to church? Man, hypocrite. How dare you show your face there? Do you really want to try to have more spiritual disciplines in your life? Like, why are you faking it? That's not you. It's the voice of shame disqualifying you from where Jesus is inviting you. And here's what's true. In your life and in my life, we will never, we will never out-talk shame. I hate that. I remember when I was younger, there was a lady who told me that I had the gift of gab. What I really think she was saying is, Aaron, shut up a little bit, man. But here's what's true. You'll never out-talk and out-convince yourself of why shame is wrong. Do you know why? Because you're you. Like, who knows you better than you? As we try to move past this moment, what are you reminded of? Well, another one. For every one failure, we've got 40 others. And that's where our mind keeps going to, which is why I love what Jesus' response was. To all of this, Jesus shows up in the gospel of John chapter 21. Now, you have several of the disciples who have already went off. and I believe, and there's a lot of people who do believe, that what we're about to read is evidence that Peter went back to his old lifestyle. Peter went back to his old job. It doesn't mean that he is no longer caring for Jesus. He doesn't love Jesus anymore. It doesn't mean that even a little bit, but it just simply means maybe he felt like he couldn't do what Jesus is asking him to do. He couldn't be the person who Jesus was asking him to be, so he will sit into what he did before he knew Christ with a love for Christ. And then Jesus shows up on the beach. Jesus shows up while these guys are out there fishing. They go out fishing throughout the night, and they have been fishing all night. They haven't caught anything. Jesus shows up on the beach and says, hey, guys, you have any fish with you? And no, we haven't. And then we have, I skipped a slide. You can go ahead and jump to the verse, just so you can have the feel, and it says this. To become who Jesus, no, go back one, I'm sorry. What we're to do, let's start over. Let's roll the bumper. And so to become who Jesus says we can be, we must correct who shame says we are, right? Like that's the next point. I think it's at the bottom of your page, whatever. It'll be fine. So, but Jesus shows up on the beach, points at these guys and says, hey, listen, here's what's going on. What did he say? He said something. You guys messed me up so bad again. Where am I at, Nate? I'm just kidding. Don't do that. So Jesus shows up on the beach. These guys have no clue that it's him. They've been fishing all night, and Jesus asked them, hey, do you have any fish? He says, no. So he says, hey, throw your net on the other side of the boat. They throw the net down, and then there's so many fish, they could barely haul it in, and then something clicked. We don't know exactly what was going through Peter's mind, but we do know there was something different in this moment., he tied his outer clothing around him, for he had taken it off and he plunged into the sea. All right, so we can't breeze past all of that yet. Like we got to bring some attention to something because I love fishing. I do. I know a lot of you love fishing. I would love to go fishing with you unless you fish like Peter, which is no fish and in your underwear. Like that just, it's weird. Maybe if you catch fish, sure, I can get past the other thing, but just that's what's going on. Have no clue why it's in there, but John wrote it. So maybe he's just pointing out, look at this dummy, right? So who knows? But something happened in this moment. Something happened. This is the third time that Jesus has appeared to the disciples. And not once do you see this type of a reaction from Peter. So much so, he was so excited to see his Lord that he couldn't wait for the boat to go 100 yards to shore. He jumped out and swam just so he could get there. Peter remembered something. If this story sounds familiar to you, it had to to Peter as well. This is very similar to the very first invitation from Jesus to Peter, where he was sitting out in the water, very similar scene, all night fishing. Clearly, Peter's not very good at it. All night fishing, no fish. Jesus says, throw it on the other side. And they couldn't even bring in all the fish. So that happened and Peter remembered and it drew him to Christ. Some of you may know my story. Some of you don't. I grew up in the church. I wasn't a Christian at all. My father was a pastor. So really what that meant is I knew how to act like a good preacher's kid on Sunday morning, right? So I learned all the do's and all the don'ts. But the moment I had, the moment I had an opportunity to split and kind of leave the church was when I was 16. My parents divorced, and I took the path of least resistance. My entire family left the church and for the next several years of my life. It wasn't that I was ignoring God. I just didn't think of God. It wasn't a conscious decision saying, okay, I don't want anything to do with you. I was just living my life, doing my thing, doing what I wanted to do until I was about 19, 20 years old, had a car accident that should have killed me. And I remember whenever I went into the hospital, I was in the hospital for several weeks, had a shattered kneecap, a severed femur head in my left hip. If you're wondering why I walk with such a strut, that's the reason. But I remember while I was sitting at the hospital, the several years that I had spent just kind of doing my own thing, no consciousness of Jesus or God or anything along the lines of that, not one of the people that I knew hung out with anything, no one showed up. The people who did show up were the people from years and years ago. People that I went to church camp with, friends that I grew up in church with, some of my father's pastor friends, they showed up and they prayed with me. And this, I'm not saying anything about any of the people, but what that was is God reintroducing himself into my world. He began wooing me. And so I started this back and forth journey, right? Like this, this, this back and forth. Okay, God, I'll do the right thing. I'll do it, do it, do it, mess up. And then I kind of run off and then do my own thing again. I can't do that. Mess up, do it, do it, do it, run off, do my own thing again. And it was like this for a very long time because I reverted to what I knew. Like you have to be good enough. You have to be awesome enough. You have to be all of these other things. And then I remember I went to visit a lady named Carol McCraw, the same one who told me I talk a lot. She was a worship leader in our church growing up. And I went honestly, just simply to say hi. She was a very important person to our family. And I remember when I walked in and simply said hello. She saw, she was playing piano as the music was getting started, and she saw me. She got up, she ran, and just gave me a hug. And it was in that moment, it felt like God wrapped his arms around me, and there was nothing that I did. Now, I clearly wasn't carol, but God used her in a pretty big way because it was in that moment I surrendered my heart, and I could do, man, there was such a love for Jesus, and then I'm telling you, over the next several years, we can sit down and have some coffee or something at some point in time. But it's this journey of falling short. And it's these moments of shame floods my mind. And I consistently go back to this moment where all I did was walk into a place with no intention of seeing Jesus, simply to visit a friend. And it was in that moment, like I'm drawn to the compassion of God because of that personal experience. I'm drawn to the love of Christ in that moment because I realized I didn't deserve anything. Like I think about my past and I cringe, But the love of Christ accepted me for who I was and walked alongside of me. I believe that's what's happening in Peter's world right now. Maybe he went back to his old lifestyle. Who knows? Maybe they were hungry and they went fishing. But there was something in this moment that when he saw Jesus, he saw, oh wait, like something clicked and he remembered. He remembered the love that Jesus has for him. He remembered the last three years, not for the failures that he experienced, but for the Christ who picked him up, for the Christ who invited him into something different, for the Jesus, for the man who helped, who walked along the water with him, for the man who never gave up on him. And Peter saw, and he remembered, he didn't go to the beach, and he wasn't met with a stern rebuke. He wasn't met with some disappointed speech. He was met by his best friend who cooked breakfast for him. He got to hang out. Then he asked him the same question three times, right? He says, hey, Pete, do you love me? Yeah, yeah, yeah, Lord, I love you. Peter, do you love me? Yes, Lord, I love you. Feed my sheep. Hey, Peter, do you love me? Yes, you know I love you. Why are you asking me this? Like, Peter, because you need to remember. You were never, never with me because of how awesome you are. But I want to do something in and through you that will blow your mind. Then I have to believe that it popped back in Peter's mind when Jesus said, hey, I'm building a church and you are the rock on which I will build this church. Peter remembered not the failures that he had, but who Christ said he is. He didn't remember the mistakes that he's had. He remembered the promises of his Lord and Savior. Man, what is shame keeping you from that Jesus is inviting you to? How different would your world look if when the voice of shame started to creep up, you hushed it with the promises of God? How much more boldly and confidently could we walk into what Ephesians 3.20 tells us? That the same God who is working in you is working through you. How much more boldly could we run into that? If when shame said you don't deserve it, you say, I know. But in Christ, I am chosen. In Christ, I'm a child of God. Yeah, but they'll never accept you. They shouldn't. But in Christ, I am completely forgiven. You'll never change. In Christ, I am a new creation. I think that's why Peter told us in 2 Peter that you were chosen and dearly loved. What a shame robbing you from the joy of your salvation, the freedom in Christ. So at the bottom of the bulletin, there's one more blank, and we'll put it on the screen. It simply says this, I am blank in Christ. Now at the bottom of that, we've listed several things, but you can go through those on your own, or you can look throughout Scripture. But what I want you to answer is this. What do you need to know of the promise in Christ? Who do you need to remind yourself are? Who do you need to remind yourself that you are in Christ to hush the voice of shame in your life? Is it that you're new? Is it that you're forgiven? Is it that you're chosen and dearly loved? If you look through that and you don't see it, shoot me an email. I'd love to chat with you. I'd love to help you find whatever it is in your world that will quiet the voice of shame. But maybe put a piece of tape on that. Write it on a sticky. Put it on your dash. Put it on your whatever you need to. Wherever you need to put this so you can remind yourself not simply who you are, but who the Savior of the world says that you are. Who the God who created the heavens and the earth claims that you, his child, is. How different would your world look if we didn't settle with the accusations of shame? But we boldly corrected it with the promises of God. Let's pray. God, thank you. Thank you so much for your kindness. Thank you so much for your love. Thank you so much for your forgiveness that we do not deserve, Lord. As we go throughout our week, as we go throughout our life and inevitably fall short of what it is that you've asked from us, God, would you just send your Holy Spirit to remind us of your promises? Remind us of who you see us as. God, help us to find our identity in your love and in your grace and not our failures. We need you, Father, and we trust you. In Jesus' name, amen.
Good morning. How are you guys doing today? Good. If you're new, if you're visiting, my name is Aaron. I'm the worship pastor out here. And I don't know why, just to let you in on a little secret and give you a chance to laugh at me, whatever. I don't know why, whenever Nate's up here consistently and I come up here, one of my first instincts is to say, I'm not Nate. Like, you guys didn't know that. Like, for some reason, you thought, man, what happened to Nate over there? He just got a lot better looking suddenly. And I mean, maybe, maybe, but hey, really glad to be here. Nate, thanks so much, man, for the opportunity to come up and share what's been on my heart. To kind of launch us in, get our minds going in the direction that we're headed today. Have you noticed how the mistakes that we make speak so much louder to us than the right things that we do? To kind of give you an idea, so several years ago, my wife and I, we went to Miami, and I had been on this venture and this journey for a long time, trying to learn Spanish, trying to just get better at it. And I was doing the Rosetta Stone thing, all of that. I was doing really good. I could say, like, going to Mexico in October with the mission trip, I would have been perfectly fine asking where the bathroom was. I'm just good. I wouldn't know where they were telling me to go, but I could ask where it was, right? So I was halfway there. But I remember we went to Miami. And if you've never been, it's a culture that's largely influenced by the Latin culture, the Cuban culture down there. And so just the places that we went, I got to speak a lot of the Spanish that I knew, like restaurants and stuff, right? That was good. But when we got back, I was just, I was kind of feeling, like I was having a lot of confidence and I wanted to impress my wife, who is the love of my life. And so we were out one day and I was hungry and she was hungry. I was like, you know what? I know how to say I want to go to Five Guys. That was before the burgers cost 45 bucks. And so I was like, so I want to look at her with all the confidence that I could muster. I looked at her dead in the eyes and I said, quiero cinco hombres, right? Sounds good, right? But if you speak Spanish, you know what I said to my wife was not I want to go to Five Guys. What I said to my wife was, I want five men. And it was not what I meant to say to her because I did not want five men. I wanted to go get an overpriced bacon cheeseburger, right? And you know what I did after that? I did not say Spanish words that I did not understand until, what's funny is this true story. I tried it again last week. But let me encourage you. If you're trying to learn Spanish, don't use the words that you hear on video games because you could end up saying not good words in front of your grandma-in-law who does know very good Spanish. And she looks at you like, did you mean to say that? And I don't know. I just heard like she was getting shot at. And then I repeated what she said and it was whatever. But what's really funny about this, right? Like that, it struck me this week how vivid that memory was. And it's funny. We laugh about it. We can do whatever. Like it wasn't that big of a deal, but it really struck me how big of a mistake or how the mistake stuck with me all of these years. Isn't that true for all of us? We have these goals. We have these things and these places that we try to get to in life. And isn't it true that the failure en route to that goal, it seems to keep coming back over and over and over. It seems to play on repeat. And this isn't just a Christian thing, it's a human thing. But if you're a Christian, it's not just the goals that you have, is it? It's also who Christ has asked you to become. And so on the other side of those shortcomings, on the other side of those mistakes, man, it seems like that's an easy thing to point to. It's when the voice of shame starts to speak pretty loudly on repeat. I know what you did. You think they're going to accept you at church if they find that out? In this series, we're talking about emotions. Emotions that can overwhelm and emotions that can kind of take control and move you into being something you've never really wanted to be. And what I would argue is that a lot of the emotions that we're talking about, they're not to be demonized. Like the emotions that we experience aren't bad things. Like anger, for example. Anger left unchecked will completely wreck havoc in your life. But without anger, you would also not have passion. You would not be moved to act. Yesterday, we went to a lot of people at Grace Serves. We went to Rise Against Hunger. Without anger causing someone to be passionate about world hunger, they would not have that ministry. Fear, fear, unchecked, it will immobilize you. But it's also caused people to create a lot of safety in our world that we never would have seen otherwise. So a lot of these emotions are not bad, but shame, shame has no place in our world. I truly believe that shame is one of the most often used and effective tools of our spiritual enemy, consistently pointing at where we fell short. And the reason why shame is so powerful in our life is because shame not only points to your mistakes, but it identifies you by them. Like you are the sum total of the things that you have done wrong, and it plays on repeat. And so what's heartbreaking about this is our lives are often wrapped around, our identity is often wrapped around that one season in life, that one mistake, that one thing that you did or that one thing that was done to you. And we try as hard as we can, except we just can't forget it. That's what I want to talk about today. Because here's what we have learned. You can't quiet that voice. So how do you keep it from being so overwhelming? And if we're going to look at the life of anyone who has messed up time and time and time again, who else could it be except for Peter? Some of you thought I was going to say me, and that's not nice. Stop it. Right? But we're going to look at Peter. And to catch you up with where we are in the story, we're going to be in Matthew. But to catch you up with where we are, we're actually just within a few hours of what Nate talked about last week with Jesus in the garden. It started in the upper room with the Last Supper where Jesus is Jesus is predicting actually Peter's denial. Jesus says to Peter, hey, Pete, you know, listen, in a few hours, like you, actually, he says, all of you are going to abandon, turn your back and going to leave me. And Pete says, no, no, not me. Not me. I'd never do this. Well, Peter, funny, I love you. But it's not very smart to argue with the guy who can read your mind. But yes, you will do. This is something you're going to do. They move forward. They go into the garden, and Jesus simply asks them, hey, let's just stay awake and pray with me for a little bit. Jesus goes off to pray. It's probably interrupted by Peter snoring, and he comes back, and Peter's asleep. It does that twice. Then they move forward. Jesus is arrested. The guards come. Peter chops off the ear. Jesus puts it back on his head, so there's another correction. And then they go to the court. And that's where we're going to pick it up. In Matthew 26, we are met with this scene. Now, Peter was sitting outside in the courtyard. A servant girl approached him and said, you were with Jesus the Galilean too. He denied it in front of everyone. I don't know what you're talking about. Now, when Peter, when it says that Peter cursed with an oath, that's not the same kind of cursing that we do when somebody cuts us off in traffic, right? This was more along the lines of, may God strike me dead if I'm lying. That was how firm Peter was in saying, I don't know this man. And so he broke. The account of Luke actually tells us that Jesus and Peter made eye contact. And it was at that moment that he broke. And here's one of the reasons why I think that shame is such a powerful tool is because it's so easily mixed up with conviction, right? Like both shame and conviction point immediately at the thing that you don't want to see. The thing that you don't, it points at the mistake. And both make you feel bad about it. And so as a Christian, how do you discern the difference? Like which one is shame? I don't know what to do. And you end up just kind of stuck in the same spot. But the best way that I can come up with to describe the difference is this. Shame disqualifies, and conviction invites. Shame is always going to disqualify you from wherever it is that you're trying to go. Wherever it is that you're trying to accomplish, shame is going to look at you and say, you, you, you, you don't, you can't go there. Like, really? Like, you think that you can do that? But conviction is the opposite of a tool used by the enemy. It's the voice of the Holy Spirit in our life. And it's always inviting us to something. It's always inviting us to what's next. That's the difference. Shame points at our mistakes and shows us how we can never be anything other than that. While conviction points at our mistakes and says, hey, here's what's coming. This is where we go from here. This is what's next in our life. What's fascinating to me about this, like we just talked about where this scene began, there was three to four mistakes, probably about seven to eight if you include the three different times that Peter denied. This is at the end of the Gospels. This is at the end of the three-year window into Peter's mistakes. What has happened every single time? He's dropped the ball. This is what he's known for. He's the guy who messes up. He's the guy who puts his foot in his mouth, except he gets back up and he follows Jesus. He gets back up and goes where Jesus asks him to go over and over and over again, except for this time, it changes. We don't know exactly where Peter went after this moment. We don't know exactly what happened. But all four of the Gospels go to the next scene, which is Jesus' crucifixion. And at the scene of the cross, it lists several of the people who were there, most of which are some of the women who were following Jesus at that point in time. And the Gospel of John tells us that John was there as well. You know who wasn't mentioned? Peter. Like, we can't tell you exactly where Peter went, but with a pretty good amount of certainty, we can tell you where he wasn't. Probably the place that he wanted to be the most. The place with his best friend to support. I don't think Peter was merely flexing when he told Jesus, no, I won't deny you. But what we see is that shame disqualifies us from everything that Jesus invites us to do. Can we stop for a second? And like, it's easy to point a finger at Peter and say, yeah, Peter, you should have just went, man, you're forgiven, like all this other good stuff. But can I ask you, like, what is shame keeping you from that Jesus is inviting you to do? Where is Jesus inviting you in your life that you have convinced yourself that you don't deserve? Where in your life is it this accusation of shame that you could not lead your family towards Jesus? Why would they ever respect you? Who knows you better than them? Why? Do you really think you can go to church? Man, hypocrite. How dare you show your face there? Do you really want to try to have more spiritual disciplines in your life? Like, why are you faking it? That's not you. It's the voice of shame disqualifying you from where Jesus is inviting you. And here's what's true. In your life and in my life, we will never, we will never out-talk shame. I hate that. I remember when I was younger, there was a lady who told me that I had the gift of gab. What I really think she was saying is, Aaron, shut up a little bit, man. But here's what's true. You'll never out-talk and out-convince yourself of why shame is wrong. Do you know why? Because you're you. Like, who knows you better than you? As we try to move past this moment, what are you reminded of? Well, another one. For every one failure, we've got 40 others. And that's where our mind keeps going to, which is why I love what Jesus' response was. To all of this, Jesus shows up in the gospel of John chapter 21. Now, you have several of the disciples who have already went off. and I believe, and there's a lot of people who do believe, that what we're about to read is evidence that Peter went back to his old lifestyle. Peter went back to his old job. It doesn't mean that he is no longer caring for Jesus. He doesn't love Jesus anymore. It doesn't mean that even a little bit, but it just simply means maybe he felt like he couldn't do what Jesus is asking him to do. He couldn't be the person who Jesus was asking him to be, so he will sit into what he did before he knew Christ with a love for Christ. And then Jesus shows up on the beach. Jesus shows up while these guys are out there fishing. They go out fishing throughout the night, and they have been fishing all night. They haven't caught anything. Jesus shows up on the beach and says, hey, guys, you have any fish with you? And no, we haven't. And then we have, I skipped a slide. You can go ahead and jump to the verse, just so you can have the feel, and it says this. To become who Jesus, no, go back one, I'm sorry. What we're to do, let's start over. Let's roll the bumper. And so to become who Jesus says we can be, we must correct who shame says we are, right? Like that's the next point. I think it's at the bottom of your page, whatever. It'll be fine. So, but Jesus shows up on the beach, points at these guys and says, hey, listen, here's what's going on. What did he say? He said something. You guys messed me up so bad again. Where am I at, Nate? I'm just kidding. Don't do that. So Jesus shows up on the beach. These guys have no clue that it's him. They've been fishing all night, and Jesus asked them, hey, do you have any fish? He says, no. So he says, hey, throw your net on the other side of the boat. They throw the net down, and then there's so many fish, they could barely haul it in, and then something clicked. We don't know exactly what was going through Peter's mind, but we do know there was something different in this moment., he tied his outer clothing around him, for he had taken it off and he plunged into the sea. All right, so we can't breeze past all of that yet. Like we got to bring some attention to something because I love fishing. I do. I know a lot of you love fishing. I would love to go fishing with you unless you fish like Peter, which is no fish and in your underwear. Like that just, it's weird. Maybe if you catch fish, sure, I can get past the other thing, but just that's what's going on. Have no clue why it's in there, but John wrote it. So maybe he's just pointing out, look at this dummy, right? So who knows? But something happened in this moment. Something happened. This is the third time that Jesus has appeared to the disciples. And not once do you see this type of a reaction from Peter. So much so, he was so excited to see his Lord that he couldn't wait for the boat to go 100 yards to shore. He jumped out and swam just so he could get there. Peter remembered something. If this story sounds familiar to you, it had to to Peter as well. This is very similar to the very first invitation from Jesus to Peter, where he was sitting out in the water, very similar scene, all night fishing. Clearly, Peter's not very good at it. All night fishing, no fish. Jesus says, throw it on the other side. And they couldn't even bring in all the fish. So that happened and Peter remembered and it drew him to Christ. Some of you may know my story. Some of you don't. I grew up in the church. I wasn't a Christian at all. My father was a pastor. So really what that meant is I knew how to act like a good preacher's kid on Sunday morning, right? So I learned all the do's and all the don'ts. But the moment I had, the moment I had an opportunity to split and kind of leave the church was when I was 16. My parents divorced, and I took the path of least resistance. My entire family left the church and for the next several years of my life. It wasn't that I was ignoring God. I just didn't think of God. It wasn't a conscious decision saying, okay, I don't want anything to do with you. I was just living my life, doing my thing, doing what I wanted to do until I was about 19, 20 years old, had a car accident that should have killed me. And I remember whenever I went into the hospital, I was in the hospital for several weeks, had a shattered kneecap, a severed femur head in my left hip. If you're wondering why I walk with such a strut, that's the reason. But I remember while I was sitting at the hospital, the several years that I had spent just kind of doing my own thing, no consciousness of Jesus or God or anything along the lines of that, not one of the people that I knew hung out with anything, no one showed up. The people who did show up were the people from years and years ago. People that I went to church camp with, friends that I grew up in church with, some of my father's pastor friends, they showed up and they prayed with me. And this, I'm not saying anything about any of the people, but what that was is God reintroducing himself into my world. He began wooing me. And so I started this back and forth journey, right? Like this, this, this back and forth. Okay, God, I'll do the right thing. I'll do it, do it, do it, mess up. And then I kind of run off and then do my own thing again. I can't do that. Mess up, do it, do it, do it, run off, do my own thing again. And it was like this for a very long time because I reverted to what I knew. Like you have to be good enough. You have to be awesome enough. You have to be all of these other things. And then I remember I went to visit a lady named Carol McCraw, the same one who told me I talk a lot. She was a worship leader in our church growing up. And I went honestly, just simply to say hi. She was a very important person to our family. And I remember when I walked in and simply said hello. She saw, she was playing piano as the music was getting started, and she saw me. She got up, she ran, and just gave me a hug. And it was in that moment, it felt like God wrapped his arms around me, and there was nothing that I did. Now, I clearly wasn't carol, but God used her in a pretty big way because it was in that moment I surrendered my heart, and I could do, man, there was such a love for Jesus, and then I'm telling you, over the next several years, we can sit down and have some coffee or something at some point in time. But it's this journey of falling short. And it's these moments of shame floods my mind. And I consistently go back to this moment where all I did was walk into a place with no intention of seeing Jesus, simply to visit a friend. And it was in that moment, like I'm drawn to the compassion of God because of that personal experience. I'm drawn to the love of Christ in that moment because I realized I didn't deserve anything. Like I think about my past and I cringe, But the love of Christ accepted me for who I was and walked alongside of me. I believe that's what's happening in Peter's world right now. Maybe he went back to his old lifestyle. Who knows? Maybe they were hungry and they went fishing. But there was something in this moment that when he saw Jesus, he saw, oh wait, like something clicked and he remembered. He remembered the love that Jesus has for him. He remembered the last three years, not for the failures that he experienced, but for the Christ who picked him up, for the Christ who invited him into something different, for the Jesus, for the man who helped, who walked along the water with him, for the man who never gave up on him. And Peter saw, and he remembered, he didn't go to the beach, and he wasn't met with a stern rebuke. He wasn't met with some disappointed speech. He was met by his best friend who cooked breakfast for him. He got to hang out. Then he asked him the same question three times, right? He says, hey, Pete, do you love me? Yeah, yeah, yeah, Lord, I love you. Peter, do you love me? Yes, Lord, I love you. Feed my sheep. Hey, Peter, do you love me? Yes, you know I love you. Why are you asking me this? Like, Peter, because you need to remember. You were never, never with me because of how awesome you are. But I want to do something in and through you that will blow your mind. Then I have to believe that it popped back in Peter's mind when Jesus said, hey, I'm building a church and you are the rock on which I will build this church. Peter remembered not the failures that he had, but who Christ said he is. He didn't remember the mistakes that he's had. He remembered the promises of his Lord and Savior. Man, what is shame keeping you from that Jesus is inviting you to? How different would your world look if when the voice of shame started to creep up, you hushed it with the promises of God? How much more boldly and confidently could we walk into what Ephesians 3.20 tells us? That the same God who is working in you is working through you. How much more boldly could we run into that? If when shame said you don't deserve it, you say, I know. But in Christ, I am chosen. In Christ, I'm a child of God. Yeah, but they'll never accept you. They shouldn't. But in Christ, I am completely forgiven. You'll never change. In Christ, I am a new creation. I think that's why Peter told us in 2 Peter that you were chosen and dearly loved. What a shame robbing you from the joy of your salvation, the freedom in Christ. So at the bottom of the bulletin, there's one more blank, and we'll put it on the screen. It simply says this, I am blank in Christ. Now at the bottom of that, we've listed several things, but you can go through those on your own, or you can look throughout Scripture. But what I want you to answer is this. What do you need to know of the promise in Christ? Who do you need to remind yourself are? Who do you need to remind yourself that you are in Christ to hush the voice of shame in your life? Is it that you're new? Is it that you're forgiven? Is it that you're chosen and dearly loved? If you look through that and you don't see it, shoot me an email. I'd love to chat with you. I'd love to help you find whatever it is in your world that will quiet the voice of shame. But maybe put a piece of tape on that. Write it on a sticky. Put it on your dash. Put it on your whatever you need to. Wherever you need to put this so you can remind yourself not simply who you are, but who the Savior of the world says that you are. Who the God who created the heavens and the earth claims that you, his child, is. How different would your world look if we didn't settle with the accusations of shame? But we boldly corrected it with the promises of God. Let's pray. God, thank you. Thank you so much for your kindness. Thank you so much for your love. Thank you so much for your forgiveness that we do not deserve, Lord. As we go throughout our week, as we go throughout our life and inevitably fall short of what it is that you've asked from us, God, would you just send your Holy Spirit to remind us of your promises? Remind us of who you see us as. God, help us to find our identity in your love and in your grace and not our failures. We need you, Father, and we trust you. In Jesus' name, amen.
Good morning. How are you guys doing today? Good. If you're new, if you're visiting, my name is Aaron. I'm the worship pastor out here. And I don't know why, just to let you in on a little secret and give you a chance to laugh at me, whatever. I don't know why, whenever Nate's up here consistently and I come up here, one of my first instincts is to say, I'm not Nate. Like, you guys didn't know that. Like, for some reason, you thought, man, what happened to Nate over there? He just got a lot better looking suddenly. And I mean, maybe, maybe, but hey, really glad to be here. Nate, thanks so much, man, for the opportunity to come up and share what's been on my heart. To kind of launch us in, get our minds going in the direction that we're headed today. Have you noticed how the mistakes that we make speak so much louder to us than the right things that we do? To kind of give you an idea, so several years ago, my wife and I, we went to Miami, and I had been on this venture and this journey for a long time, trying to learn Spanish, trying to just get better at it. And I was doing the Rosetta Stone thing, all of that. I was doing really good. I could say, like, going to Mexico in October with the mission trip, I would have been perfectly fine asking where the bathroom was. I'm just good. I wouldn't know where they were telling me to go, but I could ask where it was, right? So I was halfway there. But I remember we went to Miami. And if you've never been, it's a culture that's largely influenced by the Latin culture, the Cuban culture down there. And so just the places that we went, I got to speak a lot of the Spanish that I knew, like restaurants and stuff, right? That was good. But when we got back, I was just, I was kind of feeling, like I was having a lot of confidence and I wanted to impress my wife, who is the love of my life. And so we were out one day and I was hungry and she was hungry. I was like, you know what? I know how to say I want to go to Five Guys. That was before the burgers cost 45 bucks. And so I was like, so I want to look at her with all the confidence that I could muster. I looked at her dead in the eyes and I said, quiero cinco hombres, right? Sounds good, right? But if you speak Spanish, you know what I said to my wife was not I want to go to Five Guys. What I said to my wife was, I want five men. And it was not what I meant to say to her because I did not want five men. I wanted to go get an overpriced bacon cheeseburger, right? And you know what I did after that? I did not say Spanish words that I did not understand until, what's funny is this true story. I tried it again last week. But let me encourage you. If you're trying to learn Spanish, don't use the words that you hear on video games because you could end up saying not good words in front of your grandma-in-law who does know very good Spanish. And she looks at you like, did you mean to say that? And I don't know. I just heard like she was getting shot at. And then I repeated what she said and it was whatever. But what's really funny about this, right? Like that, it struck me this week how vivid that memory was. And it's funny. We laugh about it. We can do whatever. Like it wasn't that big of a deal, but it really struck me how big of a mistake or how the mistake stuck with me all of these years. Isn't that true for all of us? We have these goals. We have these things and these places that we try to get to in life. And isn't it true that the failure en route to that goal, it seems to keep coming back over and over and over. It seems to play on repeat. And this isn't just a Christian thing, it's a human thing. But if you're a Christian, it's not just the goals that you have, is it? It's also who Christ has asked you to become. And so on the other side of those shortcomings, on the other side of those mistakes, man, it seems like that's an easy thing to point to. It's when the voice of shame starts to speak pretty loudly on repeat. I know what you did. You think they're going to accept you at church if they find that out? In this series, we're talking about emotions. Emotions that can overwhelm and emotions that can kind of take control and move you into being something you've never really wanted to be. And what I would argue is that a lot of the emotions that we're talking about, they're not to be demonized. Like the emotions that we experience aren't bad things. Like anger, for example. Anger left unchecked will completely wreck havoc in your life. But without anger, you would also not have passion. You would not be moved to act. Yesterday, we went to a lot of people at Grace Serves. We went to Rise Against Hunger. Without anger causing someone to be passionate about world hunger, they would not have that ministry. Fear, fear, unchecked, it will immobilize you. But it's also caused people to create a lot of safety in our world that we never would have seen otherwise. So a lot of these emotions are not bad, but shame, shame has no place in our world. I truly believe that shame is one of the most often used and effective tools of our spiritual enemy, consistently pointing at where we fell short. And the reason why shame is so powerful in our life is because shame not only points to your mistakes, but it identifies you by them. Like you are the sum total of the things that you have done wrong, and it plays on repeat. And so what's heartbreaking about this is our lives are often wrapped around, our identity is often wrapped around that one season in life, that one mistake, that one thing that you did or that one thing that was done to you. And we try as hard as we can, except we just can't forget it. That's what I want to talk about today. Because here's what we have learned. You can't quiet that voice. So how do you keep it from being so overwhelming? And if we're going to look at the life of anyone who has messed up time and time and time again, who else could it be except for Peter? Some of you thought I was going to say me, and that's not nice. Stop it. Right? But we're going to look at Peter. And to catch you up with where we are in the story, we're going to be in Matthew. But to catch you up with where we are, we're actually just within a few hours of what Nate talked about last week with Jesus in the garden. It started in the upper room with the Last Supper where Jesus is Jesus is predicting actually Peter's denial. Jesus says to Peter, hey, Pete, you know, listen, in a few hours, like you, actually, he says, all of you are going to abandon, turn your back and going to leave me. And Pete says, no, no, not me. Not me. I'd never do this. Well, Peter, funny, I love you. But it's not very smart to argue with the guy who can read your mind. But yes, you will do. This is something you're going to do. They move forward. They go into the garden, and Jesus simply asks them, hey, let's just stay awake and pray with me for a little bit. Jesus goes off to pray. It's probably interrupted by Peter snoring, and he comes back, and Peter's asleep. It does that twice. Then they move forward. Jesus is arrested. The guards come. Peter chops off the ear. Jesus puts it back on his head, so there's another correction. And then they go to the court. And that's where we're going to pick it up. In Matthew 26, we are met with this scene. Now, Peter was sitting outside in the courtyard. A servant girl approached him and said, you were with Jesus the Galilean too. He denied it in front of everyone. I don't know what you're talking about. Now, when Peter, when it says that Peter cursed with an oath, that's not the same kind of cursing that we do when somebody cuts us off in traffic, right? This was more along the lines of, may God strike me dead if I'm lying. That was how firm Peter was in saying, I don't know this man. And so he broke. The account of Luke actually tells us that Jesus and Peter made eye contact. And it was at that moment that he broke. And here's one of the reasons why I think that shame is such a powerful tool is because it's so easily mixed up with conviction, right? Like both shame and conviction point immediately at the thing that you don't want to see. The thing that you don't, it points at the mistake. And both make you feel bad about it. And so as a Christian, how do you discern the difference? Like which one is shame? I don't know what to do. And you end up just kind of stuck in the same spot. But the best way that I can come up with to describe the difference is this. Shame disqualifies, and conviction invites. Shame is always going to disqualify you from wherever it is that you're trying to go. Wherever it is that you're trying to accomplish, shame is going to look at you and say, you, you, you, you don't, you can't go there. Like, really? Like, you think that you can do that? But conviction is the opposite of a tool used by the enemy. It's the voice of the Holy Spirit in our life. And it's always inviting us to something. It's always inviting us to what's next. That's the difference. Shame points at our mistakes and shows us how we can never be anything other than that. While conviction points at our mistakes and says, hey, here's what's coming. This is where we go from here. This is what's next in our life. What's fascinating to me about this, like we just talked about where this scene began, there was three to four mistakes, probably about seven to eight if you include the three different times that Peter denied. This is at the end of the Gospels. This is at the end of the three-year window into Peter's mistakes. What has happened every single time? He's dropped the ball. This is what he's known for. He's the guy who messes up. He's the guy who puts his foot in his mouth, except he gets back up and he follows Jesus. He gets back up and goes where Jesus asks him to go over and over and over again, except for this time, it changes. We don't know exactly where Peter went after this moment. We don't know exactly what happened. But all four of the Gospels go to the next scene, which is Jesus' crucifixion. And at the scene of the cross, it lists several of the people who were there, most of which are some of the women who were following Jesus at that point in time. And the Gospel of John tells us that John was there as well. You know who wasn't mentioned? Peter. Like, we can't tell you exactly where Peter went, but with a pretty good amount of certainty, we can tell you where he wasn't. Probably the place that he wanted to be the most. The place with his best friend to support. I don't think Peter was merely flexing when he told Jesus, no, I won't deny you. But what we see is that shame disqualifies us from everything that Jesus invites us to do. Can we stop for a second? And like, it's easy to point a finger at Peter and say, yeah, Peter, you should have just went, man, you're forgiven, like all this other good stuff. But can I ask you, like, what is shame keeping you from that Jesus is inviting you to do? Where is Jesus inviting you in your life that you have convinced yourself that you don't deserve? Where in your life is it this accusation of shame that you could not lead your family towards Jesus? Why would they ever respect you? Who knows you better than them? Why? Do you really think you can go to church? Man, hypocrite. How dare you show your face there? Do you really want to try to have more spiritual disciplines in your life? Like, why are you faking it? That's not you. It's the voice of shame disqualifying you from where Jesus is inviting you. And here's what's true. In your life and in my life, we will never, we will never out-talk shame. I hate that. I remember when I was younger, there was a lady who told me that I had the gift of gab. What I really think she was saying is, Aaron, shut up a little bit, man. But here's what's true. You'll never out-talk and out-convince yourself of why shame is wrong. Do you know why? Because you're you. Like, who knows you better than you? As we try to move past this moment, what are you reminded of? Well, another one. For every one failure, we've got 40 others. And that's where our mind keeps going to, which is why I love what Jesus' response was. To all of this, Jesus shows up in the gospel of John chapter 21. Now, you have several of the disciples who have already went off. and I believe, and there's a lot of people who do believe, that what we're about to read is evidence that Peter went back to his old lifestyle. Peter went back to his old job. It doesn't mean that he is no longer caring for Jesus. He doesn't love Jesus anymore. It doesn't mean that even a little bit, but it just simply means maybe he felt like he couldn't do what Jesus is asking him to do. He couldn't be the person who Jesus was asking him to be, so he will sit into what he did before he knew Christ with a love for Christ. And then Jesus shows up on the beach. Jesus shows up while these guys are out there fishing. They go out fishing throughout the night, and they have been fishing all night. They haven't caught anything. Jesus shows up on the beach and says, hey, guys, you have any fish with you? And no, we haven't. And then we have, I skipped a slide. You can go ahead and jump to the verse, just so you can have the feel, and it says this. To become who Jesus, no, go back one, I'm sorry. What we're to do, let's start over. Let's roll the bumper. And so to become who Jesus says we can be, we must correct who shame says we are, right? Like that's the next point. I think it's at the bottom of your page, whatever. It'll be fine. So, but Jesus shows up on the beach, points at these guys and says, hey, listen, here's what's going on. What did he say? He said something. You guys messed me up so bad again. Where am I at, Nate? I'm just kidding. Don't do that. So Jesus shows up on the beach. These guys have no clue that it's him. They've been fishing all night, and Jesus asked them, hey, do you have any fish? He says, no. So he says, hey, throw your net on the other side of the boat. They throw the net down, and then there's so many fish, they could barely haul it in, and then something clicked. We don't know exactly what was going through Peter's mind, but we do know there was something different in this moment., he tied his outer clothing around him, for he had taken it off and he plunged into the sea. All right, so we can't breeze past all of that yet. Like we got to bring some attention to something because I love fishing. I do. I know a lot of you love fishing. I would love to go fishing with you unless you fish like Peter, which is no fish and in your underwear. Like that just, it's weird. Maybe if you catch fish, sure, I can get past the other thing, but just that's what's going on. Have no clue why it's in there, but John wrote it. So maybe he's just pointing out, look at this dummy, right? So who knows? But something happened in this moment. Something happened. This is the third time that Jesus has appeared to the disciples. And not once do you see this type of a reaction from Peter. So much so, he was so excited to see his Lord that he couldn't wait for the boat to go 100 yards to shore. He jumped out and swam just so he could get there. Peter remembered something. If this story sounds familiar to you, it had to to Peter as well. This is very similar to the very first invitation from Jesus to Peter, where he was sitting out in the water, very similar scene, all night fishing. Clearly, Peter's not very good at it. All night fishing, no fish. Jesus says, throw it on the other side. And they couldn't even bring in all the fish. So that happened and Peter remembered and it drew him to Christ. Some of you may know my story. Some of you don't. I grew up in the church. I wasn't a Christian at all. My father was a pastor. So really what that meant is I knew how to act like a good preacher's kid on Sunday morning, right? So I learned all the do's and all the don'ts. But the moment I had, the moment I had an opportunity to split and kind of leave the church was when I was 16. My parents divorced, and I took the path of least resistance. My entire family left the church and for the next several years of my life. It wasn't that I was ignoring God. I just didn't think of God. It wasn't a conscious decision saying, okay, I don't want anything to do with you. I was just living my life, doing my thing, doing what I wanted to do until I was about 19, 20 years old, had a car accident that should have killed me. And I remember whenever I went into the hospital, I was in the hospital for several weeks, had a shattered kneecap, a severed femur head in my left hip. If you're wondering why I walk with such a strut, that's the reason. But I remember while I was sitting at the hospital, the several years that I had spent just kind of doing my own thing, no consciousness of Jesus or God or anything along the lines of that, not one of the people that I knew hung out with anything, no one showed up. The people who did show up were the people from years and years ago. People that I went to church camp with, friends that I grew up in church with, some of my father's pastor friends, they showed up and they prayed with me. And this, I'm not saying anything about any of the people, but what that was is God reintroducing himself into my world. He began wooing me. And so I started this back and forth journey, right? Like this, this, this back and forth. Okay, God, I'll do the right thing. I'll do it, do it, do it, mess up. And then I kind of run off and then do my own thing again. I can't do that. Mess up, do it, do it, do it, run off, do my own thing again. And it was like this for a very long time because I reverted to what I knew. Like you have to be good enough. You have to be awesome enough. You have to be all of these other things. And then I remember I went to visit a lady named Carol McCraw, the same one who told me I talk a lot. She was a worship leader in our church growing up. And I went honestly, just simply to say hi. She was a very important person to our family. And I remember when I walked in and simply said hello. She saw, she was playing piano as the music was getting started, and she saw me. She got up, she ran, and just gave me a hug. And it was in that moment, it felt like God wrapped his arms around me, and there was nothing that I did. Now, I clearly wasn't carol, but God used her in a pretty big way because it was in that moment I surrendered my heart, and I could do, man, there was such a love for Jesus, and then I'm telling you, over the next several years, we can sit down and have some coffee or something at some point in time. But it's this journey of falling short. And it's these moments of shame floods my mind. And I consistently go back to this moment where all I did was walk into a place with no intention of seeing Jesus, simply to visit a friend. And it was in that moment, like I'm drawn to the compassion of God because of that personal experience. I'm drawn to the love of Christ in that moment because I realized I didn't deserve anything. Like I think about my past and I cringe, But the love of Christ accepted me for who I was and walked alongside of me. I believe that's what's happening in Peter's world right now. Maybe he went back to his old lifestyle. Who knows? Maybe they were hungry and they went fishing. But there was something in this moment that when he saw Jesus, he saw, oh wait, like something clicked and he remembered. He remembered the love that Jesus has for him. He remembered the last three years, not for the failures that he experienced, but for the Christ who picked him up, for the Christ who invited him into something different, for the Jesus, for the man who helped, who walked along the water with him, for the man who never gave up on him. And Peter saw, and he remembered, he didn't go to the beach, and he wasn't met with a stern rebuke. He wasn't met with some disappointed speech. He was met by his best friend who cooked breakfast for him. He got to hang out. Then he asked him the same question three times, right? He says, hey, Pete, do you love me? Yeah, yeah, yeah, Lord, I love you. Peter, do you love me? Yes, Lord, I love you. Feed my sheep. Hey, Peter, do you love me? Yes, you know I love you. Why are you asking me this? Like, Peter, because you need to remember. You were never, never with me because of how awesome you are. But I want to do something in and through you that will blow your mind. Then I have to believe that it popped back in Peter's mind when Jesus said, hey, I'm building a church and you are the rock on which I will build this church. Peter remembered not the failures that he had, but who Christ said he is. He didn't remember the mistakes that he's had. He remembered the promises of his Lord and Savior. Man, what is shame keeping you from that Jesus is inviting you to? How different would your world look if when the voice of shame started to creep up, you hushed it with the promises of God? How much more boldly and confidently could we walk into what Ephesians 3.20 tells us? That the same God who is working in you is working through you. How much more boldly could we run into that? If when shame said you don't deserve it, you say, I know. But in Christ, I am chosen. In Christ, I'm a child of God. Yeah, but they'll never accept you. They shouldn't. But in Christ, I am completely forgiven. You'll never change. In Christ, I am a new creation. I think that's why Peter told us in 2 Peter that you were chosen and dearly loved. What a shame robbing you from the joy of your salvation, the freedom in Christ. So at the bottom of the bulletin, there's one more blank, and we'll put it on the screen. It simply says this, I am blank in Christ. Now at the bottom of that, we've listed several things, but you can go through those on your own, or you can look throughout Scripture. But what I want you to answer is this. What do you need to know of the promise in Christ? Who do you need to remind yourself are? Who do you need to remind yourself that you are in Christ to hush the voice of shame in your life? Is it that you're new? Is it that you're forgiven? Is it that you're chosen and dearly loved? If you look through that and you don't see it, shoot me an email. I'd love to chat with you. I'd love to help you find whatever it is in your world that will quiet the voice of shame. But maybe put a piece of tape on that. Write it on a sticky. Put it on your dash. Put it on your whatever you need to. Wherever you need to put this so you can remind yourself not simply who you are, but who the Savior of the world says that you are. Who the God who created the heavens and the earth claims that you, his child, is. How different would your world look if we didn't settle with the accusations of shame? But we boldly corrected it with the promises of God. Let's pray. God, thank you. Thank you so much for your kindness. Thank you so much for your love. Thank you so much for your forgiveness that we do not deserve, Lord. As we go throughout our week, as we go throughout our life and inevitably fall short of what it is that you've asked from us, God, would you just send your Holy Spirit to remind us of your promises? Remind us of who you see us as. God, help us to find our identity in your love and in your grace and not our failures. We need you, Father, and we trust you. In Jesus' name, amen.
