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Wow, that was awesome. Good morning, everyone. My name is Kyle. I'm the student pastor here. I'm very sorry. I don't understand how this mic thing works, so we're going to figure it out together. Like I said, my name is Kyle. I'm the student pastor here at Grace, and man, I'm really excited to be up here this morning. I'm really excited to have the opportunity to be a part of this series, a part of just getting to highlight different songs that we sing and maybe hopefully make them a little bit more valuable inside of our hearts when we sing them in the future. I think the only way I could be more excited is if instead of preaching, Aaron would have asked me to actually sing the song. But as Aaron continues to remind me, no one wants that, Kyle. And so until the Lord decides to change my singing voice, we'll settle with talking here. You know, as I began to prep and study and go through this song and these lyrics, a couple things came to mind. The first thing that came to mind is that, man, this song comes directly out of Philippians 2. I tell you that is the cue. If you want to go ahead and read with us, you can go ahead and find that and open up to Philippians 2. But I was really encouraged by that because we had been going through Philippians as great students not long before I was asked to preach through this. And so as I read these words, I'm like, man, there's something just supremely familiar about these words as I read them. The second thing that I oddly started to think about and be reminded of is of a time recently within the past, like it's been a month or two, when I had the opportunity to play a round of golf. To give a little background, Chris Latta, who's a partner here, had basically had, I guess, a card, the ability to bring three other players to play in this, like, best ball style golf tournament. And that was really exciting for me because I love and cherish my opportunity to spend time with Chris and then also with Nate, our pastor, and Aaron, our worship pastor, as that is who Chris reached out to. But there was a bit of trepidation that came with that as well because I don't play golf. And I've learned over the years as we talk and as I tell people I don't play golf and have them tell me, yeah, I don't play golf either, that normally when people say they don't play golf, what they mean is, yeah, I don't really play golf anymore. I used to play a lot, but now, you know, I just, I have so much going on and so I don't really get to play very much. Or it's like, you know, I only really get to play like once or twice a year, so I don't play often. And so their definition is then, yeah, I don't really play golf. What they're saying is, I don't play golf much, so don't expect too much. When I say I don't play golf, I mean I have no idea how to play golf. And I let Chris very candidly know that. Instead of like, you know what, I'm just going to do this. Northridge seems pretty awesome. I like those guys. Let's just roll it out. I made it very clear to him, I don't know what I'm doing out there, and you should find someone else, but he assured me it would be totally fine, and so we went out there. And I've got to be honest, as we went up to the first hole, knowing all of the things that I just told you, I still walked up with a driver and put that ball down and had in my head just this glorious moment of where, even though I have no idea what I'm doing, I'm about to absolutely launch this golf ball. And then I'm going to turn around and I'm going to like do something cool with the club and all the guys are going to like uproar us applause. And for some reason, everyone else out there is going to randomly be watching and they're going to go crazy. And so I get up and I do it. I take my practice swing, which probably looked incredible. And then I rear back and I absolutely, I mean, I smack that ball. I smack a good, maybe at maximum one centimeter of the top of that golf ball. And I launched that thing about three feet forwards on a slow roll. Like to give you a better understanding, if I hit my exact first shot right now, it would not have rolled to Harris's foot on the first row right here. Like it was ugly and it was terrible. And I have to be honest, it did not improve too much after that. I kept going and I kept trying and it kept, like that just kept happening. I kept swinging and feeling like, man, it really feels like I should be hitting more of this golf ball and it really feels like it should be doing more things that it's doing. But I just couldn't figure it out. And so shot after shot, a bit of frustration kind of came over me. And which sounds silly because why would you be frustrated that you're doing a bad job at something you don't know how to do? But truthfully, that was not my frustration. My frustration more came with the fact that as I continued to swing and as I continued to hit and as I continued to watch three guys who, like, I know they're not professional golfers, and some of you might be like, you're trying to do what they're doing. For me, they're hitting the ball, and when they hit it, it goes, like, up in the air, and that's awesome. And, like, it's times where it's going straight, or they're doing, like, these crazy turns, and it's going left or right. And I'm just mind-blown by the whole thing, and I'm just like, man, like, you know, I never knew how incredible it was to watch a ball go up in the air until you've never watched any of your balls go up in the air. And what frustrated me is I'm watching these guys and I have right in front of me, this is what I should, this is, this is what it looks like to do what I need to do. But I have no idea how to get there. I have this goal of looking and hitting like this person, swinging like Chris or like Aaron or like Nate to where I can put a ball in play and everyone goes, all right, that was good enough. That's all I wanted. But I had no understanding of how to do so, regardless of how much I racked my brain and how many times I tried to watch all of the, like every part of the swing, I just couldn't figure it out. And it was frustrating. I wasn't improving it at all. I was taking zero steps forward towards the goal of just being able to hit a golf ball okay. And I just couldn't figure it out. I had no idea how to get better. I had no idea how to improve, how to move forward, until the guys, as they watched, they do understand golf a little bit more, and they understand what I was having a hard time grasping, that to hit a golf ball well is broken down into fundamentals of different parts of a swing. That it's not about, hey, you have to be perfect at every single front or else nothing works. It's simply about, hey, there's steps that you have to take. There's fundamental properties of what you need to do when you're swinging. And so, at one point, when I went up, I was encouraged by one of them, hey, I see that you're lifting your head when you're swinging. When you're going through, you're lifting your head. And when you do, your club comes up and you hit the top of the ball and it rolls to Harris' foot. And that's not what we want. And so I said, okay. And so they said, look, Kyle, don't think about anything else. Don't try to do everything exactly perfect. Do everything natural and as natural as it can feel to you. Keep your head down the whole way and just see how that goes. And I did it. And then I was shooting under par golf for the rest of the round. Obviously, that's not true. It did not change and impact everything about whatever, but there was improvement. I hit the ball kind of somewhat where it was supposed to be hit on the club. It went forwards. It went a little bit farther. And so for the rest of the day, instead of me going like, well, here's this thing I'll never be able to do, so why am I, like, what's even the point? I'm just frustrated every time I swing. They're helping me out, and they're saying, hey, this time, just spend most of your time just focusing on this one simple step of holding your arm in this way, and swinging everything natural and normal, but do it this way. They broke something that was big and hard and difficult down into these fundamental aspects, because what they recognize and what they realize realize because they've learned how to play golf is it takes small steps forwards and understanding what it takes to take those small steps to be able to get to that ultimate goal. And so by the end of it, it wasn't great, but I hit a couple shots that like genuinely went up in the air and it was awesome. I do recommend, I do recommend the ability to hit a ball up in the air and forwards because it feels kind of cool. We didn't, it wasn't useful. I think the best shot I hit went right in the water, but man, it made my heart feel good. You know, I mean, there was a genuine Nate goes, Kyle, yes. I'm so sorry that went in the water, but awesome. You was a great day for me. But I think that probably all of us have had similar experiences to this. I don't know that all of us have had the same experience of golf. I hope that your experience with golf is better than mine was for most of it because that was rough. But we have the experiences of maybe it's starting a new job. and part of that is to shadow someone who's doing that job. And it's like, how in the world can I ever do any of the things that that person's doing? This is completely overwhelming. And so every day you show up to work in the shadow of how incredible this person is. And so every day you feel like a failure because even though you're trying your hardest, you have no idea how to get to where that person is. Maybe some of you, I've been here, have tried to get in shape. And so you go to classes or you watch workout videos and you're watching and you're like, I don't even understand why I'm classified as human and you're also classified as human, you know? Like, I look at you and you look nothing like I do and you're doing all these things and you're smiling and talking to me and I'm like throwing up over here and deciding if I should have like just stayed in bed this morning, you know? Like, I, there's no way to get there. And when we experience those experiences, there's a couple things I think that it's easy to feel. One is hopeless. Just feeling completely hopeless in the approach or in the pursuit of this goal that seems completely unattainable, and we don't even know how to even make strides towards it. So every day we just feel lesser than because we don't know what we're doing. Or we take the cynical approach, and we go, you know what? I don't see any possible way I could ever get there, so what's the point? I'm not even going to try, which is kind of maybe my approach to golf, but we'll see. But you've probably experienced one of those two feelings before in your life. And when we come to a song like this, and when we come to a sermon, when we come to a song that asks of us to be more like Jesus, sometimes my approach is like, yeah, okay, cool, awesome. I'll put it on the to-do list. Thanks, Kyle. Thanks, Nate. I'll definitely be more like Jesus. That's awesome. I think sometimes to be told or to be called to be more like Jesus feels like you're trying to tell me who has no idea what he's doing or how to be good at golf and saying, hey, the way that you'd be good at golf is by playing like Tiger Woods. That is completely foreign to me. I have no idea what that means or what that looks like. I couldn't play like Chris Latta. And he's awesome, but he's not Tiger. It's like one step down. But as any teacher or any coach or any supervisor has ever taught us before as we try to learn something new, it starts with taking that first step. It starts with understanding those fundamentals. And so, this morning, as we try to get a somewhat of an understanding of what it may look like or mean to look more like Jesus and to make our lives more like Jesus, I think what's important and what's vital is for us to break that down and go, okay, so who was Jesus? What is an attribute of Jesus that maybe I can take that step and pursue? Because I know that if I go, hey, here's all of the things that Jesus was, and I wake up every morning and say, all right, time to do this, that I'm going to finish the day probably doing very little, if any of it, and I'm just going to feel completely overwhelmed and completely hopeless for the next day. But maybe if we just grab hold of one attribute and say, what if we just clung to this one? What if this morning, what if this week we just thought about being more like Jesus in this way? I think we'd find that it's more approachable. And what's really cool about this song, and what makes this song so perfect for this series, a series where we're trying to grab songs and figure out where we can find them in scripture. When we look, that first verse that we sang, you guys will hear it again because we're going to sing it again. That first entire verse that we sang is almost a word-for-word version of something that we find in Philippians 2, verses 5 through 8. And so, if you will, if you have it open, you can read along with me, or otherwise you'll be able to read it on the, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness and being found in appearance as a man. He humbled himself by becoming obedient to death, even death on a cross. This is the first half of a passage of scripture that people somewhat commonly refer to as the hymn of Christ. It's this glorious passage that basically just outlines the sacrifices that Christ made on our behalf so that we could know God, so that we could know Christ, and we could have a relationship with the Father. It's a glorious depiction of the gospel and what we know is true about the gospel, but I would say more pointedly, the hymn of Christ highlights Jesus's radical humility for the glory of God and for the sake of humanity. If you take a closer look at those verses, it outlines Christ who is in heaven on the throne with God, who instead of clinging to that, instead of clinging to that glory, instead of clinging to that power, instead of clinging to that comfortability of being able to be in heaven as God, did not consider it something to be clung to, but instead he left heaven to come to earth and become a human, which is worse. And in doing so, did not do so so that he could take up the throne of Israel and be the king of the world to make Israel the most powerful nation and he could bring all of the power and all of the glory to himself, which is what he deserved and which is what he had every access to be able to do because as much as he was human, he was also God. Instead, as Paul writes, he became nothing. Living a life as a servant. Moving from place to place, basically homeless. Loving and serving every person he was possibly able to come into contact to. Not to heighten his power, not to grasp upon the power that was rightfully his, but in order to elevate and uplift the people that were around him, ultimately to the point of death. In humility, recognizing and understanding that he is the only person who's ever lived a life on this earth that was ever worthy of not experiencing death. The only person. And yet, being the person who gives his life so that every other human who does experience death and does experience eternal separation from God doesn't have to experience it and can have a relationship with the Father through Christ's sacrifice. It is this beautiful and incredible and amazingly powerful set of verses. But for those of you who've opened it up in your Bibles, what you see is that this is not a passage that just stands alone by itself. Even those who were able to just look at it on the screen, you see that it's verse 5, which means that there are verses before it. Some of you who are reading along with me also might have realized that we only use the last two words of verse 5. I tell you all of that to say that as beautiful and as powerful as these words are by themselves, they are placed in Philippians for a very specific reason, a very specific context. And when we understand that context and when we understand the reason why these words were written, I think it helps us to outline an attribute of Christ. The context for that beautiful depiction of Christ's humility in the gospel and throughout the story, entire story of the gospel, the context of that is so that Paul can say, hey, here's your example for how you should live your lives in humility. Here's your example for what this looks like. Not building up and gaining your own power or building up your own kingdom, not working and walking in selfishness, but instead looking to the needs of others above yourselves, elevating other people and serving other people above yourselves just as Christ did. Christ, who was also fully God, made himself lesser than to elevate everyone that he came in contact with, to serve and to love them as well as he possibly can. And in the same way, Paul says that's the way that we should live our lives as well, in that style, in that kind of humility. And so, because we have these verses that were pulled directly from to write this song that we sang this morning and that we're gonna sing again later, what I think that we're able to surmise is this, that when we sing, make me more like Jesus, we are asking God to replace our pride with the humility that defined the life of Christ. Lord, I've seen all of the ways that your son lived in humility while he was on earth to the point of death. And in the same way that Paul called the believers of the Philippians, I know he calls me to live in that style of humility. Not in selfish ambition or vain conceit, but elevating people and lifting them up. And as I went through this, I began to think about, okay, what are some examples of what that looks like? What are some things where I can go, hey, here's an awesome way to be humble. Here's an awesome way to do this. And the more I thought and pondered and processed, the more I came to realize that what I was thinking more about is people whose lives are marked and defined by this level of humility, whose lives look like Philippians 2, 3 through 5. And I thought of a friend, Ron Torrance, and I told him, be aware, be ready. I understand the position that I'm putting someone in by elevating them and uplifting them about how humble they are. And they probably are completely uninterested in hearing their voice or being lifted up. But I think it's valuable for the church. And so I'm asking him to allow me some grace. But Ron is someone who has given a lot of his life to this church and to the people of this church. And now he's retired and he has every right in the entire world to be able to show up to church and to just have people love him. To be able to go find his buddies, find his friends, find the people he's closest to, get here a couple minutes early, have some conversations with his friends, sit down and just enjoy his service. Maybe what he actually deserves is everyone to go and find him and to ask how he's doing and check in on him because he's the best and he's given so much to this church. He's completely entitled to be loved and served by everyone in this church the best that they can. But instead, instead of leaning on that entitlement, instead of leaning on what he deserves and what he has earned the right to do, instead, he comes here every Friday, every Friday morning. He clears out every trash can because he wants there to be a brand new trash bag in every trash can for Sunday morning. Then he goes around and he cleans the windows. Then, I was here this Friday morning trying to do something that I'm paid to do, and he's got a leaf blower, and he's blowing all of the leaves away from all of the sidewalks. His full intention when he comes on Friday morning is to say, you know what? I want to serve everyone the best I can, and what that looks like for me right now is to make this look as nice as it possibly can for whoever's going to walk up in here on Sunday morning. Ron's retired, and he has lived a good life for the Lord. He's earned the right to not have to do any of those things. He's earned the right for people to do that for him. And yet, come here on Friday morning, you'll see him every Friday morning. And then it comes Sunday. And he's already made the place as beautiful as it can be for you, for us, for me. And instead of going and finding his buddies and spending time hanging out and chatting it up with the people he's closest with, his goal and his purpose on a Sunday morning is to interact with as many people as he possibly can, to make sure that if you're here, that your hand is shaken and that you're told good morning and that you're asked about any detail of your life that he may know to make sure that you know that you are valued and that you are welcome and that he is happy that you're here. His goal is to serve you by making you know how valuable you are in this space. If by no one else, then by him. He has earned the right for all of us to just come find him in his seat where he has a recliner and we just sit, go and shake his hand. But that's not what he does. Almost to the chagrin, I would imagine, of his closest friends and his family, he's bouncing around to make sure that every single person is loved, is encouraged, is welcomed. I know Ron cares about me when I talk to Ron. Just this morning, I wasn't planning on saying this, but just this morning, Ron opened the door for me. He said, I don't know who the greeter is, but you know. I'm like, yeah, man, awesome. He's not on greeter. He's not supposed to be a greeter every week, but he basically is, so why not? And I think that that's valuable to us. I think that's valuable to this church. Those are small acts that go a really long way for us every single Sunday to uplift us, to encourage us, and to allow us to walk into a space that looks nice. And, you know, I wanted to figure out and put together a way to then go from, to transition from that into this impassioned plea to this is why you should not only be happy that there are people like Ron that exist, but why you should strive in your life to be someone whose life is marked by that same humility. That you can be someone like that that exists by simply allowing Christ to take over your heart and allowing your life to be defined by the humility that defined the life of Christ. And the more I tried to think about what that impassioned plea might be, I just came back instead to this simple thought that if I asked every one of you right now, if I had time, there's too many. I can't walk up to each one of you individually right now because there's kids that are going to go crazy in a second. But if I did, and I said, hey, who is that person or who are those people in your life that you have in your everyday life that you feel like their lives are defined by Christ-like humility? You probably all have them. You have people that you can think of. And so then my second question is this. As you think about that person or those people that you know, what kind of status do they hold in your mind and in your heart? Where do you find them in your heart? Who are they in your life to you? Who are those people to you? To me, they're the people that I know if I need help with something, if I need an extra set of hands, I know I can reach out to them. Not because I know that they've got nothing going on and they're sitting twiddling their thumbs being like, man, I really wish I could help Kyle move something right now. But knowing that their time is valuable and I'm sure there's plenty of ways they could be spending it, but knowing it that their life is marked by a Christ-like humility. And ultimately, they're looking for the joy of the opportunity to be able to help me out and serve me in whatever way I need. They're the people I know I can reach out to, and they're going to help me in whatever way they can. They're also the people that are the ones I want to reach out to, and I want to talk to or talk with when I've got something serious that I need to talk about. When it's more than simply just standing or sitting and hanging out and laughing and joking around and having fun. But instead when it's, I really need someone to listen to what I've got going on. I really need someone who I know when I walk into this conversation that they're only going to be locked in on what I have to say, knowing that they're not going to consistently just be frustrated, that they want to be able to say more and they want to get more words in and they want to be heard, but simply will be totally okay. Totally okay knowing, hey, you might not have a huge role in this conversation, but I'm going to sit here and I'm going to listen because I care and I want to hear what you have to say. Those are the people, the people whose lives are marked by humility, those are the people that I'm going to go to, that I'm going to reach out to because I know that they're going to be there for me in whatever way I need. Because I know that even though their time is precious, even though they're interesting and they have thoughts and they have things to say and they have all of that stuff, that when they weigh the two, when they weigh what they have versus what I need. Every time, they're going to do what they can to serve me, to put their needs aside, and to serve and to love me best. And so they play a pretty vital role in who I am. Do y'all have those people? If you do, if you have those people, you know the joy of having those people. If you have people like that, then you know that you get to understand something about humility that I don't know that we understand until we've experienced, and it's this, that humility is encouraging and life-giving to everyone it touches. It draws people in by lifting people up. I'm gonna read it again. Humility is encouraging and life-giving to everyone it touches. It draws people in by lifting people up. If we've experienced people whose lives are marked by humility at work, in our family, through friendships, then we know that this is true. We know the great and utter joy of what it means to have someone like that in our lives. And so if you do, if you nodded when I asked if you had those people, here comes my question. Why in the world would we not want to be the reason that someone else could experience that joy? Why wouldn't we want to be the reason why someone gets to understand and recognize that, hey, just because I know you, just because we are friends, that means that a lot of my goal in our friendship is my ability to encourage you and to give you life and to elevate you and uplift you and draw you in by lifting you up. Why wouldn't we want to provide that joy for someone else? To experience a Christ-like humility that blesses the hearts of the people around us and serves the hearts of the people around us. I think not only do we seek to live lives that are marked by this humility because it benefits them from a humanly approach, I also think that when we serve others in humility, that we reflect Christ. I'll say that again, when we serve others in humility, that we reflect Christ. I'll say that again. When we serve others in humility, we reflect Christ. I don't think that the only reason that Paul put an entire beautiful poem about Christ's humility next to a call to Christians to live lives of humility. I don't think he just does that to say, hey, here's the example. I think he also does so so that we can recognize and that we can realize that if we allow God to shape our hearts and when we allow Christ to move in and through us, to live more like him in humility, that when we do so, we are reflecting Christ to people who need to experience Christ. And I think that's significant. And finally, it's weird to talk about because it's like, why am I ending on something that's valuable for us more so than for other people in a humility sermon? But I'm going to. Not only is there so much joy to be given by living lives of humility, but man, there's so much joy to be gained. If you will, I want to close this morning by getting to read the entirety of the hymn of Christ. We started the first time at verse five and we went through eight. I want to read it in its entirety this morning. I realized that I only put the second half up for the words. And so if you do have your Bibles out, that might be the place to do it. But if you will, just hear this, because I want you to hear the joy that comes through living a life that is changed by the humility of Christ and that reflects the humility of Christ. So if you will, we're going to read verses 5 through 11 together. Here's the new part. gave him the name that is above every name, that the name of Jesus every knee should bow. In heaven and on earth and under the earth, in every tongue acknowledge that Christ is Lord to the glory of God the Father. Christ's life of humility led to his exaltation that seated him at the right hand of God. And our humility, as it says, that we can get down on our knees and we can proclaim that Christ is Lord, that we can give our hearts and say, I know I am not enough, nor will I ever be enough, but because of Christ's humility, I will give my heart up to you, God. Take all of me for all of you. Allow me to live a life that in some small sliver of a way is marked by the humility of Christ. And when we do so, we are exalted. In Matthew, right out of the words, right out of God, of Christ's mouth, in Matthew 23, 12, it says this, for those who exalt themselves will be humbled. Get this, those who humble themselves will be exalted. When we humble ourselves before the Father, then we can be exalted with the Son. And man, when we're exalted, when we've experienced having a debt paid that we did not owe and recognizing and understanding how little that makes sense and how unbelievable the grace of God is, when we understand the humility of Christ and the sacrifice that he made in his humility for us, also that we could be exalted to where when God looks at us, he sees Christ, I think it becomes a lot easier to live a life that's marked by humility. So, as we sing again, we sing asking God to make us more like Jesus. Maybe as we sing, we can pray and asking God this week in humility, how might I be able to do that? Will you pray with me? Lord, we love you so much. We're thankful for your son, his ultimate humility and sacrifice, and that because of that, we are exalted for eternity. God, I just pray that that sinks into our hearts so much so that we live our lives with something that looks even close to similar to that type of humility. Lord, we love you so, so much, and we are so thankful for you. Amen.
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Wow, that was awesome. Good morning, everyone. My name is Kyle. I'm the student pastor here. I'm very sorry. I don't understand how this mic thing works, so we're going to figure it out together. Like I said, my name is Kyle. I'm the student pastor here at Grace, and man, I'm really excited to be up here this morning. I'm really excited to have the opportunity to be a part of this series, a part of just getting to highlight different songs that we sing and maybe hopefully make them a little bit more valuable inside of our hearts when we sing them in the future. I think the only way I could be more excited is if instead of preaching, Aaron would have asked me to actually sing the song. But as Aaron continues to remind me, no one wants that, Kyle. And so until the Lord decides to change my singing voice, we'll settle with talking here. You know, as I began to prep and study and go through this song and these lyrics, a couple things came to mind. The first thing that came to mind is that, man, this song comes directly out of Philippians 2. I tell you that is the cue. If you want to go ahead and read with us, you can go ahead and find that and open up to Philippians 2. But I was really encouraged by that because we had been going through Philippians as great students not long before I was asked to preach through this. And so as I read these words, I'm like, man, there's something just supremely familiar about these words as I read them. The second thing that I oddly started to think about and be reminded of is of a time recently within the past, like it's been a month or two, when I had the opportunity to play a round of golf. To give a little background, Chris Latta, who's a partner here, had basically had, I guess, a card, the ability to bring three other players to play in this, like, best ball style golf tournament. And that was really exciting for me because I love and cherish my opportunity to spend time with Chris and then also with Nate, our pastor, and Aaron, our worship pastor, as that is who Chris reached out to. But there was a bit of trepidation that came with that as well because I don't play golf. And I've learned over the years as we talk and as I tell people I don't play golf and have them tell me, yeah, I don't play golf either, that normally when people say they don't play golf, what they mean is, yeah, I don't really play golf anymore. I used to play a lot, but now, you know, I just, I have so much going on and so I don't really get to play very much. Or it's like, you know, I only really get to play like once or twice a year, so I don't play often. And so their definition is then, yeah, I don't really play golf. What they're saying is, I don't play golf much, so don't expect too much. When I say I don't play golf, I mean I have no idea how to play golf. And I let Chris very candidly know that. Instead of like, you know what, I'm just going to do this. Northridge seems pretty awesome. I like those guys. Let's just roll it out. I made it very clear to him, I don't know what I'm doing out there, and you should find someone else, but he assured me it would be totally fine, and so we went out there. And I've got to be honest, as we went up to the first hole, knowing all of the things that I just told you, I still walked up with a driver and put that ball down and had in my head just this glorious moment of where, even though I have no idea what I'm doing, I'm about to absolutely launch this golf ball. And then I'm going to turn around and I'm going to like do something cool with the club and all the guys are going to like uproar us applause. And for some reason, everyone else out there is going to randomly be watching and they're going to go crazy. And so I get up and I do it. I take my practice swing, which probably looked incredible. And then I rear back and I absolutely, I mean, I smack that ball. I smack a good, maybe at maximum one centimeter of the top of that golf ball. And I launched that thing about three feet forwards on a slow roll. Like to give you a better understanding, if I hit my exact first shot right now, it would not have rolled to Harris's foot on the first row right here. Like it was ugly and it was terrible. And I have to be honest, it did not improve too much after that. I kept going and I kept trying and it kept, like that just kept happening. I kept swinging and feeling like, man, it really feels like I should be hitting more of this golf ball and it really feels like it should be doing more things that it's doing. But I just couldn't figure it out. And so shot after shot, a bit of frustration kind of came over me. And which sounds silly because why would you be frustrated that you're doing a bad job at something you don't know how to do? But truthfully, that was not my frustration. My frustration more came with the fact that as I continued to swing and as I continued to hit and as I continued to watch three guys who, like, I know they're not professional golfers, and some of you might be like, you're trying to do what they're doing. For me, they're hitting the ball, and when they hit it, it goes, like, up in the air, and that's awesome. And, like, it's times where it's going straight, or they're doing, like, these crazy turns, and it's going left or right. And I'm just mind-blown by the whole thing, and I'm just like, man, like, you know, I never knew how incredible it was to watch a ball go up in the air until you've never watched any of your balls go up in the air. And what frustrated me is I'm watching these guys and I have right in front of me, this is what I should, this is, this is what it looks like to do what I need to do. But I have no idea how to get there. I have this goal of looking and hitting like this person, swinging like Chris or like Aaron or like Nate to where I can put a ball in play and everyone goes, all right, that was good enough. That's all I wanted. But I had no understanding of how to do so, regardless of how much I racked my brain and how many times I tried to watch all of the, like every part of the swing, I just couldn't figure it out. And it was frustrating. I wasn't improving it at all. I was taking zero steps forward towards the goal of just being able to hit a golf ball okay. And I just couldn't figure it out. I had no idea how to get better. I had no idea how to improve, how to move forward, until the guys, as they watched, they do understand golf a little bit more, and they understand what I was having a hard time grasping, that to hit a golf ball well is broken down into fundamentals of different parts of a swing. That it's not about, hey, you have to be perfect at every single front or else nothing works. It's simply about, hey, there's steps that you have to take. There's fundamental properties of what you need to do when you're swinging. And so, at one point, when I went up, I was encouraged by one of them, hey, I see that you're lifting your head when you're swinging. When you're going through, you're lifting your head. And when you do, your club comes up and you hit the top of the ball and it rolls to Harris' foot. And that's not what we want. And so I said, okay. And so they said, look, Kyle, don't think about anything else. Don't try to do everything exactly perfect. Do everything natural and as natural as it can feel to you. Keep your head down the whole way and just see how that goes. And I did it. And then I was shooting under par golf for the rest of the round. Obviously, that's not true. It did not change and impact everything about whatever, but there was improvement. I hit the ball kind of somewhat where it was supposed to be hit on the club. It went forwards. It went a little bit farther. And so for the rest of the day, instead of me going like, well, here's this thing I'll never be able to do, so why am I, like, what's even the point? I'm just frustrated every time I swing. They're helping me out, and they're saying, hey, this time, just spend most of your time just focusing on this one simple step of holding your arm in this way, and swinging everything natural and normal, but do it this way. They broke something that was big and hard and difficult down into these fundamental aspects, because what they recognize and what they realize realize because they've learned how to play golf is it takes small steps forwards and understanding what it takes to take those small steps to be able to get to that ultimate goal. And so by the end of it, it wasn't great, but I hit a couple shots that like genuinely went up in the air and it was awesome. I do recommend, I do recommend the ability to hit a ball up in the air and forwards because it feels kind of cool. We didn't, it wasn't useful. I think the best shot I hit went right in the water, but man, it made my heart feel good. You know, I mean, there was a genuine Nate goes, Kyle, yes. I'm so sorry that went in the water, but awesome. You was a great day for me. But I think that probably all of us have had similar experiences to this. I don't know that all of us have had the same experience of golf. I hope that your experience with golf is better than mine was for most of it because that was rough. But we have the experiences of maybe it's starting a new job. and part of that is to shadow someone who's doing that job. And it's like, how in the world can I ever do any of the things that that person's doing? This is completely overwhelming. And so every day you show up to work in the shadow of how incredible this person is. And so every day you feel like a failure because even though you're trying your hardest, you have no idea how to get to where that person is. Maybe some of you, I've been here, have tried to get in shape. And so you go to classes or you watch workout videos and you're watching and you're like, I don't even understand why I'm classified as human and you're also classified as human, you know? Like, I look at you and you look nothing like I do and you're doing all these things and you're smiling and talking to me and I'm like throwing up over here and deciding if I should have like just stayed in bed this morning, you know? Like, I, there's no way to get there. And when we experience those experiences, there's a couple things I think that it's easy to feel. One is hopeless. Just feeling completely hopeless in the approach or in the pursuit of this goal that seems completely unattainable, and we don't even know how to even make strides towards it. So every day we just feel lesser than because we don't know what we're doing. Or we take the cynical approach, and we go, you know what? I don't see any possible way I could ever get there, so what's the point? I'm not even going to try, which is kind of maybe my approach to golf, but we'll see. But you've probably experienced one of those two feelings before in your life. And when we come to a song like this, and when we come to a sermon, when we come to a song that asks of us to be more like Jesus, sometimes my approach is like, yeah, okay, cool, awesome. I'll put it on the to-do list. Thanks, Kyle. Thanks, Nate. I'll definitely be more like Jesus. That's awesome. I think sometimes to be told or to be called to be more like Jesus feels like you're trying to tell me who has no idea what he's doing or how to be good at golf and saying, hey, the way that you'd be good at golf is by playing like Tiger Woods. That is completely foreign to me. I have no idea what that means or what that looks like. I couldn't play like Chris Latta. And he's awesome, but he's not Tiger. It's like one step down. But as any teacher or any coach or any supervisor has ever taught us before as we try to learn something new, it starts with taking that first step. It starts with understanding those fundamentals. And so, this morning, as we try to get a somewhat of an understanding of what it may look like or mean to look more like Jesus and to make our lives more like Jesus, I think what's important and what's vital is for us to break that down and go, okay, so who was Jesus? What is an attribute of Jesus that maybe I can take that step and pursue? Because I know that if I go, hey, here's all of the things that Jesus was, and I wake up every morning and say, all right, time to do this, that I'm going to finish the day probably doing very little, if any of it, and I'm just going to feel completely overwhelmed and completely hopeless for the next day. But maybe if we just grab hold of one attribute and say, what if we just clung to this one? What if this morning, what if this week we just thought about being more like Jesus in this way? I think we'd find that it's more approachable. And what's really cool about this song, and what makes this song so perfect for this series, a series where we're trying to grab songs and figure out where we can find them in scripture. When we look, that first verse that we sang, you guys will hear it again because we're going to sing it again. That first entire verse that we sang is almost a word-for-word version of something that we find in Philippians 2, verses 5 through 8. And so, if you will, if you have it open, you can read along with me, or otherwise you'll be able to read it on the, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness and being found in appearance as a man. He humbled himself by becoming obedient to death, even death on a cross. This is the first half of a passage of scripture that people somewhat commonly refer to as the hymn of Christ. It's this glorious passage that basically just outlines the sacrifices that Christ made on our behalf so that we could know God, so that we could know Christ, and we could have a relationship with the Father. It's a glorious depiction of the gospel and what we know is true about the gospel, but I would say more pointedly, the hymn of Christ highlights Jesus's radical humility for the glory of God and for the sake of humanity. If you take a closer look at those verses, it outlines Christ who is in heaven on the throne with God, who instead of clinging to that, instead of clinging to that glory, instead of clinging to that power, instead of clinging to that comfortability of being able to be in heaven as God, did not consider it something to be clung to, but instead he left heaven to come to earth and become a human, which is worse. And in doing so, did not do so so that he could take up the throne of Israel and be the king of the world to make Israel the most powerful nation and he could bring all of the power and all of the glory to himself, which is what he deserved and which is what he had every access to be able to do because as much as he was human, he was also God. Instead, as Paul writes, he became nothing. Living a life as a servant. Moving from place to place, basically homeless. Loving and serving every person he was possibly able to come into contact to. Not to heighten his power, not to grasp upon the power that was rightfully his, but in order to elevate and uplift the people that were around him, ultimately to the point of death. In humility, recognizing and understanding that he is the only person who's ever lived a life on this earth that was ever worthy of not experiencing death. The only person. And yet, being the person who gives his life so that every other human who does experience death and does experience eternal separation from God doesn't have to experience it and can have a relationship with the Father through Christ's sacrifice. It is this beautiful and incredible and amazingly powerful set of verses. But for those of you who've opened it up in your Bibles, what you see is that this is not a passage that just stands alone by itself. Even those who were able to just look at it on the screen, you see that it's verse 5, which means that there are verses before it. Some of you who are reading along with me also might have realized that we only use the last two words of verse 5. I tell you all of that to say that as beautiful and as powerful as these words are by themselves, they are placed in Philippians for a very specific reason, a very specific context. And when we understand that context and when we understand the reason why these words were written, I think it helps us to outline an attribute of Christ. The context for that beautiful depiction of Christ's humility in the gospel and throughout the story, entire story of the gospel, the context of that is so that Paul can say, hey, here's your example for how you should live your lives in humility. Here's your example for what this looks like. Not building up and gaining your own power or building up your own kingdom, not working and walking in selfishness, but instead looking to the needs of others above yourselves, elevating other people and serving other people above yourselves just as Christ did. Christ, who was also fully God, made himself lesser than to elevate everyone that he came in contact with, to serve and to love them as well as he possibly can. And in the same way, Paul says that's the way that we should live our lives as well, in that style, in that kind of humility. And so, because we have these verses that were pulled directly from to write this song that we sang this morning and that we're gonna sing again later, what I think that we're able to surmise is this, that when we sing, make me more like Jesus, we are asking God to replace our pride with the humility that defined the life of Christ. Lord, I've seen all of the ways that your son lived in humility while he was on earth to the point of death. And in the same way that Paul called the believers of the Philippians, I know he calls me to live in that style of humility. Not in selfish ambition or vain conceit, but elevating people and lifting them up. And as I went through this, I began to think about, okay, what are some examples of what that looks like? What are some things where I can go, hey, here's an awesome way to be humble. Here's an awesome way to do this. And the more I thought and pondered and processed, the more I came to realize that what I was thinking more about is people whose lives are marked and defined by this level of humility, whose lives look like Philippians 2, 3 through 5. And I thought of a friend, Ron Torrance, and I told him, be aware, be ready. I understand the position that I'm putting someone in by elevating them and uplifting them about how humble they are. And they probably are completely uninterested in hearing their voice or being lifted up. But I think it's valuable for the church. And so I'm asking him to allow me some grace. But Ron is someone who has given a lot of his life to this church and to the people of this church. And now he's retired and he has every right in the entire world to be able to show up to church and to just have people love him. To be able to go find his buddies, find his friends, find the people he's closest to, get here a couple minutes early, have some conversations with his friends, sit down and just enjoy his service. Maybe what he actually deserves is everyone to go and find him and to ask how he's doing and check in on him because he's the best and he's given so much to this church. He's completely entitled to be loved and served by everyone in this church the best that they can. But instead, instead of leaning on that entitlement, instead of leaning on what he deserves and what he has earned the right to do, instead, he comes here every Friday, every Friday morning. He clears out every trash can because he wants there to be a brand new trash bag in every trash can for Sunday morning. Then he goes around and he cleans the windows. Then, I was here this Friday morning trying to do something that I'm paid to do, and he's got a leaf blower, and he's blowing all of the leaves away from all of the sidewalks. His full intention when he comes on Friday morning is to say, you know what? I want to serve everyone the best I can, and what that looks like for me right now is to make this look as nice as it possibly can for whoever's going to walk up in here on Sunday morning. Ron's retired, and he has lived a good life for the Lord. He's earned the right to not have to do any of those things. He's earned the right for people to do that for him. And yet, come here on Friday morning, you'll see him every Friday morning. And then it comes Sunday. And he's already made the place as beautiful as it can be for you, for us, for me. And instead of going and finding his buddies and spending time hanging out and chatting it up with the people he's closest with, his goal and his purpose on a Sunday morning is to interact with as many people as he possibly can, to make sure that if you're here, that your hand is shaken and that you're told good morning and that you're asked about any detail of your life that he may know to make sure that you know that you are valued and that you are welcome and that he is happy that you're here. His goal is to serve you by making you know how valuable you are in this space. If by no one else, then by him. He has earned the right for all of us to just come find him in his seat where he has a recliner and we just sit, go and shake his hand. But that's not what he does. Almost to the chagrin, I would imagine, of his closest friends and his family, he's bouncing around to make sure that every single person is loved, is encouraged, is welcomed. I know Ron cares about me when I talk to Ron. Just this morning, I wasn't planning on saying this, but just this morning, Ron opened the door for me. He said, I don't know who the greeter is, but you know. I'm like, yeah, man, awesome. He's not on greeter. He's not supposed to be a greeter every week, but he basically is, so why not? And I think that that's valuable to us. I think that's valuable to this church. Those are small acts that go a really long way for us every single Sunday to uplift us, to encourage us, and to allow us to walk into a space that looks nice. And, you know, I wanted to figure out and put together a way to then go from, to transition from that into this impassioned plea to this is why you should not only be happy that there are people like Ron that exist, but why you should strive in your life to be someone whose life is marked by that same humility. That you can be someone like that that exists by simply allowing Christ to take over your heart and allowing your life to be defined by the humility that defined the life of Christ. And the more I tried to think about what that impassioned plea might be, I just came back instead to this simple thought that if I asked every one of you right now, if I had time, there's too many. I can't walk up to each one of you individually right now because there's kids that are going to go crazy in a second. But if I did, and I said, hey, who is that person or who are those people in your life that you have in your everyday life that you feel like their lives are defined by Christ-like humility? You probably all have them. You have people that you can think of. And so then my second question is this. As you think about that person or those people that you know, what kind of status do they hold in your mind and in your heart? Where do you find them in your heart? Who are they in your life to you? Who are those people to you? To me, they're the people that I know if I need help with something, if I need an extra set of hands, I know I can reach out to them. Not because I know that they've got nothing going on and they're sitting twiddling their thumbs being like, man, I really wish I could help Kyle move something right now. But knowing that their time is valuable and I'm sure there's plenty of ways they could be spending it, but knowing it that their life is marked by a Christ-like humility. And ultimately, they're looking for the joy of the opportunity to be able to help me out and serve me in whatever way I need. They're the people I know I can reach out to, and they're going to help me in whatever way they can. They're also the people that are the ones I want to reach out to, and I want to talk to or talk with when I've got something serious that I need to talk about. When it's more than simply just standing or sitting and hanging out and laughing and joking around and having fun. But instead when it's, I really need someone to listen to what I've got going on. I really need someone who I know when I walk into this conversation that they're only going to be locked in on what I have to say, knowing that they're not going to consistently just be frustrated, that they want to be able to say more and they want to get more words in and they want to be heard, but simply will be totally okay. Totally okay knowing, hey, you might not have a huge role in this conversation, but I'm going to sit here and I'm going to listen because I care and I want to hear what you have to say. Those are the people, the people whose lives are marked by humility, those are the people that I'm going to go to, that I'm going to reach out to because I know that they're going to be there for me in whatever way I need. Because I know that even though their time is precious, even though they're interesting and they have thoughts and they have things to say and they have all of that stuff, that when they weigh the two, when they weigh what they have versus what I need. Every time, they're going to do what they can to serve me, to put their needs aside, and to serve and to love me best. And so they play a pretty vital role in who I am. Do y'all have those people? If you do, if you have those people, you know the joy of having those people. If you have people like that, then you know that you get to understand something about humility that I don't know that we understand until we've experienced, and it's this, that humility is encouraging and life-giving to everyone it touches. It draws people in by lifting people up. I'm gonna read it again. Humility is encouraging and life-giving to everyone it touches. It draws people in by lifting people up. If we've experienced people whose lives are marked by humility at work, in our family, through friendships, then we know that this is true. We know the great and utter joy of what it means to have someone like that in our lives. And so if you do, if you nodded when I asked if you had those people, here comes my question. Why in the world would we not want to be the reason that someone else could experience that joy? Why wouldn't we want to be the reason why someone gets to understand and recognize that, hey, just because I know you, just because we are friends, that means that a lot of my goal in our friendship is my ability to encourage you and to give you life and to elevate you and uplift you and draw you in by lifting you up. Why wouldn't we want to provide that joy for someone else? To experience a Christ-like humility that blesses the hearts of the people around us and serves the hearts of the people around us. I think not only do we seek to live lives that are marked by this humility because it benefits them from a humanly approach, I also think that when we serve others in humility, that we reflect Christ. I'll say that again, when we serve others in humility, that we reflect Christ. I'll say that again. When we serve others in humility, we reflect Christ. I don't think that the only reason that Paul put an entire beautiful poem about Christ's humility next to a call to Christians to live lives of humility. I don't think he just does that to say, hey, here's the example. I think he also does so so that we can recognize and that we can realize that if we allow God to shape our hearts and when we allow Christ to move in and through us, to live more like him in humility, that when we do so, we are reflecting Christ to people who need to experience Christ. And I think that's significant. And finally, it's weird to talk about because it's like, why am I ending on something that's valuable for us more so than for other people in a humility sermon? But I'm going to. Not only is there so much joy to be given by living lives of humility, but man, there's so much joy to be gained. If you will, I want to close this morning by getting to read the entirety of the hymn of Christ. We started the first time at verse five and we went through eight. I want to read it in its entirety this morning. I realized that I only put the second half up for the words. And so if you do have your Bibles out, that might be the place to do it. But if you will, just hear this, because I want you to hear the joy that comes through living a life that is changed by the humility of Christ and that reflects the humility of Christ. So if you will, we're going to read verses 5 through 11 together. Here's the new part. gave him the name that is above every name, that the name of Jesus every knee should bow. In heaven and on earth and under the earth, in every tongue acknowledge that Christ is Lord to the glory of God the Father. Christ's life of humility led to his exaltation that seated him at the right hand of God. And our humility, as it says, that we can get down on our knees and we can proclaim that Christ is Lord, that we can give our hearts and say, I know I am not enough, nor will I ever be enough, but because of Christ's humility, I will give my heart up to you, God. Take all of me for all of you. Allow me to live a life that in some small sliver of a way is marked by the humility of Christ. And when we do so, we are exalted. In Matthew, right out of the words, right out of God, of Christ's mouth, in Matthew 23, 12, it says this, for those who exalt themselves will be humbled. Get this, those who humble themselves will be exalted. When we humble ourselves before the Father, then we can be exalted with the Son. And man, when we're exalted, when we've experienced having a debt paid that we did not owe and recognizing and understanding how little that makes sense and how unbelievable the grace of God is, when we understand the humility of Christ and the sacrifice that he made in his humility for us, also that we could be exalted to where when God looks at us, he sees Christ, I think it becomes a lot easier to live a life that's marked by humility. So, as we sing again, we sing asking God to make us more like Jesus. Maybe as we sing, we can pray and asking God this week in humility, how might I be able to do that? Will you pray with me? Lord, we love you so much. We're thankful for your son, his ultimate humility and sacrifice, and that because of that, we are exalted for eternity. God, I just pray that that sinks into our hearts so much so that we live our lives with something that looks even close to similar to that type of humility. Lord, we love you so, so much, and we are so thankful for you. Amen.
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Thank you, Steve and the band. I don't know if you guys realize this, but that's the first time we've had a full band since like March the 1st. So that was really great to get to have them. For those of you that I haven't gotten to meet, my name is Nate. I am the pastor here. Thank you for joining us online. Thank you for being here in person. Every week I get to see a few more new faces, folks brave enough to return, and it's always so, so good. And if you've been watching Faithfully Online, we are so, so grateful for you, and you're continuing to do that. This is the first Sunday of a new series called With. We're looking at a book called With, written by a pastor named Sky Jethani. I first encountered this book in 2013 and I have never read a book that caused me to pause, stop, put the book down, literally get on my knees and repent more than this book did. I identified with so much of it. So we've been encouraging you guys for a couple of weeks to pick it up. Normally, we'd buy a bunch of copies and we'd leave them here, but that's a lot of touching and handling of money and the whole deal, so we can't do that right now. So hopefully you've ordered your copy online. If you haven't done that, just Google With and Sky, S-K-Y-E. It'll come up. I've sent out email links. You can email me. I'll send you another link. I believe in you, okay? It's 2020. You can all find things online. Get the book. Read along with us. Speaking of reading along with us, we have a reading plan that will help pace you through the series. Kyle Tolbert, our great student pastor, comes up with reading plans for the church. If you don't know about those, they're on our live page, and we actually have new plans that are on the information table kind of spread out for you so you can grab them on the way out if you'd like to do that. Those give you a portion of the Bible to read every day. We talk about how important that is all the time, but in this particular reading plan, Kyle has paced out for you the chapters that you can read in with to keep up with and be ready for the upcoming sermon as we go through it together. This series, more than any other series I've ever done, is one that you really need to see all the Sundays. The first four weeks are going to be invested largely in talking about what we shouldn't do. And the last two weeks are going to be invested in talking about what we should do. So if today you leave and you feel beat up with no resolution, that's all right. Come back in four more weeks and we'll give you some resolution, okay? Because we're moving through the book together. So this is going to feel a little bit different. As we begin, I want to help you see why I believe you should be interested in the contents of this book. I'm going to take you through an exercise that I do with all the couples that I do premarital counseling with. When I do premarital counseling with a couple, I tell them that we're going to do three sessions of 60 to 90 minutes. They think I'm going to counsel them about their marriage. I'm not. I'm not a counselor. I don't know how to do that. I just disciple them for about three hours, talk to them about spiritual things, and try to get them prepared for marriage in that way. And so the first question I ask them is, granted, it's silly, okay? There's all kinds of theological issues with this question, but I just want to ask you to play along and play along there at home. Let me ask you this question, okay? On a scale of one to ten, one being completely apathetic or maybe even adversarial towards God, and ten being apex Christian, super spiritual, ten is Elijah on Mount Carmel calling down the fire to defeat the prophets of Baal, okay? One to 10, where are you spiritually? Spiritually speaking, in your walk with God, your walk, your relationship with Jesus, your spiritual health, however you phrase that, where are you on a scale of one to 10? Where would you place yourself right now on that scale, okay? You figure out your answer. Now, let me ask you this question. Where would you say you'd like to be five years from now? Five years from right now, today, you get to make decisions, you get to project forward, and hopefully you've progressed a little bit. Five years from now, what do you want your number to be? Now, with the couple that's going to get married, I usually at this point talk about, okay, well, what's the gap between where you are now? Most people will do four to six. No one's going to cop to a two or a three, and no one's going to claim or a seven or an eight. So most people's first answer is four to six, okay? So you're a five now. What do you want to be? And then most people say seven or eight. I've never had anybody say 10. I don't know why, nobody wants to be a 10. Nobody's like, I don't wanna be that spiritual. That's too much. Nobody wants that, I don't know why. I think that's an issue. It's another sermon that I need to do. It's probably a failing of their pastor to not paint a great enough picture of ultimate spiritual help. And I asked them, okay, how do we get from like a five to an eight? What are the gaps? What are the things in the way? And we kind of plot a course for spiritual growth for them. Really, it's an exercise to help them prioritize spiritual growth. But to you, I would ask this question. You have your answer now. Here's what I am now. I'm a five. What do you want to be in five? I wanna be an eight. Okay, great, you have your two numbers. Let me ask you this question. If I could have talked to you five years ago, how would you have answered that question? If I could right now go back to five years ago you, what are you now, what do you wanna be in five years? What would your answer have been? Probably the same as the answer you just gave, right? Yeah? To be a Christian is to know what it is to be stagnant. To be a Christian is to know what it is to see other people who seem like, they seem like they're flourishing. They seem like they know Jesus in a way that I don't. They seem like they respond to worship in ways that my soul doesn't. They are able to get up and read their Bible every day. I can't seem to do that. They pray all the time. I can't seem to pray. They have this spirituality that I'm not sure I'll ever understand. To be a Christian, I believe, is to be frustrated with our spiritual walk. It's to feel stagnant and discouraged, like we should be further along than we are. Now, some of you five years ago, you were a totally different human. You didn't know Jesus. You weren't saved. So maybe for you, the question is, where were you two years ago? But I think that to be a believer is to be very familiar with that feeling of inadequacy, with that feeling of I should be further along. Because if I asked you five years ago, what are you? And you said five, and the answer is eight, then today you should have said eight, and I want to be a 10. But I think that to be a Christian is to sometimes be discouraged about our spiritual lives. And this is directly what this book speaks to. This is why if you can relate to what I just said at all, if your answers were the same five years ago and now, then I think this book can help you tremendously. And I want to begin this series by simply making this statement for you to consider. And we're going to talk about what this means. Maybe your walk isn't what it could be because your posture isn't what it should be. Maybe your walk with God, your relationship with God, isn't what it could be because your posture before God isn't what it should be. We're going to talk about what postures are, but in this book with, Sky takes five postures before the Lord. He calls them postures. I kind of think about them as motivations. He takes five postures before the Lord. If you haven't figured this out yet, four of them are bad. One is good. If you haven't figured out what the good posture is yet, just stick around. You'll pick it up with context clues. I believe in you. So the next four weeks, we're going to go over these postures that we often assume without necessarily knowing it and try to understand why these aren't helpful. And in the last two weeks, we're going to look at what the right posture is before the Lord, and I hope help us find ways to begin walking in a depth that we've never experienced before, so that five years from now, you would answer that question totally differently. This morning, we're going to look at the first posture called life under God. Very simply, to understand this posture, life under God is this. Life under God says, I offer you obedience, and you offer me protection. Life under God says, I offer you obedience, and you offer me protection. I forgot there in your notes, there's a spot that says, what do you really want from your relationship with God? That's a good diagnostic question. If I ask myself this, what do I want from my relationship with God? That's a good way to figure out what our posture is as we go through these. But the life under God posture says, I offer you obedience and you offer me protection. This is a posture that's present in every religion ever because this is what this posture acknowledges. The world is big. The world's crazy. Sometimes there's pandemics. There's things outside of my control. There's school shootings and there's cancer and there's illness and there's difficult phone calls and there's loss and there's undue pain and there's all kinds of crazy things that happen in this world that are outside my control, that are beyond my control. This posture acknowledges that and it acknowledges and there's a God in heaven who's controlled none of these things are outside of. There's a God in heaven who's sovereign and he's in control of everything. So I'm going to figure out how to get that God on my side so that he will protect me. This is the life under God posture. I said this was every religion ever, right? This is, think about the ancient Mayans performing sacrifices to try to appease the gods to get them on their side for a good crop or for a good war or for a good rain or whatever it is. We know that things in this world are outside our control. We know that there is a sovereign God who can control them. And so we orchestrate our lives in such a way to please the God so that he will look out for us. The life under God posture assumes that if things are going well for you, if you're blessed, then you must have behaved. If you are going through difficult times, you must not be right with God. And though none of us would admit readily that this is our posture before the Father, this attitude and mindset shows up all the time in everything that we do. I hear it every time I golf. Every time I go golfing, on the tee box, someone hits a drive that is going very clearly into the woods. This is never me. I strike mine 275 down the middle every time. But if you're golfing with like Harris Winston or something like that, it's definitely going to go really far into the woods. And as it goes really far into the woods, it's clearly going to be lost. You'll hear the solid sound. It will have bounced off a tree miraculously and bounced back into the fairway. And someone will say, it's total luck. And someone will always quip. Someone's been living clean. That's clean living. Someone had their quiet time this morning. As if you have been following God's rules, so now on the golf course, he's going to throw you a bone and a squirrel's going to kick it out there for you. You're in a parking lot. It's crowded. It's Walmart. It's Sunday afternoon. In the middle of COVID, there's only one entrance and everything's so far away. And then this one spot opens up. God is looking out for me. You must be living right. That's life under God. Life under God is an exchange. It says, I'll follow your rules and you protect me. And we laugh about it, but it shows up in far more insidious ways than that. And see, there's issues with this posture, with this exchange, with this transactional relationship that we would engage in with God. And I want to point out to you three big ones this morning. The first real issue with this posture is it inevitably leads to disillusionment. It leads to disillusionment every time. If you adopt this posture and your posture before God is, I'm going to follow your rules and you're going to protect me. It's this transactional contract that we enter into with him. 100% of the times, it will make you feel like I felt standing in the middle of Papa Murphy's pizza. I went a couple years ago. A couple years ago, Jen and I decided that we wanted pizza. It was once a year that we eat pizza. We're very healthy people. We don't do this a lot. We went to Jets. There was a Jets close to our house. Love Jets pizza. Love their thick crust with pepperoni. It's so good. And so I went to Jets. I'm so excited. I was just all in on fat day. Let's just go. I'm going to have it. I'm going to eat it all. And I get to Jets and there's a sign that it's closed. They moved to Creedmoor. I like Jets. I don't like Jets that far away. I don't like it that much. So there's another place that opened up in that same shopping center called Papa Murphy's Pizza. And I'm like, all right, pizza's pizza. I'll go to Papa Murphy's. So I go over there and I'm looking at the menu and this is just like an old man, angry old man rant. It has nothing to do with the sermon. But I at the menu, and there's no like proper names. I want like, I need like Supreme and Meat Lovers and Pepperoni. Like I need just normal pizza names that we all agree on, and they're getting cute with it. It's like Papa's Favorite, Mama's Best, and I'm like, I don't want to read all the ingredients. I just want a Supreme, you know, like just name it Supreme. Anyways, I get up to the front. The girl says, what do you want? And I said, do you have just like a supreme pizza? I don't want to read all the things. And she goes, yeah, that's mama's best. I'm like, great, give me that. So she goes, okay. I said, take a large. And I said, I'm going to go get some groceries. I'll come back and pick it up. She said, that's great. So I go, here's Teeter, get my stuff, put it in the car, go back in, Papa Murphy's, I'm sitting down looking at Twitter or something like that and just messing around. And then they say, hey, your order's ready. So I get up and go, okay, I walk over to the girl and she hands me this thing. And it's cold. It's in like this foil pan with cellophane on the top. And I go, this isn't my order. And she goes, you're Nate, right? I said, yeah. She goes, mama's best? I'm like, yeah. She goes, yeah, that's it. And I go, what, do I have to cook it? What are you talking about? What? And everybody in the store turns and looks at me and starts giggling. The manager looks at me and just starts laughing. I go, I can cook this? And I'm about to say, here, you take it. Like, just give me my money back. I don't agree to this deal. You just take the chore that you just put in my hands. You take that back. And the girl, she was so sweet, she's laughing and she says, sir, I promise you it's really good. Just put it in the oven for like 12 minutes. It's gonna be great. Okay, fine. So I take it home. I'm so angry that they violated the pizza contract. I go home, I put it in the oven, I get it out. I don't have a way to remove the foil from this large pizza, so I've got like a knife and fork situation where I'm sweating now, I need a towel. And I'm trying to get this pizza out of the thing. And then I realized I don't have a pizza cutter and I don't have a stone big enough to cut this pizza. So I have to put it on the countertop with like paper underneath it with a butcher knife, like burning my knuckles as I try to cut this pizza. They handed me a chore, man. I was so angry because what they did is they violated the unwritten American pizza contract. The American pizza contract is simply, listen, I give you $12. You give me a hot pizza cut in a box. That's it. I'm going to take that pizza home. I'm going to put those pieces on paper plates, and I'm going to throw it all away, and I'm going to sit in my shame after I'm done. That's the deal. And you violated this. You gave me a chore. I don't want to cook. If I wanted to cook, I would have gone there and gotten the ingredients and cooked, but clearly that's not what I want to do. You broke the contract, man. I want my money back. When we adopt the life under God posture, we will have a moment just like that. Where we sit before God and we think, this isn't the deal. You broke the contract. I gave you my obedience. Now you give me protection. That's the deal. And God says, I never made that deal with you. I won't be reduced to that. If you've been a Christian for any amount of time and you've adopted this posture, and I believe we all have at different points, you've experienced that disillusionment. You know exactly what that is. That disillusionment almost always comes at unwarranted pain. When you experience a time in life where you feel like you are enduring unfair pain, unfair stress, you lose a loved one, someone gets sick, you get a difficult diagnosis, you face a tough loss, you watch a relationship in shambles, you don't have the job that you identified with anymore. When your life sits in shambles, that is usually when we have our moment of disillusionment and we look at God and we felt like I felt in the middle of that pizzeria that day, this isn't the deal, I want my money back. For some of you, that disillusionment wrecked your faith years ago and you're still recovering. If you haven't had this moment, you will. And the life under God posture sets us up to be disillusioned and frustrated. It sets us up to shipwreck our faith. There's no better example of someone who had this mindset and had to be set straight than Job in the Bible. Job is actually, he perfectly illustrates not only this first problem, but the second problem as well. The second problem with this life under God posture is it reduces and seeks to control God. It looks like we're following the rules. It looks like we're submitted. It looks like we're being obedient, doing everything that we're supposed to do. But in our hearts is this motivation, this murkiness that's pushing us to seek to control God. I can't control the universe, so I'm going to appease the God that can, and then you owe me. I've behaved well, now you owe me protection. It seeks to control God. And we see this posture all over the story of Job. Job is the first wisdom book in the Bible. It was the first book of the Bible ever written. The Monday Night Men's group is actually going over the book of Job this semester. So if I say something in here that interests you or that sparks you, I would encourage you to sign up for that. But some of you are familiar with the story of Job. Others may have forgotten and some may not have heard it yet. So just as a primer, I'll tell you what's happening. Job is the most righteous man that's alive at the time. And God allows Satan to torment him. And he torments him in devastating ways. Job is a very wealthy man. He loses all of his wealth. He loses all of his real estate holdings. He loses all of his servants and employees. He even loses his children. He has boils on his skin. His wife's advice to him is curse God and die. You want to talk about someone that experienced unwarranted and unfair pain? Job. And the first 36 chapters of the book are his friends giving him advice in three different cycles. And this advice is riddled with the life under God posture. They come to him and they say, Job, what have you done? What have you done to deserve this kind of punishment from God? You've lost your real estate. You've lost all your buildings. What did you do? Certainly you are hiding some secret sin, Job. And Job says, no, I'm not. Like, I'm not doing that. I promise I'm not. And then they come back a second time. They're like, no, no, no, Job, you're not listening to us. What is it that you're doing? What have you done? Because clearly you have sinned against the Lord, and that's why you're being punished in this way. Clearly you violated your side of the contract, and that's why God's not keeping up his end of the deal. It's this life under God posture. And after three cycles of this, where they become really pointed with him, Job still refuses and says, no, that's not what I'm doing. I don't have some secret unrepented sin. So he demands an audience with God. And he goes to God to shake his fist at him and to say, hey, this isn't fair, man. This isn't part of the deal. I've always honored you. I've always worshiped you. I raised my kids to follow you and love you. I offer you everything and you're letting this happen to me. This isn't fair, God. And any of us that have ever experienced that moment of disillusion where we would look at God and we would go, this isn't fair. I've shared with you before, mine and Jen's struggle to have kids. With every new young couple that would so easily have two and three and five children, I would look at God and go, what gives, man? This isn't fair. This isn't the deal. I think we've all said that to God at one point or another in our own ways. God's response to Job is profound. And it is not at all what you would expect. Job asks for an audience with God to say, hey God, what's the deal? This isn't fair. And God's response is one of anger and frustration. Look at what God says to Job. This is amazing to me. It's one of the most profound things in the Bible. Chapter 38, then the Lord answered Job out of the whirlwind and said, who is this that darkens my counsel with words without knowledge? Dress for action like a man. I will question you and you will make it known to me. Does that sound like a God who's about to go, yeah, my bad, I didn't keep up my end of the deal. Here's why I broke contract. Sounds like God is angry. I had a professor one time say, Job wanted a man-to-man conversation with God. The problem was he was one man short. God says, who is this that darkens my counsel with words without knowledge? You want to talk to me like a man? Okay, dress yourself like a man. It angers God. And then God, for two chapters, proceeds to ask him questions. He says, where were you, Job, when I laid the foundations of the world? Surely you know. Surely you understand, Job, the inner workings of the universe. If you're asking me this question, you want to understand how I orchestrate everything, how I run the universe, you're questioning my leadership, then maybe you can explain to me how the Leviathan and the behemoth came into being. Maybe you can explain to me how the world works. Surely you were there when I told the oceans that they can go this far and no further. When I drew the boundaries of the continents, surely you know Job. And God's response is very clear to Job. Job, most righteous man to ever live, who in the season of his life adopted the life under God posture. God says, hey man, you've forgotten your place. I'm the creator. You're the creation. I won't be reduced to your contracts. I will not be reduced to your control. You don't get to follow the rules like I'm some pagan God and then hold my feet to the fire about the contract that I didn't enter into. That's not the deal. I'm God. You're not going to understand me. And I think one of the most difficult things about the Christian life is to understand there are going to be parts of God that we can't understand. God's point here with Job is, even if I explained it to you, even if I set you down and told me everything that I was thinking with what's going on in your life, even if I told you everything that I could, it would be like you trying to explain yourself to a six-month-old. It's just not going to work. We don't have the capacity to understand. And when we adopt this life under God posture, it seeks to reduce God to our level and it seeks to control him and it angers God because he's not gonna enter into our contracts with us. The last problem is highlighted by Jesus himself. The last problem with this posture that we wanna look at this morning is that it turns us into legalistic hypocrites. If we adopt this life under God posture, I'm going to obey you and you protect me, it turns us into legalistic hypocrites. Because in this posture, what we assume is those who are blessed are obedient and those who are struggling are disobedient. This attitude was around when Jesus walked the earth. They came upon a blind man one day and the disciples, his disciples looked at him and they said, what did he do or his parents do that made him blind? What's their sin? That's life under God posture. And what this does is it reduces relationship to a set of rules. It takes the relationship that Jesus wants with us, that he created us for, to be in relation with him, and it reduces it to a set of rules. And it makes it, this posture makes it entirely possible to appear outwardly spiritual because you follow the rules and your life seems blessed when inside you're rotting away because there's no relationship at all. It robs the relationship of all emotions and the actual relationship that it should be. It's kind of like church over the summer. The thing that broke my heart about church during COVID is that church is a fundamentally communal institution. And I had to get up in this room and preach. And it felt like a performance to an empty room. And hope that you guys would watch it three days later. And I don't know about you. But church got to feeling pretty empty for me over the summer. Because there was no community in the church. And that's what makes the church the church. From a human standpoint. And we do the same thing with our relationship with Jesus. If we reduce it to a set of rules, things I have to do to be right with God, we remove the relationship from it and it becomes empty. There's no better example of this than the Pharisees. The religious leaders in Jesus's day were experts at this. Outwardly, they looked great. They were living the blessed life. They were good. Everyone looked to them and tried to get on their level. If I asked the Pharisees, where's your relationship with God and where do you want it to be? They'd be like, I'm currently at a 10. I would like it to remain at a 10. That's the Pharisees because they have it all together on the outside. But here's what Jesus says to this group of people in Matthew 23. In Matthew 23, verse 27, he says, you're like a dirty cup that's been cleaned on the outside, but inside you're filthy. He looks at the religious leaders of the day, the ones who are supposed to know better. And he says, you're hypocrites. You're whitewashed tombs. It's a pretty tombstone with a rotting carcass underneath it. When we adopt this life under God posture and we reduce our relationship to a set of rules, it turns us into legalistic hypocrites who on the outside can look like they have their life together and on the inside are rotting away. This incidentally is how someone can know more Bible than anyone you've ever known in your life and be a jerk. So I would ask you as we finish, and I warned you, I'm not giving you a resolution here. I'm not saying, so this is the right way to do it. I'm just saying that's bad. And I would end this week by asking you this question, and this is what caused me repentance. And if this resonated with you, I would really encourage you to read the chapter and follow along with it. But I would ask you this week, as you're introspective and look at yourself, how much of this posture do you see in you? How much of this do you see in you? How much over the years have you followed God because somehow by following him, I'm going to appease him and win favor? Have you ever had something big in your life coming up and so all of a sudden you get real spiritual? You ever had something super bad happen and then you get really spiritual? I don't want this to happen again. That's a life under God posture. And when we adopt this posture, it will lead to disillusionment. We reduce God and we try to control him. And ultimately, we end up legalistic hypocrites who have removed the relational part from the relationship with Jesus and replaced it with rules. And we become whitewashed tombs. So how much of this exists in you? Let's pray and then Steve's going to come and introduce to us a new song for the series. Father, we love you. We're grateful for you. Lord, I know that within us, those of us who know you, is a desire to know you more. I know that within us is a desire to grow. Within us is a holy dissatisfaction with where we are and a divine yearning to know you better. God, I pray that you would make a path for us. Would you give us the honesty in our hearts and in our minds to be honest with you and with ourselves about where we stand and how we've approached you? God, if we have come to you simply because we want you to protect us, simply because we want you to bless us, and not because we want you, would you convict us of that? And would you show us a better way? It's in your son's name we pray. Amen.
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Thank you, Steve and the band. I don't know if you guys realize this, but that's the first time we've had a full band since like March the 1st. So that was really great to get to have them. For those of you that I haven't gotten to meet, my name is Nate. I am the pastor here. Thank you for joining us online. Thank you for being here in person. Every week I get to see a few more new faces, folks brave enough to return, and it's always so, so good. And if you've been watching Faithfully Online, we are so, so grateful for you, and you're continuing to do that. This is the first Sunday of a new series called With. We're looking at a book called With, written by a pastor named Sky Jethani. I first encountered this book in 2013 and I have never read a book that caused me to pause, stop, put the book down, literally get on my knees and repent more than this book did. I identified with so much of it. So we've been encouraging you guys for a couple of weeks to pick it up. Normally, we'd buy a bunch of copies and we'd leave them here, but that's a lot of touching and handling of money and the whole deal, so we can't do that right now. So hopefully you've ordered your copy online. If you haven't done that, just Google With and Sky, S-K-Y-E. It'll come up. I've sent out email links. You can email me. I'll send you another link. I believe in you, okay? It's 2020. You can all find things online. Get the book. Read along with us. Speaking of reading along with us, we have a reading plan that will help pace you through the series. Kyle Tolbert, our great student pastor, comes up with reading plans for the church. If you don't know about those, they're on our live page, and we actually have new plans that are on the information table kind of spread out for you so you can grab them on the way out if you'd like to do that. Those give you a portion of the Bible to read every day. We talk about how important that is all the time, but in this particular reading plan, Kyle has paced out for you the chapters that you can read in with to keep up with and be ready for the upcoming sermon as we go through it together. This series, more than any other series I've ever done, is one that you really need to see all the Sundays. The first four weeks are going to be invested largely in talking about what we shouldn't do. And the last two weeks are going to be invested in talking about what we should do. So if today you leave and you feel beat up with no resolution, that's all right. Come back in four more weeks and we'll give you some resolution, okay? Because we're moving through the book together. So this is going to feel a little bit different. As we begin, I want to help you see why I believe you should be interested in the contents of this book. I'm going to take you through an exercise that I do with all the couples that I do premarital counseling with. When I do premarital counseling with a couple, I tell them that we're going to do three sessions of 60 to 90 minutes. They think I'm going to counsel them about their marriage. I'm not. I'm not a counselor. I don't know how to do that. I just disciple them for about three hours, talk to them about spiritual things, and try to get them prepared for marriage in that way. And so the first question I ask them is, granted, it's silly, okay? There's all kinds of theological issues with this question, but I just want to ask you to play along and play along there at home. Let me ask you this question, okay? On a scale of one to ten, one being completely apathetic or maybe even adversarial towards God, and ten being apex Christian, super spiritual, ten is Elijah on Mount Carmel calling down the fire to defeat the prophets of Baal, okay? One to 10, where are you spiritually? Spiritually speaking, in your walk with God, your walk, your relationship with Jesus, your spiritual health, however you phrase that, where are you on a scale of one to 10? Where would you place yourself right now on that scale, okay? You figure out your answer. Now, let me ask you this question. Where would you say you'd like to be five years from now? Five years from right now, today, you get to make decisions, you get to project forward, and hopefully you've progressed a little bit. Five years from now, what do you want your number to be? Now, with the couple that's going to get married, I usually at this point talk about, okay, well, what's the gap between where you are now? Most people will do four to six. No one's going to cop to a two or a three, and no one's going to claim or a seven or an eight. So most people's first answer is four to six, okay? So you're a five now. What do you want to be? And then most people say seven or eight. I've never had anybody say 10. I don't know why, nobody wants to be a 10. Nobody's like, I don't wanna be that spiritual. That's too much. Nobody wants that, I don't know why. I think that's an issue. It's another sermon that I need to do. It's probably a failing of their pastor to not paint a great enough picture of ultimate spiritual help. And I asked them, okay, how do we get from like a five to an eight? What are the gaps? What are the things in the way? And we kind of plot a course for spiritual growth for them. Really, it's an exercise to help them prioritize spiritual growth. But to you, I would ask this question. You have your answer now. Here's what I am now. I'm a five. What do you want to be in five? I wanna be an eight. Okay, great, you have your two numbers. Let me ask you this question. If I could have talked to you five years ago, how would you have answered that question? If I could right now go back to five years ago you, what are you now, what do you wanna be in five years? What would your answer have been? Probably the same as the answer you just gave, right? Yeah? To be a Christian is to know what it is to be stagnant. To be a Christian is to know what it is to see other people who seem like, they seem like they're flourishing. They seem like they know Jesus in a way that I don't. They seem like they respond to worship in ways that my soul doesn't. They are able to get up and read their Bible every day. I can't seem to do that. They pray all the time. I can't seem to pray. They have this spirituality that I'm not sure I'll ever understand. To be a Christian, I believe, is to be frustrated with our spiritual walk. It's to feel stagnant and discouraged, like we should be further along than we are. Now, some of you five years ago, you were a totally different human. You didn't know Jesus. You weren't saved. So maybe for you, the question is, where were you two years ago? But I think that to be a believer is to be very familiar with that feeling of inadequacy, with that feeling of I should be further along. Because if I asked you five years ago, what are you? And you said five, and the answer is eight, then today you should have said eight, and I want to be a 10. But I think that to be a Christian is to sometimes be discouraged about our spiritual lives. And this is directly what this book speaks to. This is why if you can relate to what I just said at all, if your answers were the same five years ago and now, then I think this book can help you tremendously. And I want to begin this series by simply making this statement for you to consider. And we're going to talk about what this means. Maybe your walk isn't what it could be because your posture isn't what it should be. Maybe your walk with God, your relationship with God, isn't what it could be because your posture before God isn't what it should be. We're going to talk about what postures are, but in this book with, Sky takes five postures before the Lord. He calls them postures. I kind of think about them as motivations. He takes five postures before the Lord. If you haven't figured this out yet, four of them are bad. One is good. If you haven't figured out what the good posture is yet, just stick around. You'll pick it up with context clues. I believe in you. So the next four weeks, we're going to go over these postures that we often assume without necessarily knowing it and try to understand why these aren't helpful. And in the last two weeks, we're going to look at what the right posture is before the Lord, and I hope help us find ways to begin walking in a depth that we've never experienced before, so that five years from now, you would answer that question totally differently. This morning, we're going to look at the first posture called life under God. Very simply, to understand this posture, life under God is this. Life under God says, I offer you obedience, and you offer me protection. Life under God says, I offer you obedience, and you offer me protection. I forgot there in your notes, there's a spot that says, what do you really want from your relationship with God? That's a good diagnostic question. If I ask myself this, what do I want from my relationship with God? That's a good way to figure out what our posture is as we go through these. But the life under God posture says, I offer you obedience and you offer me protection. This is a posture that's present in every religion ever because this is what this posture acknowledges. The world is big. The world's crazy. Sometimes there's pandemics. There's things outside of my control. There's school shootings and there's cancer and there's illness and there's difficult phone calls and there's loss and there's undue pain and there's all kinds of crazy things that happen in this world that are outside my control, that are beyond my control. This posture acknowledges that and it acknowledges and there's a God in heaven who's controlled none of these things are outside of. There's a God in heaven who's sovereign and he's in control of everything. So I'm going to figure out how to get that God on my side so that he will protect me. This is the life under God posture. I said this was every religion ever, right? This is, think about the ancient Mayans performing sacrifices to try to appease the gods to get them on their side for a good crop or for a good war or for a good rain or whatever it is. We know that things in this world are outside our control. We know that there is a sovereign God who can control them. And so we orchestrate our lives in such a way to please the God so that he will look out for us. The life under God posture assumes that if things are going well for you, if you're blessed, then you must have behaved. If you are going through difficult times, you must not be right with God. And though none of us would admit readily that this is our posture before the Father, this attitude and mindset shows up all the time in everything that we do. I hear it every time I golf. Every time I go golfing, on the tee box, someone hits a drive that is going very clearly into the woods. This is never me. I strike mine 275 down the middle every time. But if you're golfing with like Harris Winston or something like that, it's definitely going to go really far into the woods. And as it goes really far into the woods, it's clearly going to be lost. You'll hear the solid sound. It will have bounced off a tree miraculously and bounced back into the fairway. And someone will say, it's total luck. And someone will always quip. Someone's been living clean. That's clean living. Someone had their quiet time this morning. As if you have been following God's rules, so now on the golf course, he's going to throw you a bone and a squirrel's going to kick it out there for you. You're in a parking lot. It's crowded. It's Walmart. It's Sunday afternoon. In the middle of COVID, there's only one entrance and everything's so far away. And then this one spot opens up. God is looking out for me. You must be living right. That's life under God. Life under God is an exchange. It says, I'll follow your rules and you protect me. And we laugh about it, but it shows up in far more insidious ways than that. And see, there's issues with this posture, with this exchange, with this transactional relationship that we would engage in with God. And I want to point out to you three big ones this morning. The first real issue with this posture is it inevitably leads to disillusionment. It leads to disillusionment every time. If you adopt this posture and your posture before God is, I'm going to follow your rules and you're going to protect me. It's this transactional contract that we enter into with him. 100% of the times, it will make you feel like I felt standing in the middle of Papa Murphy's pizza. I went a couple years ago. A couple years ago, Jen and I decided that we wanted pizza. It was once a year that we eat pizza. We're very healthy people. We don't do this a lot. We went to Jets. There was a Jets close to our house. Love Jets pizza. Love their thick crust with pepperoni. It's so good. And so I went to Jets. I'm so excited. I was just all in on fat day. Let's just go. I'm going to have it. I'm going to eat it all. And I get to Jets and there's a sign that it's closed. They moved to Creedmoor. I like Jets. I don't like Jets that far away. I don't like it that much. So there's another place that opened up in that same shopping center called Papa Murphy's Pizza. And I'm like, all right, pizza's pizza. I'll go to Papa Murphy's. So I go over there and I'm looking at the menu and this is just like an old man, angry old man rant. It has nothing to do with the sermon. But I at the menu, and there's no like proper names. I want like, I need like Supreme and Meat Lovers and Pepperoni. Like I need just normal pizza names that we all agree on, and they're getting cute with it. It's like Papa's Favorite, Mama's Best, and I'm like, I don't want to read all the ingredients. I just want a Supreme, you know, like just name it Supreme. Anyways, I get up to the front. The girl says, what do you want? And I said, do you have just like a supreme pizza? I don't want to read all the things. And she goes, yeah, that's mama's best. I'm like, great, give me that. So she goes, okay. I said, take a large. And I said, I'm going to go get some groceries. I'll come back and pick it up. She said, that's great. So I go, here's Teeter, get my stuff, put it in the car, go back in, Papa Murphy's, I'm sitting down looking at Twitter or something like that and just messing around. And then they say, hey, your order's ready. So I get up and go, okay, I walk over to the girl and she hands me this thing. And it's cold. It's in like this foil pan with cellophane on the top. And I go, this isn't my order. And she goes, you're Nate, right? I said, yeah. She goes, mama's best? I'm like, yeah. She goes, yeah, that's it. And I go, what, do I have to cook it? What are you talking about? What? And everybody in the store turns and looks at me and starts giggling. The manager looks at me and just starts laughing. I go, I can cook this? And I'm about to say, here, you take it. Like, just give me my money back. I don't agree to this deal. You just take the chore that you just put in my hands. You take that back. And the girl, she was so sweet, she's laughing and she says, sir, I promise you it's really good. Just put it in the oven for like 12 minutes. It's gonna be great. Okay, fine. So I take it home. I'm so angry that they violated the pizza contract. I go home, I put it in the oven, I get it out. I don't have a way to remove the foil from this large pizza, so I've got like a knife and fork situation where I'm sweating now, I need a towel. And I'm trying to get this pizza out of the thing. And then I realized I don't have a pizza cutter and I don't have a stone big enough to cut this pizza. So I have to put it on the countertop with like paper underneath it with a butcher knife, like burning my knuckles as I try to cut this pizza. They handed me a chore, man. I was so angry because what they did is they violated the unwritten American pizza contract. The American pizza contract is simply, listen, I give you $12. You give me a hot pizza cut in a box. That's it. I'm going to take that pizza home. I'm going to put those pieces on paper plates, and I'm going to throw it all away, and I'm going to sit in my shame after I'm done. That's the deal. And you violated this. You gave me a chore. I don't want to cook. If I wanted to cook, I would have gone there and gotten the ingredients and cooked, but clearly that's not what I want to do. You broke the contract, man. I want my money back. When we adopt the life under God posture, we will have a moment just like that. Where we sit before God and we think, this isn't the deal. You broke the contract. I gave you my obedience. Now you give me protection. That's the deal. And God says, I never made that deal with you. I won't be reduced to that. If you've been a Christian for any amount of time and you've adopted this posture, and I believe we all have at different points, you've experienced that disillusionment. You know exactly what that is. That disillusionment almost always comes at unwarranted pain. When you experience a time in life where you feel like you are enduring unfair pain, unfair stress, you lose a loved one, someone gets sick, you get a difficult diagnosis, you face a tough loss, you watch a relationship in shambles, you don't have the job that you identified with anymore. When your life sits in shambles, that is usually when we have our moment of disillusionment and we look at God and we felt like I felt in the middle of that pizzeria that day, this isn't the deal, I want my money back. For some of you, that disillusionment wrecked your faith years ago and you're still recovering. If you haven't had this moment, you will. And the life under God posture sets us up to be disillusioned and frustrated. It sets us up to shipwreck our faith. There's no better example of someone who had this mindset and had to be set straight than Job in the Bible. Job is actually, he perfectly illustrates not only this first problem, but the second problem as well. The second problem with this life under God posture is it reduces and seeks to control God. It looks like we're following the rules. It looks like we're submitted. It looks like we're being obedient, doing everything that we're supposed to do. But in our hearts is this motivation, this murkiness that's pushing us to seek to control God. I can't control the universe, so I'm going to appease the God that can, and then you owe me. I've behaved well, now you owe me protection. It seeks to control God. And we see this posture all over the story of Job. Job is the first wisdom book in the Bible. It was the first book of the Bible ever written. The Monday Night Men's group is actually going over the book of Job this semester. So if I say something in here that interests you or that sparks you, I would encourage you to sign up for that. But some of you are familiar with the story of Job. Others may have forgotten and some may not have heard it yet. So just as a primer, I'll tell you what's happening. Job is the most righteous man that's alive at the time. And God allows Satan to torment him. And he torments him in devastating ways. Job is a very wealthy man. He loses all of his wealth. He loses all of his real estate holdings. He loses all of his servants and employees. He even loses his children. He has boils on his skin. His wife's advice to him is curse God and die. You want to talk about someone that experienced unwarranted and unfair pain? Job. And the first 36 chapters of the book are his friends giving him advice in three different cycles. And this advice is riddled with the life under God posture. They come to him and they say, Job, what have you done? What have you done to deserve this kind of punishment from God? You've lost your real estate. You've lost all your buildings. What did you do? Certainly you are hiding some secret sin, Job. And Job says, no, I'm not. Like, I'm not doing that. I promise I'm not. And then they come back a second time. They're like, no, no, no, Job, you're not listening to us. What is it that you're doing? What have you done? Because clearly you have sinned against the Lord, and that's why you're being punished in this way. Clearly you violated your side of the contract, and that's why God's not keeping up his end of the deal. It's this life under God posture. And after three cycles of this, where they become really pointed with him, Job still refuses and says, no, that's not what I'm doing. I don't have some secret unrepented sin. So he demands an audience with God. And he goes to God to shake his fist at him and to say, hey, this isn't fair, man. This isn't part of the deal. I've always honored you. I've always worshiped you. I raised my kids to follow you and love you. I offer you everything and you're letting this happen to me. This isn't fair, God. And any of us that have ever experienced that moment of disillusion where we would look at God and we would go, this isn't fair. I've shared with you before, mine and Jen's struggle to have kids. With every new young couple that would so easily have two and three and five children, I would look at God and go, what gives, man? This isn't fair. This isn't the deal. I think we've all said that to God at one point or another in our own ways. God's response to Job is profound. And it is not at all what you would expect. Job asks for an audience with God to say, hey God, what's the deal? This isn't fair. And God's response is one of anger and frustration. Look at what God says to Job. This is amazing to me. It's one of the most profound things in the Bible. Chapter 38, then the Lord answered Job out of the whirlwind and said, who is this that darkens my counsel with words without knowledge? Dress for action like a man. I will question you and you will make it known to me. Does that sound like a God who's about to go, yeah, my bad, I didn't keep up my end of the deal. Here's why I broke contract. Sounds like God is angry. I had a professor one time say, Job wanted a man-to-man conversation with God. The problem was he was one man short. God says, who is this that darkens my counsel with words without knowledge? You want to talk to me like a man? Okay, dress yourself like a man. It angers God. And then God, for two chapters, proceeds to ask him questions. He says, where were you, Job, when I laid the foundations of the world? Surely you know. Surely you understand, Job, the inner workings of the universe. If you're asking me this question, you want to understand how I orchestrate everything, how I run the universe, you're questioning my leadership, then maybe you can explain to me how the Leviathan and the behemoth came into being. Maybe you can explain to me how the world works. Surely you were there when I told the oceans that they can go this far and no further. When I drew the boundaries of the continents, surely you know Job. And God's response is very clear to Job. Job, most righteous man to ever live, who in the season of his life adopted the life under God posture. God says, hey man, you've forgotten your place. I'm the creator. You're the creation. I won't be reduced to your contracts. I will not be reduced to your control. You don't get to follow the rules like I'm some pagan God and then hold my feet to the fire about the contract that I didn't enter into. That's not the deal. I'm God. You're not going to understand me. And I think one of the most difficult things about the Christian life is to understand there are going to be parts of God that we can't understand. God's point here with Job is, even if I explained it to you, even if I set you down and told me everything that I was thinking with what's going on in your life, even if I told you everything that I could, it would be like you trying to explain yourself to a six-month-old. It's just not going to work. We don't have the capacity to understand. And when we adopt this life under God posture, it seeks to reduce God to our level and it seeks to control him and it angers God because he's not gonna enter into our contracts with us. The last problem is highlighted by Jesus himself. The last problem with this posture that we wanna look at this morning is that it turns us into legalistic hypocrites. If we adopt this life under God posture, I'm going to obey you and you protect me, it turns us into legalistic hypocrites. Because in this posture, what we assume is those who are blessed are obedient and those who are struggling are disobedient. This attitude was around when Jesus walked the earth. They came upon a blind man one day and the disciples, his disciples looked at him and they said, what did he do or his parents do that made him blind? What's their sin? That's life under God posture. And what this does is it reduces relationship to a set of rules. It takes the relationship that Jesus wants with us, that he created us for, to be in relation with him, and it reduces it to a set of rules. And it makes it, this posture makes it entirely possible to appear outwardly spiritual because you follow the rules and your life seems blessed when inside you're rotting away because there's no relationship at all. It robs the relationship of all emotions and the actual relationship that it should be. It's kind of like church over the summer. The thing that broke my heart about church during COVID is that church is a fundamentally communal institution. And I had to get up in this room and preach. And it felt like a performance to an empty room. And hope that you guys would watch it three days later. And I don't know about you. But church got to feeling pretty empty for me over the summer. Because there was no community in the church. And that's what makes the church the church. From a human standpoint. And we do the same thing with our relationship with Jesus. If we reduce it to a set of rules, things I have to do to be right with God, we remove the relationship from it and it becomes empty. There's no better example of this than the Pharisees. The religious leaders in Jesus's day were experts at this. Outwardly, they looked great. They were living the blessed life. They were good. Everyone looked to them and tried to get on their level. If I asked the Pharisees, where's your relationship with God and where do you want it to be? They'd be like, I'm currently at a 10. I would like it to remain at a 10. That's the Pharisees because they have it all together on the outside. But here's what Jesus says to this group of people in Matthew 23. In Matthew 23, verse 27, he says, you're like a dirty cup that's been cleaned on the outside, but inside you're filthy. He looks at the religious leaders of the day, the ones who are supposed to know better. And he says, you're hypocrites. You're whitewashed tombs. It's a pretty tombstone with a rotting carcass underneath it. When we adopt this life under God posture and we reduce our relationship to a set of rules, it turns us into legalistic hypocrites who on the outside can look like they have their life together and on the inside are rotting away. This incidentally is how someone can know more Bible than anyone you've ever known in your life and be a jerk. So I would ask you as we finish, and I warned you, I'm not giving you a resolution here. I'm not saying, so this is the right way to do it. I'm just saying that's bad. And I would end this week by asking you this question, and this is what caused me repentance. And if this resonated with you, I would really encourage you to read the chapter and follow along with it. But I would ask you this week, as you're introspective and look at yourself, how much of this posture do you see in you? How much of this do you see in you? How much over the years have you followed God because somehow by following him, I'm going to appease him and win favor? Have you ever had something big in your life coming up and so all of a sudden you get real spiritual? You ever had something super bad happen and then you get really spiritual? I don't want this to happen again. That's a life under God posture. And when we adopt this posture, it will lead to disillusionment. We reduce God and we try to control him. And ultimately, we end up legalistic hypocrites who have removed the relational part from the relationship with Jesus and replaced it with rules. And we become whitewashed tombs. So how much of this exists in you? Let's pray and then Steve's going to come and introduce to us a new song for the series. Father, we love you. We're grateful for you. Lord, I know that within us, those of us who know you, is a desire to know you more. I know that within us is a desire to grow. Within us is a holy dissatisfaction with where we are and a divine yearning to know you better. God, I pray that you would make a path for us. Would you give us the honesty in our hearts and in our minds to be honest with you and with ourselves about where we stand and how we've approached you? God, if we have come to you simply because we want you to protect us, simply because we want you to bless us, and not because we want you, would you convict us of that? And would you show us a better way? It's in your son's name we pray. Amen.
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Thank you, Steve and the band. I don't know if you guys realize this, but that's the first time we've had a full band since like March the 1st. So that was really great to get to have them. For those of you that I haven't gotten to meet, my name is Nate. I am the pastor here. Thank you for joining us online. Thank you for being here in person. Every week I get to see a few more new faces, folks brave enough to return, and it's always so, so good. And if you've been watching Faithfully Online, we are so, so grateful for you, and you're continuing to do that. This is the first Sunday of a new series called With. We're looking at a book called With, written by a pastor named Sky Jethani. I first encountered this book in 2013 and I have never read a book that caused me to pause, stop, put the book down, literally get on my knees and repent more than this book did. I identified with so much of it. So we've been encouraging you guys for a couple of weeks to pick it up. Normally, we'd buy a bunch of copies and we'd leave them here, but that's a lot of touching and handling of money and the whole deal, so we can't do that right now. So hopefully you've ordered your copy online. If you haven't done that, just Google With and Sky, S-K-Y-E. It'll come up. I've sent out email links. You can email me. I'll send you another link. I believe in you, okay? It's 2020. You can all find things online. Get the book. Read along with us. Speaking of reading along with us, we have a reading plan that will help pace you through the series. Kyle Tolbert, our great student pastor, comes up with reading plans for the church. If you don't know about those, they're on our live page, and we actually have new plans that are on the information table kind of spread out for you so you can grab them on the way out if you'd like to do that. Those give you a portion of the Bible to read every day. We talk about how important that is all the time, but in this particular reading plan, Kyle has paced out for you the chapters that you can read in with to keep up with and be ready for the upcoming sermon as we go through it together. This series, more than any other series I've ever done, is one that you really need to see all the Sundays. The first four weeks are going to be invested largely in talking about what we shouldn't do. And the last two weeks are going to be invested in talking about what we should do. So if today you leave and you feel beat up with no resolution, that's all right. Come back in four more weeks and we'll give you some resolution, okay? Because we're moving through the book together. So this is going to feel a little bit different. As we begin, I want to help you see why I believe you should be interested in the contents of this book. I'm going to take you through an exercise that I do with all the couples that I do premarital counseling with. When I do premarital counseling with a couple, I tell them that we're going to do three sessions of 60 to 90 minutes. They think I'm going to counsel them about their marriage. I'm not. I'm not a counselor. I don't know how to do that. I just disciple them for about three hours, talk to them about spiritual things, and try to get them prepared for marriage in that way. And so the first question I ask them is, granted, it's silly, okay? There's all kinds of theological issues with this question, but I just want to ask you to play along and play along there at home. Let me ask you this question, okay? On a scale of one to ten, one being completely apathetic or maybe even adversarial towards God, and ten being apex Christian, super spiritual, ten is Elijah on Mount Carmel calling down the fire to defeat the prophets of Baal, okay? One to 10, where are you spiritually? Spiritually speaking, in your walk with God, your walk, your relationship with Jesus, your spiritual health, however you phrase that, where are you on a scale of one to 10? Where would you place yourself right now on that scale, okay? You figure out your answer. Now, let me ask you this question. Where would you say you'd like to be five years from now? Five years from right now, today, you get to make decisions, you get to project forward, and hopefully you've progressed a little bit. Five years from now, what do you want your number to be? Now, with the couple that's going to get married, I usually at this point talk about, okay, well, what's the gap between where you are now? Most people will do four to six. No one's going to cop to a two or a three, and no one's going to claim or a seven or an eight. So most people's first answer is four to six, okay? So you're a five now. What do you want to be? And then most people say seven or eight. I've never had anybody say 10. I don't know why, nobody wants to be a 10. Nobody's like, I don't wanna be that spiritual. That's too much. Nobody wants that, I don't know why. I think that's an issue. It's another sermon that I need to do. It's probably a failing of their pastor to not paint a great enough picture of ultimate spiritual help. And I asked them, okay, how do we get from like a five to an eight? What are the gaps? What are the things in the way? And we kind of plot a course for spiritual growth for them. Really, it's an exercise to help them prioritize spiritual growth. But to you, I would ask this question. You have your answer now. Here's what I am now. I'm a five. What do you want to be in five? I wanna be an eight. Okay, great, you have your two numbers. Let me ask you this question. If I could have talked to you five years ago, how would you have answered that question? If I could right now go back to five years ago you, what are you now, what do you wanna be in five years? What would your answer have been? Probably the same as the answer you just gave, right? Yeah? To be a Christian is to know what it is to be stagnant. To be a Christian is to know what it is to see other people who seem like, they seem like they're flourishing. They seem like they know Jesus in a way that I don't. They seem like they respond to worship in ways that my soul doesn't. They are able to get up and read their Bible every day. I can't seem to do that. They pray all the time. I can't seem to pray. They have this spirituality that I'm not sure I'll ever understand. To be a Christian, I believe, is to be frustrated with our spiritual walk. It's to feel stagnant and discouraged, like we should be further along than we are. Now, some of you five years ago, you were a totally different human. You didn't know Jesus. You weren't saved. So maybe for you, the question is, where were you two years ago? But I think that to be a believer is to be very familiar with that feeling of inadequacy, with that feeling of I should be further along. Because if I asked you five years ago, what are you? And you said five, and the answer is eight, then today you should have said eight, and I want to be a 10. But I think that to be a Christian is to sometimes be discouraged about our spiritual lives. And this is directly what this book speaks to. This is why if you can relate to what I just said at all, if your answers were the same five years ago and now, then I think this book can help you tremendously. And I want to begin this series by simply making this statement for you to consider. And we're going to talk about what this means. Maybe your walk isn't what it could be because your posture isn't what it should be. Maybe your walk with God, your relationship with God, isn't what it could be because your posture before God isn't what it should be. We're going to talk about what postures are, but in this book with, Sky takes five postures before the Lord. He calls them postures. I kind of think about them as motivations. He takes five postures before the Lord. If you haven't figured this out yet, four of them are bad. One is good. If you haven't figured out what the good posture is yet, just stick around. You'll pick it up with context clues. I believe in you. So the next four weeks, we're going to go over these postures that we often assume without necessarily knowing it and try to understand why these aren't helpful. And in the last two weeks, we're going to look at what the right posture is before the Lord, and I hope help us find ways to begin walking in a depth that we've never experienced before, so that five years from now, you would answer that question totally differently. This morning, we're going to look at the first posture called life under God. Very simply, to understand this posture, life under God is this. Life under God says, I offer you obedience, and you offer me protection. Life under God says, I offer you obedience, and you offer me protection. I forgot there in your notes, there's a spot that says, what do you really want from your relationship with God? That's a good diagnostic question. If I ask myself this, what do I want from my relationship with God? That's a good way to figure out what our posture is as we go through these. But the life under God posture says, I offer you obedience and you offer me protection. This is a posture that's present in every religion ever because this is what this posture acknowledges. The world is big. The world's crazy. Sometimes there's pandemics. There's things outside of my control. There's school shootings and there's cancer and there's illness and there's difficult phone calls and there's loss and there's undue pain and there's all kinds of crazy things that happen in this world that are outside my control, that are beyond my control. This posture acknowledges that and it acknowledges and there's a God in heaven who's controlled none of these things are outside of. There's a God in heaven who's sovereign and he's in control of everything. So I'm going to figure out how to get that God on my side so that he will protect me. This is the life under God posture. I said this was every religion ever, right? This is, think about the ancient Mayans performing sacrifices to try to appease the gods to get them on their side for a good crop or for a good war or for a good rain or whatever it is. We know that things in this world are outside our control. We know that there is a sovereign God who can control them. And so we orchestrate our lives in such a way to please the God so that he will look out for us. The life under God posture assumes that if things are going well for you, if you're blessed, then you must have behaved. If you are going through difficult times, you must not be right with God. And though none of us would admit readily that this is our posture before the Father, this attitude and mindset shows up all the time in everything that we do. I hear it every time I golf. Every time I go golfing, on the tee box, someone hits a drive that is going very clearly into the woods. This is never me. I strike mine 275 down the middle every time. But if you're golfing with like Harris Winston or something like that, it's definitely going to go really far into the woods. And as it goes really far into the woods, it's clearly going to be lost. You'll hear the solid sound. It will have bounced off a tree miraculously and bounced back into the fairway. And someone will say, it's total luck. And someone will always quip. Someone's been living clean. That's clean living. Someone had their quiet time this morning. As if you have been following God's rules, so now on the golf course, he's going to throw you a bone and a squirrel's going to kick it out there for you. You're in a parking lot. It's crowded. It's Walmart. It's Sunday afternoon. In the middle of COVID, there's only one entrance and everything's so far away. And then this one spot opens up. God is looking out for me. You must be living right. That's life under God. Life under God is an exchange. It says, I'll follow your rules and you protect me. And we laugh about it, but it shows up in far more insidious ways than that. And see, there's issues with this posture, with this exchange, with this transactional relationship that we would engage in with God. And I want to point out to you three big ones this morning. The first real issue with this posture is it inevitably leads to disillusionment. It leads to disillusionment every time. If you adopt this posture and your posture before God is, I'm going to follow your rules and you're going to protect me. It's this transactional contract that we enter into with him. 100% of the times, it will make you feel like I felt standing in the middle of Papa Murphy's pizza. I went a couple years ago. A couple years ago, Jen and I decided that we wanted pizza. It was once a year that we eat pizza. We're very healthy people. We don't do this a lot. We went to Jets. There was a Jets close to our house. Love Jets pizza. Love their thick crust with pepperoni. It's so good. And so I went to Jets. I'm so excited. I was just all in on fat day. Let's just go. I'm going to have it. I'm going to eat it all. And I get to Jets and there's a sign that it's closed. They moved to Creedmoor. I like Jets. I don't like Jets that far away. I don't like it that much. So there's another place that opened up in that same shopping center called Papa Murphy's Pizza. And I'm like, all right, pizza's pizza. I'll go to Papa Murphy's. So I go over there and I'm looking at the menu and this is just like an old man, angry old man rant. It has nothing to do with the sermon. But I at the menu, and there's no like proper names. I want like, I need like Supreme and Meat Lovers and Pepperoni. Like I need just normal pizza names that we all agree on, and they're getting cute with it. It's like Papa's Favorite, Mama's Best, and I'm like, I don't want to read all the ingredients. I just want a Supreme, you know, like just name it Supreme. Anyways, I get up to the front. The girl says, what do you want? And I said, do you have just like a supreme pizza? I don't want to read all the things. And she goes, yeah, that's mama's best. I'm like, great, give me that. So she goes, okay. I said, take a large. And I said, I'm going to go get some groceries. I'll come back and pick it up. She said, that's great. So I go, here's Teeter, get my stuff, put it in the car, go back in, Papa Murphy's, I'm sitting down looking at Twitter or something like that and just messing around. And then they say, hey, your order's ready. So I get up and go, okay, I walk over to the girl and she hands me this thing. And it's cold. It's in like this foil pan with cellophane on the top. And I go, this isn't my order. And she goes, you're Nate, right? I said, yeah. She goes, mama's best? I'm like, yeah. She goes, yeah, that's it. And I go, what, do I have to cook it? What are you talking about? What? And everybody in the store turns and looks at me and starts giggling. The manager looks at me and just starts laughing. I go, I can cook this? And I'm about to say, here, you take it. Like, just give me my money back. I don't agree to this deal. You just take the chore that you just put in my hands. You take that back. And the girl, she was so sweet, she's laughing and she says, sir, I promise you it's really good. Just put it in the oven for like 12 minutes. It's gonna be great. Okay, fine. So I take it home. I'm so angry that they violated the pizza contract. I go home, I put it in the oven, I get it out. I don't have a way to remove the foil from this large pizza, so I've got like a knife and fork situation where I'm sweating now, I need a towel. And I'm trying to get this pizza out of the thing. And then I realized I don't have a pizza cutter and I don't have a stone big enough to cut this pizza. So I have to put it on the countertop with like paper underneath it with a butcher knife, like burning my knuckles as I try to cut this pizza. They handed me a chore, man. I was so angry because what they did is they violated the unwritten American pizza contract. The American pizza contract is simply, listen, I give you $12. You give me a hot pizza cut in a box. That's it. I'm going to take that pizza home. I'm going to put those pieces on paper plates, and I'm going to throw it all away, and I'm going to sit in my shame after I'm done. That's the deal. And you violated this. You gave me a chore. I don't want to cook. If I wanted to cook, I would have gone there and gotten the ingredients and cooked, but clearly that's not what I want to do. You broke the contract, man. I want my money back. When we adopt the life under God posture, we will have a moment just like that. Where we sit before God and we think, this isn't the deal. You broke the contract. I gave you my obedience. Now you give me protection. That's the deal. And God says, I never made that deal with you. I won't be reduced to that. If you've been a Christian for any amount of time and you've adopted this posture, and I believe we all have at different points, you've experienced that disillusionment. You know exactly what that is. That disillusionment almost always comes at unwarranted pain. When you experience a time in life where you feel like you are enduring unfair pain, unfair stress, you lose a loved one, someone gets sick, you get a difficult diagnosis, you face a tough loss, you watch a relationship in shambles, you don't have the job that you identified with anymore. When your life sits in shambles, that is usually when we have our moment of disillusionment and we look at God and we felt like I felt in the middle of that pizzeria that day, this isn't the deal, I want my money back. For some of you, that disillusionment wrecked your faith years ago and you're still recovering. If you haven't had this moment, you will. And the life under God posture sets us up to be disillusioned and frustrated. It sets us up to shipwreck our faith. There's no better example of someone who had this mindset and had to be set straight than Job in the Bible. Job is actually, he perfectly illustrates not only this first problem, but the second problem as well. The second problem with this life under God posture is it reduces and seeks to control God. It looks like we're following the rules. It looks like we're submitted. It looks like we're being obedient, doing everything that we're supposed to do. But in our hearts is this motivation, this murkiness that's pushing us to seek to control God. I can't control the universe, so I'm going to appease the God that can, and then you owe me. I've behaved well, now you owe me protection. It seeks to control God. And we see this posture all over the story of Job. Job is the first wisdom book in the Bible. It was the first book of the Bible ever written. The Monday Night Men's group is actually going over the book of Job this semester. So if I say something in here that interests you or that sparks you, I would encourage you to sign up for that. But some of you are familiar with the story of Job. Others may have forgotten and some may not have heard it yet. So just as a primer, I'll tell you what's happening. Job is the most righteous man that's alive at the time. And God allows Satan to torment him. And he torments him in devastating ways. Job is a very wealthy man. He loses all of his wealth. He loses all of his real estate holdings. He loses all of his servants and employees. He even loses his children. He has boils on his skin. His wife's advice to him is curse God and die. You want to talk about someone that experienced unwarranted and unfair pain? Job. And the first 36 chapters of the book are his friends giving him advice in three different cycles. And this advice is riddled with the life under God posture. They come to him and they say, Job, what have you done? What have you done to deserve this kind of punishment from God? You've lost your real estate. You've lost all your buildings. What did you do? Certainly you are hiding some secret sin, Job. And Job says, no, I'm not. Like, I'm not doing that. I promise I'm not. And then they come back a second time. They're like, no, no, no, Job, you're not listening to us. What is it that you're doing? What have you done? Because clearly you have sinned against the Lord, and that's why you're being punished in this way. Clearly you violated your side of the contract, and that's why God's not keeping up his end of the deal. It's this life under God posture. And after three cycles of this, where they become really pointed with him, Job still refuses and says, no, that's not what I'm doing. I don't have some secret unrepented sin. So he demands an audience with God. And he goes to God to shake his fist at him and to say, hey, this isn't fair, man. This isn't part of the deal. I've always honored you. I've always worshiped you. I raised my kids to follow you and love you. I offer you everything and you're letting this happen to me. This isn't fair, God. And any of us that have ever experienced that moment of disillusion where we would look at God and we would go, this isn't fair. I've shared with you before, mine and Jen's struggle to have kids. With every new young couple that would so easily have two and three and five children, I would look at God and go, what gives, man? This isn't fair. This isn't the deal. I think we've all said that to God at one point or another in our own ways. God's response to Job is profound. And it is not at all what you would expect. Job asks for an audience with God to say, hey God, what's the deal? This isn't fair. And God's response is one of anger and frustration. Look at what God says to Job. This is amazing to me. It's one of the most profound things in the Bible. Chapter 38, then the Lord answered Job out of the whirlwind and said, who is this that darkens my counsel with words without knowledge? Dress for action like a man. I will question you and you will make it known to me. Does that sound like a God who's about to go, yeah, my bad, I didn't keep up my end of the deal. Here's why I broke contract. Sounds like God is angry. I had a professor one time say, Job wanted a man-to-man conversation with God. The problem was he was one man short. God says, who is this that darkens my counsel with words without knowledge? You want to talk to me like a man? Okay, dress yourself like a man. It angers God. And then God, for two chapters, proceeds to ask him questions. He says, where were you, Job, when I laid the foundations of the world? Surely you know. Surely you understand, Job, the inner workings of the universe. If you're asking me this question, you want to understand how I orchestrate everything, how I run the universe, you're questioning my leadership, then maybe you can explain to me how the Leviathan and the behemoth came into being. Maybe you can explain to me how the world works. Surely you were there when I told the oceans that they can go this far and no further. When I drew the boundaries of the continents, surely you know Job. And God's response is very clear to Job. Job, most righteous man to ever live, who in the season of his life adopted the life under God posture. God says, hey man, you've forgotten your place. I'm the creator. You're the creation. I won't be reduced to your contracts. I will not be reduced to your control. You don't get to follow the rules like I'm some pagan God and then hold my feet to the fire about the contract that I didn't enter into. That's not the deal. I'm God. You're not going to understand me. And I think one of the most difficult things about the Christian life is to understand there are going to be parts of God that we can't understand. God's point here with Job is, even if I explained it to you, even if I set you down and told me everything that I was thinking with what's going on in your life, even if I told you everything that I could, it would be like you trying to explain yourself to a six-month-old. It's just not going to work. We don't have the capacity to understand. And when we adopt this life under God posture, it seeks to reduce God to our level and it seeks to control him and it angers God because he's not gonna enter into our contracts with us. The last problem is highlighted by Jesus himself. The last problem with this posture that we wanna look at this morning is that it turns us into legalistic hypocrites. If we adopt this life under God posture, I'm going to obey you and you protect me, it turns us into legalistic hypocrites. Because in this posture, what we assume is those who are blessed are obedient and those who are struggling are disobedient. This attitude was around when Jesus walked the earth. They came upon a blind man one day and the disciples, his disciples looked at him and they said, what did he do or his parents do that made him blind? What's their sin? That's life under God posture. And what this does is it reduces relationship to a set of rules. It takes the relationship that Jesus wants with us, that he created us for, to be in relation with him, and it reduces it to a set of rules. And it makes it, this posture makes it entirely possible to appear outwardly spiritual because you follow the rules and your life seems blessed when inside you're rotting away because there's no relationship at all. It robs the relationship of all emotions and the actual relationship that it should be. It's kind of like church over the summer. The thing that broke my heart about church during COVID is that church is a fundamentally communal institution. And I had to get up in this room and preach. And it felt like a performance to an empty room. And hope that you guys would watch it three days later. And I don't know about you. But church got to feeling pretty empty for me over the summer. Because there was no community in the church. And that's what makes the church the church. From a human standpoint. And we do the same thing with our relationship with Jesus. If we reduce it to a set of rules, things I have to do to be right with God, we remove the relationship from it and it becomes empty. There's no better example of this than the Pharisees. The religious leaders in Jesus's day were experts at this. Outwardly, they looked great. They were living the blessed life. They were good. Everyone looked to them and tried to get on their level. If I asked the Pharisees, where's your relationship with God and where do you want it to be? They'd be like, I'm currently at a 10. I would like it to remain at a 10. That's the Pharisees because they have it all together on the outside. But here's what Jesus says to this group of people in Matthew 23. In Matthew 23, verse 27, he says, you're like a dirty cup that's been cleaned on the outside, but inside you're filthy. He looks at the religious leaders of the day, the ones who are supposed to know better. And he says, you're hypocrites. You're whitewashed tombs. It's a pretty tombstone with a rotting carcass underneath it. When we adopt this life under God posture and we reduce our relationship to a set of rules, it turns us into legalistic hypocrites who on the outside can look like they have their life together and on the inside are rotting away. This incidentally is how someone can know more Bible than anyone you've ever known in your life and be a jerk. So I would ask you as we finish, and I warned you, I'm not giving you a resolution here. I'm not saying, so this is the right way to do it. I'm just saying that's bad. And I would end this week by asking you this question, and this is what caused me repentance. And if this resonated with you, I would really encourage you to read the chapter and follow along with it. But I would ask you this week, as you're introspective and look at yourself, how much of this posture do you see in you? How much of this do you see in you? How much over the years have you followed God because somehow by following him, I'm going to appease him and win favor? Have you ever had something big in your life coming up and so all of a sudden you get real spiritual? You ever had something super bad happen and then you get really spiritual? I don't want this to happen again. That's a life under God posture. And when we adopt this posture, it will lead to disillusionment. We reduce God and we try to control him. And ultimately, we end up legalistic hypocrites who have removed the relational part from the relationship with Jesus and replaced it with rules. And we become whitewashed tombs. So how much of this exists in you? Let's pray and then Steve's going to come and introduce to us a new song for the series. Father, we love you. We're grateful for you. Lord, I know that within us, those of us who know you, is a desire to know you more. I know that within us is a desire to grow. Within us is a holy dissatisfaction with where we are and a divine yearning to know you better. God, I pray that you would make a path for us. Would you give us the honesty in our hearts and in our minds to be honest with you and with ourselves about where we stand and how we've approached you? God, if we have come to you simply because we want you to protect us, simply because we want you to bless us, and not because we want you, would you convict us of that? And would you show us a better way? It's in your son's name we pray. Amen.

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