John

Well, good morning. Like I said earlier, my name is Nate. I get to be one of the pastors here. Thanks for making grace a part of your Sunday. I'm just stating this for the record. This morning, Jen went to Atlanta on Saturday with Lily, with our daughter Lily. And so I'm solo dadding with our two and a half year old son, John, which means this morning I got us both up, showered, product in our hair, presentable for church, and here on time. So I don't know if the sermon's going to be any good, but that was pretty good, and I'll take it. Yes. Thank you. And to boot, the sermon doesn't even have to be good because worship was so great, I could send you home now, and we've all been ministered to. So that was really good, too. You got one clap, two. There we go. Dang it. Aaron got a whole clap last week for his sermon, and now he's getting clapped for for worship. He's going to get a big head. Y'all don't know what it's like to deal with him during the week, I'm telling you. This morning, we arrive at this concept of abiding in Christ. And I think it's one of the most profound concepts in scripture. It's one that if we can grasp it, if we can instill it in our brain, if we can make it our mantra, it changes our entire life. This concept to me is so profound that when I was originally planning this series, the whole series was going to be called Abide. And we were going to look at what it meant for us every week to abide in Christ. But as I dove into the text, I realized that I wanted to talk about the broader conversation happening around those verses, which is why we ended up with a series called Final Thoughts. I'll remind you it's called Final Thoughts because this series is entirely in John chapters 13 through 17. In the back half of John chapter 13, Jesus has just been betrayed by Judas. They are at the Last Supper. It's the last time he is going to be in the room with his disciples before his death, burial, and resurrection. And before he goes, he has some final thoughts for them in what's referred to in theological circles as the upper room discourse. So in this discourse, Jesus is just telling the disciples all the things he wants them to know before he leaves. So it's worth it for every Christian to look into these chapters to see what Jesus has for them there. This morning, we arrive at the concept of abiding, but to help us understand why this is such a profound concept, I want to tell you about the life of my friend, Tripp. I thought about telling you about my own life, just the details and the stresses, but it feels a little bit self-serving and whiny for the pastor to get up and talk to you about how stressed he is and how much the church demands of him. So we're not going to do that. Plus you guys are really, really great and really don't demand a whole lot. Just show up on time and preach for 30 minutes. But my buddy Trip, he's probably my closest friend in the world, and we talk pretty regularly. And he's a couple years older than me. He's got a wonderful wife named Hannah, who I adore. She's wonderful. And they've got three kids, ages, I think, eight, six, and three. And then they made the decision about six months ago to add a Bernad Doodle to the lot. How do you show that you have money in America today? You have the name Doodle at the back half of your dog, and you have a lot of money if there's a Berna in front of it. It is a huge mammoth of a dog that's really annoying, and it was a terrible choice. And I'm not saying that because of my typical shtick of not caring for animals. I'm saying that because introducing that dog into that family in this season of life was dumb. And he knows it. He regrets it deeply. But Tripp and Hannah, they both have jobs. Tripp is an entrepreneur. He can work from anywhere. And he works very, very hard. But because he's running his own shop, he has to kill what he eats, right? So he's switching hats between being a salesperson, being a marketing person, closing deals, customer care. He's a creative guy. He's basically creativity for hire. He can do videos. He can host. He can help you brainstorm for your marketing thing or for an idea for you. So he's got a bunch of different irons in the fire. And to be a friend of Tripp's is to every, I would say, about 18 months, escort him through an existential crisis in which he questions what he should be doing with his career. It just always happens. And you kind of put his eye on the ball, and then he goes, but it's because he has so many different things going on. In the midst of that, Hannah, his wife, is a VP for a company that works with churches, and not just churches, but also schools and stuff like that, to create curriculum for students and children and for the parents. And her office is 30 minutes away, and her job is very demanding. And so when she goes into the office, she can't really be going back and forth, and sometimes she needs to stay late, which means that Tripp is going to be balancing the kids. And because they each have careers that they deeply care about, I think life is so much easier when there's one career in a marriage where you go, yeah, that's the more important one. For them, it's 50-50. Neither of them takes precedence over the other. So everything in their house, if you've got kids, you know, is highly negotiated, right? You are responsible for putting this one and this one to bed. I will get this one and this one up. If this one wakes up during the night, that's on you. If this one wakes up during the night, that's on me. If the dog wakes up during the night, I'll probably just let it out and hope it runs away. But they have to highly negotiate all these things. You take them to school. I'll pick this one up. And then one of them gets sick. And so when they get sick, they've got to sit down in the morning, and they've got to be like, okay, what are your meetings today? What are the things that I have to move if I'm going to stay home? They have to figure all of this out on the fly, and it is highly tense sometimes. So they're trying to juggle all of that, and I don't know what it is about them, but their kids are sick all the time. And then if one of them gets sick, you know how it goes, parents. They're upstairs down for the count. You should be at work, but instead you're taking care of the kids and the dog for three days on end. And one of their kids, they just got a diagnosis of some pretty strong ADHD. And they've been having some big behavioral things going on with this particular child. And it's been a real challenge, and it's put tension on them and on their marriage. And they're trying to balance that. They also, in their extended family, there's different tensions like there often is, and that's impacting them and how they balance all of those things. And then he's an extrovert. He loves his friends, so he wants to have time for them, but then everybody needs time to unwind and recharge, and so he needs his alone time as well. And for him, when I look at his life, it's just chaotic. And I think that our lives might not look exactly like that, but many of our lives are some version of that. If they're not now, they have been. And I know that I'm biased. I'm in the season of life where I have young kids and nothing ever gets done all the way. You can clean the house, but then this is going to go to pot. You can fix this thing, then the house is going to be a disaster. You can't do all the things when you have little kids. It's a profound season of hustle, I think. But I'm not naive enough to think that life gets a whole lot easier when they're teenagers. I'm sure that's a totally different set of stresses. I remember back to when I was like 26 and married and thought I was busy. If you're under 30 and kidless and we all just laughed, I want you to know we were not laughing with you, okay? Laughing at you. You don't know, man. But even then, even in that season of life, there's stresses and concerns. Am I going to get married? Are we going to have kids? Is this the right career for me? Is this what I want to be doing? How do I manage all of these things? And then when you're older and you have adult kids, am I doing the right, a good job with them? Am I being a good grandparent? Am I stewarding them along well? In life, we have, especially in 2024, so many concerns and things pulling us in so many different directions. I feel like we live now in a culture of confusion and chaos. There's so much stuff going on around us, and it's so hard to know the right thing to do and what to focus on and what to give our attention to in the moment. To that, to that confusion and chaos, we apply this principle that we find in John chapter 15. If you have a Bible, I would invite you to open there. If you didn't bring your Bible with you this morning, there's one in the seat back in front of you. You can open and read along there. I would encourage you, if you do have a physical Bible, I hope you do, to open it up when you get home and make sure that this passage is highlighted for you. This is an absolutely must-do highlight passage. But this is what it says. John chapter 15, verses 4 and 5. By the way, you may notice that I have a Bible that I've not used before. Last week, Gibby preached, Aaron Gibson preached, and when he did, he had a new Bible, and I touched it, and I was like, I have to have that Bible. So now I have a new preaching Bible, and I love it. So anyways, verse 4, Jesus says, Now this is what I get for switching from ESV to NIV in my Bible translation. Because the ESV and a lot of other translations, that word remain there And it actually goes along well with the picture that I use to explain salvation sometimes. But Jesus says in our vernacular, I am the tree trunk and you are the branches. And so the idea is we are, God created us and he attached us to him. We are a sprout off of him. He is the source of life. And that when we sin, when we act against the will of God, when we pretend to be God in our own life and follow our own rules, what happens is we are separated from God. And so the picture is the branch falls off the tree. It is cut off or sawn off. It falls off the tree and it is on the ground and it will surely die because it is no longer connected to its source of life. And when we are saved, what Jesus does is he picks us up and he grafts us back onto the tree so that now we are attached to our source of life. We will continue to live and continue to bear fruit. And in keeping with that imagery, Jesus here says, if you abide in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit. If you are attached to me, if you remain attached to Christ, you will bear much fruit. And here's what I think is interesting about that. When a branch, when a healthy branch on a healthy apple tree remains there, it yields its fruit in season. That branch does not get to decide what it wants to produce, when it wants to produce it, or how much it wants to produce. That branch doesn't get to go, you know what? I'm feeling pears this year, and I'm going do it in December just for funsies. It doesn't get to do that. That branch grows apples and that branch grows apples when the tree decides it's supposed to. And that branch grows as many apples as it and the tree are capable of producing no more, no less. So what Jesus is saying is, if you abide in me, if you walk with me, if you remain attached with me, if you walk through every day with an awareness of my presence, if you begin and end your days with me, if you carry me into meetings with you, if you carry me into the workplace, if you carry me into interactions with your spouse and with your children and with your friends, if you abide in me, if you bring me along, then I promise you that you will bear much fruit. Here's why I think that's remarkable. And it's how I want us to think about the invitation to abide. The invitation to abide is a gift of simplicity in a world of confusion and chaos. The invitation to abide is a gift that God gives us of simplicity in a world of confusion and chaos. When it feels like there's so much pulling at us, when it feels like there's so much that we're supposed to do, so much that we're supposed to be good at, so many different irons in the fire or plates to keep in the air, there's so much put on us. Jesus says in the midst of all that, he sweeps it away and he offers us this invitation to abide. And he says, if you abide in me and I in you, if you pursue me and bring me everywhere you go, then you will produce the exact fruit that you're supposed to produce. I'm kind of reminded of Jesus's admonishment of Martha in Luke. In Luke, it might be chapter 10, but I should have looked it up and I didn't. Jesus goes to Mary and Martha's house. And it's a famous story. You probably know it. When he goes there, Martha is scurrying about. We call it bustling in our house. Just bustling. Every day I'm bustling. We bustle in our house. So Martha's bustling around, getting everything ready, making sure that everything's good for Jesus. I mean, if Jesus is coming over to your house, you probably want to be on your P's and Q's. You know, you probably want to look pretty good. So I don't blame her for the stress that she feels at hosting the Savior of the universe in her home. And so she's bustling around doing everything. Mary, meanwhile, is sitting at the feet of Christ, just taking him in, taking in his words, taking in his presence, being his friend. She's being with him. And Martha gets on to Mary. She says, what are you doing, lazy? Come help me. Don't you know Jesus is here? And Mary's attitude is like, yeah, I do know Jesus is here. That's why I'm sitting at his feet. And Jesus says to Martha some version of, Martha, Martha, you're worried about so many things, but only one thing matters. Mary's right. Focus on me. It's this gift of simplicity in a world of confusion and chaos. And I think it helps us a lot as we face life's big questions, as we assess ourselves. You know, this weekend, I had the opportunity to go to two funerals. One of them I led, the other one I attended. And it never ceases to arrest my attention of what's said about people at their funeral. The kinds of things that are always shared. I believe at a good funeral that a close friend or a family member who knew them well will share memories of the person who has passed. That's always my favorite part of the funeral. And they always talk about how that person loved. They always talked about how that person gave. They always talk about the good things. They don't typically talk about accomplishments. And whenever I go to a funeral, maybe because I'm a narcissistic jerk, I always wonder, what would people say about me at my funeral? What kinds of things would they mention? Who would come and what would they have to say about me? And I think about one was a funeral for a mom, one was a funeral for a dad, and so I think about my parents. If I were to share at my mom's funeral, what would I say? If I were to share at my dad's funeral, what would I say about him? And I think it's natural to wonder that and reflect on that and wonder at your funeral, what are your children or friends or family members going to say about you? Will they say everything that you wanted them to say? And I think in our life there's more big questions than this, but as we think about trying to do the right thing, trying to be the person God wants me to be, trying to live the right kind of life, I think we are, at least I am, constantly asking myself these two questions. There's two big questions we're asking ourselves. Am I making the right choice? And am I being a good fill in the blank? Am I making the right choice? Are we sending our kids to the right school? Am I handling this situation with my child in the right way? Am I doing a good job nurturing my child into adulthood as they are now adult kids and I'm trying to shift my role with them? Am I making the right choice in my career? This time, this space that I spend all of my time, a majority of my waking hours, I spend pursuing this career. Am I making the right choice? Is this the right career for me? Am I making the right choice by remaining in my career and not retiring? Am I making the right choice by retiring and not remaining in my career? Am I making the right choice in who I'm going to marry? Am I making the right choice in choosing that now is the time when we want to start trying for children? Are we making the right choice that now is the time that we want to buy the new house? Am I making the right choice in it feels like maybe it's wise to get rid of the old car and buy a new car. But as I do that, how much do I be indulgent and spend? And how much do I hold back and save? Am I making the right choice in those things? Are we making the right choices in who our friends are and how we assign our time and our talent and our treasure? Are we making the right choices? Are we doing the right things? I think if we don't, if you don't wonder that about yourself, I want to meet you and I want to know where you get your peace and your confidence. I think this choice, this question hounds all of us. Am I making the right choices in all of the right places? And then we're also hounded, or at least I am, am I being a good blank? Am I being a good pastor? What more can I do and give? Am I being a good father? Am I being a good husband? Am I being a good friend? Am I being a good acquaintance? Am I just generally kind to people? Yes, of course I am. Are you being a good aunt, a good uncle, a good grandkid, a good grandparent? Are you being a good boss? Are you being a good employee? We're constantly assessing ourselves. Am I making the right choices? Am I doing the right things? And am I being good at the roles that God has assigned to me? All of that reminds me of one of the verses in Ephesians that I like to point out to you often. You can even jot this down in your notes if you're a note taker, but it's Ephesians 2.10. Ephesians 2.10 says, And it carries with it this idea that the Bible tells us that God knew you before you were knit in your mother's womb. So before you were even an idea in the eyes of your parents, God knew that you were going to exist. He knew that he wanted to claim you as his child, and he knew that he was going to imbue you with certain gifts and talents so that, because you're his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus. Why? For good works, for the purpose of doing good works, that you might walk in them. So before you were ever created, God knew you were going to exist. He was going to give you gifts and good works to walk in in your life. That was going to be the purpose of your life is to identify your good works. Hey, Father, what is my good work? And then how do I walk in it? Incidentally, parents, this is, I believe, how we are to parent our children. To raise them, to identify the good works that they're supposed to walk in, and to give them the courage and the competence to begin to walk in those good works. And another way of asking, am I making the right choice and am I being a good blank, is to say, do I know my good works and am I walking in them? Because God created us before time to build his kingdom, not our kingdom. We are all of us supposed to be kingdom builders. And so we've got to be asking ourselves, God, am I building it in the right way? Am I doing the right things? And as we wonder that, and likely beat ourselves up for not doing that as much as we think we should, we come back to this principle of abide. Abiding promises. We will be what we are supposed to be, and we will do what we are supposed to do. I love that promise. The promise isn't abide in me and I in you, and you will have the best possible shot at bearing fruit. Abide in me and I in you and you probably won't be disappointed. No. Abide in me. Follow me. Pursue Jesus. Bring him with you everywhere you go. Wake up. Spend time with him in word and in prayer. Carry him through your day. Talk to him. Pray to him throughout your day. Be a person who walks with Jesus, who abides in him. And the promise is you will bear much fruit. And here's the fun part. What fruit? Does the apple tree get to decide what fruit it produces? No, nor does it decide when, nor does it decide how much. You don't worry about what fruit you're going to produce. You don't worry about what it is you're supposed to do. You focus on Christ. You be merry. This one thing I will seek. This one thing I will give my attention to. And by focusing on Jesus, by following him every day, we are assured that we will do exactly what we are supposed to do. That we will be making the right choices. And we will be exactly who we are supposed to be, that we will be walking in, that we will walk as God's workmanship in the good works for which he created us. And we don't have to worry about what those are. All we have to do is worry about abiding in Christ, following our Savior. That's why I say it's a gift of simplicity and a world of confusion and chaos. Where do we send our kids to school? Well, the more you're abiding in Christ, the more clear that answer is going to be. Am I in the right career? The more you're pursuing Christ, the more clear that is going to be. Are we raising our kids the right way? Am I being a good spouse? Am I being a good friend? Am I being a good church partner? The more you abide in Christ and focus on him and invite him into your days and into your meetings and into your going and into your coming, the more you do that, the more certain you will be that you are walking the path that he has laid out for you. He gives us this remarkable gift of simplicity. You don't have to figure out if you're doing it the right way. You don't have to second guess if you've made the right decisions. You don't have to wonder if you're a good fill in the blank. All you have to do is abide in Christ and he will take care of the rest and you will produce much fruit. What fruit? Whatever fruit God has decided you're going to produce. We know the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. So I think the fruit that we produce as we abide in Christ looks something like those increasing in our character. I think it looks like us expounding those into others in our life. I think it looks like us being used by God to do His work and build His kingdom. But the wonderful invitation is, hey, hey, hey, hey, you worry about focusing on Jesus, and he'll worry about everything else you're supposed to do. This is why I say, whenever we are evaluating or deciding, we should ask if we are abiding. As a general principle in life, whenever we are evaluating or deciding, we should stop and ask ourselves if we are abiding. I can't tell you how many times as a pastor that I've had a difficult conversation on the horizon. Somebody that I worked with that I was going to have to approach and say some hard things. Somebody with whom there was conflict and it needed to be resolved. Somebody who's disappointed in me and I need to reconcile. And how when those, I don't know about you, but when those hard conversations are on the horizon, I think about them all the time. I chew on them. I stress over them. I worry about them. I think, what angle are they going to take? And how can I be prepared for that? And how can I, I've got to get on to this person. How can I best do it and not demoralize them? Like, I think about them all the time. And I'll come up with an approach. This is what I'm going to do. This is what I'm going to say. This is how I'm going to attack it. And then something will happen and it will occur to me. Hey dude, have you been abiding? Not in this. Maybe I've had a couple of weeks where I've not been super consistent with my quiet times. Maybe I've been thinking about this conversation so much but I haven't prayed about it. And when I realize that's happening in my life, I put that conversation on the shelf. And I say, I'm not going to have that conversation until I'm prayed up on it. I'm not even going to think about how I want to approach that until I know that I have been spending some time with Jesus. And I put it on the shelf and I focus on my relationship with Christ. And then in that, I begin to pray about that conversation. Without fail, the conversation goes exponentially better than I ever thought it would when I have been abiding before I evaluate or decide. And also without fail. Funny how this works out. I'm always gentler after I pray. I'm always kinder and more gracious after I pray. If you're in your life faced with a big decision right now, what's the right thing to do here? Let me just ask you. Have you been abiding in Christ? Have you been walking with him? Have you been inviting him into your days? If you haven't, let me encourage you to put that decision on the shelf. Set it aside. Pursue Christ. Once you feel connected with Christ, pull it back off and see what he wants you to do. Have you been evaluating yourself? Which usually leads to beating yourself up. Are you someone whose voice in your head is a jerk? Is way meaner to you than anybody in your life? You're not good enough at this and you're not good enough at this and you're not good enough at this and you're failing at this and you're letting them down. If you have those voices, can I ask you, have you been abiding? Have you been pursuing Jesus and abiding him into all of your days? Are you listening to what he has to say about you? Or are you drowning out his voice with your own? Conversely, if you think you're doing great at everything right now, you're not. You abide in Christ. You're not. You need him to tell you. The question now becomes, as we look at this gift of simplicity that Jesus offers in a world of confusion and chaos, the question becomes, okay, Nate, I get it. I need to abide in Christ. I need to remain attached to him. I need to pursue him. I need to make him my singular focus. And everything else will kind of take care of itself. Decisions will become more clear. And his opinion of me is the one that I will adopt. That will all become more clear. I get it. I need to pursue Christ. How do I do that amidst the confusion and chaos? It's not like we get to call a time out on life and just do a spiritual retreat for the next two weeks so we're real connected. You all have stuff to do right after this. So how do we abide in Christ day in and day out in a practical way? That's what we're going to come back next week and talk about. So I hope you can be here for that, and I hope that it will be a tremendously useful and encouraging week next week. This week, I just want us focused on this gift of simplicity that Jesus offers, to simply abide in him. And in doing that, we can rest assured we will be who we are supposed to be, and we will do what we are supposed to do.. Let's pray and then Aaron's going to have some final thoughts for us. Lord, God, I thank you for a room full of people that do want to do the right thing, that do want to become who you created them to be. I thank you for a room full of people who do want to walk in their good works, who do want to build your kingdom. God, I pray that you would instill in us an increasing desire to do that. Lord, I pray that we would abide in you, that we would invite you into our days, that we would bring you along wherever we go, that you would give us your peace that passes understanding, and that you would create in our hearts a stronger and stronger desire for you. Lord, help us to abide, and in doing so, help us to enjoy the fruit that we produce by following you. In Jesus' name, amen.

Well, good morning. Like I said earlier, my name is Nate. I get to be one of the pastors here. Thanks for making grace a part of your Sunday. I'm just stating this for the record. This morning, Jen went to Atlanta on Saturday with Lily, with our daughter Lily. And so I'm solo dadding with our two and a half year old son, John, which means this morning I got us both up, showered, product in our hair, presentable for church, and here on time. So I don't know if the sermon's going to be any good, but that was pretty good, and I'll take it. Yes. Thank you. And to boot, the sermon doesn't even have to be good because worship was so great, I could send you home now, and we've all been ministered to. So that was really good, too. You got one clap, two. There we go. Dang it. Aaron got a whole clap last week for his sermon, and now he's getting clapped for for worship. He's going to get a big head. Y'all don't know what it's like to deal with him during the week, I'm telling you. This morning, we arrive at this concept of abiding in Christ. And I think it's one of the most profound concepts in scripture. It's one that if we can grasp it, if we can instill it in our brain, if we can make it our mantra, it changes our entire life. This concept to me is so profound that when I was originally planning this series, the whole series was going to be called Abide. And we were going to look at what it meant for us every week to abide in Christ. But as I dove into the text, I realized that I wanted to talk about the broader conversation happening around those verses, which is why we ended up with a series called Final Thoughts. I'll remind you it's called Final Thoughts because this series is entirely in John chapters 13 through 17. In the back half of John chapter 13, Jesus has just been betrayed by Judas. They are at the Last Supper. It's the last time he is going to be in the room with his disciples before his death, burial, and resurrection. And before he goes, he has some final thoughts for them in what's referred to in theological circles as the upper room discourse. So in this discourse, Jesus is just telling the disciples all the things he wants them to know before he leaves. So it's worth it for every Christian to look into these chapters to see what Jesus has for them there. This morning, we arrive at the concept of abiding, but to help us understand why this is such a profound concept, I want to tell you about the life of my friend, Tripp. I thought about telling you about my own life, just the details and the stresses, but it feels a little bit self-serving and whiny for the pastor to get up and talk to you about how stressed he is and how much the church demands of him. So we're not going to do that. Plus you guys are really, really great and really don't demand a whole lot. Just show up on time and preach for 30 minutes. But my buddy Trip, he's probably my closest friend in the world, and we talk pretty regularly. And he's a couple years older than me. He's got a wonderful wife named Hannah, who I adore. She's wonderful. And they've got three kids, ages, I think, eight, six, and three. And then they made the decision about six months ago to add a Bernad Doodle to the lot. How do you show that you have money in America today? You have the name Doodle at the back half of your dog, and you have a lot of money if there's a Berna in front of it. It is a huge mammoth of a dog that's really annoying, and it was a terrible choice. And I'm not saying that because of my typical shtick of not caring for animals. I'm saying that because introducing that dog into that family in this season of life was dumb. And he knows it. He regrets it deeply. But Tripp and Hannah, they both have jobs. Tripp is an entrepreneur. He can work from anywhere. And he works very, very hard. But because he's running his own shop, he has to kill what he eats, right? So he's switching hats between being a salesperson, being a marketing person, closing deals, customer care. He's a creative guy. He's basically creativity for hire. He can do videos. He can host. He can help you brainstorm for your marketing thing or for an idea for you. So he's got a bunch of different irons in the fire. And to be a friend of Tripp's is to every, I would say, about 18 months, escort him through an existential crisis in which he questions what he should be doing with his career. It just always happens. And you kind of put his eye on the ball, and then he goes, but it's because he has so many different things going on. In the midst of that, Hannah, his wife, is a VP for a company that works with churches, and not just churches, but also schools and stuff like that, to create curriculum for students and children and for the parents. And her office is 30 minutes away, and her job is very demanding. And so when she goes into the office, she can't really be going back and forth, and sometimes she needs to stay late, which means that Tripp is going to be balancing the kids. And because they each have careers that they deeply care about, I think life is so much easier when there's one career in a marriage where you go, yeah, that's the more important one. For them, it's 50-50. Neither of them takes precedence over the other. So everything in their house, if you've got kids, you know, is highly negotiated, right? You are responsible for putting this one and this one to bed. I will get this one and this one up. If this one wakes up during the night, that's on you. If this one wakes up during the night, that's on me. If the dog wakes up during the night, I'll probably just let it out and hope it runs away. But they have to highly negotiate all these things. You take them to school. I'll pick this one up. And then one of them gets sick. And so when they get sick, they've got to sit down in the morning, and they've got to be like, okay, what are your meetings today? What are the things that I have to move if I'm going to stay home? They have to figure all of this out on the fly, and it is highly tense sometimes. So they're trying to juggle all of that, and I don't know what it is about them, but their kids are sick all the time. And then if one of them gets sick, you know how it goes, parents. They're upstairs down for the count. You should be at work, but instead you're taking care of the kids and the dog for three days on end. And one of their kids, they just got a diagnosis of some pretty strong ADHD. And they've been having some big behavioral things going on with this particular child. And it's been a real challenge, and it's put tension on them and on their marriage. And they're trying to balance that. They also, in their extended family, there's different tensions like there often is, and that's impacting them and how they balance all of those things. And then he's an extrovert. He loves his friends, so he wants to have time for them, but then everybody needs time to unwind and recharge, and so he needs his alone time as well. And for him, when I look at his life, it's just chaotic. And I think that our lives might not look exactly like that, but many of our lives are some version of that. If they're not now, they have been. And I know that I'm biased. I'm in the season of life where I have young kids and nothing ever gets done all the way. You can clean the house, but then this is going to go to pot. You can fix this thing, then the house is going to be a disaster. You can't do all the things when you have little kids. It's a profound season of hustle, I think. But I'm not naive enough to think that life gets a whole lot easier when they're teenagers. I'm sure that's a totally different set of stresses. I remember back to when I was like 26 and married and thought I was busy. If you're under 30 and kidless and we all just laughed, I want you to know we were not laughing with you, okay? Laughing at you. You don't know, man. But even then, even in that season of life, there's stresses and concerns. Am I going to get married? Are we going to have kids? Is this the right career for me? Is this what I want to be doing? How do I manage all of these things? And then when you're older and you have adult kids, am I doing the right, a good job with them? Am I being a good grandparent? Am I stewarding them along well? In life, we have, especially in 2024, so many concerns and things pulling us in so many different directions. I feel like we live now in a culture of confusion and chaos. There's so much stuff going on around us, and it's so hard to know the right thing to do and what to focus on and what to give our attention to in the moment. To that, to that confusion and chaos, we apply this principle that we find in John chapter 15. If you have a Bible, I would invite you to open there. If you didn't bring your Bible with you this morning, there's one in the seat back in front of you. You can open and read along there. I would encourage you, if you do have a physical Bible, I hope you do, to open it up when you get home and make sure that this passage is highlighted for you. This is an absolutely must-do highlight passage. But this is what it says. John chapter 15, verses 4 and 5. By the way, you may notice that I have a Bible that I've not used before. Last week, Gibby preached, Aaron Gibson preached, and when he did, he had a new Bible, and I touched it, and I was like, I have to have that Bible. So now I have a new preaching Bible, and I love it. So anyways, verse 4, Jesus says, Now this is what I get for switching from ESV to NIV in my Bible translation. Because the ESV and a lot of other translations, that word remain there And it actually goes along well with the picture that I use to explain salvation sometimes. But Jesus says in our vernacular, I am the tree trunk and you are the branches. And so the idea is we are, God created us and he attached us to him. We are a sprout off of him. He is the source of life. And that when we sin, when we act against the will of God, when we pretend to be God in our own life and follow our own rules, what happens is we are separated from God. And so the picture is the branch falls off the tree. It is cut off or sawn off. It falls off the tree and it is on the ground and it will surely die because it is no longer connected to its source of life. And when we are saved, what Jesus does is he picks us up and he grafts us back onto the tree so that now we are attached to our source of life. We will continue to live and continue to bear fruit. And in keeping with that imagery, Jesus here says, if you abide in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit. If you are attached to me, if you remain attached to Christ, you will bear much fruit. And here's what I think is interesting about that. When a branch, when a healthy branch on a healthy apple tree remains there, it yields its fruit in season. That branch does not get to decide what it wants to produce, when it wants to produce it, or how much it wants to produce. That branch doesn't get to go, you know what? I'm feeling pears this year, and I'm going do it in December just for funsies. It doesn't get to do that. That branch grows apples and that branch grows apples when the tree decides it's supposed to. And that branch grows as many apples as it and the tree are capable of producing no more, no less. So what Jesus is saying is, if you abide in me, if you walk with me, if you remain attached with me, if you walk through every day with an awareness of my presence, if you begin and end your days with me, if you carry me into meetings with you, if you carry me into the workplace, if you carry me into interactions with your spouse and with your children and with your friends, if you abide in me, if you bring me along, then I promise you that you will bear much fruit. Here's why I think that's remarkable. And it's how I want us to think about the invitation to abide. The invitation to abide is a gift of simplicity in a world of confusion and chaos. The invitation to abide is a gift that God gives us of simplicity in a world of confusion and chaos. When it feels like there's so much pulling at us, when it feels like there's so much that we're supposed to do, so much that we're supposed to be good at, so many different irons in the fire or plates to keep in the air, there's so much put on us. Jesus says in the midst of all that, he sweeps it away and he offers us this invitation to abide. And he says, if you abide in me and I in you, if you pursue me and bring me everywhere you go, then you will produce the exact fruit that you're supposed to produce. I'm kind of reminded of Jesus's admonishment of Martha in Luke. In Luke, it might be chapter 10, but I should have looked it up and I didn't. Jesus goes to Mary and Martha's house. And it's a famous story. You probably know it. When he goes there, Martha is scurrying about. We call it bustling in our house. Just bustling. Every day I'm bustling. We bustle in our house. So Martha's bustling around, getting everything ready, making sure that everything's good for Jesus. I mean, if Jesus is coming over to your house, you probably want to be on your P's and Q's. You know, you probably want to look pretty good. So I don't blame her for the stress that she feels at hosting the Savior of the universe in her home. And so she's bustling around doing everything. Mary, meanwhile, is sitting at the feet of Christ, just taking him in, taking in his words, taking in his presence, being his friend. She's being with him. And Martha gets on to Mary. She says, what are you doing, lazy? Come help me. Don't you know Jesus is here? And Mary's attitude is like, yeah, I do know Jesus is here. That's why I'm sitting at his feet. And Jesus says to Martha some version of, Martha, Martha, you're worried about so many things, but only one thing matters. Mary's right. Focus on me. It's this gift of simplicity in a world of confusion and chaos. And I think it helps us a lot as we face life's big questions, as we assess ourselves. You know, this weekend, I had the opportunity to go to two funerals. One of them I led, the other one I attended. And it never ceases to arrest my attention of what's said about people at their funeral. The kinds of things that are always shared. I believe at a good funeral that a close friend or a family member who knew them well will share memories of the person who has passed. That's always my favorite part of the funeral. And they always talk about how that person loved. They always talked about how that person gave. They always talk about the good things. They don't typically talk about accomplishments. And whenever I go to a funeral, maybe because I'm a narcissistic jerk, I always wonder, what would people say about me at my funeral? What kinds of things would they mention? Who would come and what would they have to say about me? And I think about one was a funeral for a mom, one was a funeral for a dad, and so I think about my parents. If I were to share at my mom's funeral, what would I say? If I were to share at my dad's funeral, what would I say about him? And I think it's natural to wonder that and reflect on that and wonder at your funeral, what are your children or friends or family members going to say about you? Will they say everything that you wanted them to say? And I think in our life there's more big questions than this, but as we think about trying to do the right thing, trying to be the person God wants me to be, trying to live the right kind of life, I think we are, at least I am, constantly asking myself these two questions. There's two big questions we're asking ourselves. Am I making the right choice? And am I being a good fill in the blank? Am I making the right choice? Are we sending our kids to the right school? Am I handling this situation with my child in the right way? Am I doing a good job nurturing my child into adulthood as they are now adult kids and I'm trying to shift my role with them? Am I making the right choice in my career? This time, this space that I spend all of my time, a majority of my waking hours, I spend pursuing this career. Am I making the right choice? Is this the right career for me? Am I making the right choice by remaining in my career and not retiring? Am I making the right choice by retiring and not remaining in my career? Am I making the right choice in who I'm going to marry? Am I making the right choice in choosing that now is the time when we want to start trying for children? Are we making the right choice that now is the time that we want to buy the new house? Am I making the right choice in it feels like maybe it's wise to get rid of the old car and buy a new car. But as I do that, how much do I be indulgent and spend? And how much do I hold back and save? Am I making the right choice in those things? Are we making the right choices in who our friends are and how we assign our time and our talent and our treasure? Are we making the right choices? Are we doing the right things? I think if we don't, if you don't wonder that about yourself, I want to meet you and I want to know where you get your peace and your confidence. I think this choice, this question hounds all of us. Am I making the right choices in all of the right places? And then we're also hounded, or at least I am, am I being a good blank? Am I being a good pastor? What more can I do and give? Am I being a good father? Am I being a good husband? Am I being a good friend? Am I being a good acquaintance? Am I just generally kind to people? Yes, of course I am. Are you being a good aunt, a good uncle, a good grandkid, a good grandparent? Are you being a good boss? Are you being a good employee? We're constantly assessing ourselves. Am I making the right choices? Am I doing the right things? And am I being good at the roles that God has assigned to me? All of that reminds me of one of the verses in Ephesians that I like to point out to you often. You can even jot this down in your notes if you're a note taker, but it's Ephesians 2.10. Ephesians 2.10 says, And it carries with it this idea that the Bible tells us that God knew you before you were knit in your mother's womb. So before you were even an idea in the eyes of your parents, God knew that you were going to exist. He knew that he wanted to claim you as his child, and he knew that he was going to imbue you with certain gifts and talents so that, because you're his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus. Why? For good works, for the purpose of doing good works, that you might walk in them. So before you were ever created, God knew you were going to exist. He was going to give you gifts and good works to walk in in your life. That was going to be the purpose of your life is to identify your good works. Hey, Father, what is my good work? And then how do I walk in it? Incidentally, parents, this is, I believe, how we are to parent our children. To raise them, to identify the good works that they're supposed to walk in, and to give them the courage and the competence to begin to walk in those good works. And another way of asking, am I making the right choice and am I being a good blank, is to say, do I know my good works and am I walking in them? Because God created us before time to build his kingdom, not our kingdom. We are all of us supposed to be kingdom builders. And so we've got to be asking ourselves, God, am I building it in the right way? Am I doing the right things? And as we wonder that, and likely beat ourselves up for not doing that as much as we think we should, we come back to this principle of abide. Abiding promises. We will be what we are supposed to be, and we will do what we are supposed to do. I love that promise. The promise isn't abide in me and I in you, and you will have the best possible shot at bearing fruit. Abide in me and I in you and you probably won't be disappointed. No. Abide in me. Follow me. Pursue Jesus. Bring him with you everywhere you go. Wake up. Spend time with him in word and in prayer. Carry him through your day. Talk to him. Pray to him throughout your day. Be a person who walks with Jesus, who abides in him. And the promise is you will bear much fruit. And here's the fun part. What fruit? Does the apple tree get to decide what fruit it produces? No, nor does it decide when, nor does it decide how much. You don't worry about what fruit you're going to produce. You don't worry about what it is you're supposed to do. You focus on Christ. You be merry. This one thing I will seek. This one thing I will give my attention to. And by focusing on Jesus, by following him every day, we are assured that we will do exactly what we are supposed to do. That we will be making the right choices. And we will be exactly who we are supposed to be, that we will be walking in, that we will walk as God's workmanship in the good works for which he created us. And we don't have to worry about what those are. All we have to do is worry about abiding in Christ, following our Savior. That's why I say it's a gift of simplicity and a world of confusion and chaos. Where do we send our kids to school? Well, the more you're abiding in Christ, the more clear that answer is going to be. Am I in the right career? The more you're pursuing Christ, the more clear that is going to be. Are we raising our kids the right way? Am I being a good spouse? Am I being a good friend? Am I being a good church partner? The more you abide in Christ and focus on him and invite him into your days and into your meetings and into your going and into your coming, the more you do that, the more certain you will be that you are walking the path that he has laid out for you. He gives us this remarkable gift of simplicity. You don't have to figure out if you're doing it the right way. You don't have to second guess if you've made the right decisions. You don't have to wonder if you're a good fill in the blank. All you have to do is abide in Christ and he will take care of the rest and you will produce much fruit. What fruit? Whatever fruit God has decided you're going to produce. We know the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. So I think the fruit that we produce as we abide in Christ looks something like those increasing in our character. I think it looks like us expounding those into others in our life. I think it looks like us being used by God to do His work and build His kingdom. But the wonderful invitation is, hey, hey, hey, hey, you worry about focusing on Jesus, and he'll worry about everything else you're supposed to do. This is why I say, whenever we are evaluating or deciding, we should ask if we are abiding. As a general principle in life, whenever we are evaluating or deciding, we should stop and ask ourselves if we are abiding. I can't tell you how many times as a pastor that I've had a difficult conversation on the horizon. Somebody that I worked with that I was going to have to approach and say some hard things. Somebody with whom there was conflict and it needed to be resolved. Somebody who's disappointed in me and I need to reconcile. And how when those, I don't know about you, but when those hard conversations are on the horizon, I think about them all the time. I chew on them. I stress over them. I worry about them. I think, what angle are they going to take? And how can I be prepared for that? And how can I, I've got to get on to this person. How can I best do it and not demoralize them? Like, I think about them all the time. And I'll come up with an approach. This is what I'm going to do. This is what I'm going to say. This is how I'm going to attack it. And then something will happen and it will occur to me. Hey dude, have you been abiding? Not in this. Maybe I've had a couple of weeks where I've not been super consistent with my quiet times. Maybe I've been thinking about this conversation so much but I haven't prayed about it. And when I realize that's happening in my life, I put that conversation on the shelf. And I say, I'm not going to have that conversation until I'm prayed up on it. I'm not even going to think about how I want to approach that until I know that I have been spending some time with Jesus. And I put it on the shelf and I focus on my relationship with Christ. And then in that, I begin to pray about that conversation. Without fail, the conversation goes exponentially better than I ever thought it would when I have been abiding before I evaluate or decide. And also without fail. Funny how this works out. I'm always gentler after I pray. I'm always kinder and more gracious after I pray. If you're in your life faced with a big decision right now, what's the right thing to do here? Let me just ask you. Have you been abiding in Christ? Have you been walking with him? Have you been inviting him into your days? If you haven't, let me encourage you to put that decision on the shelf. Set it aside. Pursue Christ. Once you feel connected with Christ, pull it back off and see what he wants you to do. Have you been evaluating yourself? Which usually leads to beating yourself up. Are you someone whose voice in your head is a jerk? Is way meaner to you than anybody in your life? You're not good enough at this and you're not good enough at this and you're not good enough at this and you're failing at this and you're letting them down. If you have those voices, can I ask you, have you been abiding? Have you been pursuing Jesus and abiding him into all of your days? Are you listening to what he has to say about you? Or are you drowning out his voice with your own? Conversely, if you think you're doing great at everything right now, you're not. You abide in Christ. You're not. You need him to tell you. The question now becomes, as we look at this gift of simplicity that Jesus offers in a world of confusion and chaos, the question becomes, okay, Nate, I get it. I need to abide in Christ. I need to remain attached to him. I need to pursue him. I need to make him my singular focus. And everything else will kind of take care of itself. Decisions will become more clear. And his opinion of me is the one that I will adopt. That will all become more clear. I get it. I need to pursue Christ. How do I do that amidst the confusion and chaos? It's not like we get to call a time out on life and just do a spiritual retreat for the next two weeks so we're real connected. You all have stuff to do right after this. So how do we abide in Christ day in and day out in a practical way? That's what we're going to come back next week and talk about. So I hope you can be here for that, and I hope that it will be a tremendously useful and encouraging week next week. This week, I just want us focused on this gift of simplicity that Jesus offers, to simply abide in him. And in doing that, we can rest assured we will be who we are supposed to be, and we will do what we are supposed to do.. Let's pray and then Aaron's going to have some final thoughts for us. Lord, God, I thank you for a room full of people that do want to do the right thing, that do want to become who you created them to be. I thank you for a room full of people who do want to walk in their good works, who do want to build your kingdom. God, I pray that you would instill in us an increasing desire to do that. Lord, I pray that we would abide in you, that we would invite you into our days, that we would bring you along wherever we go, that you would give us your peace that passes understanding, and that you would create in our hearts a stronger and stronger desire for you. Lord, help us to abide, and in doing so, help us to enjoy the fruit that we produce by following you. In Jesus' name, amen.

Good morning. How you doing? A couple of things. My name's Nate. I'm one of the pastors here. I love seeing everybody here for the second service. There's a lot of space at the first service, so feel free. And in case you're wondering, does God smile more when you come to the early service? He does. He's smiling a little bit now, but man, the grin on his face when you get up that much earlier is really something special. The Lord moves in that first service. The other thing I want to mention is this. I'm super excited about this. It may not be the case. You never know what's going to happen for the rest of the tournament. But for now, Jen, my wife, is beating all of us in the churchwide bracket challenge, which is a pretty big deal. If you know Scott Hunter, he's in dead last, and that's fun too. All right, we're in the eighth part of our series in John, and I really enjoy getting to move through the book of John with you. This morning, we arrive at what I think is a critical seminal teaching of Jesus in this book. And to help us think about it, I want us to go back to that first day of a class that we took in college, okay? If you didn't have the experience of doing that or you haven't had it yet, you're not missing much. It's overrated. But for those that had to do it, there's this common experience on the first day of class in college. And I'm talking about back before the internet was a thing, when us old people went to college. It's not often that I get to lump myself in with the old people, but this week I do. This was before we had the Internet. You didn't know what to expect in your class, right? And so you'd go on that first day. You're taking whatever it is you're taking, Philosophy 101 or English 101 or whatever it is, and you don't know what to expect. It's the great unknown. What's this professor going to be like? What are my assignments going to be? How do I achieve success in this class? We all bring a different set of goals to the class. I mean, some of y'all are nerds, and you wanted to get an A, and so you thought, like, what am I going to have to do? And I don't mean that really. I wish I would have cared more about getting good grades. But some of you guys really cared about your grades, and so you're thinking, what do I need to do to get an A in this class? I just want to know the work that I'm going to have to do. For me, my academic goals were literally just, what do I have to do so that my parents aren't furious at me at the end of the semester? They were helping out with college, so what do I have to do to keep the gravy train rolling? That's the amount of effort I'd like to give to right? And there are some of you, you got there and you flipped to the back and you look at the assignments and you went, I will never step foot in this class again, right? Because there's too much work there. That's what we did. You get to class. For those that don't have the experience, you get to class. The professor gives you the syllabus. You grab it. And then at the top of the syllabus, you always read this thing. It says that the successful student will be proficient in yada, yada, yada, right? Or the successful student will be proficient in these things. And so you're like, okay, well, this is the goal of the class. This is what it looks like to be successful in this class. Now I know this, but then what are you really interested in? You're really interested in the assignments. What am I going to have to do to achieve the success? And then in the syllabus, you'll remember he or she would have like the philosophy of the class and their philosophy of teaching and all the goals and all the different things. You went, yeah, I don't care about that. You flip to the back of it, and that's where they had the assignment load. And you wanted to see how many tests, how long is the paper going to have to be, right? What am I going to have to do in this class to pass? And that's when some of us went, I don't think I'm coming back to this place because it was just too much work. But we've had that experience. And to me, regardless of what kind of student you were, whether you're a straight A student or you're a slacker like me, you would go to that class with a set of goals. I want to accomplish this in the class. And then you would love the syllabus because that would bring, that would make the unknown known. It would tell you, this is what's expected of me here. This is how they're defining success, and these are the things that I have to do to be successful. And we like this mindset. We have this mindset about a lot of the things that we do. We all, all of us, if we're old enough, have jobs, or we've had a job before. You get to that job, and what do they do? They give you a job description, and at the top of the job description, it says, this is what this position is for. This position will do this and this and this and this. And then there's objectives underneath that. This is how those things are going to be accomplished. This employee will do this thing and this thing and this thing. We like having a very clearly defined version of success, and we like having clear steps to achieve that success, don't we? And we often apply this to our faith. In every Bible study that I've ever been in, I've been in church my whole life. I've been doing ministry for about 20, I went pro in my Christianity about 20 years ago. And in every Bible study that I've ever been in, and a lot of conversations with with my friends and a lot of different small groups, this idea gets presented. And it happened again a couple of weeks ago in the young person small group that my wife and I are leading now. One of the girls said, wouldn't it be nice if there was like a to-do list for our faith? If there were just some clearly defined parameters in the Bible so that we know what to do and when to do it. Wouldn't it be nice if we kind of had a syllabus or a job description for our faith? And this is a commonly expressed desire because the Bible can be very confusing and it can be very intimidating and there's a lot in there to learn. And there are some churches, and then Christianity in and of itself, there's some churches that think this way about an issue, this issue is terrible and it's wrong and you should never do it. And then there's churches over here who are like, no, that's actually pretty okay and we encourage it and we think that you should do it. And there's churches all over the spectrum and there's different ways to interpret the scripture. There's tons of different denominations. And sometimes it's really difficult to figure out, man, what is it that I'm supposed to do? And if you're a new believer or a non-believer, I think a very natural thing to think is, I'm considering this faith, what is it going to require of me? Or, I'm a Christian now, I'd like to be a good one, what does that mean? Is there a to-do list? Is there just something simple where I can know what to do? How is success defined? And how do I achieve that success? Which is why I think John 15 is such a great passage, because I think that Jesus gives us our course syllabus for Christianity. So a little bit different this morning is your notes on the back of the bulletin that you received, you have notes on the back of that. The back of that is actually a course syllabus for Christianity 101. So if you don't have the notes, I'd like you to slip up your hand and the ushers will try to get one to you. Is there anybody that needs one? Some of the ushers have some and they're going to go around making sure folks have those. This is Christianity 101, okay? This is your course syllabus for this morning. You'll notice on it, I am your professor, Professor Rector. I do that. I'm not going to get the chance to do that probably ever again in my life, except for when I pretend at church. So I'm your professor this morning. Class is in session. We're going to take a lot more notes than we normally do. I would encourage you to get out a pen. There's one more, a couple more over here. Just send the whole pile down. I encourage you to get out a pen and write along with me, okay? If you don't have any now, we're out. So you're just going to have to go old school and cheat with your neighbor, okay? You have to look on to theirs. I believe, one more, she's auctioning it off. She's auctioning it off. I believe that Jesus gives us our core syllabus for Christianity in John chapter 15. I'm going to read the first five verses, and then we're going to talk about why I think this is true. If you have a Bible, you can open to it. If you don't, there's one in the seat back in front of you. But this is what Jesus says. He says, That's important. We're going to come back to that later. Verse 5, this is the clincher. All right, so this week we arrive at one of these great I am statements that Jesus makes. In the other Gospels, in Matthew, Mark, and Luke, we have the parables. You're probably familiar with them. They're made-up stories that Jesus tells to make a moral point. And in John, we don't have any of those parables. What we see is Jesus making these I am statements. I'm the bread of life. I'm the living water. I'm the way, the truth, and the life. I am the good shepherd. And now this week, he says, I am the vine, and you are the branches. And this is said to an agrarian society that understood what it was to grow grapes and try to make wine from these grapes. It was part of that culture. They were very familiar with this terminology, and that's what he's talking about. I am the vine, you are the branches, you're going to grow grapes. Connect to me and you will bear much fruit. And so in our terminology and way of thinking of it, it makes more sense to say that I am the tree trunk and you are the branches. But what he's saying is, I'm the source of life, I'm the source of joy, and you are attached to me. And when you abide in me, when you are attached to me and you remain attached to me, you will bear much fruit. All right, that's what he's saying in this verse. And so in verse 5, when he says, I am the vine, you are the branches, abide in me, and I in you, and you will bear much fruit, that really is a packed statement. There's a lot of questions that come out of that statement. For me, the first thing that I see is what does it mean to bear fruit, and why is he talking about that? And I think that that helps set us up for the goal of the course. So at the top of the syllabus you have the student will be proficient in these things. So if we're thinking about Christianity as a course, we're trying to figure out what it is we need to do, then what we need to know is that the course goal is that the successful student or Christian will show proficiency in bearing fruit. Okay, if you're a believer and you want to know if you're successful, if you're thinking about becoming a Christian and you want to know what's going to be expected of me. If you're a new believer and you want to go, okay, well now what do I have to do? The successful student or Christian, the person who is successful in Christianity will be proficient in bearing fruit. And I say that because this seems to be the goal of the passage. Jesus says, abide in me, get attached to me, remain attached to me, and you will bear fruit. Do this, follow my commandments, obey me, love me. Why? So that you can bear fruit. It seems to be that the point of the Christian life, the reason that Jesus leaves us here rather than taking us to heaven immediately upon salvation is so that we can bear fruit. So if you want to know what's the whole point of the Christian life, why are we here? Christianity 101, the successful student will show proficiency in bearing fruit. That's the point. So then you have to ask, okay, what does it mean to bear fruit? And those of you who are church people, you've heard this before, you know this passage. And if I were to ask you, hey, it says that if I'm attached, if I abide, that I will bear fruit. What does it mean to bear fruit? You would probably go, well, it means that you should, well, now hang on. Because it gets a little complicated, doesn't it? What does it mean? Some people would say that it means that we should bear the fruit of the Spirit that Paul talks about in Galatians 5. Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. We should become more like God in character and develop those traits in our life. To bear fruit means to bear the fruit of the Spirit. Other people would say, well, it means to bear the fruit of ministry. It means that in your life, you're leading people to Jesus, you're discipling people, bringing them closer to Jesus, that there is actually evidence of ministry and people what I think Jesus would say is that it's both. And I think that he says this in what we talked about last week in John chapter 13. If you weren't here last week, in John chapter 13, Jesus tells the disciples, I'm giving you a new commandment that you should love one another as I have loved you. That's the new commandment. That's what we're supposed to do. And then the question becomes, how do I do that? So last week is kind of, what are we supposed to do? We're supposed to love one another as Jesus loved us. And this week is, how do we do that? Well, we do that by abiding. And so what it means to bear fruit, I think, is this. When we love somebody as Jesus loved us, not as we love ourselves, a higher standard, Jesus' love. When we love somebody as Jesus loved us, it is impossible to do that without bearing the fruit of the Spirit in our life, right? How are you going to love other people as Jesus has loved you if we're not bearing love and joy and peace and patience and kindness and goodness and faithfulness and gentleness and self-control? How are we going to be able to do that if we're not becoming more like God in character? We can't. So part of it is to bear the fruit of the Spirit. But then the results of this love, if we love other people as Jesus loved them, when Jesus loved these people, what did they do? They drew more closely to him. And so when we love others as Jesus loved us, it's going to have this natural effect of drawing them into the Father, of drawing them towards Jesus. And so I think it's safe to define for the purposes of the course, again, in our syllabus, that bearing fruit will be defined as loving others towards Jesus. When we're looking at this and it says that we should bear much fruit, what does it mean to bear fruit? It means that we are proficient in loving others towards Jesus. Loving them in such a way that when they look at our impact in their life, they go, I am closer to Jesus because of them. To bear fruit simply is to look at the wake of our life and the people that we know in our life and have people who would point to us and say, I love Jesus more because of the way that they love me. I love Jesus more. I feel closer to Jesus because of their influence in my life. That is fruit. It's both a character, that has both a character aspect and a ministry aspect. But that's what it means to bear fruit, is to love people towards Jesus. So that's the goal for the course, right? That's what success looks like. The successful student will be proficient in bearing fruit or loving people towards Jesus. So now, how do we do that? And that's what this passage answers. And it gives us, I think, our assignments. And so the coursework, the objective, the first objective, our first assignment, the first thing we have to do is abide in Christ. Plain and simple. Abide in Christ. And if you're a church person, you've heard this before. You know this passage. This is a famous passage. You know how this goes. But I think it works pretty similarly. If I say, what does it mean to abide in Christ? I think sometimes we have a hard time explaining that or understanding that. And so I really wanted to dive into it this week so I could do a good job hopefully explaining it to you. And one of the things that I learned that I thought was most helpful was this idea. See, Jesus is talking to the disciples at the end of his life. We are in the middle of Passion Week in the chronology of the life of Christ. In a couple of days, he's going to be arrested and crucified and then raised from the dead, and we celebrate Easter, right, in the story of Jesus. So he's very near the end of his life. He's been moving through life with the disciples for three years now. He's been doing ministry with them. He's been ministering to them. He's been discipling them. He's been training them. He's been teaching them. He's been loving on them. He's been developing them. And so over these three years, there's this intimate relationship that has formed between them. And to me, it's very interesting that here at the end of his life, he calls the disciples to abide. Abide in me are his instructions to the disciples. But that's not what he said when he met the disciples. When he met the disciples and he called them to himself, what did he tell them to do? Follow me, right? So three years ago, it was follow me. Three years later, after spending all this time together, it's abide. And I love that there's a relational maturation to the calling of Jesus in this passage, where at the beginning he says, I want you to follow me. And when you follow someone, there's a distance there. I'm watching what you're doing and I'm trying to do those things. But when you abide, there's this relational aspect to it of knowing someone intimately, knowing them well. Let your heart beat with mine. Let what brings me joy bring you joy. Let what breaks my heart break your heart. Let my goals be your goals. There is this relational dynamic to abiding. The word there in the text literally means to get connected and remain connected like a branch is to a tree. So over these three years with Jesus, we see this relational component where we're supposed to know him intimately. I think if we want to make it our goal to abide in Christ, one of the very first things we have to do is find time in our day, every day, to spend time in word and spend time in prayer. If we want to abide in Christ, if we want to know him intimately, if we want to pursue him, what do we need to do? We need to get up every day, spend time in God's word and spend time in his presence through prayer. We have to do that. That's an integral part of our life. And this is actually this idea, abide, we are to abide in Christ, is where we get this idea of having a personal relationship with our Savior. You guys have heard that before. Even if you're not a believer, you're here because someone drug you here. First of all, I'm so glad that you're here, and I'll try to go quickly for you. But second of all, you understand, and you've probably heard this term before, that we should have a personal relationship with Jesus. And sometimes we talk about how this separates us from other religions, that we're actually invited into a relationship with our Savior and with our God. But it's a very natural question to go, okay, I'm invited into a relationship with Jesus, but how do I have a relationship with this person or this entity that I don't interact with the same way as I do everyone else? I can't see him. I can't touch him. I can't see the look in his eye. I can't hear the cadence of his voice. How do I get to know somebody that I can't see or feel or touch? How do I have this intimate relationship with what feels like at times a distant God? That's a very fair question to ask. And Jesus actually answers this. I was nervous about how to explain it. How do we abide in Christ? How do we have this personal relationship with him? How do we experience the connection that the disciples felt? And I was actually kind of nervous about explaining this to you until I got to read the passage and really study it. And what I found is that Jesus answers this question in verse 10. And so really this is the second part of, this is our second assignment, our second objective. We want to be successful in the class of Christianity. The first thing we do is we abide in Christ. The second thing we do is we abide by obeying. We abide by obeying. In verse 10, Jesus says this. He says, If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father's commandments and abide in his love. If you keep my commandments, you abide in my love. You want to know how to abide in Christ? Obey him. You want to bear fruit? You want to be a successful Christian? You want to do what you're supposed to do, what you were put on this earth to do? Then abide in Christ. You want to abide in Christ? Well, Jesus says, obey him. You want to abide in me? Obey me. That means all the things, right? That means that when Jesus says in Matthew, in the Sermon on the Mount, that when someone hits us in the face that we need to turn the other cheek and not seek revenge, that we learn what that means and that we do that. That means that when someone asks us to go a mile and Jesus tells us to go an extra mile, we go an extra mile. When Jesus tells us that when someone asks for our fleece, we should give them our coat as well, we give them our coat. When Jesus tells us that we should be generous and that we should care for the poor, then we be generous and we care for the poor. When he tells us that, when he redefines and correctly defines the commandment on adultery, that it's not simply sleeping with another person's spouse, but it's looking at anyone with lust in your heart, then we define that as our definition of adultery. If we want to abide in Christ, then we walk in lockstep with his commands and we submit our life to his word. John 1 says that Jesus is the word of God, so we obey God's word, right? That's what we do. But here's the thing. Being obedient to the Bible, being obedient to Jesus's commandments, it's pretty challenging. It's pretty difficult. It takes a long time to get proficient at it. Some of us have a hard time with it all the time. And as I think about what it means to really obey God, I kind of think about it like I think about a golf swing. Back in 2013, I went to the Masters for the first time. Now, the Masters is a golf tournament in Augusta, Georgia. It's the greatest sporting event on the planet. If you don't agree with that, take it up with someone else. I'm not into frivolous conversations, okay? This is actually, I played golf a little bit when I was a kid. This is my Pawpaw Six Iron. He taught me how to play. I like to have pieces of him up here whenever I can. But I learned to play a little bit when I was a kid. But I left it to play other sports. I had ADD big time, I think. It was undiagnosed, but man, it was there. And so I liked to play soccer, and I walked away from golf a little bit. But in 2013, I went and I saw the Masters, and I thought, I've got to play this sport. This looks super fun. And so I grabbed a set of clubs, and I started going to the range as often as I could get there. A shameful amount of time. I neglected gym for golf. And so I started playing, right? And once you start playing golf, you start learning that the golf swing is pretty stinking complicated. It doesn't look complicated. You watch it on TV, it seems like a pretty simple thing. But man, if you've ever tried to hit that ball any distance, even just in the air, you know it is difficult, okay? And so I started learning to play golf and you start to learn, man, there's all these technical aspects to the golf swing. Now, some of y'all know the golf swing a lot better than I do. So please don't judge me too harshly. But you do the golf swing and you wanna square up to the ball. It's called a dress, okay? The's on the ground. You want to address it, so you want to make sure your club head is facing the right way behind it. You want your feet to be spread about shoulder width apart if you've got an iron in your hand. Not too far, because you'll look ridiculous like a sumo wrestler. So you just want it right there, right? And then you've got to grip the club. And there's actually a way to do this. They, like, tell you. I went and got golf lessons one time. And the first thing the guy said is, show me how you grip the club. And I'm like, you're weird. Just tell me how to swing the club. But apparently it's important. You have to interlock your fingers in the back. Or if you're fancy, you can cover over your fingers in the back. But you don't do it like this. That's what crazy people do, okay? You can't do that. You have to grab it like this. And this hand needs to be in a certain place. And did you know that your thumb has to go in the crease of your hand right there? It took me two years to learn that. I don't know why they didn't tell me that. But you have to put your thumb right there, and then you hold it. Your knuckle's got to be in a certain place. If you rotate your hand too far under, you're going to hook it. You don't want to do that. And if you do it too far this way, you're going to slice it. You don't want to do that. So it's got to be just right. And then they tell you, once you get the club, that you just want to hold it like a baby bird, okay? Like you just want it to be real gentle. I've got like this death grip on there, and people have told me, you're going to strangle that bird, man. You need to let it go. So you got to be gentle with it, you know? Just hold it like pillow soft, like you do a lot of dishes or something. And then you want to take it back. And when you take it back, you want to keep your left arm straight. And you want to keep your left wrist flat. I do this sometimes or this. You don't want to do that. You want to keep it flat, right, so that when you meet the ball, like it's flush. And so you come back. And when you come back, you want to bend your left leg, but not too much. You don't want to look like a crazy person. You got to do it a little bit. And then I had somebody one time on my backswing tell me, you want your back pocket to face the target. And I'm like, well, how do you, I don't know what that looks like. Like, I don't even, I'm not, maybe that dude was a gymnast. Like, I don't even know how to make that one work, man. And then you go and you do the thing and you follow through. And sometimes I'll follow through and people will say things that I don't understand. Like, I'll hit the ball and it didn't do what I wanted to because it never does. And people will go, oh, you double crossed that one. And I'm like, what are you talking, I don't know what that, I don't know what it means to double cross. Or sometimes people will tell me, your hands got a little fast on that one. And I'm just thinking to myself, like isn't that the point? Don't we want our hands to go fast in a golf swing? Like I'm thinking that slow hands is not good for golf. But it's super complicated, right? And so here's what we know about golf. When you're golfing with your buddies and somebody's struggling and you want to give them a little tip, I'm going to coach you. I'm terrible at golf. I have a 20-plus handicap, but I'm going to coach you. I'm going to give you the thing that's going to make you good at it. You can give somebody one tip to start thinking about one thing. Your backswing's a little fast. You want to slow that down, and it'll screw them up for the rest of the round. They won't be able to hit that because they'll be thinking about all the things. They won't be able to hit that for anything. So here's what they tell you in golf if you want to improve your swing. You get what's called a swing thought. When you're swinging the club, you get a swing thought. You get to think about one thing. Just do one thing. There's so many aspects to the swing. It's so technical and so complicated. You could think about 12 different things if you wanted to, but if you want to get better at it, you think about one thing. I played an entire round of golf focused on keeping my left heel on the ground when I would swing the club. The whole round, that's all I thought about all day. You get one swing thought. Because if you take more than that, you won't be able to keep up with it. It'll be a messy jumble in your head and you won't see success. But the way they teach you to get better at golf is you take one swing thought and you get better at that. You don't think about all the other things. You get better at the one thing, whatever's most urgent for you. And then once you get that down, you get that into muscle memory, then you do the next thing. That's how they teach you. And I think obedience works the same way. There's so many things to focus on. There's so many areas. We need to grow in our kindness. We need to grow in our generosity. We need to grow in our patience. We need to grow in our humility. We need to stop doing this one sin that's kicking our tail. We need to start doing this thing that God's been tugging on our heart about for a long time. There's so many different things we could do to try to obey God. But I want to submit to you that the way to really learn obedience is to just have one obedience thought. Just take the next thing. Just take the next step. I'm not saying that we don't worry about all the other things. When you're learning a golf swing, you don't forego everything else you've already worked on to work on the next thing. You keep those intact too, but then you work on the next thing. And I think our Christian life is much the same way. We should have, and we are wise to have, an obedience thought, a next step of obedience, a thing that we can do to begin to obey God a little bit better and a little bit better. And the beautiful thing about this is, I think all of us have a next step of obedience. Whether you've been walking with God for five days or for 50 years, there's always the next thing that you can work on. There's always the next thing that God would have you, the next step of obedience that he would have you take. If you were to go to a PGA event and talk to one of the guys who does it professionally and ask him, what are you working on with your swing? None of them would ever tell you, nothing, this is as good as it gets. They would always tell you that they're working on something. And this is how it is with our obedience to God. No matter how many years we've been walking, no matter how mature or immature we are, every one of us in the room has a next step of obedience that we can take. And if we're going to learn to obey God and follow Him and abide in Christ, then I think it boils down to simply taking our next step of obedience. So objective three, our third assignment in how we abide in Christ, is by praying, stepping, and trusting. We pray, we step, and we trust. Under that, I have a prayer for you where I'm encouraging you to pray, Father, show me my next step of obedience. And that's a prayer that I would encourage you to pray now and pray every day this week. Father, show me my next step of obedience. What would you have me do? So we pray about it. God, what's my next step? What do you have for me? What's the next thing you want me to do? Maybe it's to get more serious about church attendance. Maybe it's to get more serious about a small group. Maybe it's to get up every day and spend time in God's word. Maybe it's simply to consider Him, to read a book or do some research or have a conversation with somebody that would help us grow in our faith a little bit. Maybe it's to start the discipline of tithing or giving. Maybe it's to actually have the conversation that we've been having. Maybe you know exactly what it is because God's been pressing it on our hearts for weeks or months and we haven't listened. But we should pray that God would show us our next step of obedience that he would have us take. And then we trust. We step. We take the step. We obey him, and then we trust that it was the right thing, and we trust that life is going to be better on the other side of obedience. A couple of weeks ago, we talked about obedience, and we talked about this idea that sometimes the reason we're not obedient to God is because we believe that life is better on this side of obedience. And so to actually step into obedience requires a degree of trust that life is actually going to be better for us on the other side of obedience, that that's where we find God's grace and God's love. And so often obedience takes faith in God and the courage to actually take the step. But here's what happens when we do this. I love this. This is my favorite part about this teaching. When we take a step of obedience, however difficult it is, God impresses something on our hearts. I want you to do this. I want you to get up 30 minutes earlier and I want you to spend some time with me. I want you to actually give to this thing. I want you to actually have that conversation. It's a difficult step when he shows it to us. But if we'll take it, and when we take that step in our fear and what we're met with is God's grace and goodness, we'll see that we can actually trust him. And because we've had this experience of taking a step in faith and being met with God's goodness, it'll give us more courage to take the next step, won't it? And then the next step, and then the step after that. And then for our life, we are simply taking these steps of obedience as we grow closer to Jesus and abide in him. And then here's what happens as we take these steps of obedience. We abide in Christ. And Jesus says that when we abide in him, we will bear much fruit. And here's what I love about that. If you think about an apple tree, if you think about a branch attached to an apple tree, that tree decides when and what kind of fruit that branch is going to bear. That branch doesn't get to decide, you know what? I want to give us apples in the wintertime. I really like apple pie. I'm doing winter apples. That's what's happening this year. That's not how that works. The tree decides when that branch is going to bear fruit. The branch doesn't get to go, you know what, fellas? I'm really thinking pears. They're in. Turkey and brie, it's really good. That's what we're going to do. The tree doesn't get to decide, I'm tired of being in an orchard, I want to be in a mangrove. We're doing oranges this season. That doesn't happen. The tree decides when the branch will bear fruit and what kind of fruit it is. Look at this. When you abide in Christ, when you are connected and you stay connected and you're following him and you know him intimately, when you're connected to the tree, you will bear much fruit. And it's not up to you when and where you bear that fruit. It's not up to you what kind of fruit that is. It's not up to you when the season is when you bear it. The tree decides that. You remain connected to Christ, and Christ says, I'll decide when and where you bear fruit. I love the freedom of this. And my role, my heart is for grace. We've given our lives to build God's church here. So I want to see grace grow. I want to see the kingdom expand here. I want to see lives impacted. I want to hear the story about somebody coming, visiting with us over VBS or Summer Extreme, and their kid coming to faith who didn't know Jesus comes to know Jesus here. And then that kid goes home and tells their parents what they saw here. And then their parents come, and their parents get plugged into a small group, and they accept Christ. And then they grow in their faith by taking their next steps of obedience and then there are elders and there are leaders and they're leading their small group. I want to see that story. I want to see marriages rescued here and strengthened here. I want to see little kids that grow up here and then grow up to follow Christ so well and so closely and know him so good that they disciple us. I want some of the kids that are in there to preach up here one day and tell us what they've learned about God. I want to see all this stuff happen in our church, and I want to see you guys live healthy and vibrant lives in spiritual faith. I want to see that. Do you know how we bring that about? Do you know what my role is in bringing all those things about? Getting up every day and spending time in God's Word and time in prayer and trying to take my next step of obedience, abiding in Christ. If I want to see that fruit at grace, if I want to see God do incredible things, you know what I need to do? Abide in Christ. Obey Him. He'll decide when and where we start bringing fruit. It's not about strategy. It's not about how good I preach. It's not about how good Steve does. It's not about marketing campaigns. It's not about follow-up. It's not about any of that stuff. It's about abiding in Christ, and Jesus will handle the rest. In your lives, you have kids you worry about and you pray for. You have ministries that you're involved in. You volunteer in different places. You have companies or groups of people around you that you want to influence and draw towards Jesus. You want to have a wake of people in your life who would say, I'm closer to Jesus because I knew that person. We want these things. You know how you get those things? Abide in Christ. Obey him. Get connected, stay connected. Take the next step of obedience. Pursue him daily. And guess what? He will decide when and where you bear fruit. But here's the promise. You will bear much fruit. Just simply abide in him. Pursue him. Obey him. Have the confidence and the faith to take the next step that he shows you, and you will abide abide in Christ and then the tree will decide when and where you bear fruit. There's a glorious freedom to this. And when we bear much fruit, you should know two things happen in this passage. Two things happen as a result of our bearing fruit. We are pruned and we are proven. We are pruned and we are proven. The second verse of this passage, Jesus says, when you bear much fruit, the Father will prune you so that you can bear more fruit. And make no mistake about it, that pruning hurts. That's the branches getting cut. That's when they lose a piece of themselves. I don't have time to delve into what pruning is like all the way this morning, but I know that for years and years, Jen and I prayed for a baby. We prayed to get pregnant, and it took a lot longer than we wanted it to take. We finally got pregnant, and then we miscarried. I've shared that with you guys before. That was four or five years ago. That was a super difficult thing. That's the hardest thing we've ever had to walk through as a couple. But I am convinced that that was a pruning period for us. Because how could I come lead a church? And how could Jen partner with me in this ministry if we didn't know grief? If we didn't know tragedy? If we didn't know what that was like? How could I teach about God's view of grief and how he's with us in our suffering unless I had experienced that? How could I empathize with someone who would shake their fist at God and say, why me, this isn't fair, unless I had walked through that in my life as well? I believe that part of the reason for that was a pruning to make us more effective in what God would have us do. I'm not saying that's the reason for all of our pain, but I'm saying that's the reason for some of it. God prunes us. That's why I hate the health and wealth gospel. We're not promised prosperity and a tragic free life. We're promised that if God prunes us, it's so that we will be more effective and bear more fruit, which is the whole point. And then, in that bearing fruit, we are proven. Every Christian ever has wondered, am I really saved? Did I do it right? Did I say the right prayer? Do I really have faith? If I were to die today, do I really know I'm going to go to heaven? You know what proves your faith? Fruit. Jesus says in this passage, you will bear much fruit, and so prove that you are my disciples. You want to not doubt your salvation? Look at the wake of your life and see if there is fruit there. When we bear fruit, two things happen. We are pruned and we are proven. And then as a result of all of this, all of these things, this idea of taking steps of obedience and finding God to meet us there in trust, of abiding in him and just focusing on him and not worrying about the end of the passage, verse 11. He says, these things I have spoken to you. So this lesson, what I've just taught you about the vine and the branches, these things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be full. All of these things, knowing Jesus, abiding in him, obeying him, bearing fruit, being pruned and being proven, all of these things conspire to fill you with joy. Because in simply abiding in Christ, we are relieved of the pressure of productivity. We are relieved from the pressure of results because it's not our responsibility to bring about the fruit. We just follow Jesus. We are relieved of the sense of hopelessness that sometimes comes from pain because we know that it's serving a purpose to prune us and make us more effective at bearing fruit for God's kingdom. And we are relieved of the worry and the anxiety of, am I actually saved? Am I actually going to persevere? Because the proof is in the fruit that we have borne. God relieves us of all of those things and frees us up to simply follow him, to wake up every day, spend time in God's word, spend time in prayer, and to say, Father, what's the step of obedience you would have me take today? And when we do that, we experience the fullness, not of our joy, of his joy. So that's my prayer for you. That you would go from this place and that you would abide in Christ and experience the fullness of Jesus' joy. And my challenge to you is that you would pray now and every day this week, Father, what step of obedience would you have me take today? Father, please show me my next step of obedience. And I believe that by doing that and taking the step that he reveals to you, that we will abide in Christ and that by abiding in Christ, his word will be true and we will bear much fruit. And that by bearing much fruit, we will experience the fullness of the joy of Jesus. I'm going to pray for you. And as I pray, I want to encourage you right now to go ahead and begin asking God, what's my next step of obedience? Let's pray. Father, we love you so much. We thank you for this morning. We thank you for your word, how clear it is. We thank you that your son boiled things down for us to this place where we can understand it. I pray that we would simply abide in you, God. Create a fire in each of our hearts to know you, to abide in you, to walk with you, to obey you. Give us the strength to pray the prayer, to ask what our next step is. Give us the courage and the faith to take the step. Give us the clarity to see it. Give us the gratitude for your grace that meets us there. God, whether it's a big step or a small one, I pray that we would take it. I pray that this would be a church full of people who are abiding in you and with you. And God, we can't wait to see the fruit that you bring about here in our lives and in this place. It's in your son's name we pray, amen.

Good morning. How you doing? A couple of things. My name's Nate. I'm one of the pastors here. I love seeing everybody here for the second service. There's a lot of space at the first service, so feel free. And in case you're wondering, does God smile more when you come to the early service? He does. He's smiling a little bit now, but man, the grin on his face when you get up that much earlier is really something special. The Lord moves in that first service. The other thing I want to mention is this. I'm super excited about this. It may not be the case. You never know what's going to happen for the rest of the tournament. But for now, Jen, my wife, is beating all of us in the churchwide bracket challenge, which is a pretty big deal. If you know Scott Hunter, he's in dead last, and that's fun too. All right, we're in the eighth part of our series in John, and I really enjoy getting to move through the book of John with you. This morning, we arrive at what I think is a critical seminal teaching of Jesus in this book. And to help us think about it, I want us to go back to that first day of a class that we took in college, okay? If you didn't have the experience of doing that or you haven't had it yet, you're not missing much. It's overrated. But for those that had to do it, there's this common experience on the first day of class in college. And I'm talking about back before the internet was a thing, when us old people went to college. It's not often that I get to lump myself in with the old people, but this week I do. This was before we had the Internet. You didn't know what to expect in your class, right? And so you'd go on that first day. You're taking whatever it is you're taking, Philosophy 101 or English 101 or whatever it is, and you don't know what to expect. It's the great unknown. What's this professor going to be like? What are my assignments going to be? How do I achieve success in this class? We all bring a different set of goals to the class. I mean, some of y'all are nerds, and you wanted to get an A, and so you thought, like, what am I going to have to do? And I don't mean that really. I wish I would have cared more about getting good grades. But some of you guys really cared about your grades, and so you're thinking, what do I need to do to get an A in this class? I just want to know the work that I'm going to have to do. For me, my academic goals were literally just, what do I have to do so that my parents aren't furious at me at the end of the semester? They were helping out with college, so what do I have to do to keep the gravy train rolling? That's the amount of effort I'd like to give to right? And there are some of you, you got there and you flipped to the back and you look at the assignments and you went, I will never step foot in this class again, right? Because there's too much work there. That's what we did. You get to class. For those that don't have the experience, you get to class. The professor gives you the syllabus. You grab it. And then at the top of the syllabus, you always read this thing. It says that the successful student will be proficient in yada, yada, yada, right? Or the successful student will be proficient in these things. And so you're like, okay, well, this is the goal of the class. This is what it looks like to be successful in this class. Now I know this, but then what are you really interested in? You're really interested in the assignments. What am I going to have to do to achieve the success? And then in the syllabus, you'll remember he or she would have like the philosophy of the class and their philosophy of teaching and all the goals and all the different things. You went, yeah, I don't care about that. You flip to the back of it, and that's where they had the assignment load. And you wanted to see how many tests, how long is the paper going to have to be, right? What am I going to have to do in this class to pass? And that's when some of us went, I don't think I'm coming back to this place because it was just too much work. But we've had that experience. And to me, regardless of what kind of student you were, whether you're a straight A student or you're a slacker like me, you would go to that class with a set of goals. I want to accomplish this in the class. And then you would love the syllabus because that would bring, that would make the unknown known. It would tell you, this is what's expected of me here. This is how they're defining success, and these are the things that I have to do to be successful. And we like this mindset. We have this mindset about a lot of the things that we do. We all, all of us, if we're old enough, have jobs, or we've had a job before. You get to that job, and what do they do? They give you a job description, and at the top of the job description, it says, this is what this position is for. This position will do this and this and this and this. And then there's objectives underneath that. This is how those things are going to be accomplished. This employee will do this thing and this thing and this thing. We like having a very clearly defined version of success, and we like having clear steps to achieve that success, don't we? And we often apply this to our faith. In every Bible study that I've ever been in, I've been in church my whole life. I've been doing ministry for about 20, I went pro in my Christianity about 20 years ago. And in every Bible study that I've ever been in, and a lot of conversations with with my friends and a lot of different small groups, this idea gets presented. And it happened again a couple of weeks ago in the young person small group that my wife and I are leading now. One of the girls said, wouldn't it be nice if there was like a to-do list for our faith? If there were just some clearly defined parameters in the Bible so that we know what to do and when to do it. Wouldn't it be nice if we kind of had a syllabus or a job description for our faith? And this is a commonly expressed desire because the Bible can be very confusing and it can be very intimidating and there's a lot in there to learn. And there are some churches, and then Christianity in and of itself, there's some churches that think this way about an issue, this issue is terrible and it's wrong and you should never do it. And then there's churches over here who are like, no, that's actually pretty okay and we encourage it and we think that you should do it. And there's churches all over the spectrum and there's different ways to interpret the scripture. There's tons of different denominations. And sometimes it's really difficult to figure out, man, what is it that I'm supposed to do? And if you're a new believer or a non-believer, I think a very natural thing to think is, I'm considering this faith, what is it going to require of me? Or, I'm a Christian now, I'd like to be a good one, what does that mean? Is there a to-do list? Is there just something simple where I can know what to do? How is success defined? And how do I achieve that success? Which is why I think John 15 is such a great passage, because I think that Jesus gives us our course syllabus for Christianity. So a little bit different this morning is your notes on the back of the bulletin that you received, you have notes on the back of that. The back of that is actually a course syllabus for Christianity 101. So if you don't have the notes, I'd like you to slip up your hand and the ushers will try to get one to you. Is there anybody that needs one? Some of the ushers have some and they're going to go around making sure folks have those. This is Christianity 101, okay? This is your course syllabus for this morning. You'll notice on it, I am your professor, Professor Rector. I do that. I'm not going to get the chance to do that probably ever again in my life, except for when I pretend at church. So I'm your professor this morning. Class is in session. We're going to take a lot more notes than we normally do. I would encourage you to get out a pen. There's one more, a couple more over here. Just send the whole pile down. I encourage you to get out a pen and write along with me, okay? If you don't have any now, we're out. So you're just going to have to go old school and cheat with your neighbor, okay? You have to look on to theirs. I believe, one more, she's auctioning it off. She's auctioning it off. I believe that Jesus gives us our core syllabus for Christianity in John chapter 15. I'm going to read the first five verses, and then we're going to talk about why I think this is true. If you have a Bible, you can open to it. If you don't, there's one in the seat back in front of you. But this is what Jesus says. He says, That's important. We're going to come back to that later. Verse 5, this is the clincher. All right, so this week we arrive at one of these great I am statements that Jesus makes. In the other Gospels, in Matthew, Mark, and Luke, we have the parables. You're probably familiar with them. They're made-up stories that Jesus tells to make a moral point. And in John, we don't have any of those parables. What we see is Jesus making these I am statements. I'm the bread of life. I'm the living water. I'm the way, the truth, and the life. I am the good shepherd. And now this week, he says, I am the vine, and you are the branches. And this is said to an agrarian society that understood what it was to grow grapes and try to make wine from these grapes. It was part of that culture. They were very familiar with this terminology, and that's what he's talking about. I am the vine, you are the branches, you're going to grow grapes. Connect to me and you will bear much fruit. And so in our terminology and way of thinking of it, it makes more sense to say that I am the tree trunk and you are the branches. But what he's saying is, I'm the source of life, I'm the source of joy, and you are attached to me. And when you abide in me, when you are attached to me and you remain attached to me, you will bear much fruit. All right, that's what he's saying in this verse. And so in verse 5, when he says, I am the vine, you are the branches, abide in me, and I in you, and you will bear much fruit, that really is a packed statement. There's a lot of questions that come out of that statement. For me, the first thing that I see is what does it mean to bear fruit, and why is he talking about that? And I think that that helps set us up for the goal of the course. So at the top of the syllabus you have the student will be proficient in these things. So if we're thinking about Christianity as a course, we're trying to figure out what it is we need to do, then what we need to know is that the course goal is that the successful student or Christian will show proficiency in bearing fruit. Okay, if you're a believer and you want to know if you're successful, if you're thinking about becoming a Christian and you want to know what's going to be expected of me. If you're a new believer and you want to go, okay, well now what do I have to do? The successful student or Christian, the person who is successful in Christianity will be proficient in bearing fruit. And I say that because this seems to be the goal of the passage. Jesus says, abide in me, get attached to me, remain attached to me, and you will bear fruit. Do this, follow my commandments, obey me, love me. Why? So that you can bear fruit. It seems to be that the point of the Christian life, the reason that Jesus leaves us here rather than taking us to heaven immediately upon salvation is so that we can bear fruit. So if you want to know what's the whole point of the Christian life, why are we here? Christianity 101, the successful student will show proficiency in bearing fruit. That's the point. So then you have to ask, okay, what does it mean to bear fruit? And those of you who are church people, you've heard this before, you know this passage. And if I were to ask you, hey, it says that if I'm attached, if I abide, that I will bear fruit. What does it mean to bear fruit? You would probably go, well, it means that you should, well, now hang on. Because it gets a little complicated, doesn't it? What does it mean? Some people would say that it means that we should bear the fruit of the Spirit that Paul talks about in Galatians 5. Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. We should become more like God in character and develop those traits in our life. To bear fruit means to bear the fruit of the Spirit. Other people would say, well, it means to bear the fruit of ministry. It means that in your life, you're leading people to Jesus, you're discipling people, bringing them closer to Jesus, that there is actually evidence of ministry and people what I think Jesus would say is that it's both. And I think that he says this in what we talked about last week in John chapter 13. If you weren't here last week, in John chapter 13, Jesus tells the disciples, I'm giving you a new commandment that you should love one another as I have loved you. That's the new commandment. That's what we're supposed to do. And then the question becomes, how do I do that? So last week is kind of, what are we supposed to do? We're supposed to love one another as Jesus loved us. And this week is, how do we do that? Well, we do that by abiding. And so what it means to bear fruit, I think, is this. When we love somebody as Jesus loved us, not as we love ourselves, a higher standard, Jesus' love. When we love somebody as Jesus loved us, it is impossible to do that without bearing the fruit of the Spirit in our life, right? How are you going to love other people as Jesus has loved you if we're not bearing love and joy and peace and patience and kindness and goodness and faithfulness and gentleness and self-control? How are we going to be able to do that if we're not becoming more like God in character? We can't. So part of it is to bear the fruit of the Spirit. But then the results of this love, if we love other people as Jesus loved them, when Jesus loved these people, what did they do? They drew more closely to him. And so when we love others as Jesus loved us, it's going to have this natural effect of drawing them into the Father, of drawing them towards Jesus. And so I think it's safe to define for the purposes of the course, again, in our syllabus, that bearing fruit will be defined as loving others towards Jesus. When we're looking at this and it says that we should bear much fruit, what does it mean to bear fruit? It means that we are proficient in loving others towards Jesus. Loving them in such a way that when they look at our impact in their life, they go, I am closer to Jesus because of them. To bear fruit simply is to look at the wake of our life and the people that we know in our life and have people who would point to us and say, I love Jesus more because of the way that they love me. I love Jesus more. I feel closer to Jesus because of their influence in my life. That is fruit. It's both a character, that has both a character aspect and a ministry aspect. But that's what it means to bear fruit, is to love people towards Jesus. So that's the goal for the course, right? That's what success looks like. The successful student will be proficient in bearing fruit or loving people towards Jesus. So now, how do we do that? And that's what this passage answers. And it gives us, I think, our assignments. And so the coursework, the objective, the first objective, our first assignment, the first thing we have to do is abide in Christ. Plain and simple. Abide in Christ. And if you're a church person, you've heard this before. You know this passage. This is a famous passage. You know how this goes. But I think it works pretty similarly. If I say, what does it mean to abide in Christ? I think sometimes we have a hard time explaining that or understanding that. And so I really wanted to dive into it this week so I could do a good job hopefully explaining it to you. And one of the things that I learned that I thought was most helpful was this idea. See, Jesus is talking to the disciples at the end of his life. We are in the middle of Passion Week in the chronology of the life of Christ. In a couple of days, he's going to be arrested and crucified and then raised from the dead, and we celebrate Easter, right, in the story of Jesus. So he's very near the end of his life. He's been moving through life with the disciples for three years now. He's been doing ministry with them. He's been ministering to them. He's been discipling them. He's been training them. He's been teaching them. He's been loving on them. He's been developing them. And so over these three years, there's this intimate relationship that has formed between them. And to me, it's very interesting that here at the end of his life, he calls the disciples to abide. Abide in me are his instructions to the disciples. But that's not what he said when he met the disciples. When he met the disciples and he called them to himself, what did he tell them to do? Follow me, right? So three years ago, it was follow me. Three years later, after spending all this time together, it's abide. And I love that there's a relational maturation to the calling of Jesus in this passage, where at the beginning he says, I want you to follow me. And when you follow someone, there's a distance there. I'm watching what you're doing and I'm trying to do those things. But when you abide, there's this relational aspect to it of knowing someone intimately, knowing them well. Let your heart beat with mine. Let what brings me joy bring you joy. Let what breaks my heart break your heart. Let my goals be your goals. There is this relational dynamic to abiding. The word there in the text literally means to get connected and remain connected like a branch is to a tree. So over these three years with Jesus, we see this relational component where we're supposed to know him intimately. I think if we want to make it our goal to abide in Christ, one of the very first things we have to do is find time in our day, every day, to spend time in word and spend time in prayer. If we want to abide in Christ, if we want to know him intimately, if we want to pursue him, what do we need to do? We need to get up every day, spend time in God's word and spend time in his presence through prayer. We have to do that. That's an integral part of our life. And this is actually this idea, abide, we are to abide in Christ, is where we get this idea of having a personal relationship with our Savior. You guys have heard that before. Even if you're not a believer, you're here because someone drug you here. First of all, I'm so glad that you're here, and I'll try to go quickly for you. But second of all, you understand, and you've probably heard this term before, that we should have a personal relationship with Jesus. And sometimes we talk about how this separates us from other religions, that we're actually invited into a relationship with our Savior and with our God. But it's a very natural question to go, okay, I'm invited into a relationship with Jesus, but how do I have a relationship with this person or this entity that I don't interact with the same way as I do everyone else? I can't see him. I can't touch him. I can't see the look in his eye. I can't hear the cadence of his voice. How do I get to know somebody that I can't see or feel or touch? How do I have this intimate relationship with what feels like at times a distant God? That's a very fair question to ask. And Jesus actually answers this. I was nervous about how to explain it. How do we abide in Christ? How do we have this personal relationship with him? How do we experience the connection that the disciples felt? And I was actually kind of nervous about explaining this to you until I got to read the passage and really study it. And what I found is that Jesus answers this question in verse 10. And so really this is the second part of, this is our second assignment, our second objective. We want to be successful in the class of Christianity. The first thing we do is we abide in Christ. The second thing we do is we abide by obeying. We abide by obeying. In verse 10, Jesus says this. He says, If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father's commandments and abide in his love. If you keep my commandments, you abide in my love. You want to know how to abide in Christ? Obey him. You want to bear fruit? You want to be a successful Christian? You want to do what you're supposed to do, what you were put on this earth to do? Then abide in Christ. You want to abide in Christ? Well, Jesus says, obey him. You want to abide in me? Obey me. That means all the things, right? That means that when Jesus says in Matthew, in the Sermon on the Mount, that when someone hits us in the face that we need to turn the other cheek and not seek revenge, that we learn what that means and that we do that. That means that when someone asks us to go a mile and Jesus tells us to go an extra mile, we go an extra mile. When Jesus tells us that when someone asks for our fleece, we should give them our coat as well, we give them our coat. When Jesus tells us that we should be generous and that we should care for the poor, then we be generous and we care for the poor. When he tells us that, when he redefines and correctly defines the commandment on adultery, that it's not simply sleeping with another person's spouse, but it's looking at anyone with lust in your heart, then we define that as our definition of adultery. If we want to abide in Christ, then we walk in lockstep with his commands and we submit our life to his word. John 1 says that Jesus is the word of God, so we obey God's word, right? That's what we do. But here's the thing. Being obedient to the Bible, being obedient to Jesus's commandments, it's pretty challenging. It's pretty difficult. It takes a long time to get proficient at it. Some of us have a hard time with it all the time. And as I think about what it means to really obey God, I kind of think about it like I think about a golf swing. Back in 2013, I went to the Masters for the first time. Now, the Masters is a golf tournament in Augusta, Georgia. It's the greatest sporting event on the planet. If you don't agree with that, take it up with someone else. I'm not into frivolous conversations, okay? This is actually, I played golf a little bit when I was a kid. This is my Pawpaw Six Iron. He taught me how to play. I like to have pieces of him up here whenever I can. But I learned to play a little bit when I was a kid. But I left it to play other sports. I had ADD big time, I think. It was undiagnosed, but man, it was there. And so I liked to play soccer, and I walked away from golf a little bit. But in 2013, I went and I saw the Masters, and I thought, I've got to play this sport. This looks super fun. And so I grabbed a set of clubs, and I started going to the range as often as I could get there. A shameful amount of time. I neglected gym for golf. And so I started playing, right? And once you start playing golf, you start learning that the golf swing is pretty stinking complicated. It doesn't look complicated. You watch it on TV, it seems like a pretty simple thing. But man, if you've ever tried to hit that ball any distance, even just in the air, you know it is difficult, okay? And so I started learning to play golf and you start to learn, man, there's all these technical aspects to the golf swing. Now, some of y'all know the golf swing a lot better than I do. So please don't judge me too harshly. But you do the golf swing and you wanna square up to the ball. It's called a dress, okay? The's on the ground. You want to address it, so you want to make sure your club head is facing the right way behind it. You want your feet to be spread about shoulder width apart if you've got an iron in your hand. Not too far, because you'll look ridiculous like a sumo wrestler. So you just want it right there, right? And then you've got to grip the club. And there's actually a way to do this. They, like, tell you. I went and got golf lessons one time. And the first thing the guy said is, show me how you grip the club. And I'm like, you're weird. Just tell me how to swing the club. But apparently it's important. You have to interlock your fingers in the back. Or if you're fancy, you can cover over your fingers in the back. But you don't do it like this. That's what crazy people do, okay? You can't do that. You have to grab it like this. And this hand needs to be in a certain place. And did you know that your thumb has to go in the crease of your hand right there? It took me two years to learn that. I don't know why they didn't tell me that. But you have to put your thumb right there, and then you hold it. Your knuckle's got to be in a certain place. If you rotate your hand too far under, you're going to hook it. You don't want to do that. And if you do it too far this way, you're going to slice it. You don't want to do that. So it's got to be just right. And then they tell you, once you get the club, that you just want to hold it like a baby bird, okay? Like you just want it to be real gentle. I've got like this death grip on there, and people have told me, you're going to strangle that bird, man. You need to let it go. So you got to be gentle with it, you know? Just hold it like pillow soft, like you do a lot of dishes or something. And then you want to take it back. And when you take it back, you want to keep your left arm straight. And you want to keep your left wrist flat. I do this sometimes or this. You don't want to do that. You want to keep it flat, right, so that when you meet the ball, like it's flush. And so you come back. And when you come back, you want to bend your left leg, but not too much. You don't want to look like a crazy person. You got to do it a little bit. And then I had somebody one time on my backswing tell me, you want your back pocket to face the target. And I'm like, well, how do you, I don't know what that looks like. Like, I don't even, I'm not, maybe that dude was a gymnast. Like, I don't even know how to make that one work, man. And then you go and you do the thing and you follow through. And sometimes I'll follow through and people will say things that I don't understand. Like, I'll hit the ball and it didn't do what I wanted to because it never does. And people will go, oh, you double crossed that one. And I'm like, what are you talking, I don't know what that, I don't know what it means to double cross. Or sometimes people will tell me, your hands got a little fast on that one. And I'm just thinking to myself, like isn't that the point? Don't we want our hands to go fast in a golf swing? Like I'm thinking that slow hands is not good for golf. But it's super complicated, right? And so here's what we know about golf. When you're golfing with your buddies and somebody's struggling and you want to give them a little tip, I'm going to coach you. I'm terrible at golf. I have a 20-plus handicap, but I'm going to coach you. I'm going to give you the thing that's going to make you good at it. You can give somebody one tip to start thinking about one thing. Your backswing's a little fast. You want to slow that down, and it'll screw them up for the rest of the round. They won't be able to hit that because they'll be thinking about all the things. They won't be able to hit that for anything. So here's what they tell you in golf if you want to improve your swing. You get what's called a swing thought. When you're swinging the club, you get a swing thought. You get to think about one thing. Just do one thing. There's so many aspects to the swing. It's so technical and so complicated. You could think about 12 different things if you wanted to, but if you want to get better at it, you think about one thing. I played an entire round of golf focused on keeping my left heel on the ground when I would swing the club. The whole round, that's all I thought about all day. You get one swing thought. Because if you take more than that, you won't be able to keep up with it. It'll be a messy jumble in your head and you won't see success. But the way they teach you to get better at golf is you take one swing thought and you get better at that. You don't think about all the other things. You get better at the one thing, whatever's most urgent for you. And then once you get that down, you get that into muscle memory, then you do the next thing. That's how they teach you. And I think obedience works the same way. There's so many things to focus on. There's so many areas. We need to grow in our kindness. We need to grow in our generosity. We need to grow in our patience. We need to grow in our humility. We need to stop doing this one sin that's kicking our tail. We need to start doing this thing that God's been tugging on our heart about for a long time. There's so many different things we could do to try to obey God. But I want to submit to you that the way to really learn obedience is to just have one obedience thought. Just take the next thing. Just take the next step. I'm not saying that we don't worry about all the other things. When you're learning a golf swing, you don't forego everything else you've already worked on to work on the next thing. You keep those intact too, but then you work on the next thing. And I think our Christian life is much the same way. We should have, and we are wise to have, an obedience thought, a next step of obedience, a thing that we can do to begin to obey God a little bit better and a little bit better. And the beautiful thing about this is, I think all of us have a next step of obedience. Whether you've been walking with God for five days or for 50 years, there's always the next thing that you can work on. There's always the next thing that God would have you, the next step of obedience that he would have you take. If you were to go to a PGA event and talk to one of the guys who does it professionally and ask him, what are you working on with your swing? None of them would ever tell you, nothing, this is as good as it gets. They would always tell you that they're working on something. And this is how it is with our obedience to God. No matter how many years we've been walking, no matter how mature or immature we are, every one of us in the room has a next step of obedience that we can take. And if we're going to learn to obey God and follow Him and abide in Christ, then I think it boils down to simply taking our next step of obedience. So objective three, our third assignment in how we abide in Christ, is by praying, stepping, and trusting. We pray, we step, and we trust. Under that, I have a prayer for you where I'm encouraging you to pray, Father, show me my next step of obedience. And that's a prayer that I would encourage you to pray now and pray every day this week. Father, show me my next step of obedience. What would you have me do? So we pray about it. God, what's my next step? What do you have for me? What's the next thing you want me to do? Maybe it's to get more serious about church attendance. Maybe it's to get more serious about a small group. Maybe it's to get up every day and spend time in God's word. Maybe it's simply to consider Him, to read a book or do some research or have a conversation with somebody that would help us grow in our faith a little bit. Maybe it's to start the discipline of tithing or giving. Maybe it's to actually have the conversation that we've been having. Maybe you know exactly what it is because God's been pressing it on our hearts for weeks or months and we haven't listened. But we should pray that God would show us our next step of obedience that he would have us take. And then we trust. We step. We take the step. We obey him, and then we trust that it was the right thing, and we trust that life is going to be better on the other side of obedience. A couple of weeks ago, we talked about obedience, and we talked about this idea that sometimes the reason we're not obedient to God is because we believe that life is better on this side of obedience. And so to actually step into obedience requires a degree of trust that life is actually going to be better for us on the other side of obedience, that that's where we find God's grace and God's love. And so often obedience takes faith in God and the courage to actually take the step. But here's what happens when we do this. I love this. This is my favorite part about this teaching. When we take a step of obedience, however difficult it is, God impresses something on our hearts. I want you to do this. I want you to get up 30 minutes earlier and I want you to spend some time with me. I want you to actually give to this thing. I want you to actually have that conversation. It's a difficult step when he shows it to us. But if we'll take it, and when we take that step in our fear and what we're met with is God's grace and goodness, we'll see that we can actually trust him. And because we've had this experience of taking a step in faith and being met with God's goodness, it'll give us more courage to take the next step, won't it? And then the next step, and then the step after that. And then for our life, we are simply taking these steps of obedience as we grow closer to Jesus and abide in him. And then here's what happens as we take these steps of obedience. We abide in Christ. And Jesus says that when we abide in him, we will bear much fruit. And here's what I love about that. If you think about an apple tree, if you think about a branch attached to an apple tree, that tree decides when and what kind of fruit that branch is going to bear. That branch doesn't get to decide, you know what? I want to give us apples in the wintertime. I really like apple pie. I'm doing winter apples. That's what's happening this year. That's not how that works. The tree decides when that branch is going to bear fruit. The branch doesn't get to go, you know what, fellas? I'm really thinking pears. They're in. Turkey and brie, it's really good. That's what we're going to do. The tree doesn't get to decide, I'm tired of being in an orchard, I want to be in a mangrove. We're doing oranges this season. That doesn't happen. The tree decides when the branch will bear fruit and what kind of fruit it is. Look at this. When you abide in Christ, when you are connected and you stay connected and you're following him and you know him intimately, when you're connected to the tree, you will bear much fruit. And it's not up to you when and where you bear that fruit. It's not up to you what kind of fruit that is. It's not up to you when the season is when you bear it. The tree decides that. You remain connected to Christ, and Christ says, I'll decide when and where you bear fruit. I love the freedom of this. And my role, my heart is for grace. We've given our lives to build God's church here. So I want to see grace grow. I want to see the kingdom expand here. I want to see lives impacted. I want to hear the story about somebody coming, visiting with us over VBS or Summer Extreme, and their kid coming to faith who didn't know Jesus comes to know Jesus here. And then that kid goes home and tells their parents what they saw here. And then their parents come, and their parents get plugged into a small group, and they accept Christ. And then they grow in their faith by taking their next steps of obedience and then there are elders and there are leaders and they're leading their small group. I want to see that story. I want to see marriages rescued here and strengthened here. I want to see little kids that grow up here and then grow up to follow Christ so well and so closely and know him so good that they disciple us. I want some of the kids that are in there to preach up here one day and tell us what they've learned about God. I want to see all this stuff happen in our church, and I want to see you guys live healthy and vibrant lives in spiritual faith. I want to see that. Do you know how we bring that about? Do you know what my role is in bringing all those things about? Getting up every day and spending time in God's Word and time in prayer and trying to take my next step of obedience, abiding in Christ. If I want to see that fruit at grace, if I want to see God do incredible things, you know what I need to do? Abide in Christ. Obey Him. He'll decide when and where we start bringing fruit. It's not about strategy. It's not about how good I preach. It's not about how good Steve does. It's not about marketing campaigns. It's not about follow-up. It's not about any of that stuff. It's about abiding in Christ, and Jesus will handle the rest. In your lives, you have kids you worry about and you pray for. You have ministries that you're involved in. You volunteer in different places. You have companies or groups of people around you that you want to influence and draw towards Jesus. You want to have a wake of people in your life who would say, I'm closer to Jesus because I knew that person. We want these things. You know how you get those things? Abide in Christ. Obey him. Get connected, stay connected. Take the next step of obedience. Pursue him daily. And guess what? He will decide when and where you bear fruit. But here's the promise. You will bear much fruit. Just simply abide in him. Pursue him. Obey him. Have the confidence and the faith to take the next step that he shows you, and you will abide abide in Christ and then the tree will decide when and where you bear fruit. There's a glorious freedom to this. And when we bear much fruit, you should know two things happen in this passage. Two things happen as a result of our bearing fruit. We are pruned and we are proven. We are pruned and we are proven. The second verse of this passage, Jesus says, when you bear much fruit, the Father will prune you so that you can bear more fruit. And make no mistake about it, that pruning hurts. That's the branches getting cut. That's when they lose a piece of themselves. I don't have time to delve into what pruning is like all the way this morning, but I know that for years and years, Jen and I prayed for a baby. We prayed to get pregnant, and it took a lot longer than we wanted it to take. We finally got pregnant, and then we miscarried. I've shared that with you guys before. That was four or five years ago. That was a super difficult thing. That's the hardest thing we've ever had to walk through as a couple. But I am convinced that that was a pruning period for us. Because how could I come lead a church? And how could Jen partner with me in this ministry if we didn't know grief? If we didn't know tragedy? If we didn't know what that was like? How could I teach about God's view of grief and how he's with us in our suffering unless I had experienced that? How could I empathize with someone who would shake their fist at God and say, why me, this isn't fair, unless I had walked through that in my life as well? I believe that part of the reason for that was a pruning to make us more effective in what God would have us do. I'm not saying that's the reason for all of our pain, but I'm saying that's the reason for some of it. God prunes us. That's why I hate the health and wealth gospel. We're not promised prosperity and a tragic free life. We're promised that if God prunes us, it's so that we will be more effective and bear more fruit, which is the whole point. And then, in that bearing fruit, we are proven. Every Christian ever has wondered, am I really saved? Did I do it right? Did I say the right prayer? Do I really have faith? If I were to die today, do I really know I'm going to go to heaven? You know what proves your faith? Fruit. Jesus says in this passage, you will bear much fruit, and so prove that you are my disciples. You want to not doubt your salvation? Look at the wake of your life and see if there is fruit there. When we bear fruit, two things happen. We are pruned and we are proven. And then as a result of all of this, all of these things, this idea of taking steps of obedience and finding God to meet us there in trust, of abiding in him and just focusing on him and not worrying about the end of the passage, verse 11. He says, these things I have spoken to you. So this lesson, what I've just taught you about the vine and the branches, these things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be full. All of these things, knowing Jesus, abiding in him, obeying him, bearing fruit, being pruned and being proven, all of these things conspire to fill you with joy. Because in simply abiding in Christ, we are relieved of the pressure of productivity. We are relieved from the pressure of results because it's not our responsibility to bring about the fruit. We just follow Jesus. We are relieved of the sense of hopelessness that sometimes comes from pain because we know that it's serving a purpose to prune us and make us more effective at bearing fruit for God's kingdom. And we are relieved of the worry and the anxiety of, am I actually saved? Am I actually going to persevere? Because the proof is in the fruit that we have borne. God relieves us of all of those things and frees us up to simply follow him, to wake up every day, spend time in God's word, spend time in prayer, and to say, Father, what's the step of obedience you would have me take today? And when we do that, we experience the fullness, not of our joy, of his joy. So that's my prayer for you. That you would go from this place and that you would abide in Christ and experience the fullness of Jesus' joy. And my challenge to you is that you would pray now and every day this week, Father, what step of obedience would you have me take today? Father, please show me my next step of obedience. And I believe that by doing that and taking the step that he reveals to you, that we will abide in Christ and that by abiding in Christ, his word will be true and we will bear much fruit. And that by bearing much fruit, we will experience the fullness of the joy of Jesus. I'm going to pray for you. And as I pray, I want to encourage you right now to go ahead and begin asking God, what's my next step of obedience? Let's pray. Father, we love you so much. We thank you for this morning. We thank you for your word, how clear it is. We thank you that your son boiled things down for us to this place where we can understand it. I pray that we would simply abide in you, God. Create a fire in each of our hearts to know you, to abide in you, to walk with you, to obey you. Give us the strength to pray the prayer, to ask what our next step is. Give us the courage and the faith to take the step. Give us the clarity to see it. Give us the gratitude for your grace that meets us there. God, whether it's a big step or a small one, I pray that we would take it. I pray that this would be a church full of people who are abiding in you and with you. And God, we can't wait to see the fruit that you bring about here in our lives and in this place. It's in your son's name we pray, amen.

Good morning. How you doing? A couple of things. My name's Nate. I'm one of the pastors here. I love seeing everybody here for the second service. There's a lot of space at the first service, so feel free. And in case you're wondering, does God smile more when you come to the early service? He does. He's smiling a little bit now, but man, the grin on his face when you get up that much earlier is really something special. The Lord moves in that first service. The other thing I want to mention is this. I'm super excited about this. It may not be the case. You never know what's going to happen for the rest of the tournament. But for now, Jen, my wife, is beating all of us in the churchwide bracket challenge, which is a pretty big deal. If you know Scott Hunter, he's in dead last, and that's fun too. All right, we're in the eighth part of our series in John, and I really enjoy getting to move through the book of John with you. This morning, we arrive at what I think is a critical seminal teaching of Jesus in this book. And to help us think about it, I want us to go back to that first day of a class that we took in college, okay? If you didn't have the experience of doing that or you haven't had it yet, you're not missing much. It's overrated. But for those that had to do it, there's this common experience on the first day of class in college. And I'm talking about back before the internet was a thing, when us old people went to college. It's not often that I get to lump myself in with the old people, but this week I do. This was before we had the Internet. You didn't know what to expect in your class, right? And so you'd go on that first day. You're taking whatever it is you're taking, Philosophy 101 or English 101 or whatever it is, and you don't know what to expect. It's the great unknown. What's this professor going to be like? What are my assignments going to be? How do I achieve success in this class? We all bring a different set of goals to the class. I mean, some of y'all are nerds, and you wanted to get an A, and so you thought, like, what am I going to have to do? And I don't mean that really. I wish I would have cared more about getting good grades. But some of you guys really cared about your grades, and so you're thinking, what do I need to do to get an A in this class? I just want to know the work that I'm going to have to do. For me, my academic goals were literally just, what do I have to do so that my parents aren't furious at me at the end of the semester? They were helping out with college, so what do I have to do to keep the gravy train rolling? That's the amount of effort I'd like to give to right? And there are some of you, you got there and you flipped to the back and you look at the assignments and you went, I will never step foot in this class again, right? Because there's too much work there. That's what we did. You get to class. For those that don't have the experience, you get to class. The professor gives you the syllabus. You grab it. And then at the top of the syllabus, you always read this thing. It says that the successful student will be proficient in yada, yada, yada, right? Or the successful student will be proficient in these things. And so you're like, okay, well, this is the goal of the class. This is what it looks like to be successful in this class. Now I know this, but then what are you really interested in? You're really interested in the assignments. What am I going to have to do to achieve the success? And then in the syllabus, you'll remember he or she would have like the philosophy of the class and their philosophy of teaching and all the goals and all the different things. You went, yeah, I don't care about that. You flip to the back of it, and that's where they had the assignment load. And you wanted to see how many tests, how long is the paper going to have to be, right? What am I going to have to do in this class to pass? And that's when some of us went, I don't think I'm coming back to this place because it was just too much work. But we've had that experience. And to me, regardless of what kind of student you were, whether you're a straight A student or you're a slacker like me, you would go to that class with a set of goals. I want to accomplish this in the class. And then you would love the syllabus because that would bring, that would make the unknown known. It would tell you, this is what's expected of me here. This is how they're defining success, and these are the things that I have to do to be successful. And we like this mindset. We have this mindset about a lot of the things that we do. We all, all of us, if we're old enough, have jobs, or we've had a job before. You get to that job, and what do they do? They give you a job description, and at the top of the job description, it says, this is what this position is for. This position will do this and this and this and this. And then there's objectives underneath that. This is how those things are going to be accomplished. This employee will do this thing and this thing and this thing. We like having a very clearly defined version of success, and we like having clear steps to achieve that success, don't we? And we often apply this to our faith. In every Bible study that I've ever been in, I've been in church my whole life. I've been doing ministry for about 20, I went pro in my Christianity about 20 years ago. And in every Bible study that I've ever been in, and a lot of conversations with with my friends and a lot of different small groups, this idea gets presented. And it happened again a couple of weeks ago in the young person small group that my wife and I are leading now. One of the girls said, wouldn't it be nice if there was like a to-do list for our faith? If there were just some clearly defined parameters in the Bible so that we know what to do and when to do it. Wouldn't it be nice if we kind of had a syllabus or a job description for our faith? And this is a commonly expressed desire because the Bible can be very confusing and it can be very intimidating and there's a lot in there to learn. And there are some churches, and then Christianity in and of itself, there's some churches that think this way about an issue, this issue is terrible and it's wrong and you should never do it. And then there's churches over here who are like, no, that's actually pretty okay and we encourage it and we think that you should do it. And there's churches all over the spectrum and there's different ways to interpret the scripture. There's tons of different denominations. And sometimes it's really difficult to figure out, man, what is it that I'm supposed to do? And if you're a new believer or a non-believer, I think a very natural thing to think is, I'm considering this faith, what is it going to require of me? Or, I'm a Christian now, I'd like to be a good one, what does that mean? Is there a to-do list? Is there just something simple where I can know what to do? How is success defined? And how do I achieve that success? Which is why I think John 15 is such a great passage, because I think that Jesus gives us our course syllabus for Christianity. So a little bit different this morning is your notes on the back of the bulletin that you received, you have notes on the back of that. The back of that is actually a course syllabus for Christianity 101. So if you don't have the notes, I'd like you to slip up your hand and the ushers will try to get one to you. Is there anybody that needs one? Some of the ushers have some and they're going to go around making sure folks have those. This is Christianity 101, okay? This is your course syllabus for this morning. You'll notice on it, I am your professor, Professor Rector. I do that. I'm not going to get the chance to do that probably ever again in my life, except for when I pretend at church. So I'm your professor this morning. Class is in session. We're going to take a lot more notes than we normally do. I would encourage you to get out a pen. There's one more, a couple more over here. Just send the whole pile down. I encourage you to get out a pen and write along with me, okay? If you don't have any now, we're out. So you're just going to have to go old school and cheat with your neighbor, okay? You have to look on to theirs. I believe, one more, she's auctioning it off. She's auctioning it off. I believe that Jesus gives us our core syllabus for Christianity in John chapter 15. I'm going to read the first five verses, and then we're going to talk about why I think this is true. If you have a Bible, you can open to it. If you don't, there's one in the seat back in front of you. But this is what Jesus says. He says, That's important. We're going to come back to that later. Verse 5, this is the clincher. All right, so this week we arrive at one of these great I am statements that Jesus makes. In the other Gospels, in Matthew, Mark, and Luke, we have the parables. You're probably familiar with them. They're made-up stories that Jesus tells to make a moral point. And in John, we don't have any of those parables. What we see is Jesus making these I am statements. I'm the bread of life. I'm the living water. I'm the way, the truth, and the life. I am the good shepherd. And now this week, he says, I am the vine, and you are the branches. And this is said to an agrarian society that understood what it was to grow grapes and try to make wine from these grapes. It was part of that culture. They were very familiar with this terminology, and that's what he's talking about. I am the vine, you are the branches, you're going to grow grapes. Connect to me and you will bear much fruit. And so in our terminology and way of thinking of it, it makes more sense to say that I am the tree trunk and you are the branches. But what he's saying is, I'm the source of life, I'm the source of joy, and you are attached to me. And when you abide in me, when you are attached to me and you remain attached to me, you will bear much fruit. All right, that's what he's saying in this verse. And so in verse 5, when he says, I am the vine, you are the branches, abide in me, and I in you, and you will bear much fruit, that really is a packed statement. There's a lot of questions that come out of that statement. For me, the first thing that I see is what does it mean to bear fruit, and why is he talking about that? And I think that that helps set us up for the goal of the course. So at the top of the syllabus you have the student will be proficient in these things. So if we're thinking about Christianity as a course, we're trying to figure out what it is we need to do, then what we need to know is that the course goal is that the successful student or Christian will show proficiency in bearing fruit. Okay, if you're a believer and you want to know if you're successful, if you're thinking about becoming a Christian and you want to know what's going to be expected of me. If you're a new believer and you want to go, okay, well now what do I have to do? The successful student or Christian, the person who is successful in Christianity will be proficient in bearing fruit. And I say that because this seems to be the goal of the passage. Jesus says, abide in me, get attached to me, remain attached to me, and you will bear fruit. Do this, follow my commandments, obey me, love me. Why? So that you can bear fruit. It seems to be that the point of the Christian life, the reason that Jesus leaves us here rather than taking us to heaven immediately upon salvation is so that we can bear fruit. So if you want to know what's the whole point of the Christian life, why are we here? Christianity 101, the successful student will show proficiency in bearing fruit. That's the point. So then you have to ask, okay, what does it mean to bear fruit? And those of you who are church people, you've heard this before, you know this passage. And if I were to ask you, hey, it says that if I'm attached, if I abide, that I will bear fruit. What does it mean to bear fruit? You would probably go, well, it means that you should, well, now hang on. Because it gets a little complicated, doesn't it? What does it mean? Some people would say that it means that we should bear the fruit of the Spirit that Paul talks about in Galatians 5. Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. We should become more like God in character and develop those traits in our life. To bear fruit means to bear the fruit of the Spirit. Other people would say, well, it means to bear the fruit of ministry. It means that in your life, you're leading people to Jesus, you're discipling people, bringing them closer to Jesus, that there is actually evidence of ministry and people what I think Jesus would say is that it's both. And I think that he says this in what we talked about last week in John chapter 13. If you weren't here last week, in John chapter 13, Jesus tells the disciples, I'm giving you a new commandment that you should love one another as I have loved you. That's the new commandment. That's what we're supposed to do. And then the question becomes, how do I do that? So last week is kind of, what are we supposed to do? We're supposed to love one another as Jesus loved us. And this week is, how do we do that? Well, we do that by abiding. And so what it means to bear fruit, I think, is this. When we love somebody as Jesus loved us, not as we love ourselves, a higher standard, Jesus' love. When we love somebody as Jesus loved us, it is impossible to do that without bearing the fruit of the Spirit in our life, right? How are you going to love other people as Jesus has loved you if we're not bearing love and joy and peace and patience and kindness and goodness and faithfulness and gentleness and self-control? How are we going to be able to do that if we're not becoming more like God in character? We can't. So part of it is to bear the fruit of the Spirit. But then the results of this love, if we love other people as Jesus loved them, when Jesus loved these people, what did they do? They drew more closely to him. And so when we love others as Jesus loved us, it's going to have this natural effect of drawing them into the Father, of drawing them towards Jesus. And so I think it's safe to define for the purposes of the course, again, in our syllabus, that bearing fruit will be defined as loving others towards Jesus. When we're looking at this and it says that we should bear much fruit, what does it mean to bear fruit? It means that we are proficient in loving others towards Jesus. Loving them in such a way that when they look at our impact in their life, they go, I am closer to Jesus because of them. To bear fruit simply is to look at the wake of our life and the people that we know in our life and have people who would point to us and say, I love Jesus more because of the way that they love me. I love Jesus more. I feel closer to Jesus because of their influence in my life. That is fruit. It's both a character, that has both a character aspect and a ministry aspect. But that's what it means to bear fruit, is to love people towards Jesus. So that's the goal for the course, right? That's what success looks like. The successful student will be proficient in bearing fruit or loving people towards Jesus. So now, how do we do that? And that's what this passage answers. And it gives us, I think, our assignments. And so the coursework, the objective, the first objective, our first assignment, the first thing we have to do is abide in Christ. Plain and simple. Abide in Christ. And if you're a church person, you've heard this before. You know this passage. This is a famous passage. You know how this goes. But I think it works pretty similarly. If I say, what does it mean to abide in Christ? I think sometimes we have a hard time explaining that or understanding that. And so I really wanted to dive into it this week so I could do a good job hopefully explaining it to you. And one of the things that I learned that I thought was most helpful was this idea. See, Jesus is talking to the disciples at the end of his life. We are in the middle of Passion Week in the chronology of the life of Christ. In a couple of days, he's going to be arrested and crucified and then raised from the dead, and we celebrate Easter, right, in the story of Jesus. So he's very near the end of his life. He's been moving through life with the disciples for three years now. He's been doing ministry with them. He's been ministering to them. He's been discipling them. He's been training them. He's been teaching them. He's been loving on them. He's been developing them. And so over these three years, there's this intimate relationship that has formed between them. And to me, it's very interesting that here at the end of his life, he calls the disciples to abide. Abide in me are his instructions to the disciples. But that's not what he said when he met the disciples. When he met the disciples and he called them to himself, what did he tell them to do? Follow me, right? So three years ago, it was follow me. Three years later, after spending all this time together, it's abide. And I love that there's a relational maturation to the calling of Jesus in this passage, where at the beginning he says, I want you to follow me. And when you follow someone, there's a distance there. I'm watching what you're doing and I'm trying to do those things. But when you abide, there's this relational aspect to it of knowing someone intimately, knowing them well. Let your heart beat with mine. Let what brings me joy bring you joy. Let what breaks my heart break your heart. Let my goals be your goals. There is this relational dynamic to abiding. The word there in the text literally means to get connected and remain connected like a branch is to a tree. So over these three years with Jesus, we see this relational component where we're supposed to know him intimately. I think if we want to make it our goal to abide in Christ, one of the very first things we have to do is find time in our day, every day, to spend time in word and spend time in prayer. If we want to abide in Christ, if we want to know him intimately, if we want to pursue him, what do we need to do? We need to get up every day, spend time in God's word and spend time in his presence through prayer. We have to do that. That's an integral part of our life. And this is actually this idea, abide, we are to abide in Christ, is where we get this idea of having a personal relationship with our Savior. You guys have heard that before. Even if you're not a believer, you're here because someone drug you here. First of all, I'm so glad that you're here, and I'll try to go quickly for you. But second of all, you understand, and you've probably heard this term before, that we should have a personal relationship with Jesus. And sometimes we talk about how this separates us from other religions, that we're actually invited into a relationship with our Savior and with our God. But it's a very natural question to go, okay, I'm invited into a relationship with Jesus, but how do I have a relationship with this person or this entity that I don't interact with the same way as I do everyone else? I can't see him. I can't touch him. I can't see the look in his eye. I can't hear the cadence of his voice. How do I get to know somebody that I can't see or feel or touch? How do I have this intimate relationship with what feels like at times a distant God? That's a very fair question to ask. And Jesus actually answers this. I was nervous about how to explain it. How do we abide in Christ? How do we have this personal relationship with him? How do we experience the connection that the disciples felt? And I was actually kind of nervous about explaining this to you until I got to read the passage and really study it. And what I found is that Jesus answers this question in verse 10. And so really this is the second part of, this is our second assignment, our second objective. We want to be successful in the class of Christianity. The first thing we do is we abide in Christ. The second thing we do is we abide by obeying. We abide by obeying. In verse 10, Jesus says this. He says, If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father's commandments and abide in his love. If you keep my commandments, you abide in my love. You want to know how to abide in Christ? Obey him. You want to bear fruit? You want to be a successful Christian? You want to do what you're supposed to do, what you were put on this earth to do? Then abide in Christ. You want to abide in Christ? Well, Jesus says, obey him. You want to abide in me? Obey me. That means all the things, right? That means that when Jesus says in Matthew, in the Sermon on the Mount, that when someone hits us in the face that we need to turn the other cheek and not seek revenge, that we learn what that means and that we do that. That means that when someone asks us to go a mile and Jesus tells us to go an extra mile, we go an extra mile. When Jesus tells us that when someone asks for our fleece, we should give them our coat as well, we give them our coat. When Jesus tells us that we should be generous and that we should care for the poor, then we be generous and we care for the poor. When he tells us that, when he redefines and correctly defines the commandment on adultery, that it's not simply sleeping with another person's spouse, but it's looking at anyone with lust in your heart, then we define that as our definition of adultery. If we want to abide in Christ, then we walk in lockstep with his commands and we submit our life to his word. John 1 says that Jesus is the word of God, so we obey God's word, right? That's what we do. But here's the thing. Being obedient to the Bible, being obedient to Jesus's commandments, it's pretty challenging. It's pretty difficult. It takes a long time to get proficient at it. Some of us have a hard time with it all the time. And as I think about what it means to really obey God, I kind of think about it like I think about a golf swing. Back in 2013, I went to the Masters for the first time. Now, the Masters is a golf tournament in Augusta, Georgia. It's the greatest sporting event on the planet. If you don't agree with that, take it up with someone else. I'm not into frivolous conversations, okay? This is actually, I played golf a little bit when I was a kid. This is my Pawpaw Six Iron. He taught me how to play. I like to have pieces of him up here whenever I can. But I learned to play a little bit when I was a kid. But I left it to play other sports. I had ADD big time, I think. It was undiagnosed, but man, it was there. And so I liked to play soccer, and I walked away from golf a little bit. But in 2013, I went and I saw the Masters, and I thought, I've got to play this sport. This looks super fun. And so I grabbed a set of clubs, and I started going to the range as often as I could get there. A shameful amount of time. I neglected gym for golf. And so I started playing, right? And once you start playing golf, you start learning that the golf swing is pretty stinking complicated. It doesn't look complicated. You watch it on TV, it seems like a pretty simple thing. But man, if you've ever tried to hit that ball any distance, even just in the air, you know it is difficult, okay? And so I started learning to play golf and you start to learn, man, there's all these technical aspects to the golf swing. Now, some of y'all know the golf swing a lot better than I do. So please don't judge me too harshly. But you do the golf swing and you wanna square up to the ball. It's called a dress, okay? The's on the ground. You want to address it, so you want to make sure your club head is facing the right way behind it. You want your feet to be spread about shoulder width apart if you've got an iron in your hand. Not too far, because you'll look ridiculous like a sumo wrestler. So you just want it right there, right? And then you've got to grip the club. And there's actually a way to do this. They, like, tell you. I went and got golf lessons one time. And the first thing the guy said is, show me how you grip the club. And I'm like, you're weird. Just tell me how to swing the club. But apparently it's important. You have to interlock your fingers in the back. Or if you're fancy, you can cover over your fingers in the back. But you don't do it like this. That's what crazy people do, okay? You can't do that. You have to grab it like this. And this hand needs to be in a certain place. And did you know that your thumb has to go in the crease of your hand right there? It took me two years to learn that. I don't know why they didn't tell me that. But you have to put your thumb right there, and then you hold it. Your knuckle's got to be in a certain place. If you rotate your hand too far under, you're going to hook it. You don't want to do that. And if you do it too far this way, you're going to slice it. You don't want to do that. So it's got to be just right. And then they tell you, once you get the club, that you just want to hold it like a baby bird, okay? Like you just want it to be real gentle. I've got like this death grip on there, and people have told me, you're going to strangle that bird, man. You need to let it go. So you got to be gentle with it, you know? Just hold it like pillow soft, like you do a lot of dishes or something. And then you want to take it back. And when you take it back, you want to keep your left arm straight. And you want to keep your left wrist flat. I do this sometimes or this. You don't want to do that. You want to keep it flat, right, so that when you meet the ball, like it's flush. And so you come back. And when you come back, you want to bend your left leg, but not too much. You don't want to look like a crazy person. You got to do it a little bit. And then I had somebody one time on my backswing tell me, you want your back pocket to face the target. And I'm like, well, how do you, I don't know what that looks like. Like, I don't even, I'm not, maybe that dude was a gymnast. Like, I don't even know how to make that one work, man. And then you go and you do the thing and you follow through. And sometimes I'll follow through and people will say things that I don't understand. Like, I'll hit the ball and it didn't do what I wanted to because it never does. And people will go, oh, you double crossed that one. And I'm like, what are you talking, I don't know what that, I don't know what it means to double cross. Or sometimes people will tell me, your hands got a little fast on that one. And I'm just thinking to myself, like isn't that the point? Don't we want our hands to go fast in a golf swing? Like I'm thinking that slow hands is not good for golf. But it's super complicated, right? And so here's what we know about golf. When you're golfing with your buddies and somebody's struggling and you want to give them a little tip, I'm going to coach you. I'm terrible at golf. I have a 20-plus handicap, but I'm going to coach you. I'm going to give you the thing that's going to make you good at it. You can give somebody one tip to start thinking about one thing. Your backswing's a little fast. You want to slow that down, and it'll screw them up for the rest of the round. They won't be able to hit that because they'll be thinking about all the things. They won't be able to hit that for anything. So here's what they tell you in golf if you want to improve your swing. You get what's called a swing thought. When you're swinging the club, you get a swing thought. You get to think about one thing. Just do one thing. There's so many aspects to the swing. It's so technical and so complicated. You could think about 12 different things if you wanted to, but if you want to get better at it, you think about one thing. I played an entire round of golf focused on keeping my left heel on the ground when I would swing the club. The whole round, that's all I thought about all day. You get one swing thought. Because if you take more than that, you won't be able to keep up with it. It'll be a messy jumble in your head and you won't see success. But the way they teach you to get better at golf is you take one swing thought and you get better at that. You don't think about all the other things. You get better at the one thing, whatever's most urgent for you. And then once you get that down, you get that into muscle memory, then you do the next thing. That's how they teach you. And I think obedience works the same way. There's so many things to focus on. There's so many areas. We need to grow in our kindness. We need to grow in our generosity. We need to grow in our patience. We need to grow in our humility. We need to stop doing this one sin that's kicking our tail. We need to start doing this thing that God's been tugging on our heart about for a long time. There's so many different things we could do to try to obey God. But I want to submit to you that the way to really learn obedience is to just have one obedience thought. Just take the next thing. Just take the next step. I'm not saying that we don't worry about all the other things. When you're learning a golf swing, you don't forego everything else you've already worked on to work on the next thing. You keep those intact too, but then you work on the next thing. And I think our Christian life is much the same way. We should have, and we are wise to have, an obedience thought, a next step of obedience, a thing that we can do to begin to obey God a little bit better and a little bit better. And the beautiful thing about this is, I think all of us have a next step of obedience. Whether you've been walking with God for five days or for 50 years, there's always the next thing that you can work on. There's always the next thing that God would have you, the next step of obedience that he would have you take. If you were to go to a PGA event and talk to one of the guys who does it professionally and ask him, what are you working on with your swing? None of them would ever tell you, nothing, this is as good as it gets. They would always tell you that they're working on something. And this is how it is with our obedience to God. No matter how many years we've been walking, no matter how mature or immature we are, every one of us in the room has a next step of obedience that we can take. And if we're going to learn to obey God and follow Him and abide in Christ, then I think it boils down to simply taking our next step of obedience. So objective three, our third assignment in how we abide in Christ, is by praying, stepping, and trusting. We pray, we step, and we trust. Under that, I have a prayer for you where I'm encouraging you to pray, Father, show me my next step of obedience. And that's a prayer that I would encourage you to pray now and pray every day this week. Father, show me my next step of obedience. What would you have me do? So we pray about it. God, what's my next step? What do you have for me? What's the next thing you want me to do? Maybe it's to get more serious about church attendance. Maybe it's to get more serious about a small group. Maybe it's to get up every day and spend time in God's word. Maybe it's simply to consider Him, to read a book or do some research or have a conversation with somebody that would help us grow in our faith a little bit. Maybe it's to start the discipline of tithing or giving. Maybe it's to actually have the conversation that we've been having. Maybe you know exactly what it is because God's been pressing it on our hearts for weeks or months and we haven't listened. But we should pray that God would show us our next step of obedience that he would have us take. And then we trust. We step. We take the step. We obey him, and then we trust that it was the right thing, and we trust that life is going to be better on the other side of obedience. A couple of weeks ago, we talked about obedience, and we talked about this idea that sometimes the reason we're not obedient to God is because we believe that life is better on this side of obedience. And so to actually step into obedience requires a degree of trust that life is actually going to be better for us on the other side of obedience, that that's where we find God's grace and God's love. And so often obedience takes faith in God and the courage to actually take the step. But here's what happens when we do this. I love this. This is my favorite part about this teaching. When we take a step of obedience, however difficult it is, God impresses something on our hearts. I want you to do this. I want you to get up 30 minutes earlier and I want you to spend some time with me. I want you to actually give to this thing. I want you to actually have that conversation. It's a difficult step when he shows it to us. But if we'll take it, and when we take that step in our fear and what we're met with is God's grace and goodness, we'll see that we can actually trust him. And because we've had this experience of taking a step in faith and being met with God's goodness, it'll give us more courage to take the next step, won't it? And then the next step, and then the step after that. And then for our life, we are simply taking these steps of obedience as we grow closer to Jesus and abide in him. And then here's what happens as we take these steps of obedience. We abide in Christ. And Jesus says that when we abide in him, we will bear much fruit. And here's what I love about that. If you think about an apple tree, if you think about a branch attached to an apple tree, that tree decides when and what kind of fruit that branch is going to bear. That branch doesn't get to decide, you know what? I want to give us apples in the wintertime. I really like apple pie. I'm doing winter apples. That's what's happening this year. That's not how that works. The tree decides when that branch is going to bear fruit. The branch doesn't get to go, you know what, fellas? I'm really thinking pears. They're in. Turkey and brie, it's really good. That's what we're going to do. The tree doesn't get to decide, I'm tired of being in an orchard, I want to be in a mangrove. We're doing oranges this season. That doesn't happen. The tree decides when the branch will bear fruit and what kind of fruit it is. Look at this. When you abide in Christ, when you are connected and you stay connected and you're following him and you know him intimately, when you're connected to the tree, you will bear much fruit. And it's not up to you when and where you bear that fruit. It's not up to you what kind of fruit that is. It's not up to you when the season is when you bear it. The tree decides that. You remain connected to Christ, and Christ says, I'll decide when and where you bear fruit. I love the freedom of this. And my role, my heart is for grace. We've given our lives to build God's church here. So I want to see grace grow. I want to see the kingdom expand here. I want to see lives impacted. I want to hear the story about somebody coming, visiting with us over VBS or Summer Extreme, and their kid coming to faith who didn't know Jesus comes to know Jesus here. And then that kid goes home and tells their parents what they saw here. And then their parents come, and their parents get plugged into a small group, and they accept Christ. And then they grow in their faith by taking their next steps of obedience and then there are elders and there are leaders and they're leading their small group. I want to see that story. I want to see marriages rescued here and strengthened here. I want to see little kids that grow up here and then grow up to follow Christ so well and so closely and know him so good that they disciple us. I want some of the kids that are in there to preach up here one day and tell us what they've learned about God. I want to see all this stuff happen in our church, and I want to see you guys live healthy and vibrant lives in spiritual faith. I want to see that. Do you know how we bring that about? Do you know what my role is in bringing all those things about? Getting up every day and spending time in God's Word and time in prayer and trying to take my next step of obedience, abiding in Christ. If I want to see that fruit at grace, if I want to see God do incredible things, you know what I need to do? Abide in Christ. Obey Him. He'll decide when and where we start bringing fruit. It's not about strategy. It's not about how good I preach. It's not about how good Steve does. It's not about marketing campaigns. It's not about follow-up. It's not about any of that stuff. It's about abiding in Christ, and Jesus will handle the rest. In your lives, you have kids you worry about and you pray for. You have ministries that you're involved in. You volunteer in different places. You have companies or groups of people around you that you want to influence and draw towards Jesus. You want to have a wake of people in your life who would say, I'm closer to Jesus because I knew that person. We want these things. You know how you get those things? Abide in Christ. Obey him. Get connected, stay connected. Take the next step of obedience. Pursue him daily. And guess what? He will decide when and where you bear fruit. But here's the promise. You will bear much fruit. Just simply abide in him. Pursue him. Obey him. Have the confidence and the faith to take the next step that he shows you, and you will abide abide in Christ and then the tree will decide when and where you bear fruit. There's a glorious freedom to this. And when we bear much fruit, you should know two things happen in this passage. Two things happen as a result of our bearing fruit. We are pruned and we are proven. We are pruned and we are proven. The second verse of this passage, Jesus says, when you bear much fruit, the Father will prune you so that you can bear more fruit. And make no mistake about it, that pruning hurts. That's the branches getting cut. That's when they lose a piece of themselves. I don't have time to delve into what pruning is like all the way this morning, but I know that for years and years, Jen and I prayed for a baby. We prayed to get pregnant, and it took a lot longer than we wanted it to take. We finally got pregnant, and then we miscarried. I've shared that with you guys before. That was four or five years ago. That was a super difficult thing. That's the hardest thing we've ever had to walk through as a couple. But I am convinced that that was a pruning period for us. Because how could I come lead a church? And how could Jen partner with me in this ministry if we didn't know grief? If we didn't know tragedy? If we didn't know what that was like? How could I teach about God's view of grief and how he's with us in our suffering unless I had experienced that? How could I empathize with someone who would shake their fist at God and say, why me, this isn't fair, unless I had walked through that in my life as well? I believe that part of the reason for that was a pruning to make us more effective in what God would have us do. I'm not saying that's the reason for all of our pain, but I'm saying that's the reason for some of it. God prunes us. That's why I hate the health and wealth gospel. We're not promised prosperity and a tragic free life. We're promised that if God prunes us, it's so that we will be more effective and bear more fruit, which is the whole point. And then, in that bearing fruit, we are proven. Every Christian ever has wondered, am I really saved? Did I do it right? Did I say the right prayer? Do I really have faith? If I were to die today, do I really know I'm going to go to heaven? You know what proves your faith? Fruit. Jesus says in this passage, you will bear much fruit, and so prove that you are my disciples. You want to not doubt your salvation? Look at the wake of your life and see if there is fruit there. When we bear fruit, two things happen. We are pruned and we are proven. And then as a result of all of this, all of these things, this idea of taking steps of obedience and finding God to meet us there in trust, of abiding in him and just focusing on him and not worrying about the end of the passage, verse 11. He says, these things I have spoken to you. So this lesson, what I've just taught you about the vine and the branches, these things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be full. All of these things, knowing Jesus, abiding in him, obeying him, bearing fruit, being pruned and being proven, all of these things conspire to fill you with joy. Because in simply abiding in Christ, we are relieved of the pressure of productivity. We are relieved from the pressure of results because it's not our responsibility to bring about the fruit. We just follow Jesus. We are relieved of the sense of hopelessness that sometimes comes from pain because we know that it's serving a purpose to prune us and make us more effective at bearing fruit for God's kingdom. And we are relieved of the worry and the anxiety of, am I actually saved? Am I actually going to persevere? Because the proof is in the fruit that we have borne. God relieves us of all of those things and frees us up to simply follow him, to wake up every day, spend time in God's word, spend time in prayer, and to say, Father, what's the step of obedience you would have me take today? And when we do that, we experience the fullness, not of our joy, of his joy. So that's my prayer for you. That you would go from this place and that you would abide in Christ and experience the fullness of Jesus' joy. And my challenge to you is that you would pray now and every day this week, Father, what step of obedience would you have me take today? Father, please show me my next step of obedience. And I believe that by doing that and taking the step that he reveals to you, that we will abide in Christ and that by abiding in Christ, his word will be true and we will bear much fruit. And that by bearing much fruit, we will experience the fullness of the joy of Jesus. I'm going to pray for you. And as I pray, I want to encourage you right now to go ahead and begin asking God, what's my next step of obedience? Let's pray. Father, we love you so much. We thank you for this morning. We thank you for your word, how clear it is. We thank you that your son boiled things down for us to this place where we can understand it. I pray that we would simply abide in you, God. Create a fire in each of our hearts to know you, to abide in you, to walk with you, to obey you. Give us the strength to pray the prayer, to ask what our next step is. Give us the courage and the faith to take the step. Give us the clarity to see it. Give us the gratitude for your grace that meets us there. God, whether it's a big step or a small one, I pray that we would take it. I pray that this would be a church full of people who are abiding in you and with you. And God, we can't wait to see the fruit that you bring about here in our lives and in this place. It's in your son's name we pray, amen.

Good morning. My name is Nate. I'm one of the pastors here. For the unindoctrinated, for those who haven't been a part of the series the whole time, what we've been doing for our intros for every sermon is we have a song that is loosely about heroes because the series is called Obscure Heroes. So if you're like, why in the world are they playing that song? That's why, because adults aren't in charge and we think that that's funny. So that's what we've done. I do have to tell you that my sermon in no way fits with that song. In fact, it is very far out of place. It's why I woke up on Monday of this week. I knew what sermon that we had planned in the series. And I woke up on Monday and I thought, I don't want to do that sermon. That's a hard one. That's a heavy one. It talks about like pain and grief, and that's not like summertime fare. Like we're going to do some stupid song to start off the sermon, and it's supposed to be just light and fun. And so I had myself convinced that I didn't need to do the sermon. And then on Tuesday afternoon, I had, or maybe Monday, I can't remember, I had lunch with another pastor in the area, actually, because they talk to me sometimes. And I said, hey, man, this is what I'm thinking. I'm thinking that I'm going to bail on this, and I'm going to do this instead. What do you think? And he's like, well, what would you talk about? And I kind of told him and he goes, I don't know, man. Sounds like you need to pray about it. People need to hear that. And I thought, darn it, you and the Holy Spirit. So I knew that I needed to do this one. It's a heavy one. It's a hard one. But my hope and my prayer is that it's exactly what some of us need, and that it's exactly what we need to hear. So what I'm going to do is I'm going to pray. I'm just going to pray that this would be a good time and that God's Word will be taught transparently and correctly, and that maybe we can take some comfort out of what we look at today. So let's pray. Father, we thank you for this morning. We thank you for a place where we can have fun. We also thank you for your word. And we understand that life isn't always fun. And it's not always sunshine and lollipops, God. And in those moments, you show up too. And so we just ask that your word would be used to bring comfort to us today as some of us hurt, as some of us grieve, as some of us recover from those things or face those things. Lord, just be with us and in this time today. In Jesus' name, amen. So I want to look today at the story of Eli. We find Eli at the beginning of 1 Samuel. We're going to be specifically looking at a story out of 1 Samuel chapter 3. So if you have a Bible, you can turn there. If you don't, they have free ones on your phone, so you can use those too. Eli was the high priest. Now this is a time in Israel when Israel didn't have a king. They came out of Egypt, led by Moses. They wandered in the desert. Then Moses passes away. Joshua is named the leader. He leads them into Israel. They conquer what we know as the modern nation of Israel. They divide it up amongst the 12 tribes. And now they're living in these territories with God as their king. They have no king. And so the high priest is the mouthpiece of God to the people. So he's the big dog in Israel. He's the guy. If you're the high priest in Israel, you're the most powerful man in the country. And so that's Eli. Eli is the high priest. Now Eli had two sons named Hophni and Phinehas. And they were jerks. Hophni and Phinehas were spoiled, rich kids that were privileged, that took gross advantage of their privilege, okay? Their dad is the most powerful man in the country. I would assume that there was some wealth that went along with it, though I don't know that. I can't back that up with paperwork, but it seems reasonable to make that guess. And they took advantage of their dad's position in their position. They used it to take advantage of women. They threatened, they would steal food from the temple and when the priest tried to stop them, they would threaten to beat up the older priest. Like that's what they did. They were deplorable jerks, okay? And God had decided that he could not trust the priesthood to these two. Because the idea is when the high priest passes away, the next priest comes up was generally his son and it stayed in the family. It was this legacy that the priest would leave behind generation after generation. But there's also this boy named Samuel. Samuel's mom was a woman named Hannah who had a hard time having kids. She went to the temple and she begged God for a kid and she says, if you give me a son, I'll give him back to you. And so that's what she did. She was blessed with a boy named Samuel. And then she gave Samuel back to the temple just as soon as he was old enough to eat food on his own. And he was raised in the temple as like a disciple of Eli. And one night Samuel's asleep and he hears a voice crying out to him. So he wakes up, he assumes it's Eli. He goes into Eli's room. Hey, Eli, what's up, man? And Eli says, I didn't call out to you. Like, go back to bed, kid. You're crazy. So Samuel goes back to bed. This happens a couple more times until finally Eli says, Samuel, that's the Lord speaking to you. Next time you hear that voice, you need to say, speak, Lord, for your servant hears. And so that's what he did. The next time he heard the voice, Samuel said, speak, Lord, for your servant hears. And God told him something. And it was bad news for Eli. So the next morning, Samuel wakes up. And Eli comes and finds him. And he says, tell me what God said to you last night. And Samuel demurs, oh, it was nothing. It was no big deal. It was just about, you know, some cattle and stuff. Don't worry about it. And they kind of keep going back and forth. And finally, Eli says, you tell me what the Lord said or everything that he said that's going to happen is going to happen to you instead. So Samuel, we don't know how old he is, 8, 10, 12 years old. It was terrifying to have to say what he was about to say to Eli, the most powerful man in the country, respected high priest. He didn't want to say it. But under threat, he agrees. And so he tells Eli, the Lord has told me that your two sons, Hophni and Phinehas, cannot be trusted with the priesthood, and they're evil in his eyes. So he's going to have them killed. He's going to let them die, and the priesthood is going to be taken from your family. Now, that's the worst news I think any person can receive. It's got to be the worst news. You are going to lose your children. You're going to attend your children's funeral. And the legacy that you want to leave will not be left. I am taking your kids and I am taking your legacy. There is not a more painful thing. I'm convinced after being in the pastorate, after seeing enough life to form this kind of opinion, I've seen these funerals enough times, there is no deeper sadness that I have seen than for a parent to survive a child. I think that's got to be the worst. It breaks my heart. And Eli's just told, you're going to lose both your sons, and you will leave no legacy. I'm going to entrust the priesthood to somebody else. Now, if you were Eli, and you just received that news as the high priest, how would you respond? What would you think? What would you want to say? I know for me, I would want to shake my fist and say, God, that's not fair. That's not right. I serve you, God. I've dedicated my life to serving you. I know that my sons aren't the best, but they're going to come around, God. I pray about them every day. They're going to get there. Just give us a little bit more time, God. This is not fair. This isn't right. I've devoted my life to you, and you're going to let this happen to me. Isn't that what you would say? Isn't that what you would feel? Wouldn't you feel that it was unfair? You have to imagine, and we don't know this to be sure, but don't you think that there's a really good chance that Samuel continued to pray or that Eli continued to pray for his sons? That Eli continued to pray, God, I know that they're not walking with you right now. I know that they're living in sin, but man, they're going to come around. Just please be with them. Please don't forget about them. Don't you think that he hadn't given up hope on them? And then he finds out, I'm going to let them die. And I'm going to take your legacy. Wouldn't you want to shake your fist at God and say, this is not fair. Give me a little more time. And what Eli says is to me one of the most faithful statements in the Bible. If you look, 1 Samuel 3, verse 18, when Eli hears this news, this is his immediate response. It is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. It is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. He's God. He created this. He's the Lord over everything. I trust him. Let him do what seems best to him. Would that be your response? When you take your place, and we've all had them, when you take yourself to your place of deepest grief, is what you were thinking in that moment, the Lord, it is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. So how was Eli, in the face of this kind of pain and anguish, able to respond like that? I think that he understood some principles that we see more pointedly in the New Testament that can help us understand maybe how Eli was able to have this kind of faith and the choices that he was making even in that moment. In John chapter 11, there's one of my favorite stories in the Bible. Of course, I say that about all the stories that I teach. I really like the Bible. I'm sorry. In John chapter 11, we meet this family, Mary and Martha and Lazarus. And we, the historians believe that these were Jesus, the closest thing that Jesus had to besties, okay? These were his closest friends. These were probably his vacation friends. They wanted to go down to the beaches. This is, they probably went together. He loved Mary and Martha and Lazarus. They lived in a town called Bethany, and that's affectionately known as Jesus's favorite place on earth. That's probably where he felt home and safe. And he's a couple days' journey away, and Lazarus is sick. He's going to die. So Mary and Martha send word to Jesus, hey, our brother's going to die. You should come take care of him, because they know that he has the power to heal. So Jesus says, okay. He gets the message. He waits for two days, and then he travels to Bethany. And while he's traveling there, Lazarus passes away. And Mary and Martha are ticked, rightfully so, because they know that Jesus waited. He should be here by now and he's not. What's he doing? And so as he approaches Bethany, Mary runs out to meet him. And she asks him the question that we would ask. Jesus, why didn't you come sooner? We told you that our brother was going to die and you could have come and done something about it and you didn't. Why didn't you come sooner? And if you're paying attention and you're empathizing and you're thinking about your own life, this is the question that we all ask too. Whenever we experience loss or grief, we lean in with Mary and we say, yeah, Jesus, why? Because here's the thing. Mary knew that Jesus had the power to prevent her brother from dying. She knew that he could have swept in at any moment and healed him. She knew that he could have prayed a prayer from two days away and healed Lazarus and that he didn't need to die and that he didn't need to go through this pain. She knew that he could have stopped it and that he chose not to. So she leans in and she says, why'd you do that? And if you've ever prayed for someone to survive that didn't, then you've asked that question too. If you've ever prayed against a diagnosis, you've asked that question too. If you've walked through a divorce or abuse or an irreconcilable situation, then you lean in with Mary and you've asked that question too. Jesus, you could have stopped this and you didn't. Why? And Jesus' response is not what we would expect. It's the shortest verse in the Bible. It may be the most profound, John 11, 35. As soon as she asked him that question, you could have stopped this and you didn't, Jesus. Why not? He says, or the Bible says, that Jesus wept. Jesus wept. And when I imagine that moment, I don't imagine Jesus as standing coldly back from Mary and looking at her as they just stand and weep together. I imagine Jesus as grabbing her shoulders and bringing her in and embracing the sister that he loved and weeping with her. And when you think about the times in your life when you've hurt the most, that's what you need more than anything. You need people to weep with you. You need people's presence. Have you ever sat with somebody who was hurting? You sat with them at a loved one's funeral. You sat with them in the hospital while they hoped against hope. Have you ever sat with somebody who was hurting? You sat with them at a loved one's funeral. You sat with them in the hospital while they hoped against hope. Have you ever sat in the middle of someone's pain and racked your brain for the right thing to say? And you can't come up with anything because there's nothing to be said. There's nothing to be said. And if you remember your own pain and the way that people ministered to you, it was never what they said. You don't remember what people told you. You remember that they were there. Because words don't help. I think Abraham Lincoln said it best. I love the letter. It circulates just about every Memorial Day that he wrote to the mom who lost five sons in the Union Army that year. And he said, he said, I feel the weakness of my words and any attempt to beguile you from the pain that you must feel. He's admitting that his words are impotent. In fact, usually the only things that are said there that we remember are the dumb things, right? I've heard people say before when someone's endured loss, like, well, God must have needed another angel in heaven. Don't say dumb crap like that. No, he doesn't. God can make any angel he wants. He doesn't need to take someone from you so that he can have another one in heaven. That's silly. It's not helpful. That's what someone told us when we had a miscarriage. Get away from me. It's not helpful. The only thing that we remember is people's presence. When we walked through that, Jen and I did together, I remember her Uncle Edwin, four separate times, called me as the dust was settling to see how I was doing, to encourage me, to tell me that he loved me and that he was praying for me. He didn't have to do that. He's not even my biological uncle. He's Jen's, but he cared for me and he kept calling. I don't remember what he said. I have no idea. But I remember that he showed up. When we are hurting, what we need most is people's presence. So when we hurt, Jesus doesn't offer us words because words don't help. He weeps with us. He offers us his presence. And the truth of it is that we have a God who weeps with us. We have a God that when we hurt, he embraces us. He holds us and he weeps with us and he feels our pain with us. He doesn't give us words to try to explain what we're doing because let's be honest, when you're in that moment and you're asking Jesus, why'd you let this happen to me? Why'd you let this happen? You could have stopped us and you didn't. Listen to me, I'm being honest. I was thinking about this this week. If Jesus sat you down and explained to you exactly why he was letting this thing happen in your life and told you all the reasons in light of history and in light of eternity and with the proper view of time and keeping his promises and how it all works out one day, if he explained everything to you and somehow you were able to understand it, would it make that moment hurt any less? No. When we ask Jesus, why'd you let this happen? What we're really saying is, I need you to make this better. I need you to fix this because this sucks. That's what we're saying. And Jesus knows that words are not going to fix it. So he weeps with us. And he weeps with us, I believe, not just for the pain that we're walking through in the moment, but because he knows that we're going to struggle to understand. He doesn't just weep for our pain, but also because we're going to struggle to understand. He knows that we are not going to understand what's going on around us and that we can't. And that hurts his heart. Several months ago, I think it may have even been last year, we woke up on a Friday. Friday is family day at the rector House. I have that one off because technically I'm working right now. And so on Fridays, we get up and we try to protect that for our family. And we got up and we told Lily this day we're going to go to the new park. To her, Sassafras behind Crabtree is the new park, which is amazing. One of the things we love most about Raleigh is the parks. They're incredible. Back home, they're all dumpy. You need a tetanus shot before you go to the park. So here, it's great. And so we get in the car. We load up. We go to the new park. We get her out of the car. She's excited. Lily excited. Yes. And you put her on the ground. And she runs down the sidewalk to go play at the new park. Comes around the corner. And what she finds is that there's a makeshift chain link fence around the whole park and not a soul there. And we looked online and we realized they're repairing the ground. They're replacing the flooring for the park. Can't play that day. Jen and I are brokenhearted. And we're looking at the disappointment on our little girl's face and it's hurting us. And we had taught her this thing. So I think she was two years old at the time. And when they get fixated on something, it's just all that they can think about. And so we had taught her to be patient. So she would see something and she'd be like, mommy, chips, chips. I want chips, mommy. Give me the chips, chips, chips, chips. And we'd be like, oh my gosh, stop it. So we'd pick her up and I'd look at her and I'd go, Lily, sweetheart, you can have the chips in a little bit, but not right now. I need you to be patient. Can you be patient? And she would repeat back to me, I'd be patient. And for us, that was like our first parenting win. Like the first time she said it, we were like, okay, I think that she will survive. I think we can do this. So we were so happy that she understood what it meant to be patient. And so we get down there, and Lily's up against the fence, and we have to say, oh, sweetheart, we're not going to, we can't play on the playground right now. They're working on it. She doesn't understand what's going on. And I'll never forget, it broke my heart. She's up against that chain link fence. It's like from a dang movie. And she turns around and she looks at me and she says, it's okay, Daddy, I'll be patient. Golly, man. Jen and I started crying on the spot. No, baby, you don't understand. Like, it ain't happening today. And there's nothing we can say to help her understand. She's two. She can't process what's going on. I think that sense of helplessness that we felt in the face of her pain is pretty similar to what God feels sometimes. Not helpless, but just the fact that he knows. I can't explain this to you. Oh, sweetheart. I can't make this better for you right now. It's just not how it's going to work. And I know that answer is going to cause you more pain. And I'm so sorry about that. And it'll get better if you're patient. But you're probably going to have to be patient for longer than you realize. I don't think that God weeps with us just because we're hurting, but because he knows that we're going to have to choose faith. We're going to have to choose him when it doesn't make sense. The story that illustrates this to me is in the book of Matthew, I think around chapter 11. John the Baptist is a prophet that prepared the way for Jesus. And John the Baptist, he was a brave man, he was a man of courage, and he spoke truth to power, and he said the wrong thing to the king, and it got him thrown in jail. And he's been in jail for a little while, and he begins to get this sense that he's going to die there, that they're going to execute him. And so he sends message to Jesus. John the Baptist had disciples. He gathers his disciples around, and he sends the message to Jesus, and he tells him, go ask Jesus, are you the one who is to come, or should I expect someone else? He's saying, are you the Messiah, or have I gotten this wrong? Don't need to keep waiting. And he's referencing a passage in Isaiah that was a prophecy about the Messiah. And he knows that Jesus knows his Bible, and that when he hears this question, he's going to know exactly what John the Baptist is talking about. Because there's a prophecy in Isaiah that says, when the coming one arrives, the one who is to come, when they arrive, the deaf will hear and the blind will see and the lame will walk and the prisoners will be set free. And so what John is asking Jesus is, are you the guy? Because when the guy gets here, the prisoners are supposed to be set free. And I'm still here. And I'm going to die here if you don't do something about it. So are you the guy? Same as Mary. You can do something about this. Are you going to? Same as us. God, it feels like you could prevent this. Are you going to? And Jesus responds to John the Baptist. He tells the disciples, you go tell John that I am the one who is to come and that the blind see and the deaf hear and the lame walk and the prisoners are set free, but John the Baptist will not be. And then he says, blessed are those who do not lose faith on account of me. Blessed are those who are not offended by me. Because he knew. This is going to be painful news for John the Baptist, and I am not meeting the expectations that he has for me, and I am not going to do the thing that he is asking me to do, that it is within my power to do, and he's not going to understand why I'm not going to do it and he's just going to have to choose faith. And blessed are those who in the face of pain choose faith. Because it's hard. Because we don't understand it. Because Romans 11 tells us that God's ways are higher than our ways. And that there's going to be some things that almighty God, all-knowing God, all-wise God does that we can't possibly understand. And sometimes the choices that he makes are going to be choices that don't make sense to us, that don't seem fair to us, that make us angry because it seems like he could have prevented it and he chose not to and we don't understand. And in those moments, it is up to us whether or not we want to respond like Eli. It is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. And that's a tough thing to say. But here's the deal. When Eli says that, understanding the principles we look at in the New Testament, understanding that we have a God that weeps with us, that offers us his presence because words really aren't what we need. They're not going to fix it at the end of the day. Eli understands that. He understands that sometimes God allows things to happen that seem like he shouldn't let them happen, that we're praying against and he allows them to occur and it frustrates us and we lean in with Mary and say, why'd you do that? And God weeps with us because we hurt and we're not going to understand this pain on this side of eternity. And Eli looks at all of that and he says, it is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. And I really believe that choosing faith in the face of this pain really comes down to two questions. Do we choose to believe that God is good? Do you believe that God is good? Do you believe that the God of the universe who knows you, created you, do you believe that he is good? And then do you believe that he will keep his promises? Do you believe that God is good and do you believe that he will keep his promises? Do we trust Romans 8, 28 that says, we know that all things work together for the good of those who love him are called according to his purpose. Do we trust that to work out in eternity? Do we trust that one day when we can understand everything, when we can see as God sees, when we get into heaven, when we're on the other side of this life and we look back on everything, do we trust that if we could understand it like God does, that we will go, okay, I get it now. You are good and I love you and thank you. Do we trust that that's true? Do we trust the most hopeful promise in the Bible in Revelation 21 that one day God will be with his people and we will be with our God and there will be no more weeping and no more crying and no more pain anymore? Do we trust that promise? If we choose to believe that God is good and we choose to believe that he will keep his promises, then we can respond like Eli and have faith in the face of pain. And listen, when we miscarried, and I learned about that after trying to get pregnant for a long time, I went home and I got on my knees and I prayed through tears. And I said, Lord, you're good. Let you do what seems good to you. And can I tell you this? I didn't mean that. I didn't mean it. I said it because I was supposed to, because I'm a pastor and I wanted to be a good soldier and I wanted to say the right thing, but I didn't believe that for a second. I was mad, man. I didn't believe a good God would do that. But I said it. And over time, I believed it. And I still do. And I was listening to a song this morning that says, what is true in the light is still true in the dark. And even if we don't feel like we believe it, we can still choose to trust it. We can still choose to respond to pain with faith like Eli. And so I hope that for those of us facing pain, we'll choose to respond with faith. I hope in a kind and gentle and empathetic way, as we see people around us hurting, we can encourage them towards faith, even when it doesn't make sense. I hope that we won't try to help people make sense of their pain, because even Jesus didn't try to do that. He just offered his presence. And I hope that as we move through life and face pain again that we'll remember the message of Eli. It is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. Let's pray. Father, you are good. You are good even when it doesn't seem like you are. You are good even when we don't understand how. You're good when you don't do the thing we want you to do. You're good when it doesn't go the way we want it to go. You're good when we are disappointed. You're good and patient as we shake our fists at you. God, you are good. I pray that you would give us the faith to believe that when it's hard. I pray that you would continue to be patient with us as we learn what it means to be faithful. We thank you for being a God that weeps with us, that is close to the brokenhearted, that comforts those who are crushed in spirit. And I pray particularly for those this morning who are struggling through some pain, that you would be close to them, that they would be comforted by your word. And that somehow, God, if they know you, you would give them the faith of Eli. And that one day they would be able to really believe what they say. It's in your son's name we ask these things. Amen.

Good morning. My name is Nate. I'm one of the pastors here. For the unindoctrinated, for those who haven't been a part of the series the whole time, what we've been doing for our intros for every sermon is we have a song that is loosely about heroes because the series is called Obscure Heroes. So if you're like, why in the world are they playing that song? That's why, because adults aren't in charge and we think that that's funny. So that's what we've done. I do have to tell you that my sermon in no way fits with that song. In fact, it is very far out of place. It's why I woke up on Monday of this week. I knew what sermon that we had planned in the series. And I woke up on Monday and I thought, I don't want to do that sermon. That's a hard one. That's a heavy one. It talks about like pain and grief, and that's not like summertime fare. Like we're going to do some stupid song to start off the sermon, and it's supposed to be just light and fun. And so I had myself convinced that I didn't need to do the sermon. And then on Tuesday afternoon, I had, or maybe Monday, I can't remember, I had lunch with another pastor in the area, actually, because they talk to me sometimes. And I said, hey, man, this is what I'm thinking. I'm thinking that I'm going to bail on this, and I'm going to do this instead. What do you think? And he's like, well, what would you talk about? And I kind of told him and he goes, I don't know, man. Sounds like you need to pray about it. People need to hear that. And I thought, darn it, you and the Holy Spirit. So I knew that I needed to do this one. It's a heavy one. It's a hard one. But my hope and my prayer is that it's exactly what some of us need, and that it's exactly what we need to hear. So what I'm going to do is I'm going to pray. I'm just going to pray that this would be a good time and that God's Word will be taught transparently and correctly, and that maybe we can take some comfort out of what we look at today. So let's pray. Father, we thank you for this morning. We thank you for a place where we can have fun. We also thank you for your word. And we understand that life isn't always fun. And it's not always sunshine and lollipops, God. And in those moments, you show up too. And so we just ask that your word would be used to bring comfort to us today as some of us hurt, as some of us grieve, as some of us recover from those things or face those things. Lord, just be with us and in this time today. In Jesus' name, amen. So I want to look today at the story of Eli. We find Eli at the beginning of 1 Samuel. We're going to be specifically looking at a story out of 1 Samuel chapter 3. So if you have a Bible, you can turn there. If you don't, they have free ones on your phone, so you can use those too. Eli was the high priest. Now this is a time in Israel when Israel didn't have a king. They came out of Egypt, led by Moses. They wandered in the desert. Then Moses passes away. Joshua is named the leader. He leads them into Israel. They conquer what we know as the modern nation of Israel. They divide it up amongst the 12 tribes. And now they're living in these territories with God as their king. They have no king. And so the high priest is the mouthpiece of God to the people. So he's the big dog in Israel. He's the guy. If you're the high priest in Israel, you're the most powerful man in the country. And so that's Eli. Eli is the high priest. Now Eli had two sons named Hophni and Phinehas. And they were jerks. Hophni and Phinehas were spoiled, rich kids that were privileged, that took gross advantage of their privilege, okay? Their dad is the most powerful man in the country. I would assume that there was some wealth that went along with it, though I don't know that. I can't back that up with paperwork, but it seems reasonable to make that guess. And they took advantage of their dad's position in their position. They used it to take advantage of women. They threatened, they would steal food from the temple and when the priest tried to stop them, they would threaten to beat up the older priest. Like that's what they did. They were deplorable jerks, okay? And God had decided that he could not trust the priesthood to these two. Because the idea is when the high priest passes away, the next priest comes up was generally his son and it stayed in the family. It was this legacy that the priest would leave behind generation after generation. But there's also this boy named Samuel. Samuel's mom was a woman named Hannah who had a hard time having kids. She went to the temple and she begged God for a kid and she says, if you give me a son, I'll give him back to you. And so that's what she did. She was blessed with a boy named Samuel. And then she gave Samuel back to the temple just as soon as he was old enough to eat food on his own. And he was raised in the temple as like a disciple of Eli. And one night Samuel's asleep and he hears a voice crying out to him. So he wakes up, he assumes it's Eli. He goes into Eli's room. Hey, Eli, what's up, man? And Eli says, I didn't call out to you. Like, go back to bed, kid. You're crazy. So Samuel goes back to bed. This happens a couple more times until finally Eli says, Samuel, that's the Lord speaking to you. Next time you hear that voice, you need to say, speak, Lord, for your servant hears. And so that's what he did. The next time he heard the voice, Samuel said, speak, Lord, for your servant hears. And God told him something. And it was bad news for Eli. So the next morning, Samuel wakes up. And Eli comes and finds him. And he says, tell me what God said to you last night. And Samuel demurs, oh, it was nothing. It was no big deal. It was just about, you know, some cattle and stuff. Don't worry about it. And they kind of keep going back and forth. And finally, Eli says, you tell me what the Lord said or everything that he said that's going to happen is going to happen to you instead. So Samuel, we don't know how old he is, 8, 10, 12 years old. It was terrifying to have to say what he was about to say to Eli, the most powerful man in the country, respected high priest. He didn't want to say it. But under threat, he agrees. And so he tells Eli, the Lord has told me that your two sons, Hophni and Phinehas, cannot be trusted with the priesthood, and they're evil in his eyes. So he's going to have them killed. He's going to let them die, and the priesthood is going to be taken from your family. Now, that's the worst news I think any person can receive. It's got to be the worst news. You are going to lose your children. You're going to attend your children's funeral. And the legacy that you want to leave will not be left. I am taking your kids and I am taking your legacy. There is not a more painful thing. I'm convinced after being in the pastorate, after seeing enough life to form this kind of opinion, I've seen these funerals enough times, there is no deeper sadness that I have seen than for a parent to survive a child. I think that's got to be the worst. It breaks my heart. And Eli's just told, you're going to lose both your sons, and you will leave no legacy. I'm going to entrust the priesthood to somebody else. Now, if you were Eli, and you just received that news as the high priest, how would you respond? What would you think? What would you want to say? I know for me, I would want to shake my fist and say, God, that's not fair. That's not right. I serve you, God. I've dedicated my life to serving you. I know that my sons aren't the best, but they're going to come around, God. I pray about them every day. They're going to get there. Just give us a little bit more time, God. This is not fair. This isn't right. I've devoted my life to you, and you're going to let this happen to me. Isn't that what you would say? Isn't that what you would feel? Wouldn't you feel that it was unfair? You have to imagine, and we don't know this to be sure, but don't you think that there's a really good chance that Samuel continued to pray or that Eli continued to pray for his sons? That Eli continued to pray, God, I know that they're not walking with you right now. I know that they're living in sin, but man, they're going to come around. Just please be with them. Please don't forget about them. Don't you think that he hadn't given up hope on them? And then he finds out, I'm going to let them die. And I'm going to take your legacy. Wouldn't you want to shake your fist at God and say, this is not fair. Give me a little more time. And what Eli says is to me one of the most faithful statements in the Bible. If you look, 1 Samuel 3, verse 18, when Eli hears this news, this is his immediate response. It is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. It is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. He's God. He created this. He's the Lord over everything. I trust him. Let him do what seems best to him. Would that be your response? When you take your place, and we've all had them, when you take yourself to your place of deepest grief, is what you were thinking in that moment, the Lord, it is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. So how was Eli, in the face of this kind of pain and anguish, able to respond like that? I think that he understood some principles that we see more pointedly in the New Testament that can help us understand maybe how Eli was able to have this kind of faith and the choices that he was making even in that moment. In John chapter 11, there's one of my favorite stories in the Bible. Of course, I say that about all the stories that I teach. I really like the Bible. I'm sorry. In John chapter 11, we meet this family, Mary and Martha and Lazarus. And we, the historians believe that these were Jesus, the closest thing that Jesus had to besties, okay? These were his closest friends. These were probably his vacation friends. They wanted to go down to the beaches. This is, they probably went together. He loved Mary and Martha and Lazarus. They lived in a town called Bethany, and that's affectionately known as Jesus's favorite place on earth. That's probably where he felt home and safe. And he's a couple days' journey away, and Lazarus is sick. He's going to die. So Mary and Martha send word to Jesus, hey, our brother's going to die. You should come take care of him, because they know that he has the power to heal. So Jesus says, okay. He gets the message. He waits for two days, and then he travels to Bethany. And while he's traveling there, Lazarus passes away. And Mary and Martha are ticked, rightfully so, because they know that Jesus waited. He should be here by now and he's not. What's he doing? And so as he approaches Bethany, Mary runs out to meet him. And she asks him the question that we would ask. Jesus, why didn't you come sooner? We told you that our brother was going to die and you could have come and done something about it and you didn't. Why didn't you come sooner? And if you're paying attention and you're empathizing and you're thinking about your own life, this is the question that we all ask too. Whenever we experience loss or grief, we lean in with Mary and we say, yeah, Jesus, why? Because here's the thing. Mary knew that Jesus had the power to prevent her brother from dying. She knew that he could have swept in at any moment and healed him. She knew that he could have prayed a prayer from two days away and healed Lazarus and that he didn't need to die and that he didn't need to go through this pain. She knew that he could have stopped it and that he chose not to. So she leans in and she says, why'd you do that? And if you've ever prayed for someone to survive that didn't, then you've asked that question too. If you've ever prayed against a diagnosis, you've asked that question too. If you've walked through a divorce or abuse or an irreconcilable situation, then you lean in with Mary and you've asked that question too. Jesus, you could have stopped this and you didn't. Why? And Jesus' response is not what we would expect. It's the shortest verse in the Bible. It may be the most profound, John 11, 35. As soon as she asked him that question, you could have stopped this and you didn't, Jesus. Why not? He says, or the Bible says, that Jesus wept. Jesus wept. And when I imagine that moment, I don't imagine Jesus as standing coldly back from Mary and looking at her as they just stand and weep together. I imagine Jesus as grabbing her shoulders and bringing her in and embracing the sister that he loved and weeping with her. And when you think about the times in your life when you've hurt the most, that's what you need more than anything. You need people to weep with you. You need people's presence. Have you ever sat with somebody who was hurting? You sat with them at a loved one's funeral. You sat with them in the hospital while they hoped against hope. Have you ever sat with somebody who was hurting? You sat with them at a loved one's funeral. You sat with them in the hospital while they hoped against hope. Have you ever sat in the middle of someone's pain and racked your brain for the right thing to say? And you can't come up with anything because there's nothing to be said. There's nothing to be said. And if you remember your own pain and the way that people ministered to you, it was never what they said. You don't remember what people told you. You remember that they were there. Because words don't help. I think Abraham Lincoln said it best. I love the letter. It circulates just about every Memorial Day that he wrote to the mom who lost five sons in the Union Army that year. And he said, he said, I feel the weakness of my words and any attempt to beguile you from the pain that you must feel. He's admitting that his words are impotent. In fact, usually the only things that are said there that we remember are the dumb things, right? I've heard people say before when someone's endured loss, like, well, God must have needed another angel in heaven. Don't say dumb crap like that. No, he doesn't. God can make any angel he wants. He doesn't need to take someone from you so that he can have another one in heaven. That's silly. It's not helpful. That's what someone told us when we had a miscarriage. Get away from me. It's not helpful. The only thing that we remember is people's presence. When we walked through that, Jen and I did together, I remember her Uncle Edwin, four separate times, called me as the dust was settling to see how I was doing, to encourage me, to tell me that he loved me and that he was praying for me. He didn't have to do that. He's not even my biological uncle. He's Jen's, but he cared for me and he kept calling. I don't remember what he said. I have no idea. But I remember that he showed up. When we are hurting, what we need most is people's presence. So when we hurt, Jesus doesn't offer us words because words don't help. He weeps with us. He offers us his presence. And the truth of it is that we have a God who weeps with us. We have a God that when we hurt, he embraces us. He holds us and he weeps with us and he feels our pain with us. He doesn't give us words to try to explain what we're doing because let's be honest, when you're in that moment and you're asking Jesus, why'd you let this happen to me? Why'd you let this happen? You could have stopped us and you didn't. Listen to me, I'm being honest. I was thinking about this this week. If Jesus sat you down and explained to you exactly why he was letting this thing happen in your life and told you all the reasons in light of history and in light of eternity and with the proper view of time and keeping his promises and how it all works out one day, if he explained everything to you and somehow you were able to understand it, would it make that moment hurt any less? No. When we ask Jesus, why'd you let this happen? What we're really saying is, I need you to make this better. I need you to fix this because this sucks. That's what we're saying. And Jesus knows that words are not going to fix it. So he weeps with us. And he weeps with us, I believe, not just for the pain that we're walking through in the moment, but because he knows that we're going to struggle to understand. He doesn't just weep for our pain, but also because we're going to struggle to understand. He knows that we are not going to understand what's going on around us and that we can't. And that hurts his heart. Several months ago, I think it may have even been last year, we woke up on a Friday. Friday is family day at the rector House. I have that one off because technically I'm working right now. And so on Fridays, we get up and we try to protect that for our family. And we got up and we told Lily this day we're going to go to the new park. To her, Sassafras behind Crabtree is the new park, which is amazing. One of the things we love most about Raleigh is the parks. They're incredible. Back home, they're all dumpy. You need a tetanus shot before you go to the park. So here, it's great. And so we get in the car. We load up. We go to the new park. We get her out of the car. She's excited. Lily excited. Yes. And you put her on the ground. And she runs down the sidewalk to go play at the new park. Comes around the corner. And what she finds is that there's a makeshift chain link fence around the whole park and not a soul there. And we looked online and we realized they're repairing the ground. They're replacing the flooring for the park. Can't play that day. Jen and I are brokenhearted. And we're looking at the disappointment on our little girl's face and it's hurting us. And we had taught her this thing. So I think she was two years old at the time. And when they get fixated on something, it's just all that they can think about. And so we had taught her to be patient. So she would see something and she'd be like, mommy, chips, chips. I want chips, mommy. Give me the chips, chips, chips, chips. And we'd be like, oh my gosh, stop it. So we'd pick her up and I'd look at her and I'd go, Lily, sweetheart, you can have the chips in a little bit, but not right now. I need you to be patient. Can you be patient? And she would repeat back to me, I'd be patient. And for us, that was like our first parenting win. Like the first time she said it, we were like, okay, I think that she will survive. I think we can do this. So we were so happy that she understood what it meant to be patient. And so we get down there, and Lily's up against the fence, and we have to say, oh, sweetheart, we're not going to, we can't play on the playground right now. They're working on it. She doesn't understand what's going on. And I'll never forget, it broke my heart. She's up against that chain link fence. It's like from a dang movie. And she turns around and she looks at me and she says, it's okay, Daddy, I'll be patient. Golly, man. Jen and I started crying on the spot. No, baby, you don't understand. Like, it ain't happening today. And there's nothing we can say to help her understand. She's two. She can't process what's going on. I think that sense of helplessness that we felt in the face of her pain is pretty similar to what God feels sometimes. Not helpless, but just the fact that he knows. I can't explain this to you. Oh, sweetheart. I can't make this better for you right now. It's just not how it's going to work. And I know that answer is going to cause you more pain. And I'm so sorry about that. And it'll get better if you're patient. But you're probably going to have to be patient for longer than you realize. I don't think that God weeps with us just because we're hurting, but because he knows that we're going to have to choose faith. We're going to have to choose him when it doesn't make sense. The story that illustrates this to me is in the book of Matthew, I think around chapter 11. John the Baptist is a prophet that prepared the way for Jesus. And John the Baptist, he was a brave man, he was a man of courage, and he spoke truth to power, and he said the wrong thing to the king, and it got him thrown in jail. And he's been in jail for a little while, and he begins to get this sense that he's going to die there, that they're going to execute him. And so he sends message to Jesus. John the Baptist had disciples. He gathers his disciples around, and he sends the message to Jesus, and he tells him, go ask Jesus, are you the one who is to come, or should I expect someone else? He's saying, are you the Messiah, or have I gotten this wrong? Don't need to keep waiting. And he's referencing a passage in Isaiah that was a prophecy about the Messiah. And he knows that Jesus knows his Bible, and that when he hears this question, he's going to know exactly what John the Baptist is talking about. Because there's a prophecy in Isaiah that says, when the coming one arrives, the one who is to come, when they arrive, the deaf will hear and the blind will see and the lame will walk and the prisoners will be set free. And so what John is asking Jesus is, are you the guy? Because when the guy gets here, the prisoners are supposed to be set free. And I'm still here. And I'm going to die here if you don't do something about it. So are you the guy? Same as Mary. You can do something about this. Are you going to? Same as us. God, it feels like you could prevent this. Are you going to? And Jesus responds to John the Baptist. He tells the disciples, you go tell John that I am the one who is to come and that the blind see and the deaf hear and the lame walk and the prisoners are set free, but John the Baptist will not be. And then he says, blessed are those who do not lose faith on account of me. Blessed are those who are not offended by me. Because he knew. This is going to be painful news for John the Baptist, and I am not meeting the expectations that he has for me, and I am not going to do the thing that he is asking me to do, that it is within my power to do, and he's not going to understand why I'm not going to do it and he's just going to have to choose faith. And blessed are those who in the face of pain choose faith. Because it's hard. Because we don't understand it. Because Romans 11 tells us that God's ways are higher than our ways. And that there's going to be some things that almighty God, all-knowing God, all-wise God does that we can't possibly understand. And sometimes the choices that he makes are going to be choices that don't make sense to us, that don't seem fair to us, that make us angry because it seems like he could have prevented it and he chose not to and we don't understand. And in those moments, it is up to us whether or not we want to respond like Eli. It is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. And that's a tough thing to say. But here's the deal. When Eli says that, understanding the principles we look at in the New Testament, understanding that we have a God that weeps with us, that offers us his presence because words really aren't what we need. They're not going to fix it at the end of the day. Eli understands that. He understands that sometimes God allows things to happen that seem like he shouldn't let them happen, that we're praying against and he allows them to occur and it frustrates us and we lean in with Mary and say, why'd you do that? And God weeps with us because we hurt and we're not going to understand this pain on this side of eternity. And Eli looks at all of that and he says, it is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. And I really believe that choosing faith in the face of this pain really comes down to two questions. Do we choose to believe that God is good? Do you believe that God is good? Do you believe that the God of the universe who knows you, created you, do you believe that he is good? And then do you believe that he will keep his promises? Do you believe that God is good and do you believe that he will keep his promises? Do we trust Romans 8, 28 that says, we know that all things work together for the good of those who love him are called according to his purpose. Do we trust that to work out in eternity? Do we trust that one day when we can understand everything, when we can see as God sees, when we get into heaven, when we're on the other side of this life and we look back on everything, do we trust that if we could understand it like God does, that we will go, okay, I get it now. You are good and I love you and thank you. Do we trust that that's true? Do we trust the most hopeful promise in the Bible in Revelation 21 that one day God will be with his people and we will be with our God and there will be no more weeping and no more crying and no more pain anymore? Do we trust that promise? If we choose to believe that God is good and we choose to believe that he will keep his promises, then we can respond like Eli and have faith in the face of pain. And listen, when we miscarried, and I learned about that after trying to get pregnant for a long time, I went home and I got on my knees and I prayed through tears. And I said, Lord, you're good. Let you do what seems good to you. And can I tell you this? I didn't mean that. I didn't mean it. I said it because I was supposed to, because I'm a pastor and I wanted to be a good soldier and I wanted to say the right thing, but I didn't believe that for a second. I was mad, man. I didn't believe a good God would do that. But I said it. And over time, I believed it. And I still do. And I was listening to a song this morning that says, what is true in the light is still true in the dark. And even if we don't feel like we believe it, we can still choose to trust it. We can still choose to respond to pain with faith like Eli. And so I hope that for those of us facing pain, we'll choose to respond with faith. I hope in a kind and gentle and empathetic way, as we see people around us hurting, we can encourage them towards faith, even when it doesn't make sense. I hope that we won't try to help people make sense of their pain, because even Jesus didn't try to do that. He just offered his presence. And I hope that as we move through life and face pain again that we'll remember the message of Eli. It is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. Let's pray. Father, you are good. You are good even when it doesn't seem like you are. You are good even when we don't understand how. You're good when you don't do the thing we want you to do. You're good when it doesn't go the way we want it to go. You're good when we are disappointed. You're good and patient as we shake our fists at you. God, you are good. I pray that you would give us the faith to believe that when it's hard. I pray that you would continue to be patient with us as we learn what it means to be faithful. We thank you for being a God that weeps with us, that is close to the brokenhearted, that comforts those who are crushed in spirit. And I pray particularly for those this morning who are struggling through some pain, that you would be close to them, that they would be comforted by your word. And that somehow, God, if they know you, you would give them the faith of Eli. And that one day they would be able to really believe what they say. It's in your son's name we ask these things. Amen.

Good morning. My name is Nate. I'm one of the pastors here. For the unindoctrinated, for those who haven't been a part of the series the whole time, what we've been doing for our intros for every sermon is we have a song that is loosely about heroes because the series is called Obscure Heroes. So if you're like, why in the world are they playing that song? That's why, because adults aren't in charge and we think that that's funny. So that's what we've done. I do have to tell you that my sermon in no way fits with that song. In fact, it is very far out of place. It's why I woke up on Monday of this week. I knew what sermon that we had planned in the series. And I woke up on Monday and I thought, I don't want to do that sermon. That's a hard one. That's a heavy one. It talks about like pain and grief, and that's not like summertime fare. Like we're going to do some stupid song to start off the sermon, and it's supposed to be just light and fun. And so I had myself convinced that I didn't need to do the sermon. And then on Tuesday afternoon, I had, or maybe Monday, I can't remember, I had lunch with another pastor in the area, actually, because they talk to me sometimes. And I said, hey, man, this is what I'm thinking. I'm thinking that I'm going to bail on this, and I'm going to do this instead. What do you think? And he's like, well, what would you talk about? And I kind of told him and he goes, I don't know, man. Sounds like you need to pray about it. People need to hear that. And I thought, darn it, you and the Holy Spirit. So I knew that I needed to do this one. It's a heavy one. It's a hard one. But my hope and my prayer is that it's exactly what some of us need, and that it's exactly what we need to hear. So what I'm going to do is I'm going to pray. I'm just going to pray that this would be a good time and that God's Word will be taught transparently and correctly, and that maybe we can take some comfort out of what we look at today. So let's pray. Father, we thank you for this morning. We thank you for a place where we can have fun. We also thank you for your word. And we understand that life isn't always fun. And it's not always sunshine and lollipops, God. And in those moments, you show up too. And so we just ask that your word would be used to bring comfort to us today as some of us hurt, as some of us grieve, as some of us recover from those things or face those things. Lord, just be with us and in this time today. In Jesus' name, amen. So I want to look today at the story of Eli. We find Eli at the beginning of 1 Samuel. We're going to be specifically looking at a story out of 1 Samuel chapter 3. So if you have a Bible, you can turn there. If you don't, they have free ones on your phone, so you can use those too. Eli was the high priest. Now this is a time in Israel when Israel didn't have a king. They came out of Egypt, led by Moses. They wandered in the desert. Then Moses passes away. Joshua is named the leader. He leads them into Israel. They conquer what we know as the modern nation of Israel. They divide it up amongst the 12 tribes. And now they're living in these territories with God as their king. They have no king. And so the high priest is the mouthpiece of God to the people. So he's the big dog in Israel. He's the guy. If you're the high priest in Israel, you're the most powerful man in the country. And so that's Eli. Eli is the high priest. Now Eli had two sons named Hophni and Phinehas. And they were jerks. Hophni and Phinehas were spoiled, rich kids that were privileged, that took gross advantage of their privilege, okay? Their dad is the most powerful man in the country. I would assume that there was some wealth that went along with it, though I don't know that. I can't back that up with paperwork, but it seems reasonable to make that guess. And they took advantage of their dad's position in their position. They used it to take advantage of women. They threatened, they would steal food from the temple and when the priest tried to stop them, they would threaten to beat up the older priest. Like that's what they did. They were deplorable jerks, okay? And God had decided that he could not trust the priesthood to these two. Because the idea is when the high priest passes away, the next priest comes up was generally his son and it stayed in the family. It was this legacy that the priest would leave behind generation after generation. But there's also this boy named Samuel. Samuel's mom was a woman named Hannah who had a hard time having kids. She went to the temple and she begged God for a kid and she says, if you give me a son, I'll give him back to you. And so that's what she did. She was blessed with a boy named Samuel. And then she gave Samuel back to the temple just as soon as he was old enough to eat food on his own. And he was raised in the temple as like a disciple of Eli. And one night Samuel's asleep and he hears a voice crying out to him. So he wakes up, he assumes it's Eli. He goes into Eli's room. Hey, Eli, what's up, man? And Eli says, I didn't call out to you. Like, go back to bed, kid. You're crazy. So Samuel goes back to bed. This happens a couple more times until finally Eli says, Samuel, that's the Lord speaking to you. Next time you hear that voice, you need to say, speak, Lord, for your servant hears. And so that's what he did. The next time he heard the voice, Samuel said, speak, Lord, for your servant hears. And God told him something. And it was bad news for Eli. So the next morning, Samuel wakes up. And Eli comes and finds him. And he says, tell me what God said to you last night. And Samuel demurs, oh, it was nothing. It was no big deal. It was just about, you know, some cattle and stuff. Don't worry about it. And they kind of keep going back and forth. And finally, Eli says, you tell me what the Lord said or everything that he said that's going to happen is going to happen to you instead. So Samuel, we don't know how old he is, 8, 10, 12 years old. It was terrifying to have to say what he was about to say to Eli, the most powerful man in the country, respected high priest. He didn't want to say it. But under threat, he agrees. And so he tells Eli, the Lord has told me that your two sons, Hophni and Phinehas, cannot be trusted with the priesthood, and they're evil in his eyes. So he's going to have them killed. He's going to let them die, and the priesthood is going to be taken from your family. Now, that's the worst news I think any person can receive. It's got to be the worst news. You are going to lose your children. You're going to attend your children's funeral. And the legacy that you want to leave will not be left. I am taking your kids and I am taking your legacy. There is not a more painful thing. I'm convinced after being in the pastorate, after seeing enough life to form this kind of opinion, I've seen these funerals enough times, there is no deeper sadness that I have seen than for a parent to survive a child. I think that's got to be the worst. It breaks my heart. And Eli's just told, you're going to lose both your sons, and you will leave no legacy. I'm going to entrust the priesthood to somebody else. Now, if you were Eli, and you just received that news as the high priest, how would you respond? What would you think? What would you want to say? I know for me, I would want to shake my fist and say, God, that's not fair. That's not right. I serve you, God. I've dedicated my life to serving you. I know that my sons aren't the best, but they're going to come around, God. I pray about them every day. They're going to get there. Just give us a little bit more time, God. This is not fair. This isn't right. I've devoted my life to you, and you're going to let this happen to me. Isn't that what you would say? Isn't that what you would feel? Wouldn't you feel that it was unfair? You have to imagine, and we don't know this to be sure, but don't you think that there's a really good chance that Samuel continued to pray or that Eli continued to pray for his sons? That Eli continued to pray, God, I know that they're not walking with you right now. I know that they're living in sin, but man, they're going to come around. Just please be with them. Please don't forget about them. Don't you think that he hadn't given up hope on them? And then he finds out, I'm going to let them die. And I'm going to take your legacy. Wouldn't you want to shake your fist at God and say, this is not fair. Give me a little more time. And what Eli says is to me one of the most faithful statements in the Bible. If you look, 1 Samuel 3, verse 18, when Eli hears this news, this is his immediate response. It is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. It is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. He's God. He created this. He's the Lord over everything. I trust him. Let him do what seems best to him. Would that be your response? When you take your place, and we've all had them, when you take yourself to your place of deepest grief, is what you were thinking in that moment, the Lord, it is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. So how was Eli, in the face of this kind of pain and anguish, able to respond like that? I think that he understood some principles that we see more pointedly in the New Testament that can help us understand maybe how Eli was able to have this kind of faith and the choices that he was making even in that moment. In John chapter 11, there's one of my favorite stories in the Bible. Of course, I say that about all the stories that I teach. I really like the Bible. I'm sorry. In John chapter 11, we meet this family, Mary and Martha and Lazarus. And we, the historians believe that these were Jesus, the closest thing that Jesus had to besties, okay? These were his closest friends. These were probably his vacation friends. They wanted to go down to the beaches. This is, they probably went together. He loved Mary and Martha and Lazarus. They lived in a town called Bethany, and that's affectionately known as Jesus's favorite place on earth. That's probably where he felt home and safe. And he's a couple days' journey away, and Lazarus is sick. He's going to die. So Mary and Martha send word to Jesus, hey, our brother's going to die. You should come take care of him, because they know that he has the power to heal. So Jesus says, okay. He gets the message. He waits for two days, and then he travels to Bethany. And while he's traveling there, Lazarus passes away. And Mary and Martha are ticked, rightfully so, because they know that Jesus waited. He should be here by now and he's not. What's he doing? And so as he approaches Bethany, Mary runs out to meet him. And she asks him the question that we would ask. Jesus, why didn't you come sooner? We told you that our brother was going to die and you could have come and done something about it and you didn't. Why didn't you come sooner? And if you're paying attention and you're empathizing and you're thinking about your own life, this is the question that we all ask too. Whenever we experience loss or grief, we lean in with Mary and we say, yeah, Jesus, why? Because here's the thing. Mary knew that Jesus had the power to prevent her brother from dying. She knew that he could have swept in at any moment and healed him. She knew that he could have prayed a prayer from two days away and healed Lazarus and that he didn't need to die and that he didn't need to go through this pain. She knew that he could have stopped it and that he chose not to. So she leans in and she says, why'd you do that? And if you've ever prayed for someone to survive that didn't, then you've asked that question too. If you've ever prayed against a diagnosis, you've asked that question too. If you've walked through a divorce or abuse or an irreconcilable situation, then you lean in with Mary and you've asked that question too. Jesus, you could have stopped this and you didn't. Why? And Jesus' response is not what we would expect. It's the shortest verse in the Bible. It may be the most profound, John 11, 35. As soon as she asked him that question, you could have stopped this and you didn't, Jesus. Why not? He says, or the Bible says, that Jesus wept. Jesus wept. And when I imagine that moment, I don't imagine Jesus as standing coldly back from Mary and looking at her as they just stand and weep together. I imagine Jesus as grabbing her shoulders and bringing her in and embracing the sister that he loved and weeping with her. And when you think about the times in your life when you've hurt the most, that's what you need more than anything. You need people to weep with you. You need people's presence. Have you ever sat with somebody who was hurting? You sat with them at a loved one's funeral. You sat with them in the hospital while they hoped against hope. Have you ever sat with somebody who was hurting? You sat with them at a loved one's funeral. You sat with them in the hospital while they hoped against hope. Have you ever sat in the middle of someone's pain and racked your brain for the right thing to say? And you can't come up with anything because there's nothing to be said. There's nothing to be said. And if you remember your own pain and the way that people ministered to you, it was never what they said. You don't remember what people told you. You remember that they were there. Because words don't help. I think Abraham Lincoln said it best. I love the letter. It circulates just about every Memorial Day that he wrote to the mom who lost five sons in the Union Army that year. And he said, he said, I feel the weakness of my words and any attempt to beguile you from the pain that you must feel. He's admitting that his words are impotent. In fact, usually the only things that are said there that we remember are the dumb things, right? I've heard people say before when someone's endured loss, like, well, God must have needed another angel in heaven. Don't say dumb crap like that. No, he doesn't. God can make any angel he wants. He doesn't need to take someone from you so that he can have another one in heaven. That's silly. It's not helpful. That's what someone told us when we had a miscarriage. Get away from me. It's not helpful. The only thing that we remember is people's presence. When we walked through that, Jen and I did together, I remember her Uncle Edwin, four separate times, called me as the dust was settling to see how I was doing, to encourage me, to tell me that he loved me and that he was praying for me. He didn't have to do that. He's not even my biological uncle. He's Jen's, but he cared for me and he kept calling. I don't remember what he said. I have no idea. But I remember that he showed up. When we are hurting, what we need most is people's presence. So when we hurt, Jesus doesn't offer us words because words don't help. He weeps with us. He offers us his presence. And the truth of it is that we have a God who weeps with us. We have a God that when we hurt, he embraces us. He holds us and he weeps with us and he feels our pain with us. He doesn't give us words to try to explain what we're doing because let's be honest, when you're in that moment and you're asking Jesus, why'd you let this happen to me? Why'd you let this happen? You could have stopped us and you didn't. Listen to me, I'm being honest. I was thinking about this this week. If Jesus sat you down and explained to you exactly why he was letting this thing happen in your life and told you all the reasons in light of history and in light of eternity and with the proper view of time and keeping his promises and how it all works out one day, if he explained everything to you and somehow you were able to understand it, would it make that moment hurt any less? No. When we ask Jesus, why'd you let this happen? What we're really saying is, I need you to make this better. I need you to fix this because this sucks. That's what we're saying. And Jesus knows that words are not going to fix it. So he weeps with us. And he weeps with us, I believe, not just for the pain that we're walking through in the moment, but because he knows that we're going to struggle to understand. He doesn't just weep for our pain, but also because we're going to struggle to understand. He knows that we are not going to understand what's going on around us and that we can't. And that hurts his heart. Several months ago, I think it may have even been last year, we woke up on a Friday. Friday is family day at the rector House. I have that one off because technically I'm working right now. And so on Fridays, we get up and we try to protect that for our family. And we got up and we told Lily this day we're going to go to the new park. To her, Sassafras behind Crabtree is the new park, which is amazing. One of the things we love most about Raleigh is the parks. They're incredible. Back home, they're all dumpy. You need a tetanus shot before you go to the park. So here, it's great. And so we get in the car. We load up. We go to the new park. We get her out of the car. She's excited. Lily excited. Yes. And you put her on the ground. And she runs down the sidewalk to go play at the new park. Comes around the corner. And what she finds is that there's a makeshift chain link fence around the whole park and not a soul there. And we looked online and we realized they're repairing the ground. They're replacing the flooring for the park. Can't play that day. Jen and I are brokenhearted. And we're looking at the disappointment on our little girl's face and it's hurting us. And we had taught her this thing. So I think she was two years old at the time. And when they get fixated on something, it's just all that they can think about. And so we had taught her to be patient. So she would see something and she'd be like, mommy, chips, chips. I want chips, mommy. Give me the chips, chips, chips, chips. And we'd be like, oh my gosh, stop it. So we'd pick her up and I'd look at her and I'd go, Lily, sweetheart, you can have the chips in a little bit, but not right now. I need you to be patient. Can you be patient? And she would repeat back to me, I'd be patient. And for us, that was like our first parenting win. Like the first time she said it, we were like, okay, I think that she will survive. I think we can do this. So we were so happy that she understood what it meant to be patient. And so we get down there, and Lily's up against the fence, and we have to say, oh, sweetheart, we're not going to, we can't play on the playground right now. They're working on it. She doesn't understand what's going on. And I'll never forget, it broke my heart. She's up against that chain link fence. It's like from a dang movie. And she turns around and she looks at me and she says, it's okay, Daddy, I'll be patient. Golly, man. Jen and I started crying on the spot. No, baby, you don't understand. Like, it ain't happening today. And there's nothing we can say to help her understand. She's two. She can't process what's going on. I think that sense of helplessness that we felt in the face of her pain is pretty similar to what God feels sometimes. Not helpless, but just the fact that he knows. I can't explain this to you. Oh, sweetheart. I can't make this better for you right now. It's just not how it's going to work. And I know that answer is going to cause you more pain. And I'm so sorry about that. And it'll get better if you're patient. But you're probably going to have to be patient for longer than you realize. I don't think that God weeps with us just because we're hurting, but because he knows that we're going to have to choose faith. We're going to have to choose him when it doesn't make sense. The story that illustrates this to me is in the book of Matthew, I think around chapter 11. John the Baptist is a prophet that prepared the way for Jesus. And John the Baptist, he was a brave man, he was a man of courage, and he spoke truth to power, and he said the wrong thing to the king, and it got him thrown in jail. And he's been in jail for a little while, and he begins to get this sense that he's going to die there, that they're going to execute him. And so he sends message to Jesus. John the Baptist had disciples. He gathers his disciples around, and he sends the message to Jesus, and he tells him, go ask Jesus, are you the one who is to come, or should I expect someone else? He's saying, are you the Messiah, or have I gotten this wrong? Don't need to keep waiting. And he's referencing a passage in Isaiah that was a prophecy about the Messiah. And he knows that Jesus knows his Bible, and that when he hears this question, he's going to know exactly what John the Baptist is talking about. Because there's a prophecy in Isaiah that says, when the coming one arrives, the one who is to come, when they arrive, the deaf will hear and the blind will see and the lame will walk and the prisoners will be set free. And so what John is asking Jesus is, are you the guy? Because when the guy gets here, the prisoners are supposed to be set free. And I'm still here. And I'm going to die here if you don't do something about it. So are you the guy? Same as Mary. You can do something about this. Are you going to? Same as us. God, it feels like you could prevent this. Are you going to? And Jesus responds to John the Baptist. He tells the disciples, you go tell John that I am the one who is to come and that the blind see and the deaf hear and the lame walk and the prisoners are set free, but John the Baptist will not be. And then he says, blessed are those who do not lose faith on account of me. Blessed are those who are not offended by me. Because he knew. This is going to be painful news for John the Baptist, and I am not meeting the expectations that he has for me, and I am not going to do the thing that he is asking me to do, that it is within my power to do, and he's not going to understand why I'm not going to do it and he's just going to have to choose faith. And blessed are those who in the face of pain choose faith. Because it's hard. Because we don't understand it. Because Romans 11 tells us that God's ways are higher than our ways. And that there's going to be some things that almighty God, all-knowing God, all-wise God does that we can't possibly understand. And sometimes the choices that he makes are going to be choices that don't make sense to us, that don't seem fair to us, that make us angry because it seems like he could have prevented it and he chose not to and we don't understand. And in those moments, it is up to us whether or not we want to respond like Eli. It is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. And that's a tough thing to say. But here's the deal. When Eli says that, understanding the principles we look at in the New Testament, understanding that we have a God that weeps with us, that offers us his presence because words really aren't what we need. They're not going to fix it at the end of the day. Eli understands that. He understands that sometimes God allows things to happen that seem like he shouldn't let them happen, that we're praying against and he allows them to occur and it frustrates us and we lean in with Mary and say, why'd you do that? And God weeps with us because we hurt and we're not going to understand this pain on this side of eternity. And Eli looks at all of that and he says, it is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. And I really believe that choosing faith in the face of this pain really comes down to two questions. Do we choose to believe that God is good? Do you believe that God is good? Do you believe that the God of the universe who knows you, created you, do you believe that he is good? And then do you believe that he will keep his promises? Do you believe that God is good and do you believe that he will keep his promises? Do we trust Romans 8, 28 that says, we know that all things work together for the good of those who love him are called according to his purpose. Do we trust that to work out in eternity? Do we trust that one day when we can understand everything, when we can see as God sees, when we get into heaven, when we're on the other side of this life and we look back on everything, do we trust that if we could understand it like God does, that we will go, okay, I get it now. You are good and I love you and thank you. Do we trust that that's true? Do we trust the most hopeful promise in the Bible in Revelation 21 that one day God will be with his people and we will be with our God and there will be no more weeping and no more crying and no more pain anymore? Do we trust that promise? If we choose to believe that God is good and we choose to believe that he will keep his promises, then we can respond like Eli and have faith in the face of pain. And listen, when we miscarried, and I learned about that after trying to get pregnant for a long time, I went home and I got on my knees and I prayed through tears. And I said, Lord, you're good. Let you do what seems good to you. And can I tell you this? I didn't mean that. I didn't mean it. I said it because I was supposed to, because I'm a pastor and I wanted to be a good soldier and I wanted to say the right thing, but I didn't believe that for a second. I was mad, man. I didn't believe a good God would do that. But I said it. And over time, I believed it. And I still do. And I was listening to a song this morning that says, what is true in the light is still true in the dark. And even if we don't feel like we believe it, we can still choose to trust it. We can still choose to respond to pain with faith like Eli. And so I hope that for those of us facing pain, we'll choose to respond with faith. I hope in a kind and gentle and empathetic way, as we see people around us hurting, we can encourage them towards faith, even when it doesn't make sense. I hope that we won't try to help people make sense of their pain, because even Jesus didn't try to do that. He just offered his presence. And I hope that as we move through life and face pain again that we'll remember the message of Eli. It is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. Let's pray. Father, you are good. You are good even when it doesn't seem like you are. You are good even when we don't understand how. You're good when you don't do the thing we want you to do. You're good when it doesn't go the way we want it to go. You're good when we are disappointed. You're good and patient as we shake our fists at you. God, you are good. I pray that you would give us the faith to believe that when it's hard. I pray that you would continue to be patient with us as we learn what it means to be faithful. We thank you for being a God that weeps with us, that is close to the brokenhearted, that comforts those who are crushed in spirit. And I pray particularly for those this morning who are struggling through some pain, that you would be close to them, that they would be comforted by your word. And that somehow, God, if they know you, you would give them the faith of Eli. And that one day they would be able to really believe what they say. It's in your son's name we ask these things. Amen.

Good morning. My name is Nate. I'm one of the pastors here. For the unindoctrinated, for those who haven't been a part of the series the whole time, what we've been doing for our intros for every sermon is we have a song that is loosely about heroes because the series is called Obscure Heroes. So if you're like, why in the world are they playing that song? That's why, because adults aren't in charge and we think that that's funny. So that's what we've done. I do have to tell you that my sermon in no way fits with that song. In fact, it is very far out of place. It's why I woke up on Monday of this week. I knew what sermon that we had planned in the series. And I woke up on Monday and I thought, I don't want to do that sermon. That's a hard one. That's a heavy one. It talks about like pain and grief, and that's not like summertime fare. Like we're going to do some stupid song to start off the sermon, and it's supposed to be just light and fun. And so I had myself convinced that I didn't need to do the sermon. And then on Tuesday afternoon, I had, or maybe Monday, I can't remember, I had lunch with another pastor in the area, actually, because they talk to me sometimes. And I said, hey, man, this is what I'm thinking. I'm thinking that I'm going to bail on this, and I'm going to do this instead. What do you think? And he's like, well, what would you talk about? And I kind of told him and he goes, I don't know, man. Sounds like you need to pray about it. People need to hear that. And I thought, darn it, you and the Holy Spirit. So I knew that I needed to do this one. It's a heavy one. It's a hard one. But my hope and my prayer is that it's exactly what some of us need, and that it's exactly what we need to hear. So what I'm going to do is I'm going to pray. I'm just going to pray that this would be a good time and that God's Word will be taught transparently and correctly, and that maybe we can take some comfort out of what we look at today. So let's pray. Father, we thank you for this morning. We thank you for a place where we can have fun. We also thank you for your word. And we understand that life isn't always fun. And it's not always sunshine and lollipops, God. And in those moments, you show up too. And so we just ask that your word would be used to bring comfort to us today as some of us hurt, as some of us grieve, as some of us recover from those things or face those things. Lord, just be with us and in this time today. In Jesus' name, amen. So I want to look today at the story of Eli. We find Eli at the beginning of 1 Samuel. We're going to be specifically looking at a story out of 1 Samuel chapter 3. So if you have a Bible, you can turn there. If you don't, they have free ones on your phone, so you can use those too. Eli was the high priest. Now this is a time in Israel when Israel didn't have a king. They came out of Egypt, led by Moses. They wandered in the desert. Then Moses passes away. Joshua is named the leader. He leads them into Israel. They conquer what we know as the modern nation of Israel. They divide it up amongst the 12 tribes. And now they're living in these territories with God as their king. They have no king. And so the high priest is the mouthpiece of God to the people. So he's the big dog in Israel. He's the guy. If you're the high priest in Israel, you're the most powerful man in the country. And so that's Eli. Eli is the high priest. Now Eli had two sons named Hophni and Phinehas. And they were jerks. Hophni and Phinehas were spoiled, rich kids that were privileged, that took gross advantage of their privilege, okay? Their dad is the most powerful man in the country. I would assume that there was some wealth that went along with it, though I don't know that. I can't back that up with paperwork, but it seems reasonable to make that guess. And they took advantage of their dad's position in their position. They used it to take advantage of women. They threatened, they would steal food from the temple and when the priest tried to stop them, they would threaten to beat up the older priest. Like that's what they did. They were deplorable jerks, okay? And God had decided that he could not trust the priesthood to these two. Because the idea is when the high priest passes away, the next priest comes up was generally his son and it stayed in the family. It was this legacy that the priest would leave behind generation after generation. But there's also this boy named Samuel. Samuel's mom was a woman named Hannah who had a hard time having kids. She went to the temple and she begged God for a kid and she says, if you give me a son, I'll give him back to you. And so that's what she did. She was blessed with a boy named Samuel. And then she gave Samuel back to the temple just as soon as he was old enough to eat food on his own. And he was raised in the temple as like a disciple of Eli. And one night Samuel's asleep and he hears a voice crying out to him. So he wakes up, he assumes it's Eli. He goes into Eli's room. Hey, Eli, what's up, man? And Eli says, I didn't call out to you. Like, go back to bed, kid. You're crazy. So Samuel goes back to bed. This happens a couple more times until finally Eli says, Samuel, that's the Lord speaking to you. Next time you hear that voice, you need to say, speak, Lord, for your servant hears. And so that's what he did. The next time he heard the voice, Samuel said, speak, Lord, for your servant hears. And God told him something. And it was bad news for Eli. So the next morning, Samuel wakes up. And Eli comes and finds him. And he says, tell me what God said to you last night. And Samuel demurs, oh, it was nothing. It was no big deal. It was just about, you know, some cattle and stuff. Don't worry about it. And they kind of keep going back and forth. And finally, Eli says, you tell me what the Lord said or everything that he said that's going to happen is going to happen to you instead. So Samuel, we don't know how old he is, 8, 10, 12 years old. It was terrifying to have to say what he was about to say to Eli, the most powerful man in the country, respected high priest. He didn't want to say it. But under threat, he agrees. And so he tells Eli, the Lord has told me that your two sons, Hophni and Phinehas, cannot be trusted with the priesthood, and they're evil in his eyes. So he's going to have them killed. He's going to let them die, and the priesthood is going to be taken from your family. Now, that's the worst news I think any person can receive. It's got to be the worst news. You are going to lose your children. You're going to attend your children's funeral. And the legacy that you want to leave will not be left. I am taking your kids and I am taking your legacy. There is not a more painful thing. I'm convinced after being in the pastorate, after seeing enough life to form this kind of opinion, I've seen these funerals enough times, there is no deeper sadness that I have seen than for a parent to survive a child. I think that's got to be the worst. It breaks my heart. And Eli's just told, you're going to lose both your sons, and you will leave no legacy. I'm going to entrust the priesthood to somebody else. Now, if you were Eli, and you just received that news as the high priest, how would you respond? What would you think? What would you want to say? I know for me, I would want to shake my fist and say, God, that's not fair. That's not right. I serve you, God. I've dedicated my life to serving you. I know that my sons aren't the best, but they're going to come around, God. I pray about them every day. They're going to get there. Just give us a little bit more time, God. This is not fair. This isn't right. I've devoted my life to you, and you're going to let this happen to me. Isn't that what you would say? Isn't that what you would feel? Wouldn't you feel that it was unfair? You have to imagine, and we don't know this to be sure, but don't you think that there's a really good chance that Samuel continued to pray or that Eli continued to pray for his sons? That Eli continued to pray, God, I know that they're not walking with you right now. I know that they're living in sin, but man, they're going to come around. Just please be with them. Please don't forget about them. Don't you think that he hadn't given up hope on them? And then he finds out, I'm going to let them die. And I'm going to take your legacy. Wouldn't you want to shake your fist at God and say, this is not fair. Give me a little more time. And what Eli says is to me one of the most faithful statements in the Bible. If you look, 1 Samuel 3, verse 18, when Eli hears this news, this is his immediate response. It is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. It is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. He's God. He created this. He's the Lord over everything. I trust him. Let him do what seems best to him. Would that be your response? When you take your place, and we've all had them, when you take yourself to your place of deepest grief, is what you were thinking in that moment, the Lord, it is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. So how was Eli, in the face of this kind of pain and anguish, able to respond like that? I think that he understood some principles that we see more pointedly in the New Testament that can help us understand maybe how Eli was able to have this kind of faith and the choices that he was making even in that moment. In John chapter 11, there's one of my favorite stories in the Bible. Of course, I say that about all the stories that I teach. I really like the Bible. I'm sorry. In John chapter 11, we meet this family, Mary and Martha and Lazarus. And we, the historians believe that these were Jesus, the closest thing that Jesus had to besties, okay? These were his closest friends. These were probably his vacation friends. They wanted to go down to the beaches. This is, they probably went together. He loved Mary and Martha and Lazarus. They lived in a town called Bethany, and that's affectionately known as Jesus's favorite place on earth. That's probably where he felt home and safe. And he's a couple days' journey away, and Lazarus is sick. He's going to die. So Mary and Martha send word to Jesus, hey, our brother's going to die. You should come take care of him, because they know that he has the power to heal. So Jesus says, okay. He gets the message. He waits for two days, and then he travels to Bethany. And while he's traveling there, Lazarus passes away. And Mary and Martha are ticked, rightfully so, because they know that Jesus waited. He should be here by now and he's not. What's he doing? And so as he approaches Bethany, Mary runs out to meet him. And she asks him the question that we would ask. Jesus, why didn't you come sooner? We told you that our brother was going to die and you could have come and done something about it and you didn't. Why didn't you come sooner? And if you're paying attention and you're empathizing and you're thinking about your own life, this is the question that we all ask too. Whenever we experience loss or grief, we lean in with Mary and we say, yeah, Jesus, why? Because here's the thing. Mary knew that Jesus had the power to prevent her brother from dying. She knew that he could have swept in at any moment and healed him. She knew that he could have prayed a prayer from two days away and healed Lazarus and that he didn't need to die and that he didn't need to go through this pain. She knew that he could have stopped it and that he chose not to. So she leans in and she says, why'd you do that? And if you've ever prayed for someone to survive that didn't, then you've asked that question too. If you've ever prayed against a diagnosis, you've asked that question too. If you've walked through a divorce or abuse or an irreconcilable situation, then you lean in with Mary and you've asked that question too. Jesus, you could have stopped this and you didn't. Why? And Jesus' response is not what we would expect. It's the shortest verse in the Bible. It may be the most profound, John 11, 35. As soon as she asked him that question, you could have stopped this and you didn't, Jesus. Why not? He says, or the Bible says, that Jesus wept. Jesus wept. And when I imagine that moment, I don't imagine Jesus as standing coldly back from Mary and looking at her as they just stand and weep together. I imagine Jesus as grabbing her shoulders and bringing her in and embracing the sister that he loved and weeping with her. And when you think about the times in your life when you've hurt the most, that's what you need more than anything. You need people to weep with you. You need people's presence. Have you ever sat with somebody who was hurting? You sat with them at a loved one's funeral. You sat with them in the hospital while they hoped against hope. Have you ever sat with somebody who was hurting? You sat with them at a loved one's funeral. You sat with them in the hospital while they hoped against hope. Have you ever sat in the middle of someone's pain and racked your brain for the right thing to say? And you can't come up with anything because there's nothing to be said. There's nothing to be said. And if you remember your own pain and the way that people ministered to you, it was never what they said. You don't remember what people told you. You remember that they were there. Because words don't help. I think Abraham Lincoln said it best. I love the letter. It circulates just about every Memorial Day that he wrote to the mom who lost five sons in the Union Army that year. And he said, he said, I feel the weakness of my words and any attempt to beguile you from the pain that you must feel. He's admitting that his words are impotent. In fact, usually the only things that are said there that we remember are the dumb things, right? I've heard people say before when someone's endured loss, like, well, God must have needed another angel in heaven. Don't say dumb crap like that. No, he doesn't. God can make any angel he wants. He doesn't need to take someone from you so that he can have another one in heaven. That's silly. It's not helpful. That's what someone told us when we had a miscarriage. Get away from me. It's not helpful. The only thing that we remember is people's presence. When we walked through that, Jen and I did together, I remember her Uncle Edwin, four separate times, called me as the dust was settling to see how I was doing, to encourage me, to tell me that he loved me and that he was praying for me. He didn't have to do that. He's not even my biological uncle. He's Jen's, but he cared for me and he kept calling. I don't remember what he said. I have no idea. But I remember that he showed up. When we are hurting, what we need most is people's presence. So when we hurt, Jesus doesn't offer us words because words don't help. He weeps with us. He offers us his presence. And the truth of it is that we have a God who weeps with us. We have a God that when we hurt, he embraces us. He holds us and he weeps with us and he feels our pain with us. He doesn't give us words to try to explain what we're doing because let's be honest, when you're in that moment and you're asking Jesus, why'd you let this happen to me? Why'd you let this happen? You could have stopped us and you didn't. Listen to me, I'm being honest. I was thinking about this this week. If Jesus sat you down and explained to you exactly why he was letting this thing happen in your life and told you all the reasons in light of history and in light of eternity and with the proper view of time and keeping his promises and how it all works out one day, if he explained everything to you and somehow you were able to understand it, would it make that moment hurt any less? No. When we ask Jesus, why'd you let this happen? What we're really saying is, I need you to make this better. I need you to fix this because this sucks. That's what we're saying. And Jesus knows that words are not going to fix it. So he weeps with us. And he weeps with us, I believe, not just for the pain that we're walking through in the moment, but because he knows that we're going to struggle to understand. He doesn't just weep for our pain, but also because we're going to struggle to understand. He knows that we are not going to understand what's going on around us and that we can't. And that hurts his heart. Several months ago, I think it may have even been last year, we woke up on a Friday. Friday is family day at the rector House. I have that one off because technically I'm working right now. And so on Fridays, we get up and we try to protect that for our family. And we got up and we told Lily this day we're going to go to the new park. To her, Sassafras behind Crabtree is the new park, which is amazing. One of the things we love most about Raleigh is the parks. They're incredible. Back home, they're all dumpy. You need a tetanus shot before you go to the park. So here, it's great. And so we get in the car. We load up. We go to the new park. We get her out of the car. She's excited. Lily excited. Yes. And you put her on the ground. And she runs down the sidewalk to go play at the new park. Comes around the corner. And what she finds is that there's a makeshift chain link fence around the whole park and not a soul there. And we looked online and we realized they're repairing the ground. They're replacing the flooring for the park. Can't play that day. Jen and I are brokenhearted. And we're looking at the disappointment on our little girl's face and it's hurting us. And we had taught her this thing. So I think she was two years old at the time. And when they get fixated on something, it's just all that they can think about. And so we had taught her to be patient. So she would see something and she'd be like, mommy, chips, chips. I want chips, mommy. Give me the chips, chips, chips, chips. And we'd be like, oh my gosh, stop it. So we'd pick her up and I'd look at her and I'd go, Lily, sweetheart, you can have the chips in a little bit, but not right now. I need you to be patient. Can you be patient? And she would repeat back to me, I'd be patient. And for us, that was like our first parenting win. Like the first time she said it, we were like, okay, I think that she will survive. I think we can do this. So we were so happy that she understood what it meant to be patient. And so we get down there, and Lily's up against the fence, and we have to say, oh, sweetheart, we're not going to, we can't play on the playground right now. They're working on it. She doesn't understand what's going on. And I'll never forget, it broke my heart. She's up against that chain link fence. It's like from a dang movie. And she turns around and she looks at me and she says, it's okay, Daddy, I'll be patient. Golly, man. Jen and I started crying on the spot. No, baby, you don't understand. Like, it ain't happening today. And there's nothing we can say to help her understand. She's two. She can't process what's going on. I think that sense of helplessness that we felt in the face of her pain is pretty similar to what God feels sometimes. Not helpless, but just the fact that he knows. I can't explain this to you. Oh, sweetheart. I can't make this better for you right now. It's just not how it's going to work. And I know that answer is going to cause you more pain. And I'm so sorry about that. And it'll get better if you're patient. But you're probably going to have to be patient for longer than you realize. I don't think that God weeps with us just because we're hurting, but because he knows that we're going to have to choose faith. We're going to have to choose him when it doesn't make sense. The story that illustrates this to me is in the book of Matthew, I think around chapter 11. John the Baptist is a prophet that prepared the way for Jesus. And John the Baptist, he was a brave man, he was a man of courage, and he spoke truth to power, and he said the wrong thing to the king, and it got him thrown in jail. And he's been in jail for a little while, and he begins to get this sense that he's going to die there, that they're going to execute him. And so he sends message to Jesus. John the Baptist had disciples. He gathers his disciples around, and he sends the message to Jesus, and he tells him, go ask Jesus, are you the one who is to come, or should I expect someone else? He's saying, are you the Messiah, or have I gotten this wrong? Don't need to keep waiting. And he's referencing a passage in Isaiah that was a prophecy about the Messiah. And he knows that Jesus knows his Bible, and that when he hears this question, he's going to know exactly what John the Baptist is talking about. Because there's a prophecy in Isaiah that says, when the coming one arrives, the one who is to come, when they arrive, the deaf will hear and the blind will see and the lame will walk and the prisoners will be set free. And so what John is asking Jesus is, are you the guy? Because when the guy gets here, the prisoners are supposed to be set free. And I'm still here. And I'm going to die here if you don't do something about it. So are you the guy? Same as Mary. You can do something about this. Are you going to? Same as us. God, it feels like you could prevent this. Are you going to? And Jesus responds to John the Baptist. He tells the disciples, you go tell John that I am the one who is to come and that the blind see and the deaf hear and the lame walk and the prisoners are set free, but John the Baptist will not be. And then he says, blessed are those who do not lose faith on account of me. Blessed are those who are not offended by me. Because he knew. This is going to be painful news for John the Baptist, and I am not meeting the expectations that he has for me, and I am not going to do the thing that he is asking me to do, that it is within my power to do, and he's not going to understand why I'm not going to do it and he's just going to have to choose faith. And blessed are those who in the face of pain choose faith. Because it's hard. Because we don't understand it. Because Romans 11 tells us that God's ways are higher than our ways. And that there's going to be some things that almighty God, all-knowing God, all-wise God does that we can't possibly understand. And sometimes the choices that he makes are going to be choices that don't make sense to us, that don't seem fair to us, that make us angry because it seems like he could have prevented it and he chose not to and we don't understand. And in those moments, it is up to us whether or not we want to respond like Eli. It is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. And that's a tough thing to say. But here's the deal. When Eli says that, understanding the principles we look at in the New Testament, understanding that we have a God that weeps with us, that offers us his presence because words really aren't what we need. They're not going to fix it at the end of the day. Eli understands that. He understands that sometimes God allows things to happen that seem like he shouldn't let them happen, that we're praying against and he allows them to occur and it frustrates us and we lean in with Mary and say, why'd you do that? And God weeps with us because we hurt and we're not going to understand this pain on this side of eternity. And Eli looks at all of that and he says, it is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. And I really believe that choosing faith in the face of this pain really comes down to two questions. Do we choose to believe that God is good? Do you believe that God is good? Do you believe that the God of the universe who knows you, created you, do you believe that he is good? And then do you believe that he will keep his promises? Do you believe that God is good and do you believe that he will keep his promises? Do we trust Romans 8, 28 that says, we know that all things work together for the good of those who love him are called according to his purpose. Do we trust that to work out in eternity? Do we trust that one day when we can understand everything, when we can see as God sees, when we get into heaven, when we're on the other side of this life and we look back on everything, do we trust that if we could understand it like God does, that we will go, okay, I get it now. You are good and I love you and thank you. Do we trust that that's true? Do we trust the most hopeful promise in the Bible in Revelation 21 that one day God will be with his people and we will be with our God and there will be no more weeping and no more crying and no more pain anymore? Do we trust that promise? If we choose to believe that God is good and we choose to believe that he will keep his promises, then we can respond like Eli and have faith in the face of pain. And listen, when we miscarried, and I learned about that after trying to get pregnant for a long time, I went home and I got on my knees and I prayed through tears. And I said, Lord, you're good. Let you do what seems good to you. And can I tell you this? I didn't mean that. I didn't mean it. I said it because I was supposed to, because I'm a pastor and I wanted to be a good soldier and I wanted to say the right thing, but I didn't believe that for a second. I was mad, man. I didn't believe a good God would do that. But I said it. And over time, I believed it. And I still do. And I was listening to a song this morning that says, what is true in the light is still true in the dark. And even if we don't feel like we believe it, we can still choose to trust it. We can still choose to respond to pain with faith like Eli. And so I hope that for those of us facing pain, we'll choose to respond with faith. I hope in a kind and gentle and empathetic way, as we see people around us hurting, we can encourage them towards faith, even when it doesn't make sense. I hope that we won't try to help people make sense of their pain, because even Jesus didn't try to do that. He just offered his presence. And I hope that as we move through life and face pain again that we'll remember the message of Eli. It is the Lord. Let him do what seems good to him. Let's pray. Father, you are good. You are good even when it doesn't seem like you are. You are good even when we don't understand how. You're good when you don't do the thing we want you to do. You're good when it doesn't go the way we want it to go. You're good when we are disappointed. You're good and patient as we shake our fists at you. God, you are good. I pray that you would give us the faith to believe that when it's hard. I pray that you would continue to be patient with us as we learn what it means to be faithful. We thank you for being a God that weeps with us, that is close to the brokenhearted, that comforts those who are crushed in spirit. And I pray particularly for those this morning who are struggling through some pain, that you would be close to them, that they would be comforted by your word. And that somehow, God, if they know you, you would give them the faith of Eli. And that one day they would be able to really believe what they say. It's in your son's name we ask these things. Amen.

Well, good morning, Grace. It's good to be with you in this way. I am excited for the fifth part in our series called Things You Should Know, where we're looking through things in Scripture or that come up in church or in Christendom that we are familiar with, we've heard of before, but maybe we don't know how to explain or maybe it hasn't been discussed or maybe we're just too far down the rabbit hole of faith to raise our hand and ask about these things to get some clarity. And so what we wanted to do, so that you didn't have to ask those embarrassing questions in small groups, is take five weeks here at the beginning of the year and talk through some of these topics that we may have questions about, because we don't really discuss them all the time. This morning, I wanted us to look at grace and mercy. Grace and mercy are two things that we see come up in Scripture a lot. We're going to look at Scripture in a little bit to see how replete it is with references to God's grace and God's mercy. And we sing songs about them. We certainly know about them. We've heard about them. The name of the church is Grace, for crying out loud. But I wonder how many of us would be confident in whatever your working definition of grace is. I wonder how many of us would be confident understanding mercy or explaining it to our kids if they heard those words and said, hey, what does that mean? How many of you would feel comfortable going, I got this, I'm going to knock this out of the park? If I asked those of us listening and watching, hey, could you explain grace and mercy to the church? Could I get you to come in one Sunday morning, I'm just going to bring you up on stage, and you tell the good people of grace what the name of the church really means. Now, I have no doubt in our church, we would do a good job. There would be, I think, a myriad answers across a wide range of definitions using a lot of unnecessary words that would be mostly right. But I think it's worth it as a church to take some time and define these words in a simple way and understand what grace and mercy really are. Because when we understand God's grace and God's mercy towards us, I think that we can't help but want to respond in exuberant praise. I think when we really understand what's going on with grace and mercy, when we really properly understand those two characteristics of God, that it inspires within us a response of gratitude, and that gratitude manifests joy, and it ought to make us want to leap out of our skin and praise our good God. Which is why we've positioned the sermon at the beginning of the service this week, and we're going to transition right into worship as I wrap up the sermon. Because I wanted to give you guys a chance to respond to the reality of God's grace and mercy. So with that in mind, and I would also say, for those of you who are listening to this or me, not on Sunday morning, if you're catching up later in the day, if you're listening on a podcast in the car or on a walk or something like that, as you listen to my voice right now, I would encourage you, plan to listen to some praise and worship music on your own at the end of this sermon. Just go ahead and budget some time in your head to listen to two or three songs or just have it playing in the car and allow yourself to respond to what's shared here this morning. But with that preamble, I wanted to jump right in to defining these words for us so we have a working definition here at Grace. So mercy, the way I understand it, is simply when we do not get what we deserve. Mercy is when we do not get something that we deserve. When our actions or our attitude or our behavior warrants punishment, something punitive, or just some natural consequences, and we don't receive those consequences, we don't receive the punishment that we deserve, when we've earned some trouble and we don't get into that trouble, that's mercy. So mercy is simply when we don't get something that we do deserve. Think of it this way. Pretend you've got a 16-year-old son. He's just got a new car. He's got the keys. And part of the deal with having the freedom to drive is that there's a curfew. And his very first time out, he goes out with his buddies and he breaks a curfew. And he understands that you guys have set up these rules that if you go and you break curfew, when you come back, we're going to take your car keys for a week. That's the deal. All right? So he gets back, he's broken curfew, and what he deserves is for you to take his car keys. And instead you say, you know what? I hope that you remember this. I want to forgive you. I'm not going to hold this against you. Go into bed. I'm not going to take your car keys. Right? That's mercy. He does not get a punishment that he does deserve. He doesn't get the consequences that his behaviors warrant. You just showed your son mercy. That's what that is. So mercy is when we do not get something that we do deserve. Grace, conversely, is when we do get something that we don't deserve. Grace is when we get a special favor or a blessing that we did not earn, that our behavior does not warrant. So we go back to the 16-year-old kid. You've forgiven him and you've sent him to his room, go to bed. I'm not going to take your keys. You can continue to have that freedom. You deserve that punishment, but I'm not going to give it to you. But grace is this. Maybe part of the agreement with your son is if he's going to have the freedom of driving, then he has to be responsible and earn his own gas money, which is a pretty fair driving arrangement across, I think, all families. That's a pretty typical arrangement. You're going to have a car, you've got to pay for your gas money. And because you love him, and because you want him to be blessed, and because it seems like he felt particularly bad about breaking curfew, not only do you send him to bed without taking his keys, but then after he's gone, you take his car and you sneak over to the gas station and you fill that thing all the way up for him. And you leave it there as a surprise the next morning. That's grace. Grace is the full gas tank that he doesn't deserve. He just broke the rules, man. He doesn't deserve that at all. He doesn't deserve any special favors. But because you love him, because you're a good parent, you fill up his gas tank. That's grace, right? And it's important that we understand these concepts because they are all over Scripture. Scripture shows us over and over again that God shows us mercy and that God shows us grace. I went through this week and just kind of looked at some of the passages, and I wanted you to see a few of them. So I'm going to read them kind of machine gun style real quick here. There's going to be three in a row for mercy, and then we're going to talk about these. But just look what Scripture has to say about mercy. I love this one in James. This is just a snippet of the verse, but it's a simple phrase. James writes that mercy triumphs over judgment. And then on in Lamentations, back in the Old Testament, the scriptures say, And then finally, Paul writes in Ephesians, What we see in those verses very clearly is that God's mercy is the forgiveness of our sins. God's mercy to us is forgiving our sins, is not giving us the just punishment that we deserve for our sins. I don't know if you've ever thought about it this way, but when we sin, it is offensive to Creator God. When we sin, we take up arms in a violent insurrection against God's domain in the universe. Last week, we talked about Satan, and we talked about his fundamental sin that is all of our fundamental sins, which is to look at God and to say, you're supposed to be up there. You're supposed to be the authority figure, but I don't want that to be true in my life, so I'm going to be my own authority figure. When we sin, when we choose something that is outside of God's will, what we're saying to God is, I don't accept your authority in my life. You're not the boss of me. I'm the boss of me. You don't make my decisions. I make my decisions. You see, when we sin, it is an active rebellion against the way that God created us. God is the creator. We are the created. I'm firmly convinced, and I've said it before, that that's why Genesis starts the way it does. The very first words in the Bible are, in the beginning, God created. It establishes that relationship, creator, creation. In charge, subservient. And when we sin, we go, I don't like that you're in charge. I want to be in charge. And we rebel against God. And God sent his son in light of that rebellion to make a path back to him so that we could spend eternity with him. And God says, when we sin, listen, you can't spend eternity with me anymore. You can't do it. You're imperfect. You've offended me. You violated the terms of the agreement. I am taking your keys. And then God sends his son to make a way for us to go to heaven anyways, for us to spend eternity with him anyways. And what do we do? We trample on that. We sin again. We demand forgiveness again. And I'm not sure that we stop and realize the miracle of God's mercy, the miracle of his forgiveness. When we do, that phrase in James, mercy triumphs over judgment, becomes really amazing. We deserve judgment. We broke the rules. He should take our keys. But he doesn't because our God chooses mercy and mercy triumphs over judgment. Jesus tells Peter, when Peter says, how many times should you forgive someone when they wrong you? Jesus says, 70 times seven. As many times as they wrong you, show them mercy. It's in his very nature to do this. Even though we are involved in a rebellious insurrection against Creator God, He looks at us in all of our offense. And for many of us, we're not talking about ignorant sin here. We're not talking about this thing that we did and now we realize, oh my gosh, I shouldn't be doing that. Now that I'm acquainted with Scripture, I know better. I'm talking about the willful sin that you and I commit every week, every day. Who am I kidding? That's offensive to Creator God. And yet he shows us mercy because lamentation says his mercies are new every morning. Every day requires more of God's forgiveness. Every day we break curfew and every day he gives us mercy for that. He withholds the punishment from us that we do deserve. He withholds the separation from us that we do deserve, the damnation from us that we do deserve. That's God's mercy. But it gets better because I think God's grace adds another layer on top of that that's even more remarkable. Look at what Scripture says about God's grace, just two verses really quickly. In Ephesians, Paul writes, for by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing, it is the gift of God. And then on in Romans he writes, and we are justified by His grace as a gift through the redemption that is in Christ Jesus. So mercy forgives us. God's mercy forgives us, but God's grace restores us. You see? God's mercy says, you're forgiven. I know you messed up. I know you broke curfew. You're forgiven. But then God's grace says, and I've made a way for you to be in my family. He fills up the tank. God's mercy says, I no longer hold your sins against you. God's grace says, because of that, I sent my son to die for you, and now you have a seat at my table etern, Do you understand? God's mercy says we messed up, we've offended Creator God, we've willfully sinned, and we've offended Him, and we deserve punishment, and He says, I'm not going to punish you. And He could stop there. He could say, I'm not going to punish you, I'm not going to punish you this one time for breaking curfew, but don't mess up anymore. And then if we mess up again, then we're done. We're toast. That's it. But in his grace and in his goodness, he doesn't stop at forgiveness. He stops at restoration. Not only are you forgiven, but now here, have a seat at my table. Not only are you forgiven, but now you are an adopted son or daughter of the king. You are an heir to the universal throne. Not only am I not going to hold it against you, not only am I going to clothe you in the righteousness ofal son. For those of you who are not familiar with it, I'm about to give you the quickest, worst rendition of it ever. All right. I've preached about this before. I can do a better job than this, but for the sake of time, we're going to look at some essential details. The parable of the prodigal son goes like this. There's a father who's wealthy and he has two sons. And one of those sons, the younger one, looks at the dad and he says, you know what? I really just want your stuff. I don't want you. Can you just go ahead and give me my inheritance? I'd rather you be dead anyway. Just give me my money so that I can live how I want. And that father, in his goodness, for reasons I don't understand, says, okay, fine, and gives him the money. And the son goes off into the city and he spends it on living in ways that just feed his appetites and his lusts. And he runs out of money. He spends it in totally dishonorable ways. He comes to the end of it. Everybody leaves him. He can't find a job. He ends up eating slop on a pig farm. And one day the Bible says he comes to his senses in this really poignant moment and he decides, I'm going to go back to my dad's house. But he works out this speech in his head where he's going to go back and he's going to say, I'm going to go back and I'm going to tell him, can you just please forgive me and let me be your servant? I don't deserve to be your son anymore. What I've done is too offensive. Will you please just let me be your servant? Because they live better than I do right now. And so he heads home with this speech in mind, which, by the way, it's a pretty fair speech, right? Dude took his dad's money, went off and spent it however he wanted to, wasted it on debaucherous things, and then comes back with his hat in his hand. Yeah, you're darn right he doesn't deserve to be a son anymore. He should live as a servant, at least for a few years, right? But he goes back, and the father sees him from a long way off and runs out to greet him. And the son starts in with his speech, dad, I'm so sorry, I don't deserve, yada, yada, yada. And the dad shuts him up right away, flings his arms around him and hugs him. And in that moment, the son knows that he's forgiven, that his father's not going to hold those things against him. That's mercy. But he doesn't stop there. He takes the ring, the signet of the family, and he puts it on his son's finger. And he takes the robe and he takes the slippers and he puts those on the son. And then he goes and he kills the fattened calf, the really good stuff. And he throws a big, huge party. And he says, my son is back, and he welcomes him right back into the family, which he didn't have to do, and his behavior didn't warrant. It's the perfect picture of the mercy and the grace that God offers us. We're the prodigals. We run away and make willful decisions to offend our God, to throw off his authority in our life and be our own authority. And then at some point or another, we come back, hat in hand, apologetic, I'm so sorry. And he forgives us. But he doesn't just forgive us. He restores us. He doesn't just say, hey, I'm not mad at you. Come here. You would expect that he would say, you're forgiven. Get away from me. I need a minute. That's not what he does. He says, you're forgiven. And then he hugs us. And then he sends his son, his only son, whom he loves, who was perfect, who never offended him, to die for you and for me. He gave us that gift. Do you understand? We don't deserve the grace of Jesus. We don't deserve that. We didn't earn it. Our behavior doesn't warrant it. Nowhere in the scripture is there a contract that says when we break the law and offend Almighty God that he owes us the death of his son? That's not the deal. But he does it anyways. That's grace. And in light of that, the mercy of forgiveness and the grace of restoration, we should want to exuberantly praise our God. But I'm also aware of the fact that many of us, as we listen to this, if you look at the ends of the spectrum of, Nick, you better shut up so I can start praising God right now. I'm about to jump out of my skin. And then, oh, okay, that's cool. I think I understand grace and mercy a little bit better now. A lot of us are closer to this end. A lot of us have responded in our heads and in our hearts to what I just said in that way. Oh, okay, yeah, I get it. I understand that better. That's good. Thank you. And it makes me wonder, me included, why we're on that end of the spectrum. And as I thought about that this week, I could only include that it's probably because we're all entitled brats. We're probably on that end of the spectrum because there's a very good chance that the two to three hundred adults I'm talking to right now are really just entitled brats. Here's what I mean. I just want to give you a picture of my daughter's life. I have a daughter named Lily. She just recently turned five. This is her last six weeks. Before you get offended at me calling you an entitled brat, which I did just do, just hear me out. Lily's last six weeks have been unbelievable. She is, through no fault of her own, incredibly entitled now. I ran this by Jen. She's not happy I'm saying this, but we've accepted that it's true. Here's what's happened with her. In December, we as a family spent basically the month down in Athens, Georgia with Jen's family as her dad transitioned into eternity. And in doing that, with Christmas coming up, there are people here in Raleigh who love us and who love Lily and wanted to make sure that Lily got a gift. So a couple times I would come back to Raleigh to take care of some church stuff, and there would be packages waiting on me at the house. I had, I literally, the first time I came back, this is embarrassing, we had some neighbors collecting our mail for us. I had to get a wheelbarrow and go down to their house and fill it up with all the stuff that was waiting on us. And then they pulled a wagon and we unloaded it at my house. That was Christmas arriving at the Rector's. That's us. And other people had like dropped things off at the door. So now I go home, I'm getting these gifts. I take them back to Lily, who is now opening these gifts like, hey, all these people got you these things. Okay, great, thank you. So she's opening them. We're trying to do the video with excitement. She's trying to fan excitement, but she's four at the time. She's not really good at this yet. She doesn't know that's part of the deal when you get gifts. So she's already getting gifts in early December. I made another trip back. There's more stuff waiting. I bring that back. I go ahead and give that to her because we know that there's Christmas coming. We don't want to mute those things. Then at Jen's house, because of things going on, we did early Christmas with her dad. So all the grandkids go in and she's now opening three or four other gifts from her grandparents. Thank you for these and these and these. Then Christmas Eve, we have real Christmas with Jen's family and she gets more gifts. Then the next day we go to my family's house and she gets more gifts, right, on Christmas. And so now the situation in a state that we don't even live in is at my parents' house, there's a pile of gifts that's too big to carry back to Jen's parents' house. So we just have to leave it there for a second. At Jen's parents' house, she has gifts strewn across three stories of a home, including inside a princess room that her grandfather made for her while he still could that she gets to sleep in, complete with lit teepee, okay? This is her life. There's a mess of toys there. There's some on the main floor. There's a basement that she's adopted as a playroom. And then there's toys in the playroom that my parents have for her. And then she comes back. We don't get back until early January, right? When we get back, there's more gifts waiting on her because people at the church love her and are so good to us. And then her birthday's on January 15th. So on January 15th, prior to that, more gifts are showing up at the house. She's opening them up. She lives in a, in a, like a dang gift parade. It's a totally normal thing for her to come home and open up to like, hey, these two things came for you today. And she just opens it up like they're nothing. Then on her birthday, the neighborhood kids come over and give her stuff she doesn't need in exchange for cake that they don't need. And then the next day we have church drive by where the families come through and they hand her more stuff that she doesn't need. And we wave at them in the freezing cold, and we just have so much junk all over our house. And to this child, it's totally normal. She has no idea that she lives inside of a gift parade. They just show up every day. And what Jen and I have realized is she's entitled. Now, I will say this. She is not a brat. She's not that. That word was for dramatic effect only. She's sweet and kind and loving, but she has no capacity to show the proper gratitude for all the gifts that she's been getting because to her it's a totally normal thing. It's embarrassing to me how much people love us and love her. And I don't know what I'm going to do as a dad. I've literally tried to talk Jen into when somebody gives us a gift, let's put it in a room somewhere. And then as she is good, if she has a good week, then we'll give her one of the gifts from the gift room, right? To try to help her earn it. I don't know exactly how to solve this. I would imagine that we're not on an island with this issue. But the reality of my daughter's life is she's entitled. And she doesn't know it. We're going to try to correct it. But what I understand is that that entitlement blinds her to what generosity really is. That entitlement works to mute her joy because she sees everything through the lens of this is normal. I deserve this. If I ask for a thing, I get the thing. This is how life goes. And she has no reason to believe that that's not how life goes. She's only barely five, and she's loved. See, here's the thing. I think it's great. I'm happy for her. I'm floored by the love that our family experiences. I'm grateful that she gets to live a life like that. But she has no perspective on how grateful she should really be. Because again, her entitlement blinds her to the generosity around her and serves to mute her joy that she should have when she receives a gift. I bring that up because I believe that you and I live in a stinking gift parade and we just don't know it. We live in parades of God's goodness and we don't see it. All of our life, if we grew up in church, as soon as you're involved in church, at some point or another, you're going to hear, you've sinned and you've offended Almighty God. And then as soon as that is said to help us feel better, as a capstone to it, you've sinned and offended Almighty God, but God offers us mercy, so you're good. Jesus died on the cross for your sins, so you're fine. You've sinned, you don't get to spend eternity with heaven, but God offers us mercy and sends his son to die for us, so you're forgiven. So we never have to sit in the reality of what our sin really warrants. We never have to sit under the weight of, I have sinned, I have chosen my authority over God's authority, and that has earned me eternal separation from him. We don't have to sit in that for more than 30 seconds before the pastor comes back and says, but God died for you, so we have mercy. We never stop to think that we don't deserve mercy. We never stop to consider that these gifts don't have to keep showing up at my house. We've never done the math to understand that God doesn't owe you forgiveness. Do you understand? He doesn't owe it to you. He created you. He set you on the planet. He said, these are the rules. This is how you can please me. And we've all at different points in our life said, you know, I'm not really that interested in pleasing you. He doesn't owe us forgiveness for that. We walk around like we're entitled to it. We walk around like we deserve it. We walk around like, listen, the deal should be, God, I'm going to mess up a couple times. If you could let some people kill your son, that seems pretty fair. Grace, we are not owed mercy. That's nowhere in the contract. You say, yeah, but God is love. God forgives. He is love. He does forgive. He's also just. And what we deserve is separation from the God that we've offended. But because mercy triumphs over judgment, and because His mercies are new every morning, he withholds that judgment from us and he offers us forgiveness. He offers us a mercy that we are not owed and that we do not deserve. Yet we are so familiar with it and we sing songs about it so often and we count on it and take it for granted so regularly that sometimes we treat mercy like another doll that someone handed us out the window that, yeah, of course I get this. It's my birthday. This is what we do. And our entitlement blinds us to the grandeur and the majesty of God's mercy. Not to mention the graces that we don't see. Grace is a goodness that we get that we have not earned. Grace is God's favor on our life that doesn't warrant it. We just walked through the really, and we're in the middle of the really difficult season of losing Jen's dad. His name was John. Towards the end of John's life, we found out we were pregnant with a boy that we're going to name John. What grace from God. What grace from God that he says, listen, everybody has to go. As appointed to man wants to die. Everyone's going to have to walk this path. And now it's John's turn to walk this path. But because I love you and because you're good and because you're my child, you're good because I made you good. Here's another John for you to love. That's grace. We don't deserve that. We didn't warrant that. Do you understand that the goodness in your life is grace? It's God's goodness in your life that when you get the new car and you drive it down the road and it smells nice and it looks nice and you're real proud of yourself and it makes us feel like we arrived, that happiness, that moment, that's God's grace. When we sit in our living room and our kids are back from college and we watch our grandkids scurry around or we see their joy and a gift that we were able to buy them, like that's God's grace. When we sit around with our friends and we laugh and we have a good night and we go home and we feel warm, that's God's grace. Your gifts and talents that got you where you are, those are gifts from God that are his grace. His grace is all over our lives. And if we would just stop and look around and acknowledge that we're in a dang gift parade, I think we would be blown away by God's goodness. It reminds me of one of my favorite verses in John, where he simply writes, from his fullness, we have all received grace upon grace. From God's fullness, out of the goodness of his heart, we have all received grace upon grace. He just lavishes them upon us because he's a good father and he likes to see you happy. He likes it when you cry tears of joy. He likes the moments that you share with your husband or your wife or your friend or your parents or your kids. He likes those sweet moments. He designs those for you. He doesn't just forgive you. He doesn't just say, hey, I'm not going to hold your sins against you, but he fills up your tank with gas every day over and over from his fullness. We have all received grace upon grace. He doesn't just forgive you. He sends his son to die for you and he restores you and he welcomes you into his house to sit at his table. And these little snippets of grace are just glimpses into eternity where it's nothing but grace and nothing but goodness and nothing but joy that's waiting for us, that he won for us, that he gifts to us that we didn't earn. And so I just wonder what God's grace and mercy will look like when we no longer see them through the lens of entitlement. I wonder what God's grace and mercy will look like when we no longer see those things through the lens of entitlement. When we can just stop for a second and acknowledge, yeah, I don't deserve mercy. That's not part of the deal. God chooses to show me mercy because he loves me. What will it look like if we take for a second? In a few minutes we're going to sing that song that has the line, I see the evidence of your goodness all around me. What would happen if we would look around at all the goodness in our life that's a gift from God and acknowledge that, man, we live inside of a gift parade. God has given us countless goodness and countless grace. He lavishes it upon us. His mercies are new every morning because we require them every morning. Let's this morning be grateful for God's grace and for God's mercy. Let's see them fresh and new, not through the lens of entitlement that blinds us to the grandeur of his generosity, but through the lens of humility that helps us see his grace and mercy for what they are. And let's be humbly blown away by those things. So sing along as we sing or sit and listen as we sing. But in light of God's grace and mercy, let's praise him together this morning.