Well, good morning, everyone. My name is Nate. I get to be one of the pastors here. If you've been following along, you know that normally I preach, but the past few weeks I haven't been doing that. So it's very good to be back and get to see you guys from up here. It was fun to prepare a message this week, and I'm excited to share that with you. The other thing I'm excited about right now is the Olympics. Who else has been watching every possible minute of Olympic coverage? It's been fantastic. We love it in our house and it's been really special this time around. Lily, our daughter, is eight so she can enjoy it with us. We stay up late and watch it and then we hit pause and then we get up in the morning and we finish and it's just been really, really fun. And for those of you who have been following along, you know that one of the stories of the Olympics so far has been the United States men's gymnastics team. In the all-around competition earlier this week for those who have been hiding under a rock and don't know this I want to set the scene for you. In the men's all-around competition what they do is members of the team, three members of the team, it's a five-man team, participate in all of the events, and then the highest cumulative score wins the medal. They win the gold medal. And going into the event, you know that China and Japan are going to win gold and silver. There's really no one else that can touch them. But the U.S. has a chance to medal, to get the bronze for the first time in 16 years. And so hopes are high. And we are watching this earlier in the week. I think it was maybe Monday or Tuesday. We're watching it and it was so fun. We're so enthusiastic about it. And everyone's doing what they're supposed to do. Everyone's doing their routines like they're supposed to do their routines. They're hitting their prime position. And then it gets to the final event. The final event is the pommel horse, which if you don't know what the pommel horse is, you're not missing much. It's real stupid. I don't know why it's an event. It doesn't make any sense to me. They spin around, and then they're on the ground. Fine. Listen, incredible amount of talent. It's just dumb to watch. That's the final event. And we've got one person who did pommel horse in college. They're never coming back. Sorry. It's the final event. And the Americans have this one guy on their team. And his specialty is the pommel horse. This is the only reason he's on the team. He doesn't participate in anything else. He's only there as a pommel horse assassin. That's his whole job. And he's the last one to go, the last event of the night. And all night, they keep panning over to him, telling him he's coming up. He's the pommel horse guy, and they're showing him, and he's just sitting in the back brooding. He's not looking at anything or anybody. He's totally expressionless. Every now and again you can tell he's mentally going through his routine and he's just sitting there stiff all night. And then he gets up and he does his routine and he nails it. And it was great. There was tears in our house. And listen, a lot of you probably know the story. You probably know who I'm talking about. But if you don't, I want you to picture in your head the hero of American gymnastics and national sport in general. And I want you to picture what you think this athletic hero looks like. Because whatever you're picturing ain't this. It's not that guy. That's not who you had in your head. That guy looks like an NC State grad who's writing code at a startup. That's what he looks like. If he didn't have that medal around his neck, you'd just think he was there for fun, like as a fan. But that's the guy, Steven Nedarosik. That's the guy. And he, the reason I bring him up is he embodies to me what is one of my favorite principles in life, which is this idea that no matter what people see in you, no matter what people say about you, no matter what you might say about yourself, don't try to convince them they're wrong with your words. Just put your head down, do the work, and let the results speak for themselves. Don't worry about what other people say. Don't worry about what other people might think. Just put your head down, control what you can control, do your work, and let the outcome of that work and of that effort speak for itself. And that's what he did. He steps up to the pommel horse, and he takes his glasses off, and he gets real squinty. And Chris Rock, in his commentary, said, don't tell him. He thinks he's doing the rings right now. He can't see nothing. But you're looking at this guy and you're like, this can't be the guy. But he put his head down. He did the work. And he was the guy. The results speak for themselves. I love this principle in life. I think it's such an important one that gets us through a lot of seasons and allows us to accomplish a lot of things. And one of the reasons I love this principle is because it's a very Christian principle. That principle of put your head down, do the work, don't worry about what other people think, just let the results speak for themselves. That's a very biblical principle. As a matter of fact, you can pull that right out of the book of 1 Timothy. So if you have a Bible, I'd love to invite you to turn to 1 Timothy 4, verse 12. It's going to be on the screen. If you have a Bible, if you read the one in front of you, it's the NIV. I learned this verse. It's been an important verse to me for most of my life. If you've ever done any youth ministry, this is a big, important verse. It's on the other side of that wall right there in our fourth and fifth grade classroom. But I memorized it young at a Baptist church in the King's English. So if you don't mind, I'm going to say it like that, but you guys read along. Paul writes in 1 Timothy 4.12, let no man despise thy youth, but be thou an example to the believers in word and conversation and charity and spirit and faith and in purity. So a little context for this verse so you understand a little bit more about what's going on and what Paul is saying specifically to Timothy. We're in a series now called 27 where last summer and this summer we took one book a week and we're going through all the books of the New Testament the 27 books of the New Testament last summer in this summer trying to give you a synopsis or a sense of what each book is about so for those who are not super familiar with the Bible maybe it becomes a little bit more approachable because you know what the books are about you know what you're gonna read when you sit down to read it's to raise the biblical literacy of the partnership of grace and our hope is if you know the Bible books are about, you know what you're going to read when you sit down to read it. It's to raise the biblical literacy of the partnership of grace. And our hope is if you know the Bible well, that as we highlight these books, that you see them through fresh eyes and maybe it inspires you to dive back into scripture on your own. This Sunday, we're actually going to cover or talk about, not going to cover, talk about the books of 1 and 2 Timothy and Titus. Because together, those make up what are referred to as the pastoral epistles. Those are letters, most of Paul's letters were written to churches. To the church in Ephesus, to the church in Galatia, to the church in Thessalonica, and so on and so on. But these books, 1 and 2 Timothy and Titus, were written to individuals. 1 and 2 Timothy, you can figure out who that was written to. Titus, you know who that was written to. It's written to those men in particular that Paul had left behind and installed essentially as senior pastors over the churches that he had been planting. And so the letters to Timothy are to him as he takes over the church in Ephesus, one of the most impactful churches in early Christendom. Early Christendom may not have survived without the church in Ephesus. And so he installs Timothy as the pastor there, and he writes in these two letters as books of advice, words of advice to a young disciple as he takes over a church. And in that is a lot of wonderful things about what church should be and how it should operate and what the qualifications for the elders should be. We see that in Timothy and in Titus. If you're an elder at the church, you should be very familiar with these books. If you're a believer, you should be very interested in these books. But there was no way to group them together and cover everything in them. But what I thought we could do is pull out this one verse in 1 Timothy 4 and talk about that, because that is a verse that is universally applicable to every Christian. That's not pastoral advice. That's Christian advice. Let no man despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word and conversation and charity charity and spirit and faith and in purity. And word and conversation means the way that you carry yourself, the way that you interact with people. In charity and in spirit, charity is love. It means the way that you love others. In spirit, it's the way that you carry yourself. In purity, it's this pursuit of holiness. So the way that I would sum this up is that Paul is telling Timothy, I know you think you're young. And I know you think that it's going to be difficult for people to listen to you. And trust me, this has been a very encouraging verse for me. Right now, I'm the ripe old age of 43, and I look every bit 46. But when I took the church over, I was 36. And I was worried about this. And this verse brought me comfort. Because Paul says, put your head down, do the work, be an example to those around you in your pursuit of holiness and the way you love others. That's a really simple way to understand it. Put your head down, do the work, and be an example to the believers in the way that you pursue holiness and in the way that you love others. And I believe that this verse applies to all of us equally. That when Paul is telling Timothy to do that, he's telling all Christians for all time to do that. And here's why I think this is true and why I think we need this advice from Paul this morning. Because there's two things about each and every one of you that are here right now or that can hear my voice right now from your home or wherever you're listening further into this week as you catch up. Here's something I know to be true of every single person who can hear me. Two things. The first is we are called and created to live spiritually impactful lives. Every single one of you, no matter how much you know it, no matter how much you admit it to yourself, no matter how comfortable or uncomfortable you are with that. Even if you're here this morning and you wouldn't yet call yourself a believer, you're here to support family, you're here because you're curious, you're here because church is nice, whatever brought you here, I believe that God has a purpose for your life. The Bible teaches that God has a purpose for your life, that you are called to live a spiritually impactful life that matters for all of eternity. Every single one is called to that, whether you realize it or acknowledge it or not. And I know this to be true because in myriad places and myriad ways throughout scripture, the authors emphasize this point. In 1 Corinthians chapters 12 and 13, we see this big long list of spiritual gifts. We're taught about the church as the body of Christ and how every part of the body has a part to play and a job to do, has a responsibility. And we're told that the Holy Spirit actually gifts us upon salvation to play our part, to contribute to God's kingdom. And that's not for pastors. That's not for leaders. That's not for the charismatic. That's not for the people who are bold and out there and in front of you. That's not an instruction for the elite few, for the spiritual Marines. That's not for them. It's for everyone. We are all given gifts. In Ephesians chapter four, those are the gifts of the spirit we see in first Corinthians 12 and 13 and we see again in Romans. But in Ephesians 4, we're told that Christ gives us gifts. That every one of us is gifted to be either an apostle, a prophet, an evangelist, a shepherd, or a teacher. That Christ himself imbues us with those gifts to be used in his kingdom to build his kingdom. Every one of us, I'm going to talk about this in a few weeks, every one of us is a kingdom builder of the kingdom of God. And we've been gifted to that end. And if those two things don't convince you, then maybe the verse that I bring up all the time will help you see. Ephesians 2.10, I love to remind you of this verse. It says that we are God's workmanship created in Christ Jesus for good works that you might walk in them. It teaches me that my job as a parent to John and Lily is not to craft them into who I want them to be. It's not to mold them into who I think they should be. It's to raise them in such a way that they can identify their good works and walk in those that were prepared for them before time. You, each of you, each and every one of you, it's absolutely true of you that when God knit you in your mother's womb, he knew your story, the gifts that he was going to give you, and the role that he had you to play in his kingdom. He's purposed every single one of you to live a spiritually impactful life, to impact the people around you for Christ. I'm reminded of the verse in Colossians that says that we are led in triumphal procession by Christ and through us will spread the fragrance of the knowledge of God. Each one of us as a believer is designed, created, called, and purposed to live lives that impact the people around us towards Christ. Every single one of us. I know that to be true of you. I know it to be true of you that you are called and created to live a spiritually impactful life. Here's the other thing I know to be true of you. We all doubt our capacity to actually do it. Every single one of us, as I'm up here ranting about your purpose to live a spiritually impactful life, all but the most arrogant and least self-aware of us are thinking to ourselves all the reasons why we can't make an impact, but we can't make that big of an impact. All of us have disqualifying voices in our life that keep us from fully embracing that. Timothy's disqualifying voice was, I might be too young. They might not listen. And Paul says, hey, don't listen to that voice. Put your head down, be an example to the believers in the way that you pursue purity and in the way that you love others. Let the outcome of those actions speak for themselves. As I sit here and tell you, you are called to live a spiritually impactful life. There is no doubt in my mind that all kinds of things are running through your head as to why you can't live a spiritually impactful life as that person over there. Each of you thinks that your counterpart on the other side of the room has a better chance of living a spiritually impactful life than you do, and you're all wrong. We're all called to that, but we all, here's the problem, have in our life these disqualifying voices that we're tempted to listen to. And more often than not, the loudest voice of disqualification is in your own head. The loudest voice that tells you, I really don't have much of a shot at making a difference in God's kingdom. I really am not going to be that impactful in my life. That voice, more often than not, comes from you, not the world. And we think things like maybe when you hear me talk about that, maybe your thought is Timothy's thought. I'm too young. No one will listen to me. I don't have enough experience. I don't have the resume to be spiritually impactful, to impact people towards Christ. Maybe you're on the other end of the spectrum. I'm too old. All my years are behind me. Whatever chance I had to make an impact has passed. I've missed my sweet spot. Now I'm just cruising it to home. There's nothing left for me to do. Maybe you think to yourself, I'm not that articulate. I don't like being in front of people. I'm not winsome. I'm not charismatic. Maybe when I talk about making a spiritual impact, you think, yeah, well, I'm a stay-at-home mom. And my world is so very small right now. And this sermon is for other people. It's not for me. Maybe you would disqualify yourself with your past. Say, yeah, man, you don't know what I've been and what I've done and where I've come from. Ain't nobody listening to me. Maybe you're new to Christianity. Maybe you're not new to Christianity, but you're new to taking it seriously. And so when I open up the Bible and talk about the different books in the Bible, you're not really familiar with them at all. And you're just thinking, I'm just trying to play catch up here, man. I'm not ready to go impact other people. I'm new to this. I don't know. They're going to ask me questions and I'm not going to know the answers. So I can't make an impact yet. I don't know what your disqualifying voice is trying to convince you of to make you step out of the race and not believe about yourself that you were created to live a spiritually impactful life. I don't know what's trying to convince you that you don't have a part to play in building God's kingdom while you're here on earth. But I do know that to our doubts, Paul tells us to put our heads down and pursue holiness. To whatever doubts you have in your head, to whatever your disqualifying voice is from spiritual service, Paul says to that voice, ignore it, put your head down, pursue holiness, love others, and watch what God does. He says to you, Paul says, let no man despise your past. Judge you based on mistakes that you've made before. Put your head down, pursue holiness, love others well, and watch what God does. Let nobody look down on your inexperience. You know the remedy to a past? A pure future. You know the remedy to inexperience? Experience. You know the remedy to thinking that you're too old or you're too young? Get in the ring and watch what God does. We write ourselves off from living spiritually impactful lives for so many reasons. And they're all lies. They're all lies that you tell yourself and that the enemy tells us to disqualify you from service in God's kingdom. And here's a really scary thing that dawned on me as I was preparing this. When we listen to the disqualifying voices, we do harm to those we love the most. Do you understand this? When we allow the voices from within and from without to convince us that we can't really take our faith that seriously because no one takes us seriously and God doesn't really have something he wants me to do and people he wants me to impact. When we believe that, when we fall prey to that and we step out of the ring and we're just coasting through our spiritual lives, we do the most harm to the people we love the most. What would have happened in Ephesus if Timothy had let those voices win? If Timothy had convinced himself that he was too young to be effective, and he stepped into the pulpit with timidity? Would Ephesus have slowly crumbled and dissolved away without leadership? I don't know. But if he was to choose to listen to those disqualifying voices, then he would not have served the people nearly like he needed to. More pointedly, parents, listen to me. If you don't take seriously your call to live a spiritually impactful life, if you let the voices talk you out of putting your head down and pursuing holiness and loving other people well. If you mail in your spiritual life and be content to be slightly above average. I'm good enough to check the box. I'm a good person. I'm going to heaven. My kids are going to heaven. If you just mail it in and go into cruise control for the rest of your life without pursuing God. Who's going to disciple your kids? Who's going to show your kids how to follow Christ? Who's going to model it for your children? If you refuse to put your head down and pursue holiness and love others well and let God in to let him use the gifts that he's given you, if you refuse to engage spiritually and don't take your spiritual health seriously and don't believe that you were placed in the life of your children to impact them towards Christ, if you won't do that for them, who will? Aaron? Children's pastor? Kyle? They get your kids for one hour a week. And let's just be honest about this. That's not even 52 weeks a year, okay? I've seen your church attendance. Let's be generous and call it like 40. They get your kids for 40 hours a year. They're going to disciple a kid in 40 hours a year? You get your kids for 100 hours a week. There is no one in your child's life better postured to love them towards Jesus than you. And when you refuse to engage in your own spiritual growth because the voices talk you out of it, you abscond on your duty to raise your kids in Christ and you thrust it on someone else and we shortchange them. When we choose to believe the disqualifying voices in our life, we hurt the people around us the most. The Bible tells us that marriage is to be a picture that reminds us of the way that Christ sacrificially loves the church. If you don't show your spouse day in and day out how Jesus loves the church by sacrificially loving them, if you're not trying to do that every day, if you're not taking seriously the call to impact your spouse towards Christ and watch God work in them, who's going to do that for you? If you don't take seriously the call in scripture to live a life building God's kingdom, pursuing holiness and loving others well, and letting God do what he will with the gifts, with the people around you? Who's going to be the pastor that your workplace so desperately needs? Who is your coworker going to come to when they need prayer because their mom's in the hospital? Who's going to invite your neighbor to the thing that's going to ignite them spiritually and reengage them with the church? Who's going to work in your circles of influence as only you can to impact people towards Christ? If you choose to allow the voices that disqualify you from Christian service, if you choose to allow them to win, if we don't take seriously this call from Paul to be an example to the believers in word and conversation and charity and spirit and faith and purity, if we don't do that, who's going to step in and do our job for us? We are all called to live spiritually impactful lives. And we must take seriously that call. Now, on the flip side, can you imagine what could happen if we choose to pursue holiness and allow God to use the gifts he's given you. Can you imagine what could happen in your life if you left here and you said, okay, God, listen, I don't know what your plan is for me. I'm not even sure what the gifts you've given me are. I have no idea. But I'm going to put my head down. I'm going to pursue holiness. I'm going to love others well. I'm going to make my life available to you. You use my life to impact the people around me however you want. God, I want to live the rest of my life building your kingdom. What would happen if you left this place and you got on your knees this afternoon, tonight, tomorrow morning, and you said, God, I'm yours. Use me. I don't know to what end. I'm not convinced that I'm going to make any great impact. But I am convinced that I need to live the rest of my life opened up to the possibility that you want to use me in the lives of the people around me. So here, it's yours. I'm going to put my head down. I'm not going to listen to my disqualifying voices. I'm not going to listen to the disqualifying voices of the people around me. I'm going to put my head down. I'm going to do the work. I'm going to pursue holiness. I'm going to be an example to the believers in the way that I love others. And I'm going to trust you with the results and let those speak for themselves. What could happen if we let God in our lives to use the gifts that he's given us? Well, I'll tell you one thing that could happen because we've seen it happen in real time here in this church over the last five or so years. I'm about to just, she probably will never come back to the church. But she's on staff, so she has to. I'm going to embarrass the heck out of Carly. You can leave the room now if you want to, Carly. I don't know how long ago it was that she started singing. Carly was the lady singing right here this morning. I don't know how long ago it was that she started singing, four or five years ago. But her origin story is she was our previous worship pastor's wife, Lisa, was in the restroom on a Sunday morning and heard an angelic voice coming out of a stall and stalked her and said, we need you on the worship team. You should try out. And Carly had to be cajoled. She had to be talked into it. Because she's not big on, she's not the first one to raise her hand and be like, yes, I would like to be in front of others and let them hear my voice every Sunday publicly. That's not her jam. So she had to be talked into it. And she reluctantly agreed. She auditioned. She did well. Let's get you on the team. So she starts coming up and leading worship. And here's the thing. I'm pretty sure that Carly led worship for about two full years before I actually heard her voice. Because it takes, it's true, isn't it? I don't know if you guys have ever thought about this. I've watched it happen whenever we recruit someone new to the team. It's one thing to have a pretty voice and be told that you have a nice voice. It's another thing to sing loudly enough and confidently enough into the microphone in front of other people to be heard above the mix. When there's someone up here singing and you can't hear them, it's not because Cindy doesn't have them turned up loud enough. It's because their Sunday morning voice is a little bit different than their Wednesday night voice. There's people in the room. It takes guts to step into that. But over time and over the years, Carly trusted us with her gift. She started to believe in God's purpose for her life in this area. And she started to trust it to God. And she started to trust it to us. And in the last, I would say, six to eight months, now when Carly leads a song, buddy, she's leading. She's belting. She's letting it rip. And every time she does it, I'm getting emotional right now. Every time she does it, I get emotional. And I get emotional because I think it's so beautiful when a child of God is using their gift from God to do exactly what he gave that gift to them to do. It is so powerful to think about the fact that when she was knit in her mother's womb, God says, I'm going to give this one a voice. And he didn't give her a voice so that she could sing pretty and entertain people. He didn't give her a voice so that she could bring attention to herself. Do you know why he gave her a voice? He gave her a voice so that he could hear it sing praises to him, so that he could hear his daughter sing to him in a way that he enjoyed. And he gave her a voice for his daughter to use to bring his other children into praise before his throne, into his presence. When she sings on Sunday and belts it out and lets it rip, she's using the gift that God gave her for the exact reason he gave it to her, and it's beautiful. And we would never experience it and be led into worship through her and through her gifting if she allowed the disqualifying voices to talk her out of it when she auditioned. If she allowed the disqualifying voice in her head to talk her out of it in the early years as she was getting her feet wet. And so we see what can happen in real time when we say, God, I don't know what you have for me and I don't know what my purpose is here, but I'm going to make my gifts available for you to use however you want to use them. In the meantime, I'm going to be an example to the believers in the way that I pursue you and in the way that I love others. Can you imagine what a church could look like if everyone in that church prayed that prayer and said, God, I don't know what you have for me to do. I don't even know how you've gifted me to do it. But I'm going to pursue you and I'm going to love others and whatever impact you want me to have, God, I'm ready to have it. Can you imagine what could happen with a church full of people who believe that? I'll tell you this. I'd like to find out. Let's pray. Father, we love you. Thank you for imbuing our lives with purpose that's bigger than us. Thank you for always encouraging us to put our heads down and to trust you with the gifts that you've given us. Thank you for being a steady voice in our life that tells us we don't have to believe the disqualifying things about ourselves. God, I pray that every person in here, whether it's today or five years from now, would allow you to open their eyes to the fact that you've called and created them to live spiritually impactful lives. Would those of us who've just been cruising, not taking things seriously, not being engaged, God, would we re-engage with you? Would we make disciples of our children? Would we be a pastor to our communities? Show us how you can use us if we simply get our doubts and our fears and our hesitancies out of the way and let you begin to work. God, I pray that you would bring it about. In Jesus' name, amen.
Well, good morning, everyone. My name is Nate. I get to be one of the pastors here. If you've been following along, you know that normally I preach, but the past few weeks I haven't been doing that. So it's very good to be back and get to see you guys from up here. It was fun to prepare a message this week, and I'm excited to share that with you. The other thing I'm excited about right now is the Olympics. Who else has been watching every possible minute of Olympic coverage? It's been fantastic. We love it in our house and it's been really special this time around. Lily, our daughter, is eight so she can enjoy it with us. We stay up late and watch it and then we hit pause and then we get up in the morning and we finish and it's just been really, really fun. And for those of you who have been following along, you know that one of the stories of the Olympics so far has been the United States men's gymnastics team. In the all-around competition earlier this week for those who have been hiding under a rock and don't know this I want to set the scene for you. In the men's all-around competition what they do is members of the team, three members of the team, it's a five-man team, participate in all of the events, and then the highest cumulative score wins the medal. They win the gold medal. And going into the event, you know that China and Japan are going to win gold and silver. There's really no one else that can touch them. But the U.S. has a chance to medal, to get the bronze for the first time in 16 years. And so hopes are high. And we are watching this earlier in the week. I think it was maybe Monday or Tuesday. We're watching it and it was so fun. We're so enthusiastic about it. And everyone's doing what they're supposed to do. Everyone's doing their routines like they're supposed to do their routines. They're hitting their prime position. And then it gets to the final event. The final event is the pommel horse, which if you don't know what the pommel horse is, you're not missing much. It's real stupid. I don't know why it's an event. It doesn't make any sense to me. They spin around, and then they're on the ground. Fine. Listen, incredible amount of talent. It's just dumb to watch. That's the final event. And we've got one person who did pommel horse in college. They're never coming back. Sorry. It's the final event. And the Americans have this one guy on their team. And his specialty is the pommel horse. This is the only reason he's on the team. He doesn't participate in anything else. He's only there as a pommel horse assassin. That's his whole job. And he's the last one to go, the last event of the night. And all night, they keep panning over to him, telling him he's coming up. He's the pommel horse guy, and they're showing him, and he's just sitting in the back brooding. He's not looking at anything or anybody. He's totally expressionless. Every now and again you can tell he's mentally going through his routine and he's just sitting there stiff all night. And then he gets up and he does his routine and he nails it. And it was great. There was tears in our house. And listen, a lot of you probably know the story. You probably know who I'm talking about. But if you don't, I want you to picture in your head the hero of American gymnastics and national sport in general. And I want you to picture what you think this athletic hero looks like. Because whatever you're picturing ain't this. It's not that guy. That's not who you had in your head. That guy looks like an NC State grad who's writing code at a startup. That's what he looks like. If he didn't have that medal around his neck, you'd just think he was there for fun, like as a fan. But that's the guy, Steven Nedarosik. That's the guy. And he, the reason I bring him up is he embodies to me what is one of my favorite principles in life, which is this idea that no matter what people see in you, no matter what people say about you, no matter what you might say about yourself, don't try to convince them they're wrong with your words. Just put your head down, do the work, and let the results speak for themselves. Don't worry about what other people say. Don't worry about what other people might think. Just put your head down, control what you can control, do your work, and let the outcome of that work and of that effort speak for itself. And that's what he did. He steps up to the pommel horse, and he takes his glasses off, and he gets real squinty. And Chris Rock, in his commentary, said, don't tell him. He thinks he's doing the rings right now. He can't see nothing. But you're looking at this guy and you're like, this can't be the guy. But he put his head down. He did the work. And he was the guy. The results speak for themselves. I love this principle in life. I think it's such an important one that gets us through a lot of seasons and allows us to accomplish a lot of things. And one of the reasons I love this principle is because it's a very Christian principle. That principle of put your head down, do the work, don't worry about what other people think, just let the results speak for themselves. That's a very biblical principle. As a matter of fact, you can pull that right out of the book of 1 Timothy. So if you have a Bible, I'd love to invite you to turn to 1 Timothy 4, verse 12. It's going to be on the screen. If you have a Bible, if you read the one in front of you, it's the NIV. I learned this verse. It's been an important verse to me for most of my life. If you've ever done any youth ministry, this is a big, important verse. It's on the other side of that wall right there in our fourth and fifth grade classroom. But I memorized it young at a Baptist church in the King's English. So if you don't mind, I'm going to say it like that, but you guys read along. Paul writes in 1 Timothy 4.12, let no man despise thy youth, but be thou an example to the believers in word and conversation and charity and spirit and faith and in purity. So a little context for this verse so you understand a little bit more about what's going on and what Paul is saying specifically to Timothy. We're in a series now called 27 where last summer and this summer we took one book a week and we're going through all the books of the New Testament the 27 books of the New Testament last summer in this summer trying to give you a synopsis or a sense of what each book is about so for those who are not super familiar with the Bible maybe it becomes a little bit more approachable because you know what the books are about you know what you're gonna read when you sit down to read it's to raise the biblical literacy of the partnership of grace and our hope is if you know the Bible books are about, you know what you're going to read when you sit down to read it. It's to raise the biblical literacy of the partnership of grace. And our hope is if you know the Bible well, that as we highlight these books, that you see them through fresh eyes and maybe it inspires you to dive back into scripture on your own. This Sunday, we're actually going to cover or talk about, not going to cover, talk about the books of 1 and 2 Timothy and Titus. Because together, those make up what are referred to as the pastoral epistles. Those are letters, most of Paul's letters were written to churches. To the church in Ephesus, to the church in Galatia, to the church in Thessalonica, and so on and so on. But these books, 1 and 2 Timothy and Titus, were written to individuals. 1 and 2 Timothy, you can figure out who that was written to. Titus, you know who that was written to. It's written to those men in particular that Paul had left behind and installed essentially as senior pastors over the churches that he had been planting. And so the letters to Timothy are to him as he takes over the church in Ephesus, one of the most impactful churches in early Christendom. Early Christendom may not have survived without the church in Ephesus. And so he installs Timothy as the pastor there, and he writes in these two letters as books of advice, words of advice to a young disciple as he takes over a church. And in that is a lot of wonderful things about what church should be and how it should operate and what the qualifications for the elders should be. We see that in Timothy and in Titus. If you're an elder at the church, you should be very familiar with these books. If you're a believer, you should be very interested in these books. But there was no way to group them together and cover everything in them. But what I thought we could do is pull out this one verse in 1 Timothy 4 and talk about that, because that is a verse that is universally applicable to every Christian. That's not pastoral advice. That's Christian advice. Let no man despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word and conversation and charity charity and spirit and faith and in purity. And word and conversation means the way that you carry yourself, the way that you interact with people. In charity and in spirit, charity is love. It means the way that you love others. In spirit, it's the way that you carry yourself. In purity, it's this pursuit of holiness. So the way that I would sum this up is that Paul is telling Timothy, I know you think you're young. And I know you think that it's going to be difficult for people to listen to you. And trust me, this has been a very encouraging verse for me. Right now, I'm the ripe old age of 43, and I look every bit 46. But when I took the church over, I was 36. And I was worried about this. And this verse brought me comfort. Because Paul says, put your head down, do the work, be an example to those around you in your pursuit of holiness and the way you love others. That's a really simple way to understand it. Put your head down, do the work, and be an example to the believers in the way that you pursue holiness and in the way that you love others. And I believe that this verse applies to all of us equally. That when Paul is telling Timothy to do that, he's telling all Christians for all time to do that. And here's why I think this is true and why I think we need this advice from Paul this morning. Because there's two things about each and every one of you that are here right now or that can hear my voice right now from your home or wherever you're listening further into this week as you catch up. Here's something I know to be true of every single person who can hear me. Two things. The first is we are called and created to live spiritually impactful lives. Every single one of you, no matter how much you know it, no matter how much you admit it to yourself, no matter how comfortable or uncomfortable you are with that. Even if you're here this morning and you wouldn't yet call yourself a believer, you're here to support family, you're here because you're curious, you're here because church is nice, whatever brought you here, I believe that God has a purpose for your life. The Bible teaches that God has a purpose for your life, that you are called to live a spiritually impactful life that matters for all of eternity. Every single one is called to that, whether you realize it or acknowledge it or not. And I know this to be true because in myriad places and myriad ways throughout scripture, the authors emphasize this point. In 1 Corinthians chapters 12 and 13, we see this big long list of spiritual gifts. We're taught about the church as the body of Christ and how every part of the body has a part to play and a job to do, has a responsibility. And we're told that the Holy Spirit actually gifts us upon salvation to play our part, to contribute to God's kingdom. And that's not for pastors. That's not for leaders. That's not for the charismatic. That's not for the people who are bold and out there and in front of you. That's not an instruction for the elite few, for the spiritual Marines. That's not for them. It's for everyone. We are all given gifts. In Ephesians chapter four, those are the gifts of the spirit we see in first Corinthians 12 and 13 and we see again in Romans. But in Ephesians 4, we're told that Christ gives us gifts. That every one of us is gifted to be either an apostle, a prophet, an evangelist, a shepherd, or a teacher. That Christ himself imbues us with those gifts to be used in his kingdom to build his kingdom. Every one of us, I'm going to talk about this in a few weeks, every one of us is a kingdom builder of the kingdom of God. And we've been gifted to that end. And if those two things don't convince you, then maybe the verse that I bring up all the time will help you see. Ephesians 2.10, I love to remind you of this verse. It says that we are God's workmanship created in Christ Jesus for good works that you might walk in them. It teaches me that my job as a parent to John and Lily is not to craft them into who I want them to be. It's not to mold them into who I think they should be. It's to raise them in such a way that they can identify their good works and walk in those that were prepared for them before time. You, each of you, each and every one of you, it's absolutely true of you that when God knit you in your mother's womb, he knew your story, the gifts that he was going to give you, and the role that he had you to play in his kingdom. He's purposed every single one of you to live a spiritually impactful life, to impact the people around you for Christ. I'm reminded of the verse in Colossians that says that we are led in triumphal procession by Christ and through us will spread the fragrance of the knowledge of God. Each one of us as a believer is designed, created, called, and purposed to live lives that impact the people around us towards Christ. Every single one of us. I know that to be true of you. I know it to be true of you that you are called and created to live a spiritually impactful life. Here's the other thing I know to be true of you. We all doubt our capacity to actually do it. Every single one of us, as I'm up here ranting about your purpose to live a spiritually impactful life, all but the most arrogant and least self-aware of us are thinking to ourselves all the reasons why we can't make an impact, but we can't make that big of an impact. All of us have disqualifying voices in our life that keep us from fully embracing that. Timothy's disqualifying voice was, I might be too young. They might not listen. And Paul says, hey, don't listen to that voice. Put your head down, be an example to the believers in the way that you pursue purity and in the way that you love others. Let the outcome of those actions speak for themselves. As I sit here and tell you, you are called to live a spiritually impactful life. There is no doubt in my mind that all kinds of things are running through your head as to why you can't live a spiritually impactful life as that person over there. Each of you thinks that your counterpart on the other side of the room has a better chance of living a spiritually impactful life than you do, and you're all wrong. We're all called to that, but we all, here's the problem, have in our life these disqualifying voices that we're tempted to listen to. And more often than not, the loudest voice of disqualification is in your own head. The loudest voice that tells you, I really don't have much of a shot at making a difference in God's kingdom. I really am not going to be that impactful in my life. That voice, more often than not, comes from you, not the world. And we think things like maybe when you hear me talk about that, maybe your thought is Timothy's thought. I'm too young. No one will listen to me. I don't have enough experience. I don't have the resume to be spiritually impactful, to impact people towards Christ. Maybe you're on the other end of the spectrum. I'm too old. All my years are behind me. Whatever chance I had to make an impact has passed. I've missed my sweet spot. Now I'm just cruising it to home. There's nothing left for me to do. Maybe you think to yourself, I'm not that articulate. I don't like being in front of people. I'm not winsome. I'm not charismatic. Maybe when I talk about making a spiritual impact, you think, yeah, well, I'm a stay-at-home mom. And my world is so very small right now. And this sermon is for other people. It's not for me. Maybe you would disqualify yourself with your past. Say, yeah, man, you don't know what I've been and what I've done and where I've come from. Ain't nobody listening to me. Maybe you're new to Christianity. Maybe you're not new to Christianity, but you're new to taking it seriously. And so when I open up the Bible and talk about the different books in the Bible, you're not really familiar with them at all. And you're just thinking, I'm just trying to play catch up here, man. I'm not ready to go impact other people. I'm new to this. I don't know. They're going to ask me questions and I'm not going to know the answers. So I can't make an impact yet. I don't know what your disqualifying voice is trying to convince you of to make you step out of the race and not believe about yourself that you were created to live a spiritually impactful life. I don't know what's trying to convince you that you don't have a part to play in building God's kingdom while you're here on earth. But I do know that to our doubts, Paul tells us to put our heads down and pursue holiness. To whatever doubts you have in your head, to whatever your disqualifying voice is from spiritual service, Paul says to that voice, ignore it, put your head down, pursue holiness, love others, and watch what God does. He says to you, Paul says, let no man despise your past. Judge you based on mistakes that you've made before. Put your head down, pursue holiness, love others well, and watch what God does. Let nobody look down on your inexperience. You know the remedy to a past? A pure future. You know the remedy to inexperience? Experience. You know the remedy to thinking that you're too old or you're too young? Get in the ring and watch what God does. We write ourselves off from living spiritually impactful lives for so many reasons. And they're all lies. They're all lies that you tell yourself and that the enemy tells us to disqualify you from service in God's kingdom. And here's a really scary thing that dawned on me as I was preparing this. When we listen to the disqualifying voices, we do harm to those we love the most. Do you understand this? When we allow the voices from within and from without to convince us that we can't really take our faith that seriously because no one takes us seriously and God doesn't really have something he wants me to do and people he wants me to impact. When we believe that, when we fall prey to that and we step out of the ring and we're just coasting through our spiritual lives, we do the most harm to the people we love the most. What would have happened in Ephesus if Timothy had let those voices win? If Timothy had convinced himself that he was too young to be effective, and he stepped into the pulpit with timidity? Would Ephesus have slowly crumbled and dissolved away without leadership? I don't know. But if he was to choose to listen to those disqualifying voices, then he would not have served the people nearly like he needed to. More pointedly, parents, listen to me. If you don't take seriously your call to live a spiritually impactful life, if you let the voices talk you out of putting your head down and pursuing holiness and loving other people well. If you mail in your spiritual life and be content to be slightly above average. I'm good enough to check the box. I'm a good person. I'm going to heaven. My kids are going to heaven. If you just mail it in and go into cruise control for the rest of your life without pursuing God. Who's going to disciple your kids? Who's going to show your kids how to follow Christ? Who's going to model it for your children? If you refuse to put your head down and pursue holiness and love others well and let God in to let him use the gifts that he's given you, if you refuse to engage spiritually and don't take your spiritual health seriously and don't believe that you were placed in the life of your children to impact them towards Christ, if you won't do that for them, who will? Aaron? Children's pastor? Kyle? They get your kids for one hour a week. And let's just be honest about this. That's not even 52 weeks a year, okay? I've seen your church attendance. Let's be generous and call it like 40. They get your kids for 40 hours a year. They're going to disciple a kid in 40 hours a year? You get your kids for 100 hours a week. There is no one in your child's life better postured to love them towards Jesus than you. And when you refuse to engage in your own spiritual growth because the voices talk you out of it, you abscond on your duty to raise your kids in Christ and you thrust it on someone else and we shortchange them. When we choose to believe the disqualifying voices in our life, we hurt the people around us the most. The Bible tells us that marriage is to be a picture that reminds us of the way that Christ sacrificially loves the church. If you don't show your spouse day in and day out how Jesus loves the church by sacrificially loving them, if you're not trying to do that every day, if you're not taking seriously the call to impact your spouse towards Christ and watch God work in them, who's going to do that for you? If you don't take seriously the call in scripture to live a life building God's kingdom, pursuing holiness and loving others well, and letting God do what he will with the gifts, with the people around you? Who's going to be the pastor that your workplace so desperately needs? Who is your coworker going to come to when they need prayer because their mom's in the hospital? Who's going to invite your neighbor to the thing that's going to ignite them spiritually and reengage them with the church? Who's going to work in your circles of influence as only you can to impact people towards Christ? If you choose to allow the voices that disqualify you from Christian service, if you choose to allow them to win, if we don't take seriously this call from Paul to be an example to the believers in word and conversation and charity and spirit and faith and purity, if we don't do that, who's going to step in and do our job for us? We are all called to live spiritually impactful lives. And we must take seriously that call. Now, on the flip side, can you imagine what could happen if we choose to pursue holiness and allow God to use the gifts he's given you. Can you imagine what could happen in your life if you left here and you said, okay, God, listen, I don't know what your plan is for me. I'm not even sure what the gifts you've given me are. I have no idea. But I'm going to put my head down. I'm going to pursue holiness. I'm going to love others well. I'm going to make my life available to you. You use my life to impact the people around me however you want. God, I want to live the rest of my life building your kingdom. What would happen if you left this place and you got on your knees this afternoon, tonight, tomorrow morning, and you said, God, I'm yours. Use me. I don't know to what end. I'm not convinced that I'm going to make any great impact. But I am convinced that I need to live the rest of my life opened up to the possibility that you want to use me in the lives of the people around me. So here, it's yours. I'm going to put my head down. I'm not going to listen to my disqualifying voices. I'm not going to listen to the disqualifying voices of the people around me. I'm going to put my head down. I'm going to do the work. I'm going to pursue holiness. I'm going to be an example to the believers in the way that I love others. And I'm going to trust you with the results and let those speak for themselves. What could happen if we let God in our lives to use the gifts that he's given us? Well, I'll tell you one thing that could happen because we've seen it happen in real time here in this church over the last five or so years. I'm about to just, she probably will never come back to the church. But she's on staff, so she has to. I'm going to embarrass the heck out of Carly. You can leave the room now if you want to, Carly. I don't know how long ago it was that she started singing. Carly was the lady singing right here this morning. I don't know how long ago it was that she started singing, four or five years ago. But her origin story is she was our previous worship pastor's wife, Lisa, was in the restroom on a Sunday morning and heard an angelic voice coming out of a stall and stalked her and said, we need you on the worship team. You should try out. And Carly had to be cajoled. She had to be talked into it. Because she's not big on, she's not the first one to raise her hand and be like, yes, I would like to be in front of others and let them hear my voice every Sunday publicly. That's not her jam. So she had to be talked into it. And she reluctantly agreed. She auditioned. She did well. Let's get you on the team. So she starts coming up and leading worship. And here's the thing. I'm pretty sure that Carly led worship for about two full years before I actually heard her voice. Because it takes, it's true, isn't it? I don't know if you guys have ever thought about this. I've watched it happen whenever we recruit someone new to the team. It's one thing to have a pretty voice and be told that you have a nice voice. It's another thing to sing loudly enough and confidently enough into the microphone in front of other people to be heard above the mix. When there's someone up here singing and you can't hear them, it's not because Cindy doesn't have them turned up loud enough. It's because their Sunday morning voice is a little bit different than their Wednesday night voice. There's people in the room. It takes guts to step into that. But over time and over the years, Carly trusted us with her gift. She started to believe in God's purpose for her life in this area. And she started to trust it to God. And she started to trust it to us. And in the last, I would say, six to eight months, now when Carly leads a song, buddy, she's leading. She's belting. She's letting it rip. And every time she does it, I'm getting emotional right now. Every time she does it, I get emotional. And I get emotional because I think it's so beautiful when a child of God is using their gift from God to do exactly what he gave that gift to them to do. It is so powerful to think about the fact that when she was knit in her mother's womb, God says, I'm going to give this one a voice. And he didn't give her a voice so that she could sing pretty and entertain people. He didn't give her a voice so that she could bring attention to herself. Do you know why he gave her a voice? He gave her a voice so that he could hear it sing praises to him, so that he could hear his daughter sing to him in a way that he enjoyed. And he gave her a voice for his daughter to use to bring his other children into praise before his throne, into his presence. When she sings on Sunday and belts it out and lets it rip, she's using the gift that God gave her for the exact reason he gave it to her, and it's beautiful. And we would never experience it and be led into worship through her and through her gifting if she allowed the disqualifying voices to talk her out of it when she auditioned. If she allowed the disqualifying voice in her head to talk her out of it in the early years as she was getting her feet wet. And so we see what can happen in real time when we say, God, I don't know what you have for me and I don't know what my purpose is here, but I'm going to make my gifts available for you to use however you want to use them. In the meantime, I'm going to be an example to the believers in the way that I pursue you and in the way that I love others. Can you imagine what a church could look like if everyone in that church prayed that prayer and said, God, I don't know what you have for me to do. I don't even know how you've gifted me to do it. But I'm going to pursue you and I'm going to love others and whatever impact you want me to have, God, I'm ready to have it. Can you imagine what could happen with a church full of people who believe that? I'll tell you this. I'd like to find out. Let's pray. Father, we love you. Thank you for imbuing our lives with purpose that's bigger than us. Thank you for always encouraging us to put our heads down and to trust you with the gifts that you've given us. Thank you for being a steady voice in our life that tells us we don't have to believe the disqualifying things about ourselves. God, I pray that every person in here, whether it's today or five years from now, would allow you to open their eyes to the fact that you've called and created them to live spiritually impactful lives. Would those of us who've just been cruising, not taking things seriously, not being engaged, God, would we re-engage with you? Would we make disciples of our children? Would we be a pastor to our communities? Show us how you can use us if we simply get our doubts and our fears and our hesitancies out of the way and let you begin to work. God, I pray that you would bring it about. In Jesus' name, amen.
Well, good morning, everyone. My name is Nate. I get to be one of the pastors here. If you've been following along, you know that normally I preach, but the past few weeks I haven't been doing that. So it's very good to be back and get to see you guys from up here. It was fun to prepare a message this week, and I'm excited to share that with you. The other thing I'm excited about right now is the Olympics. Who else has been watching every possible minute of Olympic coverage? It's been fantastic. We love it in our house and it's been really special this time around. Lily, our daughter, is eight so she can enjoy it with us. We stay up late and watch it and then we hit pause and then we get up in the morning and we finish and it's just been really, really fun. And for those of you who have been following along, you know that one of the stories of the Olympics so far has been the United States men's gymnastics team. In the all-around competition earlier this week for those who have been hiding under a rock and don't know this I want to set the scene for you. In the men's all-around competition what they do is members of the team, three members of the team, it's a five-man team, participate in all of the events, and then the highest cumulative score wins the medal. They win the gold medal. And going into the event, you know that China and Japan are going to win gold and silver. There's really no one else that can touch them. But the U.S. has a chance to medal, to get the bronze for the first time in 16 years. And so hopes are high. And we are watching this earlier in the week. I think it was maybe Monday or Tuesday. We're watching it and it was so fun. We're so enthusiastic about it. And everyone's doing what they're supposed to do. Everyone's doing their routines like they're supposed to do their routines. They're hitting their prime position. And then it gets to the final event. The final event is the pommel horse, which if you don't know what the pommel horse is, you're not missing much. It's real stupid. I don't know why it's an event. It doesn't make any sense to me. They spin around, and then they're on the ground. Fine. Listen, incredible amount of talent. It's just dumb to watch. That's the final event. And we've got one person who did pommel horse in college. They're never coming back. Sorry. It's the final event. And the Americans have this one guy on their team. And his specialty is the pommel horse. This is the only reason he's on the team. He doesn't participate in anything else. He's only there as a pommel horse assassin. That's his whole job. And he's the last one to go, the last event of the night. And all night, they keep panning over to him, telling him he's coming up. He's the pommel horse guy, and they're showing him, and he's just sitting in the back brooding. He's not looking at anything or anybody. He's totally expressionless. Every now and again you can tell he's mentally going through his routine and he's just sitting there stiff all night. And then he gets up and he does his routine and he nails it. And it was great. There was tears in our house. And listen, a lot of you probably know the story. You probably know who I'm talking about. But if you don't, I want you to picture in your head the hero of American gymnastics and national sport in general. And I want you to picture what you think this athletic hero looks like. Because whatever you're picturing ain't this. It's not that guy. That's not who you had in your head. That guy looks like an NC State grad who's writing code at a startup. That's what he looks like. If he didn't have that medal around his neck, you'd just think he was there for fun, like as a fan. But that's the guy, Steven Nedarosik. That's the guy. And he, the reason I bring him up is he embodies to me what is one of my favorite principles in life, which is this idea that no matter what people see in you, no matter what people say about you, no matter what you might say about yourself, don't try to convince them they're wrong with your words. Just put your head down, do the work, and let the results speak for themselves. Don't worry about what other people say. Don't worry about what other people might think. Just put your head down, control what you can control, do your work, and let the outcome of that work and of that effort speak for itself. And that's what he did. He steps up to the pommel horse, and he takes his glasses off, and he gets real squinty. And Chris Rock, in his commentary, said, don't tell him. He thinks he's doing the rings right now. He can't see nothing. But you're looking at this guy and you're like, this can't be the guy. But he put his head down. He did the work. And he was the guy. The results speak for themselves. I love this principle in life. I think it's such an important one that gets us through a lot of seasons and allows us to accomplish a lot of things. And one of the reasons I love this principle is because it's a very Christian principle. That principle of put your head down, do the work, don't worry about what other people think, just let the results speak for themselves. That's a very biblical principle. As a matter of fact, you can pull that right out of the book of 1 Timothy. So if you have a Bible, I'd love to invite you to turn to 1 Timothy 4, verse 12. It's going to be on the screen. If you have a Bible, if you read the one in front of you, it's the NIV. I learned this verse. It's been an important verse to me for most of my life. If you've ever done any youth ministry, this is a big, important verse. It's on the other side of that wall right there in our fourth and fifth grade classroom. But I memorized it young at a Baptist church in the King's English. So if you don't mind, I'm going to say it like that, but you guys read along. Paul writes in 1 Timothy 4.12, let no man despise thy youth, but be thou an example to the believers in word and conversation and charity and spirit and faith and in purity. So a little context for this verse so you understand a little bit more about what's going on and what Paul is saying specifically to Timothy. We're in a series now called 27 where last summer and this summer we took one book a week and we're going through all the books of the New Testament the 27 books of the New Testament last summer in this summer trying to give you a synopsis or a sense of what each book is about so for those who are not super familiar with the Bible maybe it becomes a little bit more approachable because you know what the books are about you know what you're gonna read when you sit down to read it's to raise the biblical literacy of the partnership of grace and our hope is if you know the Bible books are about, you know what you're going to read when you sit down to read it. It's to raise the biblical literacy of the partnership of grace. And our hope is if you know the Bible well, that as we highlight these books, that you see them through fresh eyes and maybe it inspires you to dive back into scripture on your own. This Sunday, we're actually going to cover or talk about, not going to cover, talk about the books of 1 and 2 Timothy and Titus. Because together, those make up what are referred to as the pastoral epistles. Those are letters, most of Paul's letters were written to churches. To the church in Ephesus, to the church in Galatia, to the church in Thessalonica, and so on and so on. But these books, 1 and 2 Timothy and Titus, were written to individuals. 1 and 2 Timothy, you can figure out who that was written to. Titus, you know who that was written to. It's written to those men in particular that Paul had left behind and installed essentially as senior pastors over the churches that he had been planting. And so the letters to Timothy are to him as he takes over the church in Ephesus, one of the most impactful churches in early Christendom. Early Christendom may not have survived without the church in Ephesus. And so he installs Timothy as the pastor there, and he writes in these two letters as books of advice, words of advice to a young disciple as he takes over a church. And in that is a lot of wonderful things about what church should be and how it should operate and what the qualifications for the elders should be. We see that in Timothy and in Titus. If you're an elder at the church, you should be very familiar with these books. If you're a believer, you should be very interested in these books. But there was no way to group them together and cover everything in them. But what I thought we could do is pull out this one verse in 1 Timothy 4 and talk about that, because that is a verse that is universally applicable to every Christian. That's not pastoral advice. That's Christian advice. Let no man despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word and conversation and charity charity and spirit and faith and in purity. And word and conversation means the way that you carry yourself, the way that you interact with people. In charity and in spirit, charity is love. It means the way that you love others. In spirit, it's the way that you carry yourself. In purity, it's this pursuit of holiness. So the way that I would sum this up is that Paul is telling Timothy, I know you think you're young. And I know you think that it's going to be difficult for people to listen to you. And trust me, this has been a very encouraging verse for me. Right now, I'm the ripe old age of 43, and I look every bit 46. But when I took the church over, I was 36. And I was worried about this. And this verse brought me comfort. Because Paul says, put your head down, do the work, be an example to those around you in your pursuit of holiness and the way you love others. That's a really simple way to understand it. Put your head down, do the work, and be an example to the believers in the way that you pursue holiness and in the way that you love others. And I believe that this verse applies to all of us equally. That when Paul is telling Timothy to do that, he's telling all Christians for all time to do that. And here's why I think this is true and why I think we need this advice from Paul this morning. Because there's two things about each and every one of you that are here right now or that can hear my voice right now from your home or wherever you're listening further into this week as you catch up. Here's something I know to be true of every single person who can hear me. Two things. The first is we are called and created to live spiritually impactful lives. Every single one of you, no matter how much you know it, no matter how much you admit it to yourself, no matter how comfortable or uncomfortable you are with that. Even if you're here this morning and you wouldn't yet call yourself a believer, you're here to support family, you're here because you're curious, you're here because church is nice, whatever brought you here, I believe that God has a purpose for your life. The Bible teaches that God has a purpose for your life, that you are called to live a spiritually impactful life that matters for all of eternity. Every single one is called to that, whether you realize it or acknowledge it or not. And I know this to be true because in myriad places and myriad ways throughout scripture, the authors emphasize this point. In 1 Corinthians chapters 12 and 13, we see this big long list of spiritual gifts. We're taught about the church as the body of Christ and how every part of the body has a part to play and a job to do, has a responsibility. And we're told that the Holy Spirit actually gifts us upon salvation to play our part, to contribute to God's kingdom. And that's not for pastors. That's not for leaders. That's not for the charismatic. That's not for the people who are bold and out there and in front of you. That's not an instruction for the elite few, for the spiritual Marines. That's not for them. It's for everyone. We are all given gifts. In Ephesians chapter four, those are the gifts of the spirit we see in first Corinthians 12 and 13 and we see again in Romans. But in Ephesians 4, we're told that Christ gives us gifts. That every one of us is gifted to be either an apostle, a prophet, an evangelist, a shepherd, or a teacher. That Christ himself imbues us with those gifts to be used in his kingdom to build his kingdom. Every one of us, I'm going to talk about this in a few weeks, every one of us is a kingdom builder of the kingdom of God. And we've been gifted to that end. And if those two things don't convince you, then maybe the verse that I bring up all the time will help you see. Ephesians 2.10, I love to remind you of this verse. It says that we are God's workmanship created in Christ Jesus for good works that you might walk in them. It teaches me that my job as a parent to John and Lily is not to craft them into who I want them to be. It's not to mold them into who I think they should be. It's to raise them in such a way that they can identify their good works and walk in those that were prepared for them before time. You, each of you, each and every one of you, it's absolutely true of you that when God knit you in your mother's womb, he knew your story, the gifts that he was going to give you, and the role that he had you to play in his kingdom. He's purposed every single one of you to live a spiritually impactful life, to impact the people around you for Christ. I'm reminded of the verse in Colossians that says that we are led in triumphal procession by Christ and through us will spread the fragrance of the knowledge of God. Each one of us as a believer is designed, created, called, and purposed to live lives that impact the people around us towards Christ. Every single one of us. I know that to be true of you. I know it to be true of you that you are called and created to live a spiritually impactful life. Here's the other thing I know to be true of you. We all doubt our capacity to actually do it. Every single one of us, as I'm up here ranting about your purpose to live a spiritually impactful life, all but the most arrogant and least self-aware of us are thinking to ourselves all the reasons why we can't make an impact, but we can't make that big of an impact. All of us have disqualifying voices in our life that keep us from fully embracing that. Timothy's disqualifying voice was, I might be too young. They might not listen. And Paul says, hey, don't listen to that voice. Put your head down, be an example to the believers in the way that you pursue purity and in the way that you love others. Let the outcome of those actions speak for themselves. As I sit here and tell you, you are called to live a spiritually impactful life. There is no doubt in my mind that all kinds of things are running through your head as to why you can't live a spiritually impactful life as that person over there. Each of you thinks that your counterpart on the other side of the room has a better chance of living a spiritually impactful life than you do, and you're all wrong. We're all called to that, but we all, here's the problem, have in our life these disqualifying voices that we're tempted to listen to. And more often than not, the loudest voice of disqualification is in your own head. The loudest voice that tells you, I really don't have much of a shot at making a difference in God's kingdom. I really am not going to be that impactful in my life. That voice, more often than not, comes from you, not the world. And we think things like maybe when you hear me talk about that, maybe your thought is Timothy's thought. I'm too young. No one will listen to me. I don't have enough experience. I don't have the resume to be spiritually impactful, to impact people towards Christ. Maybe you're on the other end of the spectrum. I'm too old. All my years are behind me. Whatever chance I had to make an impact has passed. I've missed my sweet spot. Now I'm just cruising it to home. There's nothing left for me to do. Maybe you think to yourself, I'm not that articulate. I don't like being in front of people. I'm not winsome. I'm not charismatic. Maybe when I talk about making a spiritual impact, you think, yeah, well, I'm a stay-at-home mom. And my world is so very small right now. And this sermon is for other people. It's not for me. Maybe you would disqualify yourself with your past. Say, yeah, man, you don't know what I've been and what I've done and where I've come from. Ain't nobody listening to me. Maybe you're new to Christianity. Maybe you're not new to Christianity, but you're new to taking it seriously. And so when I open up the Bible and talk about the different books in the Bible, you're not really familiar with them at all. And you're just thinking, I'm just trying to play catch up here, man. I'm not ready to go impact other people. I'm new to this. I don't know. They're going to ask me questions and I'm not going to know the answers. So I can't make an impact yet. I don't know what your disqualifying voice is trying to convince you of to make you step out of the race and not believe about yourself that you were created to live a spiritually impactful life. I don't know what's trying to convince you that you don't have a part to play in building God's kingdom while you're here on earth. But I do know that to our doubts, Paul tells us to put our heads down and pursue holiness. To whatever doubts you have in your head, to whatever your disqualifying voice is from spiritual service, Paul says to that voice, ignore it, put your head down, pursue holiness, love others, and watch what God does. He says to you, Paul says, let no man despise your past. Judge you based on mistakes that you've made before. Put your head down, pursue holiness, love others well, and watch what God does. Let nobody look down on your inexperience. You know the remedy to a past? A pure future. You know the remedy to inexperience? Experience. You know the remedy to thinking that you're too old or you're too young? Get in the ring and watch what God does. We write ourselves off from living spiritually impactful lives for so many reasons. And they're all lies. They're all lies that you tell yourself and that the enemy tells us to disqualify you from service in God's kingdom. And here's a really scary thing that dawned on me as I was preparing this. When we listen to the disqualifying voices, we do harm to those we love the most. Do you understand this? When we allow the voices from within and from without to convince us that we can't really take our faith that seriously because no one takes us seriously and God doesn't really have something he wants me to do and people he wants me to impact. When we believe that, when we fall prey to that and we step out of the ring and we're just coasting through our spiritual lives, we do the most harm to the people we love the most. What would have happened in Ephesus if Timothy had let those voices win? If Timothy had convinced himself that he was too young to be effective, and he stepped into the pulpit with timidity? Would Ephesus have slowly crumbled and dissolved away without leadership? I don't know. But if he was to choose to listen to those disqualifying voices, then he would not have served the people nearly like he needed to. More pointedly, parents, listen to me. If you don't take seriously your call to live a spiritually impactful life, if you let the voices talk you out of putting your head down and pursuing holiness and loving other people well. If you mail in your spiritual life and be content to be slightly above average. I'm good enough to check the box. I'm a good person. I'm going to heaven. My kids are going to heaven. If you just mail it in and go into cruise control for the rest of your life without pursuing God. Who's going to disciple your kids? Who's going to show your kids how to follow Christ? Who's going to model it for your children? If you refuse to put your head down and pursue holiness and love others well and let God in to let him use the gifts that he's given you, if you refuse to engage spiritually and don't take your spiritual health seriously and don't believe that you were placed in the life of your children to impact them towards Christ, if you won't do that for them, who will? Aaron? Children's pastor? Kyle? They get your kids for one hour a week. And let's just be honest about this. That's not even 52 weeks a year, okay? I've seen your church attendance. Let's be generous and call it like 40. They get your kids for 40 hours a year. They're going to disciple a kid in 40 hours a year? You get your kids for 100 hours a week. There is no one in your child's life better postured to love them towards Jesus than you. And when you refuse to engage in your own spiritual growth because the voices talk you out of it, you abscond on your duty to raise your kids in Christ and you thrust it on someone else and we shortchange them. When we choose to believe the disqualifying voices in our life, we hurt the people around us the most. The Bible tells us that marriage is to be a picture that reminds us of the way that Christ sacrificially loves the church. If you don't show your spouse day in and day out how Jesus loves the church by sacrificially loving them, if you're not trying to do that every day, if you're not taking seriously the call to impact your spouse towards Christ and watch God work in them, who's going to do that for you? If you don't take seriously the call in scripture to live a life building God's kingdom, pursuing holiness and loving others well, and letting God do what he will with the gifts, with the people around you? Who's going to be the pastor that your workplace so desperately needs? Who is your coworker going to come to when they need prayer because their mom's in the hospital? Who's going to invite your neighbor to the thing that's going to ignite them spiritually and reengage them with the church? Who's going to work in your circles of influence as only you can to impact people towards Christ? If you choose to allow the voices that disqualify you from Christian service, if you choose to allow them to win, if we don't take seriously this call from Paul to be an example to the believers in word and conversation and charity and spirit and faith and purity, if we don't do that, who's going to step in and do our job for us? We are all called to live spiritually impactful lives. And we must take seriously that call. Now, on the flip side, can you imagine what could happen if we choose to pursue holiness and allow God to use the gifts he's given you. Can you imagine what could happen in your life if you left here and you said, okay, God, listen, I don't know what your plan is for me. I'm not even sure what the gifts you've given me are. I have no idea. But I'm going to put my head down. I'm going to pursue holiness. I'm going to love others well. I'm going to make my life available to you. You use my life to impact the people around me however you want. God, I want to live the rest of my life building your kingdom. What would happen if you left this place and you got on your knees this afternoon, tonight, tomorrow morning, and you said, God, I'm yours. Use me. I don't know to what end. I'm not convinced that I'm going to make any great impact. But I am convinced that I need to live the rest of my life opened up to the possibility that you want to use me in the lives of the people around me. So here, it's yours. I'm going to put my head down. I'm not going to listen to my disqualifying voices. I'm not going to listen to the disqualifying voices of the people around me. I'm going to put my head down. I'm going to do the work. I'm going to pursue holiness. I'm going to be an example to the believers in the way that I love others. And I'm going to trust you with the results and let those speak for themselves. What could happen if we let God in our lives to use the gifts that he's given us? Well, I'll tell you one thing that could happen because we've seen it happen in real time here in this church over the last five or so years. I'm about to just, she probably will never come back to the church. But she's on staff, so she has to. I'm going to embarrass the heck out of Carly. You can leave the room now if you want to, Carly. I don't know how long ago it was that she started singing. Carly was the lady singing right here this morning. I don't know how long ago it was that she started singing, four or five years ago. But her origin story is she was our previous worship pastor's wife, Lisa, was in the restroom on a Sunday morning and heard an angelic voice coming out of a stall and stalked her and said, we need you on the worship team. You should try out. And Carly had to be cajoled. She had to be talked into it. Because she's not big on, she's not the first one to raise her hand and be like, yes, I would like to be in front of others and let them hear my voice every Sunday publicly. That's not her jam. So she had to be talked into it. And she reluctantly agreed. She auditioned. She did well. Let's get you on the team. So she starts coming up and leading worship. And here's the thing. I'm pretty sure that Carly led worship for about two full years before I actually heard her voice. Because it takes, it's true, isn't it? I don't know if you guys have ever thought about this. I've watched it happen whenever we recruit someone new to the team. It's one thing to have a pretty voice and be told that you have a nice voice. It's another thing to sing loudly enough and confidently enough into the microphone in front of other people to be heard above the mix. When there's someone up here singing and you can't hear them, it's not because Cindy doesn't have them turned up loud enough. It's because their Sunday morning voice is a little bit different than their Wednesday night voice. There's people in the room. It takes guts to step into that. But over time and over the years, Carly trusted us with her gift. She started to believe in God's purpose for her life in this area. And she started to trust it to God. And she started to trust it to us. And in the last, I would say, six to eight months, now when Carly leads a song, buddy, she's leading. She's belting. She's letting it rip. And every time she does it, I'm getting emotional right now. Every time she does it, I get emotional. And I get emotional because I think it's so beautiful when a child of God is using their gift from God to do exactly what he gave that gift to them to do. It is so powerful to think about the fact that when she was knit in her mother's womb, God says, I'm going to give this one a voice. And he didn't give her a voice so that she could sing pretty and entertain people. He didn't give her a voice so that she could bring attention to herself. Do you know why he gave her a voice? He gave her a voice so that he could hear it sing praises to him, so that he could hear his daughter sing to him in a way that he enjoyed. And he gave her a voice for his daughter to use to bring his other children into praise before his throne, into his presence. When she sings on Sunday and belts it out and lets it rip, she's using the gift that God gave her for the exact reason he gave it to her, and it's beautiful. And we would never experience it and be led into worship through her and through her gifting if she allowed the disqualifying voices to talk her out of it when she auditioned. If she allowed the disqualifying voice in her head to talk her out of it in the early years as she was getting her feet wet. And so we see what can happen in real time when we say, God, I don't know what you have for me and I don't know what my purpose is here, but I'm going to make my gifts available for you to use however you want to use them. In the meantime, I'm going to be an example to the believers in the way that I pursue you and in the way that I love others. Can you imagine what a church could look like if everyone in that church prayed that prayer and said, God, I don't know what you have for me to do. I don't even know how you've gifted me to do it. But I'm going to pursue you and I'm going to love others and whatever impact you want me to have, God, I'm ready to have it. Can you imagine what could happen with a church full of people who believe that? I'll tell you this. I'd like to find out. Let's pray. Father, we love you. Thank you for imbuing our lives with purpose that's bigger than us. Thank you for always encouraging us to put our heads down and to trust you with the gifts that you've given us. Thank you for being a steady voice in our life that tells us we don't have to believe the disqualifying things about ourselves. God, I pray that every person in here, whether it's today or five years from now, would allow you to open their eyes to the fact that you've called and created them to live spiritually impactful lives. Would those of us who've just been cruising, not taking things seriously, not being engaged, God, would we re-engage with you? Would we make disciples of our children? Would we be a pastor to our communities? Show us how you can use us if we simply get our doubts and our fears and our hesitancies out of the way and let you begin to work. God, I pray that you would bring it about. In Jesus' name, amen.
Well, good morning, everyone. My name is Nate. I get to be one of the pastors here. If you've been following along, you know that normally I preach, but the past few weeks I haven't been doing that. So it's very good to be back and get to see you guys from up here. It was fun to prepare a message this week, and I'm excited to share that with you. The other thing I'm excited about right now is the Olympics. Who else has been watching every possible minute of Olympic coverage? It's been fantastic. We love it in our house and it's been really special this time around. Lily, our daughter, is eight so she can enjoy it with us. We stay up late and watch it and then we hit pause and then we get up in the morning and we finish and it's just been really, really fun. And for those of you who have been following along, you know that one of the stories of the Olympics so far has been the United States men's gymnastics team. In the all-around competition earlier this week for those who have been hiding under a rock and don't know this I want to set the scene for you. In the men's all-around competition what they do is members of the team, three members of the team, it's a five-man team, participate in all of the events, and then the highest cumulative score wins the medal. They win the gold medal. And going into the event, you know that China and Japan are going to win gold and silver. There's really no one else that can touch them. But the U.S. has a chance to medal, to get the bronze for the first time in 16 years. And so hopes are high. And we are watching this earlier in the week. I think it was maybe Monday or Tuesday. We're watching it and it was so fun. We're so enthusiastic about it. And everyone's doing what they're supposed to do. Everyone's doing their routines like they're supposed to do their routines. They're hitting their prime position. And then it gets to the final event. The final event is the pommel horse, which if you don't know what the pommel horse is, you're not missing much. It's real stupid. I don't know why it's an event. It doesn't make any sense to me. They spin around, and then they're on the ground. Fine. Listen, incredible amount of talent. It's just dumb to watch. That's the final event. And we've got one person who did pommel horse in college. They're never coming back. Sorry. It's the final event. And the Americans have this one guy on their team. And his specialty is the pommel horse. This is the only reason he's on the team. He doesn't participate in anything else. He's only there as a pommel horse assassin. That's his whole job. And he's the last one to go, the last event of the night. And all night, they keep panning over to him, telling him he's coming up. He's the pommel horse guy, and they're showing him, and he's just sitting in the back brooding. He's not looking at anything or anybody. He's totally expressionless. Every now and again you can tell he's mentally going through his routine and he's just sitting there stiff all night. And then he gets up and he does his routine and he nails it. And it was great. There was tears in our house. And listen, a lot of you probably know the story. You probably know who I'm talking about. But if you don't, I want you to picture in your head the hero of American gymnastics and national sport in general. And I want you to picture what you think this athletic hero looks like. Because whatever you're picturing ain't this. It's not that guy. That's not who you had in your head. That guy looks like an NC State grad who's writing code at a startup. That's what he looks like. If he didn't have that medal around his neck, you'd just think he was there for fun, like as a fan. But that's the guy, Steven Nedarosik. That's the guy. And he, the reason I bring him up is he embodies to me what is one of my favorite principles in life, which is this idea that no matter what people see in you, no matter what people say about you, no matter what you might say about yourself, don't try to convince them they're wrong with your words. Just put your head down, do the work, and let the results speak for themselves. Don't worry about what other people say. Don't worry about what other people might think. Just put your head down, control what you can control, do your work, and let the outcome of that work and of that effort speak for itself. And that's what he did. He steps up to the pommel horse, and he takes his glasses off, and he gets real squinty. And Chris Rock, in his commentary, said, don't tell him. He thinks he's doing the rings right now. He can't see nothing. But you're looking at this guy and you're like, this can't be the guy. But he put his head down. He did the work. And he was the guy. The results speak for themselves. I love this principle in life. I think it's such an important one that gets us through a lot of seasons and allows us to accomplish a lot of things. And one of the reasons I love this principle is because it's a very Christian principle. That principle of put your head down, do the work, don't worry about what other people think, just let the results speak for themselves. That's a very biblical principle. As a matter of fact, you can pull that right out of the book of 1 Timothy. So if you have a Bible, I'd love to invite you to turn to 1 Timothy 4, verse 12. It's going to be on the screen. If you have a Bible, if you read the one in front of you, it's the NIV. I learned this verse. It's been an important verse to me for most of my life. If you've ever done any youth ministry, this is a big, important verse. It's on the other side of that wall right there in our fourth and fifth grade classroom. But I memorized it young at a Baptist church in the King's English. So if you don't mind, I'm going to say it like that, but you guys read along. Paul writes in 1 Timothy 4.12, let no man despise thy youth, but be thou an example to the believers in word and conversation and charity and spirit and faith and in purity. So a little context for this verse so you understand a little bit more about what's going on and what Paul is saying specifically to Timothy. We're in a series now called 27 where last summer and this summer we took one book a week and we're going through all the books of the New Testament the 27 books of the New Testament last summer in this summer trying to give you a synopsis or a sense of what each book is about so for those who are not super familiar with the Bible maybe it becomes a little bit more approachable because you know what the books are about you know what you're gonna read when you sit down to read it's to raise the biblical literacy of the partnership of grace and our hope is if you know the Bible books are about, you know what you're going to read when you sit down to read it. It's to raise the biblical literacy of the partnership of grace. And our hope is if you know the Bible well, that as we highlight these books, that you see them through fresh eyes and maybe it inspires you to dive back into scripture on your own. This Sunday, we're actually going to cover or talk about, not going to cover, talk about the books of 1 and 2 Timothy and Titus. Because together, those make up what are referred to as the pastoral epistles. Those are letters, most of Paul's letters were written to churches. To the church in Ephesus, to the church in Galatia, to the church in Thessalonica, and so on and so on. But these books, 1 and 2 Timothy and Titus, were written to individuals. 1 and 2 Timothy, you can figure out who that was written to. Titus, you know who that was written to. It's written to those men in particular that Paul had left behind and installed essentially as senior pastors over the churches that he had been planting. And so the letters to Timothy are to him as he takes over the church in Ephesus, one of the most impactful churches in early Christendom. Early Christendom may not have survived without the church in Ephesus. And so he installs Timothy as the pastor there, and he writes in these two letters as books of advice, words of advice to a young disciple as he takes over a church. And in that is a lot of wonderful things about what church should be and how it should operate and what the qualifications for the elders should be. We see that in Timothy and in Titus. If you're an elder at the church, you should be very familiar with these books. If you're a believer, you should be very interested in these books. But there was no way to group them together and cover everything in them. But what I thought we could do is pull out this one verse in 1 Timothy 4 and talk about that, because that is a verse that is universally applicable to every Christian. That's not pastoral advice. That's Christian advice. Let no man despise your youth, but be an example to the believers in word and conversation and charity charity and spirit and faith and in purity. And word and conversation means the way that you carry yourself, the way that you interact with people. In charity and in spirit, charity is love. It means the way that you love others. In spirit, it's the way that you carry yourself. In purity, it's this pursuit of holiness. So the way that I would sum this up is that Paul is telling Timothy, I know you think you're young. And I know you think that it's going to be difficult for people to listen to you. And trust me, this has been a very encouraging verse for me. Right now, I'm the ripe old age of 43, and I look every bit 46. But when I took the church over, I was 36. And I was worried about this. And this verse brought me comfort. Because Paul says, put your head down, do the work, be an example to those around you in your pursuit of holiness and the way you love others. That's a really simple way to understand it. Put your head down, do the work, and be an example to the believers in the way that you pursue holiness and in the way that you love others. And I believe that this verse applies to all of us equally. That when Paul is telling Timothy to do that, he's telling all Christians for all time to do that. And here's why I think this is true and why I think we need this advice from Paul this morning. Because there's two things about each and every one of you that are here right now or that can hear my voice right now from your home or wherever you're listening further into this week as you catch up. Here's something I know to be true of every single person who can hear me. Two things. The first is we are called and created to live spiritually impactful lives. Every single one of you, no matter how much you know it, no matter how much you admit it to yourself, no matter how comfortable or uncomfortable you are with that. Even if you're here this morning and you wouldn't yet call yourself a believer, you're here to support family, you're here because you're curious, you're here because church is nice, whatever brought you here, I believe that God has a purpose for your life. The Bible teaches that God has a purpose for your life, that you are called to live a spiritually impactful life that matters for all of eternity. Every single one is called to that, whether you realize it or acknowledge it or not. And I know this to be true because in myriad places and myriad ways throughout scripture, the authors emphasize this point. In 1 Corinthians chapters 12 and 13, we see this big long list of spiritual gifts. We're taught about the church as the body of Christ and how every part of the body has a part to play and a job to do, has a responsibility. And we're told that the Holy Spirit actually gifts us upon salvation to play our part, to contribute to God's kingdom. And that's not for pastors. That's not for leaders. That's not for the charismatic. That's not for the people who are bold and out there and in front of you. That's not an instruction for the elite few, for the spiritual Marines. That's not for them. It's for everyone. We are all given gifts. In Ephesians chapter four, those are the gifts of the spirit we see in first Corinthians 12 and 13 and we see again in Romans. But in Ephesians 4, we're told that Christ gives us gifts. That every one of us is gifted to be either an apostle, a prophet, an evangelist, a shepherd, or a teacher. That Christ himself imbues us with those gifts to be used in his kingdom to build his kingdom. Every one of us, I'm going to talk about this in a few weeks, every one of us is a kingdom builder of the kingdom of God. And we've been gifted to that end. And if those two things don't convince you, then maybe the verse that I bring up all the time will help you see. Ephesians 2.10, I love to remind you of this verse. It says that we are God's workmanship created in Christ Jesus for good works that you might walk in them. It teaches me that my job as a parent to John and Lily is not to craft them into who I want them to be. It's not to mold them into who I think they should be. It's to raise them in such a way that they can identify their good works and walk in those that were prepared for them before time. You, each of you, each and every one of you, it's absolutely true of you that when God knit you in your mother's womb, he knew your story, the gifts that he was going to give you, and the role that he had you to play in his kingdom. He's purposed every single one of you to live a spiritually impactful life, to impact the people around you for Christ. I'm reminded of the verse in Colossians that says that we are led in triumphal procession by Christ and through us will spread the fragrance of the knowledge of God. Each one of us as a believer is designed, created, called, and purposed to live lives that impact the people around us towards Christ. Every single one of us. I know that to be true of you. I know it to be true of you that you are called and created to live a spiritually impactful life. Here's the other thing I know to be true of you. We all doubt our capacity to actually do it. Every single one of us, as I'm up here ranting about your purpose to live a spiritually impactful life, all but the most arrogant and least self-aware of us are thinking to ourselves all the reasons why we can't make an impact, but we can't make that big of an impact. All of us have disqualifying voices in our life that keep us from fully embracing that. Timothy's disqualifying voice was, I might be too young. They might not listen. And Paul says, hey, don't listen to that voice. Put your head down, be an example to the believers in the way that you pursue purity and in the way that you love others. Let the outcome of those actions speak for themselves. As I sit here and tell you, you are called to live a spiritually impactful life. There is no doubt in my mind that all kinds of things are running through your head as to why you can't live a spiritually impactful life as that person over there. Each of you thinks that your counterpart on the other side of the room has a better chance of living a spiritually impactful life than you do, and you're all wrong. We're all called to that, but we all, here's the problem, have in our life these disqualifying voices that we're tempted to listen to. And more often than not, the loudest voice of disqualification is in your own head. The loudest voice that tells you, I really don't have much of a shot at making a difference in God's kingdom. I really am not going to be that impactful in my life. That voice, more often than not, comes from you, not the world. And we think things like maybe when you hear me talk about that, maybe your thought is Timothy's thought. I'm too young. No one will listen to me. I don't have enough experience. I don't have the resume to be spiritually impactful, to impact people towards Christ. Maybe you're on the other end of the spectrum. I'm too old. All my years are behind me. Whatever chance I had to make an impact has passed. I've missed my sweet spot. Now I'm just cruising it to home. There's nothing left for me to do. Maybe you think to yourself, I'm not that articulate. I don't like being in front of people. I'm not winsome. I'm not charismatic. Maybe when I talk about making a spiritual impact, you think, yeah, well, I'm a stay-at-home mom. And my world is so very small right now. And this sermon is for other people. It's not for me. Maybe you would disqualify yourself with your past. Say, yeah, man, you don't know what I've been and what I've done and where I've come from. Ain't nobody listening to me. Maybe you're new to Christianity. Maybe you're not new to Christianity, but you're new to taking it seriously. And so when I open up the Bible and talk about the different books in the Bible, you're not really familiar with them at all. And you're just thinking, I'm just trying to play catch up here, man. I'm not ready to go impact other people. I'm new to this. I don't know. They're going to ask me questions and I'm not going to know the answers. So I can't make an impact yet. I don't know what your disqualifying voice is trying to convince you of to make you step out of the race and not believe about yourself that you were created to live a spiritually impactful life. I don't know what's trying to convince you that you don't have a part to play in building God's kingdom while you're here on earth. But I do know that to our doubts, Paul tells us to put our heads down and pursue holiness. To whatever doubts you have in your head, to whatever your disqualifying voice is from spiritual service, Paul says to that voice, ignore it, put your head down, pursue holiness, love others, and watch what God does. He says to you, Paul says, let no man despise your past. Judge you based on mistakes that you've made before. Put your head down, pursue holiness, love others well, and watch what God does. Let nobody look down on your inexperience. You know the remedy to a past? A pure future. You know the remedy to inexperience? Experience. You know the remedy to thinking that you're too old or you're too young? Get in the ring and watch what God does. We write ourselves off from living spiritually impactful lives for so many reasons. And they're all lies. They're all lies that you tell yourself and that the enemy tells us to disqualify you from service in God's kingdom. And here's a really scary thing that dawned on me as I was preparing this. When we listen to the disqualifying voices, we do harm to those we love the most. Do you understand this? When we allow the voices from within and from without to convince us that we can't really take our faith that seriously because no one takes us seriously and God doesn't really have something he wants me to do and people he wants me to impact. When we believe that, when we fall prey to that and we step out of the ring and we're just coasting through our spiritual lives, we do the most harm to the people we love the most. What would have happened in Ephesus if Timothy had let those voices win? If Timothy had convinced himself that he was too young to be effective, and he stepped into the pulpit with timidity? Would Ephesus have slowly crumbled and dissolved away without leadership? I don't know. But if he was to choose to listen to those disqualifying voices, then he would not have served the people nearly like he needed to. More pointedly, parents, listen to me. If you don't take seriously your call to live a spiritually impactful life, if you let the voices talk you out of putting your head down and pursuing holiness and loving other people well. If you mail in your spiritual life and be content to be slightly above average. I'm good enough to check the box. I'm a good person. I'm going to heaven. My kids are going to heaven. If you just mail it in and go into cruise control for the rest of your life without pursuing God. Who's going to disciple your kids? Who's going to show your kids how to follow Christ? Who's going to model it for your children? If you refuse to put your head down and pursue holiness and love others well and let God in to let him use the gifts that he's given you, if you refuse to engage spiritually and don't take your spiritual health seriously and don't believe that you were placed in the life of your children to impact them towards Christ, if you won't do that for them, who will? Aaron? Children's pastor? Kyle? They get your kids for one hour a week. And let's just be honest about this. That's not even 52 weeks a year, okay? I've seen your church attendance. Let's be generous and call it like 40. They get your kids for 40 hours a year. They're going to disciple a kid in 40 hours a year? You get your kids for 100 hours a week. There is no one in your child's life better postured to love them towards Jesus than you. And when you refuse to engage in your own spiritual growth because the voices talk you out of it, you abscond on your duty to raise your kids in Christ and you thrust it on someone else and we shortchange them. When we choose to believe the disqualifying voices in our life, we hurt the people around us the most. The Bible tells us that marriage is to be a picture that reminds us of the way that Christ sacrificially loves the church. If you don't show your spouse day in and day out how Jesus loves the church by sacrificially loving them, if you're not trying to do that every day, if you're not taking seriously the call to impact your spouse towards Christ and watch God work in them, who's going to do that for you? If you don't take seriously the call in scripture to live a life building God's kingdom, pursuing holiness and loving others well, and letting God do what he will with the gifts, with the people around you? Who's going to be the pastor that your workplace so desperately needs? Who is your coworker going to come to when they need prayer because their mom's in the hospital? Who's going to invite your neighbor to the thing that's going to ignite them spiritually and reengage them with the church? Who's going to work in your circles of influence as only you can to impact people towards Christ? If you choose to allow the voices that disqualify you from Christian service, if you choose to allow them to win, if we don't take seriously this call from Paul to be an example to the believers in word and conversation and charity and spirit and faith and purity, if we don't do that, who's going to step in and do our job for us? We are all called to live spiritually impactful lives. And we must take seriously that call. Now, on the flip side, can you imagine what could happen if we choose to pursue holiness and allow God to use the gifts he's given you. Can you imagine what could happen in your life if you left here and you said, okay, God, listen, I don't know what your plan is for me. I'm not even sure what the gifts you've given me are. I have no idea. But I'm going to put my head down. I'm going to pursue holiness. I'm going to love others well. I'm going to make my life available to you. You use my life to impact the people around me however you want. God, I want to live the rest of my life building your kingdom. What would happen if you left this place and you got on your knees this afternoon, tonight, tomorrow morning, and you said, God, I'm yours. Use me. I don't know to what end. I'm not convinced that I'm going to make any great impact. But I am convinced that I need to live the rest of my life opened up to the possibility that you want to use me in the lives of the people around me. So here, it's yours. I'm going to put my head down. I'm not going to listen to my disqualifying voices. I'm not going to listen to the disqualifying voices of the people around me. I'm going to put my head down. I'm going to do the work. I'm going to pursue holiness. I'm going to be an example to the believers in the way that I love others. And I'm going to trust you with the results and let those speak for themselves. What could happen if we let God in our lives to use the gifts that he's given us? Well, I'll tell you one thing that could happen because we've seen it happen in real time here in this church over the last five or so years. I'm about to just, she probably will never come back to the church. But she's on staff, so she has to. I'm going to embarrass the heck out of Carly. You can leave the room now if you want to, Carly. I don't know how long ago it was that she started singing. Carly was the lady singing right here this morning. I don't know how long ago it was that she started singing, four or five years ago. But her origin story is she was our previous worship pastor's wife, Lisa, was in the restroom on a Sunday morning and heard an angelic voice coming out of a stall and stalked her and said, we need you on the worship team. You should try out. And Carly had to be cajoled. She had to be talked into it. Because she's not big on, she's not the first one to raise her hand and be like, yes, I would like to be in front of others and let them hear my voice every Sunday publicly. That's not her jam. So she had to be talked into it. And she reluctantly agreed. She auditioned. She did well. Let's get you on the team. So she starts coming up and leading worship. And here's the thing. I'm pretty sure that Carly led worship for about two full years before I actually heard her voice. Because it takes, it's true, isn't it? I don't know if you guys have ever thought about this. I've watched it happen whenever we recruit someone new to the team. It's one thing to have a pretty voice and be told that you have a nice voice. It's another thing to sing loudly enough and confidently enough into the microphone in front of other people to be heard above the mix. When there's someone up here singing and you can't hear them, it's not because Cindy doesn't have them turned up loud enough. It's because their Sunday morning voice is a little bit different than their Wednesday night voice. There's people in the room. It takes guts to step into that. But over time and over the years, Carly trusted us with her gift. She started to believe in God's purpose for her life in this area. And she started to trust it to God. And she started to trust it to us. And in the last, I would say, six to eight months, now when Carly leads a song, buddy, she's leading. She's belting. She's letting it rip. And every time she does it, I'm getting emotional right now. Every time she does it, I get emotional. And I get emotional because I think it's so beautiful when a child of God is using their gift from God to do exactly what he gave that gift to them to do. It is so powerful to think about the fact that when she was knit in her mother's womb, God says, I'm going to give this one a voice. And he didn't give her a voice so that she could sing pretty and entertain people. He didn't give her a voice so that she could bring attention to herself. Do you know why he gave her a voice? He gave her a voice so that he could hear it sing praises to him, so that he could hear his daughter sing to him in a way that he enjoyed. And he gave her a voice for his daughter to use to bring his other children into praise before his throne, into his presence. When she sings on Sunday and belts it out and lets it rip, she's using the gift that God gave her for the exact reason he gave it to her, and it's beautiful. And we would never experience it and be led into worship through her and through her gifting if she allowed the disqualifying voices to talk her out of it when she auditioned. If she allowed the disqualifying voice in her head to talk her out of it in the early years as she was getting her feet wet. And so we see what can happen in real time when we say, God, I don't know what you have for me and I don't know what my purpose is here, but I'm going to make my gifts available for you to use however you want to use them. In the meantime, I'm going to be an example to the believers in the way that I pursue you and in the way that I love others. Can you imagine what a church could look like if everyone in that church prayed that prayer and said, God, I don't know what you have for me to do. I don't even know how you've gifted me to do it. But I'm going to pursue you and I'm going to love others and whatever impact you want me to have, God, I'm ready to have it. Can you imagine what could happen with a church full of people who believe that? I'll tell you this. I'd like to find out. Let's pray. Father, we love you. Thank you for imbuing our lives with purpose that's bigger than us. Thank you for always encouraging us to put our heads down and to trust you with the gifts that you've given us. Thank you for being a steady voice in our life that tells us we don't have to believe the disqualifying things about ourselves. God, I pray that every person in here, whether it's today or five years from now, would allow you to open their eyes to the fact that you've called and created them to live spiritually impactful lives. Would those of us who've just been cruising, not taking things seriously, not being engaged, God, would we re-engage with you? Would we make disciples of our children? Would we be a pastor to our communities? Show us how you can use us if we simply get our doubts and our fears and our hesitancies out of the way and let you begin to work. God, I pray that you would bring it about. In Jesus' name, amen.
Well, good morning, Grace. My name is Nate. I get to be one of the pastors here. If I haven't gotten the chance to meet you, I'd love to do that in the lobby after the service. I appreciate you being here on this October Sunday. This is the first Sunday where I'm really seeing a lot of sweaters and flannels, and it's just making me so, so very happy that it's cool weather finally. Nothing in my life requires the temperature to ever be above 70 degrees. So I'm very happy to be in the fall. We are wrapping up our series, as Kyle mentioned earlier, this Sunday called Transformed, where we're talking about God transforming us in different ways. This morning, we're going to be focused on transforming our love from conditional to unconditional love. How do we move from conditional love to being able to offer unconditional love, which is a lot more challenging than we might think at first. And in a way, the next series that we're doing is called The Songs We Sing, and it's one I told you about last week. I'm very excited about it because it's one that we've wanted to do for about two and a half years, I think. I've had it in the kitty. I've wanted to do it. We weren't sure the right time to deploy it, and we felt like this fall was the right time. This is what we want to do. And so it's really going to be a six-week series focused on worship. We're going to look at individual worship songs and where they come from in Scripture, imbue them with not more meaning, but the meaning that they had from the author that wrote them and see them in Scripture so that they can mean more to us and really move through a theology of worship learning why we do it. So I'm very excited for that series, and I hope it will be a very meaningful one in the life of Grace. This Sunday is almost like kind of part one of that. It's a transition between transformed and between the songs we sing because we just sang this song, Reckless Love, the reckless love of God. And that's where we're going to rest today. As we approach the idea, I wanted to share with you an idea about love that I encountered years ago, two, three years ago, and it stuck with me, and it's really, it's kind of transformed the way I think about love, and it definitely helps me as I counsel with couples who are going to get married as I do premarital counseling and all of those things, and you'll see why in a minute. But this idea that was presented to me about love is the concept that we all love with boundaries. We all offer our love with some boundaries around it. I'm going to love this person or this thing, but I'm going to love them within some parameters that I've set up. And if this person or thing ventures outside those parameters, I will no longer love you. I'm going to love this puppy until it goes to the bathroom on my bed. Then that is outside the parameters of love. I no longer love this puppy. That scarred me for my whole life, right? Maybe I wouldn't assume that all of you love me. I think some of you do. Maybe you feel kind thoughts towards me. I would hope that none of you exist in open hostility towards me, but maybe you have some affection for me as your pastor. But if I got up here next week and I told you how to vote next year, some of you would be like, that is outside my bounds of love. I no longer feel those feelings of affection towards you, right? There's plenty of things I could get up here and say that would be outside your boundaries of affection for me. There's things that could come up about stuff in the shadows that you would go, well, that's outside, that behavior is outside the bounds of love that I would have for a pastor, so I'm out. You see, we all love with boundaries. We all love with parameters. And this is just kind of as an aside, something that I always say to the couples that I'm doing premarital counseling with. It's important in our marriages to love with broad borders, big expansive boundaries, because the truth of marriage is people don't stay the same. When you get married, you're not just committing to loving that person that you're married, but you're committed to loving the version of them that unfolds 10 years down the road. When we walk the aisle, it fundamentally changes who we are as a person. When we have children, it fundamentally changes who we are as a person. When we get into our careers, when we start to learn ourselves a little bit more, new hobbies open up and those changes, new desires and passions open up and we evolve as people, or at least we should, and those changes. So even this notion in marriage of looking at your spouse and going, you're not who I married. Yeah, no kidding. This shouldn't be unless you married a real dud. So we love with broad borders and allow the person in our marriage to become whoever they need to become, whoever God designed them to be. And that's the love that we should offer to other people is borders that are broad and wide and generous and gracious where we allow God to work in the lives of these people and we don't set tight parameters of our love around the objects of our love. But you can also make an argument that we love with boundaries because these boundaries protect us. We love with these boundaries because life has taught us to love with boundaries. Because those boundaries protect us from hurt. When love goes unreciprocated, when you care a great deal for someone, and at no point in this for the rest of the day am I talking about a romantic love. I just want to be clear. I'm talking about phileo love, the brotherly love, an affectionate love. If we offer our love and affection to somebody over and over and over again and it goes unreciprocated, then eventually it's going to hurt too much to offer that love and we're going to stop. If we offer someone our love and trust and they betray us and they show us that they're not worthy of our love, enough times eventually it's going to hurt so much to offer it to them that we are going to stop. So we naturally develop these borders around the love that we offer to other people and to other things because after those things have hurt us enough or disappointed us enough, we withdraw our love because it hurts too much to extend it. I have a friend that I've had since high school. Really good buddy of mine. And it's probably four or five years ago now, it kind of came to light that his wife was an addict. She was addicted to pills. And it was profoundly impacting their marriage, obviously. And he, for years, had tried to love her in spite of, and eventually had to let other people in on the struggle that they carried together. And it led to her doing things that were not legal to acquire the things that she felt like she needed. And she became more and more distant from my friend. They together had three kids. She had a daughter from a previous relationship but was so close to my friend that she called him dad. So they ostensibly had four kids together and she was completely absent. And I watched him love her faithfully through that. I watched him think the best of her and hope the best of her. Continue to try to rehabilitate and rejuvenate her. And then the time came when she eventually broke down and she needed to go to rehab and rehab lasted several months for her. And I watched him hold together the pieces of his life, try to raise four kids that ran the gamut in age from elementary school to high school. I watched him try to hold everything together. He's an accountant. He had a really good job and his bosses knew what he was going through, but they had to pull him aside and be like, dude, we're not getting any productivity out of you. You can't do your job well right now. We need you to do better. And they worked with him and they worked with him and he felt the pressure and he felt bad. During the season of life, he and I would talk on the phone two and three times a week. And you could just see him spinning out of control and falling apart at the seams. And eventually his bosses came to him at work and they were like, we hate to do this, but you need to look for another job. Because if you stay here, we're going to have to fire you and we don't want to do that. His life was hard. And then in the middle of this, as she's gotten out of rehab and has started to go to different meetings throughout the week. What I felt was inevitable, unearthed as true, she was unfaithful to him as well with somebody in the rehab group. And even in the face of that reality, my friend continued to love her, continued to hope for her and for them and for their best future. And it was hard to watch. And I began to just gently tell him, it may be time to move away. It may be time to move on for your sake and for the sake of the kids. The language I didn't have was, she's ventured outside of any boundaries that should be required of you. And it may be time to admit that she's never coming back in. And he still couldn't do it, wouldn't do it. Still determined to love her. And one day we were on the phone and he said, man, it feels like I'm just throwing myself against a brick wall. And I get up and I dust myself off and I don't know what to do. And I said, dude, not to make it about me, but he decided it was time to make that decision. And so they separated and eventually divorced. And if you fast forward now, now he's living in the Brady Bunch. He married a lady. I think she has three kids. They have seven kids in this house. And it's nuts, but he's happy and she loves him well. And the whole experience actually brought him back to God. But there are times in life when those boundaries are necessary because they protect us. We offer very little boundless love. I can really only think of two situations where we approach offering limitless love to someone or something. The first is to our children. Most parents have incredibly generous borders around the love for their children, and this is a good model for how God loves us. The other place where we seem to have boundless borders around our love is in our sports fandom. We just, NC State fans, you know this. You know this well. Every year, every year, maybe they'll be good. Maybe they won't disappoint me. Maybe they'll take a step forward. And then they just slam into the brick wall of mediocrity. And what do you do? You get yourself up. You dust yourself off. The next year is going to be different. And here's what's awful. Here's what you do is you impart that on your children masochistically. These people that you love boundlessly, now you parade them to the game with you so it becomes a part of their soul. And now they're Wolfpack fans too. Great. They get to endure a life of pain. And I know this masochism well because Lily's a Georgia Tech fan. And I know that we had a big victory last night. Whoop-dee-doo. Guess what? We're still bad at football, and we're going to be bad at football for decades. We offer very little boundless love in our life. And because we are used to offering our love with boundaries, and we are used to receiving love with boundaries, we understand that when someone shows us affection and love and care, that there's some parameter, there's a fence that we need to stay inside of. We get that concept. Because we give and receive love with boundaries, we assume that God has boundaries too. We assume that there must be some parameters around the love that God offers to me because every other experience of love in my life carries those parameters and I know that I need to stay within them or offer within them, and so God must love me in that same way. And the thing that happens that I've seen being a Christian for as far back as I can remember is that when you're in, when you're in the church, when you've been a long-time Christian, you hear about the boundless and the reckless love of God, and you're like, yes, amen. That's absolutely true. To the sinner out there who's disappointing God with every word, thought, and action that they have, who's so far from God, they come to know him, and they get the good news, the good news of the gospel. Hey, God loves you boundlessly. He loves you recklessly. He loves you with no parameters at all. Just be swept up into that love and ushered into heaven. We love that message. That's a good message. That's the Christian message. That's the miracle of the gospel. The problem is that once we receive that love and feel that love, we move into the process of sanctification, becoming more like Christ in character, and we start to disappoint God, and we start to let him down down and we start to return to some of the sins that we employed previously and we slide into and out of fervency, into and out of spiritual attendedness, into and out of faithful pursuit of him. There are times when we run our race well. There are times when we take a breather and we walk and there are times when we just sit down and consider whether or not we want to continue the race at all. And we assume, Christians, that we have ventured outside the parameters of God's love. And the love that he once had for me, he still has, but not as much because I've tainted it. Because I should know better. Because I know what I'm going to go do. I know what I'm planning to go do. I know that if you put me in this situation with this group of people, what I am capable of doing. I know my private heart conditions. I know my prejudices and my biases, and I am not going to be letting those go anytime soon. So God must be disappointed in me. I think that's how most Christians go through their life. To put it more pointedly, if you were God, would you still love you? If you were God in heaven, would you still love you? Let's make you God and me you. And you offered for me the thing that you valued the most in all of your existence, your only son. You sent him and you watched him die for my sake. And I saw that gift and I saw your love and I saw your sacrifice and I saw his suffering, the same suffering that you watched and I I said, thanks for that. And I put it in my back pocket. And then for the rest of my days, I lived as if that weren't true. I lived outside of gratitude for it. I did whatever I wanted. You said, I'm doing this for you. Let me be the Lord of my life and I'll give you the best life possible. And I said, I'm going to accept your eternal life. I'm going to put that in my back pocket, save it for a rainy day. And I I'm actually gonna choose my version of a good life because I think I know what it is better than yours. Yours seems lame and boring. Mine is super awesome and fun. So I'm gonna do what I wanna do. And every now and again, I'm gonna lean towards Jesus. I'm gonna make it look to everyone around me like I've got my act together and I'm doing the right things and I read my Bible and I pray and I make wise choices. But you and I both know that I'm really not living under your lordship at all. But at the end of my life, when it comes time, I'm gonna pull out that card and be like, so I get in, right? Would you still love me? If that was my attitude towards your gift? There's a reason that most of us feel like God is disappointed in us. There's a reason why when I ask a question like, if God still loves you, if you were God, would you still love you? And it's because we've been programmed to assume that God's love works the same way ours does. That there's parameters, there's borders, that there's a limit. But thank God that this human God, this God that loves like a person, is not the God at all that's described in Scripture. Thank God that the God in Scripture is described as offering a love that is utterly impossible for us and unknown to us outside of knowing him. And I'm going to read some scriptures and go through and show you this never-ending reckless love of God from scripture. But as I do that, the temptation, I believe, for us Christians in the room is to say, I know that. Yeah, I know God loves me no matter what. I get it. He loves me no matter what. He loves me recklessly. He loves me to the end of the earth. He removes my sins as far as the east is from the west. Some of you can probably guess the verses that I'm going to use. I know God loves me. Yeah. Listen. You know God loves you here. But when's the last time you felt God's love here? We know intellectually he loves us. Do we walk filled with the love of God through our days and offering that freely and graciously to others? Do we live out that verse from his goodness? We have all received grace upon grace. The initial grace is God's And from his fullness, we receive that and we spill it out onto others. Do you walk through your days knowing here, deep in your soul, that God loves you and it's the only love that you ever need and you can stop chasing it in other places because he is all sufficient for you? Do you walk in a heart knowledge of God's relentless love of you? I don't. I know I don't. Because every now and again I do. And when I do, those days are different. When I walk with a soul knowledge that I am loved by the creator God, that he finds no fault in me because of his son, I'm a better husband, I'll tell you that. I'm a more patient father. I'm a more gracious friend. I'm a more diligent pastor. I'm a much more patient driver. Do you go through your days with some sort of mental assent that yes, there's a God and he loves me? Or do you go through your days feeling it beat in your chest and in your soul that God loves you deeply and there's nothing you can ever do to change that? So as I go through these verses, don't be the pious Christian that gives intellectual assent to what I'm going to say, but let God's love rest on your soul this morning. That you might know and accept and walk in the fact that you are loved deeply by your creator. This is what he says in Jeremiah 31.3. I've just got a list of passages here that I want you to hear this morning. The Lord appeared to him from far away. I have loved you with an everlasting love. Therefore, I have continued my faithfulness to you. Now he's speaking here in Jeremiah to God's people, to the Israelites, but we know that if we are Christians, if we profess a faith in Christ, then we are God's people too. And so this verse, and God's love applies to us, he loves us in an everlasting way. And so he remains faithful to us. Nehemiah says, back in the desert when you freed us from slavery and we were wandering around for those 40 years, we trampled on you. We rejected you. You gave us manna every day and we didn't care. You gave us laws and we didn't want them. You gave us provision and we didn't care for it. We wanted to actually go back to Egypt and worship their gods. We stubbed our, I don't know the right phrase. We snubbed our nose at you. Is that a thing? We refused your help. And by all rights, you should have rejected us. But you didn't. Because you're slow to anger and you're abounding in steadfast love and mercy. And he did not forsake them. And then John writes at the end of his life, 1 John chapter 4. Your notes have 9 through 11, but the first three words are from verse 8. God is love. In this, the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only son into the world so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God, but that he loved us and sent his son to be the propitiation of our sins. I mentioned the sacrifice of Christ earlier. That is the picture of love. That is love literally becoming flesh and suffering for us, with us, to bring us with him into eternal not suffering. And he leads off this section, John does, by saying God is love. He is the personification of love. You cannot think of pure love and be thinking not of God. Any person who's ever existed without a knowledge of God, who refuses to acknowledge the existence of God, when they think of love, when they feel love, they are thinking of God, they are feeling God, even if they don't realize it because God is love. He is found in that emotion. He is found in that desire and in that affection. God claims to be love itself. And if that's true, then I would like for you to allow me the license to reword Paul's famous poem on love in 1 Corinthians chapter 13. If we replace the word love, love is patient, love is kind, doesn't envy, does not boast. If we replace that with God, because God is love, then it reads like this and resonates with me. God is patient. God is kind. He does not envy. He does not boast. He is not proud. He does not dishonor others. God is not self-seeking. He is not easily angered. He keeps no record of wrongs. God does not delight in trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. God never fails. That's the love that your God offers to you. He loves you with an everlasting love. And because of that, he is steadfast in his faithfulness to you, even when you are unfaithful to him. He always persists. He always hopes in you. He never fails you. He keeps no record of your wrongs. We sing that song right before the sermon, the overwhelming, never-ending, reckless love of God. And it's funny to me, when that song first came out, there was debate in theological circles because theological circles like to have stupid debates to justify their existence. And there was a school of thought that the recklessness there was that shouldn't be in a worship song. We shouldn't attribute that to God. That's a negative thing. That means he's foolhardy. It's some sort of error that he's making in loving us. And I always thought that was absurd. God's love is reckless because he loves with no regard for himself. God's love for you is reckless because he's the only entity in eternity that can love with a boundless love with no parameters to protect himself. God will slam against the wall of your apathy over and over and over again for your entire life and get himself up and dust himself off and heal himself up and chase after you again. And eventually, I'm just going to tell you, he's going to Kool-Aid man through that brick wall of yours. He's going to get you. But in the meantime, he's going to keep coming. And our sin and our obstinance and our apathy can keep holding him at bay, but he's not going to stop following you. He's not going to stop pursuing you. He's not going to stop chasing you. You're not going to hurt him enough that he has to withdraw and retract and say, I just can't do it. It hurts too much to continue to love her. He's just going to keep coming because that's the love of God. I've gotten into this habit recently that I would honestly highly recommend for my Bible readers. When it's time for my reading time in the morning, I've started trying to figure out what's the thing I'm feeling or thinking about the most right now. And then I read the book of the Bible that I feel like most aligns with that. If the book's short enough, I just read the whole thing. And so this morning, knowing that I was preaching about this, I sat down to read Hosea. Some of my scholars in the room know that that's what the whole book of Hosea is about. An overview of the book of Hosea is there's a prophet, I bet you can guess his name, and he is told by God to go marry a lady of the night named Gomer, which could there be a more tempting name for a lady of the night than Gomer? God says, I want you to go marry her. I want you to make her an honest woman. Go pay the bride price, and I want you to marry her. And your marriage to her is to be a picture, is to be a picture of my marriage to Israel that has gone and been unfaithful to me and cheated on me with other gods and with other priorities and yet I'm still choosing them. So you're gonna go marry her as a picture for how I love you. They got married, They had three kids. After they had three kids, she left and she went back to her old ways. Because I think when you're in a lifestyle like that or others like that, that it's difficult to always fully depart from them. She went back to her old ways. And God said, Hosea, go pay her bride price and marry her again. And he did it. And then she left him again and he went and got her again. And the whole book is a picture of God's love for Israel, God's love for you and me. So I sat down to reread it this morning and I didn't even get through, I didn't even get it past the second chapter because in the second chapter we see, or it might be in the first chapter where she has the kids, yeah, it's the first chapter. Because in the second chapter, we see, or it might be in the first chapter where she has the kids. Yeah, it's the first chapter. She has the kids and God, whenever she gets pregnant, God tells Hosea what to name the child. And I don't remember the actual names. One is just real. I don't remember the rest. But the first name of the first child meant not my people. And he said, you're going to name your child not my people because Israel, not Judah, Israel has betrayed me. Israel has talked and acted and walked and thought as if they don't want to be my children, as if they don't care to be my people, so now they no longer will be my people. So you will name your first child as assigned to Israel, not my people. You will name your second child as assigned to Israel, not my God, because in word and thought and action, they have betrayed me as their God. They no longer want me as their God, so I'm going to grant them their wish. You name your second child, not my God. The third child, I want you to name no mercy, because through their words and through the thoughts and through their deeds, they do not want my mercy anymore. So name the child no mercy, for I will not show them mercy. And as you read it, you think, this makes sense. I know this love. I understand this judgment. I get this reciprocity. I offered myself to you. I made you my people. You acted as if you didn't want to be my people. Eventually, you're not. I made myself your God. You acted like you wanted other gods to worship Baal or whatever else. So eventually, I'm not your God. I offered you mercy. You said, no thanks, we don't need your mercy. Fine, I'm not going to offer you my mercy. And then you read chapter 2. Chapter 2 is this long poem. And in it, he details the unfaithfulness of his bride, Israel. And then all the things that he was doing behind the scenes to provide for her, care for her, love for her, that she didn't realize. And then ultimately, she still spat on him and who he was. But even after that, chapter two ends with this verse. It just sat me down right there in my seat. It just blew me back. Even after that, after Israel does nothing, they have not apologized. They have not looked at the example of Hosea and been like, oh no, what do we do? They are not repentant. They are not sorry. They have not come back to God at all. And in the midst of that, God says this, and I will have mercy on no mercy. And I will say to not my people, you are my people. And he shall say, you are my God. Even after not repenting, even after continuing to stomp on the love of God, continuing to betray it in word and in thought and in action, and reject it in word and thought and action, God says to those people, I am your God, you are my people, and I will show you mercy. And he says that to us. His love is overwhelming and never-ending and reckless. And he pursues you. And I don't want you to know it. I want you to feel it. Because here's what happens when you feel it and you walk as if you're loved by God. God's reckless love creates a protective sanctuary from which we are able to offer boundless love as well. How do we transform, transition from offering conditional love to unconditional love? By walking in the deep heart knowledge of the boundless love that Creator God has for us. When you can walk with it here, you can offer it everywhere. Reject me as many times as you like, brother. Creator God loves me. I don't need yours anyways. Say whatever you want to say about me. Betray my trust as many times as you need to before I wear you down and before you accept this love too because God loves me. I don't really need yours. I'm loving you for you. If we want to be transformed from offering human conditional love with boundaries to offering divine, holy, Jesus-enabled and Holy Spirit-inspired love to others, then what we must do is walk in a deep knowledge of the reckless love that God offers to us. I hope you'll go from this place and do that. Let's pray. God, every time I pray, personally or corporately, I pray that I or we love you. And we do. You know that we do. We're just not good at it. So God, would you make us better? And God, would the only effort that we make towards loving you and others more, would the only effort that we make towards that be? To attempt to live in a knowledge that we are loved recklessly and endlessly by you. Would that reality transform our lives, our hearts, how we love, how we live? God, we thank you for your son, the personification of your love, the embodiment of your love, and how he was poured out for us. God, I pray that we would leave this room more certain that you love us, feeling more deeply what your love means than we did when we came in here today. Help us receive and offer your reckless love, Lord. In Jesus' name, amen.
Well, good morning, Grace. My name is Nate. I get to be one of the pastors here. If I haven't gotten the chance to meet you, I'd love to do that in the lobby after the service. I appreciate you being here on this October Sunday. This is the first Sunday where I'm really seeing a lot of sweaters and flannels, and it's just making me so, so very happy that it's cool weather finally. Nothing in my life requires the temperature to ever be above 70 degrees. So I'm very happy to be in the fall. We are wrapping up our series, as Kyle mentioned earlier, this Sunday called Transformed, where we're talking about God transforming us in different ways. This morning, we're going to be focused on transforming our love from conditional to unconditional love. How do we move from conditional love to being able to offer unconditional love, which is a lot more challenging than we might think at first. And in a way, the next series that we're doing is called The Songs We Sing, and it's one I told you about last week. I'm very excited about it because it's one that we've wanted to do for about two and a half years, I think. I've had it in the kitty. I've wanted to do it. We weren't sure the right time to deploy it, and we felt like this fall was the right time. This is what we want to do. And so it's really going to be a six-week series focused on worship. We're going to look at individual worship songs and where they come from in Scripture, imbue them with not more meaning, but the meaning that they had from the author that wrote them and see them in Scripture so that they can mean more to us and really move through a theology of worship learning why we do it. So I'm very excited for that series, and I hope it will be a very meaningful one in the life of Grace. This Sunday is almost like kind of part one of that. It's a transition between transformed and between the songs we sing because we just sang this song, Reckless Love, the reckless love of God. And that's where we're going to rest today. As we approach the idea, I wanted to share with you an idea about love that I encountered years ago, two, three years ago, and it stuck with me, and it's really, it's kind of transformed the way I think about love, and it definitely helps me as I counsel with couples who are going to get married as I do premarital counseling and all of those things, and you'll see why in a minute. But this idea that was presented to me about love is the concept that we all love with boundaries. We all offer our love with some boundaries around it. I'm going to love this person or this thing, but I'm going to love them within some parameters that I've set up. And if this person or thing ventures outside those parameters, I will no longer love you. I'm going to love this puppy until it goes to the bathroom on my bed. Then that is outside the parameters of love. I no longer love this puppy. That scarred me for my whole life, right? Maybe I wouldn't assume that all of you love me. I think some of you do. Maybe you feel kind thoughts towards me. I would hope that none of you exist in open hostility towards me, but maybe you have some affection for me as your pastor. But if I got up here next week and I told you how to vote next year, some of you would be like, that is outside my bounds of love. I no longer feel those feelings of affection towards you, right? There's plenty of things I could get up here and say that would be outside your boundaries of affection for me. There's things that could come up about stuff in the shadows that you would go, well, that's outside, that behavior is outside the bounds of love that I would have for a pastor, so I'm out. You see, we all love with boundaries. We all love with parameters. And this is just kind of as an aside, something that I always say to the couples that I'm doing premarital counseling with. It's important in our marriages to love with broad borders, big expansive boundaries, because the truth of marriage is people don't stay the same. When you get married, you're not just committing to loving that person that you're married, but you're committed to loving the version of them that unfolds 10 years down the road. When we walk the aisle, it fundamentally changes who we are as a person. When we have children, it fundamentally changes who we are as a person. When we get into our careers, when we start to learn ourselves a little bit more, new hobbies open up and those changes, new desires and passions open up and we evolve as people, or at least we should, and those changes. So even this notion in marriage of looking at your spouse and going, you're not who I married. Yeah, no kidding. This shouldn't be unless you married a real dud. So we love with broad borders and allow the person in our marriage to become whoever they need to become, whoever God designed them to be. And that's the love that we should offer to other people is borders that are broad and wide and generous and gracious where we allow God to work in the lives of these people and we don't set tight parameters of our love around the objects of our love. But you can also make an argument that we love with boundaries because these boundaries protect us. We love with these boundaries because life has taught us to love with boundaries. Because those boundaries protect us from hurt. When love goes unreciprocated, when you care a great deal for someone, and at no point in this for the rest of the day am I talking about a romantic love. I just want to be clear. I'm talking about phileo love, the brotherly love, an affectionate love. If we offer our love and affection to somebody over and over and over again and it goes unreciprocated, then eventually it's going to hurt too much to offer that love and we're going to stop. If we offer someone our love and trust and they betray us and they show us that they're not worthy of our love, enough times eventually it's going to hurt so much to offer it to them that we are going to stop. So we naturally develop these borders around the love that we offer to other people and to other things because after those things have hurt us enough or disappointed us enough, we withdraw our love because it hurts too much to extend it. I have a friend that I've had since high school. Really good buddy of mine. And it's probably four or five years ago now, it kind of came to light that his wife was an addict. She was addicted to pills. And it was profoundly impacting their marriage, obviously. And he, for years, had tried to love her in spite of, and eventually had to let other people in on the struggle that they carried together. And it led to her doing things that were not legal to acquire the things that she felt like she needed. And she became more and more distant from my friend. They together had three kids. She had a daughter from a previous relationship but was so close to my friend that she called him dad. So they ostensibly had four kids together and she was completely absent. And I watched him love her faithfully through that. I watched him think the best of her and hope the best of her. Continue to try to rehabilitate and rejuvenate her. And then the time came when she eventually broke down and she needed to go to rehab and rehab lasted several months for her. And I watched him hold together the pieces of his life, try to raise four kids that ran the gamut in age from elementary school to high school. I watched him try to hold everything together. He's an accountant. He had a really good job and his bosses knew what he was going through, but they had to pull him aside and be like, dude, we're not getting any productivity out of you. You can't do your job well right now. We need you to do better. And they worked with him and they worked with him and he felt the pressure and he felt bad. During the season of life, he and I would talk on the phone two and three times a week. And you could just see him spinning out of control and falling apart at the seams. And eventually his bosses came to him at work and they were like, we hate to do this, but you need to look for another job. Because if you stay here, we're going to have to fire you and we don't want to do that. His life was hard. And then in the middle of this, as she's gotten out of rehab and has started to go to different meetings throughout the week. What I felt was inevitable, unearthed as true, she was unfaithful to him as well with somebody in the rehab group. And even in the face of that reality, my friend continued to love her, continued to hope for her and for them and for their best future. And it was hard to watch. And I began to just gently tell him, it may be time to move away. It may be time to move on for your sake and for the sake of the kids. The language I didn't have was, she's ventured outside of any boundaries that should be required of you. And it may be time to admit that she's never coming back in. And he still couldn't do it, wouldn't do it. Still determined to love her. And one day we were on the phone and he said, man, it feels like I'm just throwing myself against a brick wall. And I get up and I dust myself off and I don't know what to do. And I said, dude, not to make it about me, but he decided it was time to make that decision. And so they separated and eventually divorced. And if you fast forward now, now he's living in the Brady Bunch. He married a lady. I think she has three kids. They have seven kids in this house. And it's nuts, but he's happy and she loves him well. And the whole experience actually brought him back to God. But there are times in life when those boundaries are necessary because they protect us. We offer very little boundless love. I can really only think of two situations where we approach offering limitless love to someone or something. The first is to our children. Most parents have incredibly generous borders around the love for their children, and this is a good model for how God loves us. The other place where we seem to have boundless borders around our love is in our sports fandom. We just, NC State fans, you know this. You know this well. Every year, every year, maybe they'll be good. Maybe they won't disappoint me. Maybe they'll take a step forward. And then they just slam into the brick wall of mediocrity. And what do you do? You get yourself up. You dust yourself off. The next year is going to be different. And here's what's awful. Here's what you do is you impart that on your children masochistically. These people that you love boundlessly, now you parade them to the game with you so it becomes a part of their soul. And now they're Wolfpack fans too. Great. They get to endure a life of pain. And I know this masochism well because Lily's a Georgia Tech fan. And I know that we had a big victory last night. Whoop-dee-doo. Guess what? We're still bad at football, and we're going to be bad at football for decades. We offer very little boundless love in our life. And because we are used to offering our love with boundaries, and we are used to receiving love with boundaries, we understand that when someone shows us affection and love and care, that there's some parameter, there's a fence that we need to stay inside of. We get that concept. Because we give and receive love with boundaries, we assume that God has boundaries too. We assume that there must be some parameters around the love that God offers to me because every other experience of love in my life carries those parameters and I know that I need to stay within them or offer within them, and so God must love me in that same way. And the thing that happens that I've seen being a Christian for as far back as I can remember is that when you're in, when you're in the church, when you've been a long-time Christian, you hear about the boundless and the reckless love of God, and you're like, yes, amen. That's absolutely true. To the sinner out there who's disappointing God with every word, thought, and action that they have, who's so far from God, they come to know him, and they get the good news, the good news of the gospel. Hey, God loves you boundlessly. He loves you recklessly. He loves you with no parameters at all. Just be swept up into that love and ushered into heaven. We love that message. That's a good message. That's the Christian message. That's the miracle of the gospel. The problem is that once we receive that love and feel that love, we move into the process of sanctification, becoming more like Christ in character, and we start to disappoint God, and we start to let him down down and we start to return to some of the sins that we employed previously and we slide into and out of fervency, into and out of spiritual attendedness, into and out of faithful pursuit of him. There are times when we run our race well. There are times when we take a breather and we walk and there are times when we just sit down and consider whether or not we want to continue the race at all. And we assume, Christians, that we have ventured outside the parameters of God's love. And the love that he once had for me, he still has, but not as much because I've tainted it. Because I should know better. Because I know what I'm going to go do. I know what I'm planning to go do. I know that if you put me in this situation with this group of people, what I am capable of doing. I know my private heart conditions. I know my prejudices and my biases, and I am not going to be letting those go anytime soon. So God must be disappointed in me. I think that's how most Christians go through their life. To put it more pointedly, if you were God, would you still love you? If you were God in heaven, would you still love you? Let's make you God and me you. And you offered for me the thing that you valued the most in all of your existence, your only son. You sent him and you watched him die for my sake. And I saw that gift and I saw your love and I saw your sacrifice and I saw his suffering, the same suffering that you watched and I I said, thanks for that. And I put it in my back pocket. And then for the rest of my days, I lived as if that weren't true. I lived outside of gratitude for it. I did whatever I wanted. You said, I'm doing this for you. Let me be the Lord of my life and I'll give you the best life possible. And I said, I'm going to accept your eternal life. I'm going to put that in my back pocket, save it for a rainy day. And I I'm actually gonna choose my version of a good life because I think I know what it is better than yours. Yours seems lame and boring. Mine is super awesome and fun. So I'm gonna do what I wanna do. And every now and again, I'm gonna lean towards Jesus. I'm gonna make it look to everyone around me like I've got my act together and I'm doing the right things and I read my Bible and I pray and I make wise choices. But you and I both know that I'm really not living under your lordship at all. But at the end of my life, when it comes time, I'm gonna pull out that card and be like, so I get in, right? Would you still love me? If that was my attitude towards your gift? There's a reason that most of us feel like God is disappointed in us. There's a reason why when I ask a question like, if God still loves you, if you were God, would you still love you? And it's because we've been programmed to assume that God's love works the same way ours does. That there's parameters, there's borders, that there's a limit. But thank God that this human God, this God that loves like a person, is not the God at all that's described in Scripture. Thank God that the God in Scripture is described as offering a love that is utterly impossible for us and unknown to us outside of knowing him. And I'm going to read some scriptures and go through and show you this never-ending reckless love of God from scripture. But as I do that, the temptation, I believe, for us Christians in the room is to say, I know that. Yeah, I know God loves me no matter what. I get it. He loves me no matter what. He loves me recklessly. He loves me to the end of the earth. He removes my sins as far as the east is from the west. Some of you can probably guess the verses that I'm going to use. I know God loves me. Yeah. Listen. You know God loves you here. But when's the last time you felt God's love here? We know intellectually he loves us. Do we walk filled with the love of God through our days and offering that freely and graciously to others? Do we live out that verse from his goodness? We have all received grace upon grace. The initial grace is God's And from his fullness, we receive that and we spill it out onto others. Do you walk through your days knowing here, deep in your soul, that God loves you and it's the only love that you ever need and you can stop chasing it in other places because he is all sufficient for you? Do you walk in a heart knowledge of God's relentless love of you? I don't. I know I don't. Because every now and again I do. And when I do, those days are different. When I walk with a soul knowledge that I am loved by the creator God, that he finds no fault in me because of his son, I'm a better husband, I'll tell you that. I'm a more patient father. I'm a more gracious friend. I'm a more diligent pastor. I'm a much more patient driver. Do you go through your days with some sort of mental assent that yes, there's a God and he loves me? Or do you go through your days feeling it beat in your chest and in your soul that God loves you deeply and there's nothing you can ever do to change that? So as I go through these verses, don't be the pious Christian that gives intellectual assent to what I'm going to say, but let God's love rest on your soul this morning. That you might know and accept and walk in the fact that you are loved deeply by your creator. This is what he says in Jeremiah 31.3. I've just got a list of passages here that I want you to hear this morning. The Lord appeared to him from far away. I have loved you with an everlasting love. Therefore, I have continued my faithfulness to you. Now he's speaking here in Jeremiah to God's people, to the Israelites, but we know that if we are Christians, if we profess a faith in Christ, then we are God's people too. And so this verse, and God's love applies to us, he loves us in an everlasting way. And so he remains faithful to us. Nehemiah says, back in the desert when you freed us from slavery and we were wandering around for those 40 years, we trampled on you. We rejected you. You gave us manna every day and we didn't care. You gave us laws and we didn't want them. You gave us provision and we didn't care for it. We wanted to actually go back to Egypt and worship their gods. We stubbed our, I don't know the right phrase. We snubbed our nose at you. Is that a thing? We refused your help. And by all rights, you should have rejected us. But you didn't. Because you're slow to anger and you're abounding in steadfast love and mercy. And he did not forsake them. And then John writes at the end of his life, 1 John chapter 4. Your notes have 9 through 11, but the first three words are from verse 8. God is love. In this, the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only son into the world so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God, but that he loved us and sent his son to be the propitiation of our sins. I mentioned the sacrifice of Christ earlier. That is the picture of love. That is love literally becoming flesh and suffering for us, with us, to bring us with him into eternal not suffering. And he leads off this section, John does, by saying God is love. He is the personification of love. You cannot think of pure love and be thinking not of God. Any person who's ever existed without a knowledge of God, who refuses to acknowledge the existence of God, when they think of love, when they feel love, they are thinking of God, they are feeling God, even if they don't realize it because God is love. He is found in that emotion. He is found in that desire and in that affection. God claims to be love itself. And if that's true, then I would like for you to allow me the license to reword Paul's famous poem on love in 1 Corinthians chapter 13. If we replace the word love, love is patient, love is kind, doesn't envy, does not boast. If we replace that with God, because God is love, then it reads like this and resonates with me. God is patient. God is kind. He does not envy. He does not boast. He is not proud. He does not dishonor others. God is not self-seeking. He is not easily angered. He keeps no record of wrongs. God does not delight in trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. God never fails. That's the love that your God offers to you. He loves you with an everlasting love. And because of that, he is steadfast in his faithfulness to you, even when you are unfaithful to him. He always persists. He always hopes in you. He never fails you. He keeps no record of your wrongs. We sing that song right before the sermon, the overwhelming, never-ending, reckless love of God. And it's funny to me, when that song first came out, there was debate in theological circles because theological circles like to have stupid debates to justify their existence. And there was a school of thought that the recklessness there was that shouldn't be in a worship song. We shouldn't attribute that to God. That's a negative thing. That means he's foolhardy. It's some sort of error that he's making in loving us. And I always thought that was absurd. God's love is reckless because he loves with no regard for himself. God's love for you is reckless because he's the only entity in eternity that can love with a boundless love with no parameters to protect himself. God will slam against the wall of your apathy over and over and over again for your entire life and get himself up and dust himself off and heal himself up and chase after you again. And eventually, I'm just going to tell you, he's going to Kool-Aid man through that brick wall of yours. He's going to get you. But in the meantime, he's going to keep coming. And our sin and our obstinance and our apathy can keep holding him at bay, but he's not going to stop following you. He's not going to stop pursuing you. He's not going to stop chasing you. You're not going to hurt him enough that he has to withdraw and retract and say, I just can't do it. It hurts too much to continue to love her. He's just going to keep coming because that's the love of God. I've gotten into this habit recently that I would honestly highly recommend for my Bible readers. When it's time for my reading time in the morning, I've started trying to figure out what's the thing I'm feeling or thinking about the most right now. And then I read the book of the Bible that I feel like most aligns with that. If the book's short enough, I just read the whole thing. And so this morning, knowing that I was preaching about this, I sat down to read Hosea. Some of my scholars in the room know that that's what the whole book of Hosea is about. An overview of the book of Hosea is there's a prophet, I bet you can guess his name, and he is told by God to go marry a lady of the night named Gomer, which could there be a more tempting name for a lady of the night than Gomer? God says, I want you to go marry her. I want you to make her an honest woman. Go pay the bride price, and I want you to marry her. And your marriage to her is to be a picture, is to be a picture of my marriage to Israel that has gone and been unfaithful to me and cheated on me with other gods and with other priorities and yet I'm still choosing them. So you're gonna go marry her as a picture for how I love you. They got married, They had three kids. After they had three kids, she left and she went back to her old ways. Because I think when you're in a lifestyle like that or others like that, that it's difficult to always fully depart from them. She went back to her old ways. And God said, Hosea, go pay her bride price and marry her again. And he did it. And then she left him again and he went and got her again. And the whole book is a picture of God's love for Israel, God's love for you and me. So I sat down to reread it this morning and I didn't even get through, I didn't even get it past the second chapter because in the second chapter we see, or it might be in the first chapter where she has the kids, yeah, it's the first chapter. Because in the second chapter, we see, or it might be in the first chapter where she has the kids. Yeah, it's the first chapter. She has the kids and God, whenever she gets pregnant, God tells Hosea what to name the child. And I don't remember the actual names. One is just real. I don't remember the rest. But the first name of the first child meant not my people. And he said, you're going to name your child not my people because Israel, not Judah, Israel has betrayed me. Israel has talked and acted and walked and thought as if they don't want to be my children, as if they don't care to be my people, so now they no longer will be my people. So you will name your first child as assigned to Israel, not my people. You will name your second child as assigned to Israel, not my God, because in word and thought and action, they have betrayed me as their God. They no longer want me as their God, so I'm going to grant them their wish. You name your second child, not my God. The third child, I want you to name no mercy, because through their words and through the thoughts and through their deeds, they do not want my mercy anymore. So name the child no mercy, for I will not show them mercy. And as you read it, you think, this makes sense. I know this love. I understand this judgment. I get this reciprocity. I offered myself to you. I made you my people. You acted as if you didn't want to be my people. Eventually, you're not. I made myself your God. You acted like you wanted other gods to worship Baal or whatever else. So eventually, I'm not your God. I offered you mercy. You said, no thanks, we don't need your mercy. Fine, I'm not going to offer you my mercy. And then you read chapter 2. Chapter 2 is this long poem. And in it, he details the unfaithfulness of his bride, Israel. And then all the things that he was doing behind the scenes to provide for her, care for her, love for her, that she didn't realize. And then ultimately, she still spat on him and who he was. But even after that, chapter two ends with this verse. It just sat me down right there in my seat. It just blew me back. Even after that, after Israel does nothing, they have not apologized. They have not looked at the example of Hosea and been like, oh no, what do we do? They are not repentant. They are not sorry. They have not come back to God at all. And in the midst of that, God says this, and I will have mercy on no mercy. And I will say to not my people, you are my people. And he shall say, you are my God. Even after not repenting, even after continuing to stomp on the love of God, continuing to betray it in word and in thought and in action, and reject it in word and thought and action, God says to those people, I am your God, you are my people, and I will show you mercy. And he says that to us. His love is overwhelming and never-ending and reckless. And he pursues you. And I don't want you to know it. I want you to feel it. Because here's what happens when you feel it and you walk as if you're loved by God. God's reckless love creates a protective sanctuary from which we are able to offer boundless love as well. How do we transform, transition from offering conditional love to unconditional love? By walking in the deep heart knowledge of the boundless love that Creator God has for us. When you can walk with it here, you can offer it everywhere. Reject me as many times as you like, brother. Creator God loves me. I don't need yours anyways. Say whatever you want to say about me. Betray my trust as many times as you need to before I wear you down and before you accept this love too because God loves me. I don't really need yours. I'm loving you for you. If we want to be transformed from offering human conditional love with boundaries to offering divine, holy, Jesus-enabled and Holy Spirit-inspired love to others, then what we must do is walk in a deep knowledge of the reckless love that God offers to us. I hope you'll go from this place and do that. Let's pray. God, every time I pray, personally or corporately, I pray that I or we love you. And we do. You know that we do. We're just not good at it. So God, would you make us better? And God, would the only effort that we make towards loving you and others more, would the only effort that we make towards that be? To attempt to live in a knowledge that we are loved recklessly and endlessly by you. Would that reality transform our lives, our hearts, how we love, how we live? God, we thank you for your son, the personification of your love, the embodiment of your love, and how he was poured out for us. God, I pray that we would leave this room more certain that you love us, feeling more deeply what your love means than we did when we came in here today. Help us receive and offer your reckless love, Lord. In Jesus' name, amen.
Well, good morning, Grace. My name is Nate. I get to be one of the pastors here. If I haven't gotten the chance to meet you, I'd love to do that in the lobby after the service. I appreciate you being here on this October Sunday. This is the first Sunday where I'm really seeing a lot of sweaters and flannels, and it's just making me so, so very happy that it's cool weather finally. Nothing in my life requires the temperature to ever be above 70 degrees. So I'm very happy to be in the fall. We are wrapping up our series, as Kyle mentioned earlier, this Sunday called Transformed, where we're talking about God transforming us in different ways. This morning, we're going to be focused on transforming our love from conditional to unconditional love. How do we move from conditional love to being able to offer unconditional love, which is a lot more challenging than we might think at first. And in a way, the next series that we're doing is called The Songs We Sing, and it's one I told you about last week. I'm very excited about it because it's one that we've wanted to do for about two and a half years, I think. I've had it in the kitty. I've wanted to do it. We weren't sure the right time to deploy it, and we felt like this fall was the right time. This is what we want to do. And so it's really going to be a six-week series focused on worship. We're going to look at individual worship songs and where they come from in Scripture, imbue them with not more meaning, but the meaning that they had from the author that wrote them and see them in Scripture so that they can mean more to us and really move through a theology of worship learning why we do it. So I'm very excited for that series, and I hope it will be a very meaningful one in the life of Grace. This Sunday is almost like kind of part one of that. It's a transition between transformed and between the songs we sing because we just sang this song, Reckless Love, the reckless love of God. And that's where we're going to rest today. As we approach the idea, I wanted to share with you an idea about love that I encountered years ago, two, three years ago, and it stuck with me, and it's really, it's kind of transformed the way I think about love, and it definitely helps me as I counsel with couples who are going to get married as I do premarital counseling and all of those things, and you'll see why in a minute. But this idea that was presented to me about love is the concept that we all love with boundaries. We all offer our love with some boundaries around it. I'm going to love this person or this thing, but I'm going to love them within some parameters that I've set up. And if this person or thing ventures outside those parameters, I will no longer love you. I'm going to love this puppy until it goes to the bathroom on my bed. Then that is outside the parameters of love. I no longer love this puppy. That scarred me for my whole life, right? Maybe I wouldn't assume that all of you love me. I think some of you do. Maybe you feel kind thoughts towards me. I would hope that none of you exist in open hostility towards me, but maybe you have some affection for me as your pastor. But if I got up here next week and I told you how to vote next year, some of you would be like, that is outside my bounds of love. I no longer feel those feelings of affection towards you, right? There's plenty of things I could get up here and say that would be outside your boundaries of affection for me. There's things that could come up about stuff in the shadows that you would go, well, that's outside, that behavior is outside the bounds of love that I would have for a pastor, so I'm out. You see, we all love with boundaries. We all love with parameters. And this is just kind of as an aside, something that I always say to the couples that I'm doing premarital counseling with. It's important in our marriages to love with broad borders, big expansive boundaries, because the truth of marriage is people don't stay the same. When you get married, you're not just committing to loving that person that you're married, but you're committed to loving the version of them that unfolds 10 years down the road. When we walk the aisle, it fundamentally changes who we are as a person. When we have children, it fundamentally changes who we are as a person. When we get into our careers, when we start to learn ourselves a little bit more, new hobbies open up and those changes, new desires and passions open up and we evolve as people, or at least we should, and those changes. So even this notion in marriage of looking at your spouse and going, you're not who I married. Yeah, no kidding. This shouldn't be unless you married a real dud. So we love with broad borders and allow the person in our marriage to become whoever they need to become, whoever God designed them to be. And that's the love that we should offer to other people is borders that are broad and wide and generous and gracious where we allow God to work in the lives of these people and we don't set tight parameters of our love around the objects of our love. But you can also make an argument that we love with boundaries because these boundaries protect us. We love with these boundaries because life has taught us to love with boundaries. Because those boundaries protect us from hurt. When love goes unreciprocated, when you care a great deal for someone, and at no point in this for the rest of the day am I talking about a romantic love. I just want to be clear. I'm talking about phileo love, the brotherly love, an affectionate love. If we offer our love and affection to somebody over and over and over again and it goes unreciprocated, then eventually it's going to hurt too much to offer that love and we're going to stop. If we offer someone our love and trust and they betray us and they show us that they're not worthy of our love, enough times eventually it's going to hurt so much to offer it to them that we are going to stop. So we naturally develop these borders around the love that we offer to other people and to other things because after those things have hurt us enough or disappointed us enough, we withdraw our love because it hurts too much to extend it. I have a friend that I've had since high school. Really good buddy of mine. And it's probably four or five years ago now, it kind of came to light that his wife was an addict. She was addicted to pills. And it was profoundly impacting their marriage, obviously. And he, for years, had tried to love her in spite of, and eventually had to let other people in on the struggle that they carried together. And it led to her doing things that were not legal to acquire the things that she felt like she needed. And she became more and more distant from my friend. They together had three kids. She had a daughter from a previous relationship but was so close to my friend that she called him dad. So they ostensibly had four kids together and she was completely absent. And I watched him love her faithfully through that. I watched him think the best of her and hope the best of her. Continue to try to rehabilitate and rejuvenate her. And then the time came when she eventually broke down and she needed to go to rehab and rehab lasted several months for her. And I watched him hold together the pieces of his life, try to raise four kids that ran the gamut in age from elementary school to high school. I watched him try to hold everything together. He's an accountant. He had a really good job and his bosses knew what he was going through, but they had to pull him aside and be like, dude, we're not getting any productivity out of you. You can't do your job well right now. We need you to do better. And they worked with him and they worked with him and he felt the pressure and he felt bad. During the season of life, he and I would talk on the phone two and three times a week. And you could just see him spinning out of control and falling apart at the seams. And eventually his bosses came to him at work and they were like, we hate to do this, but you need to look for another job. Because if you stay here, we're going to have to fire you and we don't want to do that. His life was hard. And then in the middle of this, as she's gotten out of rehab and has started to go to different meetings throughout the week. What I felt was inevitable, unearthed as true, she was unfaithful to him as well with somebody in the rehab group. And even in the face of that reality, my friend continued to love her, continued to hope for her and for them and for their best future. And it was hard to watch. And I began to just gently tell him, it may be time to move away. It may be time to move on for your sake and for the sake of the kids. The language I didn't have was, she's ventured outside of any boundaries that should be required of you. And it may be time to admit that she's never coming back in. And he still couldn't do it, wouldn't do it. Still determined to love her. And one day we were on the phone and he said, man, it feels like I'm just throwing myself against a brick wall. And I get up and I dust myself off and I don't know what to do. And I said, dude, not to make it about me, but he decided it was time to make that decision. And so they separated and eventually divorced. And if you fast forward now, now he's living in the Brady Bunch. He married a lady. I think she has three kids. They have seven kids in this house. And it's nuts, but he's happy and she loves him well. And the whole experience actually brought him back to God. But there are times in life when those boundaries are necessary because they protect us. We offer very little boundless love. I can really only think of two situations where we approach offering limitless love to someone or something. The first is to our children. Most parents have incredibly generous borders around the love for their children, and this is a good model for how God loves us. The other place where we seem to have boundless borders around our love is in our sports fandom. We just, NC State fans, you know this. You know this well. Every year, every year, maybe they'll be good. Maybe they won't disappoint me. Maybe they'll take a step forward. And then they just slam into the brick wall of mediocrity. And what do you do? You get yourself up. You dust yourself off. The next year is going to be different. And here's what's awful. Here's what you do is you impart that on your children masochistically. These people that you love boundlessly, now you parade them to the game with you so it becomes a part of their soul. And now they're Wolfpack fans too. Great. They get to endure a life of pain. And I know this masochism well because Lily's a Georgia Tech fan. And I know that we had a big victory last night. Whoop-dee-doo. Guess what? We're still bad at football, and we're going to be bad at football for decades. We offer very little boundless love in our life. And because we are used to offering our love with boundaries, and we are used to receiving love with boundaries, we understand that when someone shows us affection and love and care, that there's some parameter, there's a fence that we need to stay inside of. We get that concept. Because we give and receive love with boundaries, we assume that God has boundaries too. We assume that there must be some parameters around the love that God offers to me because every other experience of love in my life carries those parameters and I know that I need to stay within them or offer within them, and so God must love me in that same way. And the thing that happens that I've seen being a Christian for as far back as I can remember is that when you're in, when you're in the church, when you've been a long-time Christian, you hear about the boundless and the reckless love of God, and you're like, yes, amen. That's absolutely true. To the sinner out there who's disappointing God with every word, thought, and action that they have, who's so far from God, they come to know him, and they get the good news, the good news of the gospel. Hey, God loves you boundlessly. He loves you recklessly. He loves you with no parameters at all. Just be swept up into that love and ushered into heaven. We love that message. That's a good message. That's the Christian message. That's the miracle of the gospel. The problem is that once we receive that love and feel that love, we move into the process of sanctification, becoming more like Christ in character, and we start to disappoint God, and we start to let him down down and we start to return to some of the sins that we employed previously and we slide into and out of fervency, into and out of spiritual attendedness, into and out of faithful pursuit of him. There are times when we run our race well. There are times when we take a breather and we walk and there are times when we just sit down and consider whether or not we want to continue the race at all. And we assume, Christians, that we have ventured outside the parameters of God's love. And the love that he once had for me, he still has, but not as much because I've tainted it. Because I should know better. Because I know what I'm going to go do. I know what I'm planning to go do. I know that if you put me in this situation with this group of people, what I am capable of doing. I know my private heart conditions. I know my prejudices and my biases, and I am not going to be letting those go anytime soon. So God must be disappointed in me. I think that's how most Christians go through their life. To put it more pointedly, if you were God, would you still love you? If you were God in heaven, would you still love you? Let's make you God and me you. And you offered for me the thing that you valued the most in all of your existence, your only son. You sent him and you watched him die for my sake. And I saw that gift and I saw your love and I saw your sacrifice and I saw his suffering, the same suffering that you watched and I I said, thanks for that. And I put it in my back pocket. And then for the rest of my days, I lived as if that weren't true. I lived outside of gratitude for it. I did whatever I wanted. You said, I'm doing this for you. Let me be the Lord of my life and I'll give you the best life possible. And I said, I'm going to accept your eternal life. I'm going to put that in my back pocket, save it for a rainy day. And I I'm actually gonna choose my version of a good life because I think I know what it is better than yours. Yours seems lame and boring. Mine is super awesome and fun. So I'm gonna do what I wanna do. And every now and again, I'm gonna lean towards Jesus. I'm gonna make it look to everyone around me like I've got my act together and I'm doing the right things and I read my Bible and I pray and I make wise choices. But you and I both know that I'm really not living under your lordship at all. But at the end of my life, when it comes time, I'm gonna pull out that card and be like, so I get in, right? Would you still love me? If that was my attitude towards your gift? There's a reason that most of us feel like God is disappointed in us. There's a reason why when I ask a question like, if God still loves you, if you were God, would you still love you? And it's because we've been programmed to assume that God's love works the same way ours does. That there's parameters, there's borders, that there's a limit. But thank God that this human God, this God that loves like a person, is not the God at all that's described in Scripture. Thank God that the God in Scripture is described as offering a love that is utterly impossible for us and unknown to us outside of knowing him. And I'm going to read some scriptures and go through and show you this never-ending reckless love of God from scripture. But as I do that, the temptation, I believe, for us Christians in the room is to say, I know that. Yeah, I know God loves me no matter what. I get it. He loves me no matter what. He loves me recklessly. He loves me to the end of the earth. He removes my sins as far as the east is from the west. Some of you can probably guess the verses that I'm going to use. I know God loves me. Yeah. Listen. You know God loves you here. But when's the last time you felt God's love here? We know intellectually he loves us. Do we walk filled with the love of God through our days and offering that freely and graciously to others? Do we live out that verse from his goodness? We have all received grace upon grace. The initial grace is God's And from his fullness, we receive that and we spill it out onto others. Do you walk through your days knowing here, deep in your soul, that God loves you and it's the only love that you ever need and you can stop chasing it in other places because he is all sufficient for you? Do you walk in a heart knowledge of God's relentless love of you? I don't. I know I don't. Because every now and again I do. And when I do, those days are different. When I walk with a soul knowledge that I am loved by the creator God, that he finds no fault in me because of his son, I'm a better husband, I'll tell you that. I'm a more patient father. I'm a more gracious friend. I'm a more diligent pastor. I'm a much more patient driver. Do you go through your days with some sort of mental assent that yes, there's a God and he loves me? Or do you go through your days feeling it beat in your chest and in your soul that God loves you deeply and there's nothing you can ever do to change that? So as I go through these verses, don't be the pious Christian that gives intellectual assent to what I'm going to say, but let God's love rest on your soul this morning. That you might know and accept and walk in the fact that you are loved deeply by your creator. This is what he says in Jeremiah 31.3. I've just got a list of passages here that I want you to hear this morning. The Lord appeared to him from far away. I have loved you with an everlasting love. Therefore, I have continued my faithfulness to you. Now he's speaking here in Jeremiah to God's people, to the Israelites, but we know that if we are Christians, if we profess a faith in Christ, then we are God's people too. And so this verse, and God's love applies to us, he loves us in an everlasting way. And so he remains faithful to us. Nehemiah says, back in the desert when you freed us from slavery and we were wandering around for those 40 years, we trampled on you. We rejected you. You gave us manna every day and we didn't care. You gave us laws and we didn't want them. You gave us provision and we didn't care for it. We wanted to actually go back to Egypt and worship their gods. We stubbed our, I don't know the right phrase. We snubbed our nose at you. Is that a thing? We refused your help. And by all rights, you should have rejected us. But you didn't. Because you're slow to anger and you're abounding in steadfast love and mercy. And he did not forsake them. And then John writes at the end of his life, 1 John chapter 4. Your notes have 9 through 11, but the first three words are from verse 8. God is love. In this, the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only son into the world so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God, but that he loved us and sent his son to be the propitiation of our sins. I mentioned the sacrifice of Christ earlier. That is the picture of love. That is love literally becoming flesh and suffering for us, with us, to bring us with him into eternal not suffering. And he leads off this section, John does, by saying God is love. He is the personification of love. You cannot think of pure love and be thinking not of God. Any person who's ever existed without a knowledge of God, who refuses to acknowledge the existence of God, when they think of love, when they feel love, they are thinking of God, they are feeling God, even if they don't realize it because God is love. He is found in that emotion. He is found in that desire and in that affection. God claims to be love itself. And if that's true, then I would like for you to allow me the license to reword Paul's famous poem on love in 1 Corinthians chapter 13. If we replace the word love, love is patient, love is kind, doesn't envy, does not boast. If we replace that with God, because God is love, then it reads like this and resonates with me. God is patient. God is kind. He does not envy. He does not boast. He is not proud. He does not dishonor others. God is not self-seeking. He is not easily angered. He keeps no record of wrongs. God does not delight in trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. God never fails. That's the love that your God offers to you. He loves you with an everlasting love. And because of that, he is steadfast in his faithfulness to you, even when you are unfaithful to him. He always persists. He always hopes in you. He never fails you. He keeps no record of your wrongs. We sing that song right before the sermon, the overwhelming, never-ending, reckless love of God. And it's funny to me, when that song first came out, there was debate in theological circles because theological circles like to have stupid debates to justify their existence. And there was a school of thought that the recklessness there was that shouldn't be in a worship song. We shouldn't attribute that to God. That's a negative thing. That means he's foolhardy. It's some sort of error that he's making in loving us. And I always thought that was absurd. God's love is reckless because he loves with no regard for himself. God's love for you is reckless because he's the only entity in eternity that can love with a boundless love with no parameters to protect himself. God will slam against the wall of your apathy over and over and over again for your entire life and get himself up and dust himself off and heal himself up and chase after you again. And eventually, I'm just going to tell you, he's going to Kool-Aid man through that brick wall of yours. He's going to get you. But in the meantime, he's going to keep coming. And our sin and our obstinance and our apathy can keep holding him at bay, but he's not going to stop following you. He's not going to stop pursuing you. He's not going to stop chasing you. You're not going to hurt him enough that he has to withdraw and retract and say, I just can't do it. It hurts too much to continue to love her. He's just going to keep coming because that's the love of God. I've gotten into this habit recently that I would honestly highly recommend for my Bible readers. When it's time for my reading time in the morning, I've started trying to figure out what's the thing I'm feeling or thinking about the most right now. And then I read the book of the Bible that I feel like most aligns with that. If the book's short enough, I just read the whole thing. And so this morning, knowing that I was preaching about this, I sat down to read Hosea. Some of my scholars in the room know that that's what the whole book of Hosea is about. An overview of the book of Hosea is there's a prophet, I bet you can guess his name, and he is told by God to go marry a lady of the night named Gomer, which could there be a more tempting name for a lady of the night than Gomer? God says, I want you to go marry her. I want you to make her an honest woman. Go pay the bride price, and I want you to marry her. And your marriage to her is to be a picture, is to be a picture of my marriage to Israel that has gone and been unfaithful to me and cheated on me with other gods and with other priorities and yet I'm still choosing them. So you're gonna go marry her as a picture for how I love you. They got married, They had three kids. After they had three kids, she left and she went back to her old ways. Because I think when you're in a lifestyle like that or others like that, that it's difficult to always fully depart from them. She went back to her old ways. And God said, Hosea, go pay her bride price and marry her again. And he did it. And then she left him again and he went and got her again. And the whole book is a picture of God's love for Israel, God's love for you and me. So I sat down to reread it this morning and I didn't even get through, I didn't even get it past the second chapter because in the second chapter we see, or it might be in the first chapter where she has the kids, yeah, it's the first chapter. Because in the second chapter, we see, or it might be in the first chapter where she has the kids. Yeah, it's the first chapter. She has the kids and God, whenever she gets pregnant, God tells Hosea what to name the child. And I don't remember the actual names. One is just real. I don't remember the rest. But the first name of the first child meant not my people. And he said, you're going to name your child not my people because Israel, not Judah, Israel has betrayed me. Israel has talked and acted and walked and thought as if they don't want to be my children, as if they don't care to be my people, so now they no longer will be my people. So you will name your first child as assigned to Israel, not my people. You will name your second child as assigned to Israel, not my God, because in word and thought and action, they have betrayed me as their God. They no longer want me as their God, so I'm going to grant them their wish. You name your second child, not my God. The third child, I want you to name no mercy, because through their words and through the thoughts and through their deeds, they do not want my mercy anymore. So name the child no mercy, for I will not show them mercy. And as you read it, you think, this makes sense. I know this love. I understand this judgment. I get this reciprocity. I offered myself to you. I made you my people. You acted as if you didn't want to be my people. Eventually, you're not. I made myself your God. You acted like you wanted other gods to worship Baal or whatever else. So eventually, I'm not your God. I offered you mercy. You said, no thanks, we don't need your mercy. Fine, I'm not going to offer you my mercy. And then you read chapter 2. Chapter 2 is this long poem. And in it, he details the unfaithfulness of his bride, Israel. And then all the things that he was doing behind the scenes to provide for her, care for her, love for her, that she didn't realize. And then ultimately, she still spat on him and who he was. But even after that, chapter two ends with this verse. It just sat me down right there in my seat. It just blew me back. Even after that, after Israel does nothing, they have not apologized. They have not looked at the example of Hosea and been like, oh no, what do we do? They are not repentant. They are not sorry. They have not come back to God at all. And in the midst of that, God says this, and I will have mercy on no mercy. And I will say to not my people, you are my people. And he shall say, you are my God. Even after not repenting, even after continuing to stomp on the love of God, continuing to betray it in word and in thought and in action, and reject it in word and thought and action, God says to those people, I am your God, you are my people, and I will show you mercy. And he says that to us. His love is overwhelming and never-ending and reckless. And he pursues you. And I don't want you to know it. I want you to feel it. Because here's what happens when you feel it and you walk as if you're loved by God. God's reckless love creates a protective sanctuary from which we are able to offer boundless love as well. How do we transform, transition from offering conditional love to unconditional love? By walking in the deep heart knowledge of the boundless love that Creator God has for us. When you can walk with it here, you can offer it everywhere. Reject me as many times as you like, brother. Creator God loves me. I don't need yours anyways. Say whatever you want to say about me. Betray my trust as many times as you need to before I wear you down and before you accept this love too because God loves me. I don't really need yours. I'm loving you for you. If we want to be transformed from offering human conditional love with boundaries to offering divine, holy, Jesus-enabled and Holy Spirit-inspired love to others, then what we must do is walk in a deep knowledge of the reckless love that God offers to us. I hope you'll go from this place and do that. Let's pray. God, every time I pray, personally or corporately, I pray that I or we love you. And we do. You know that we do. We're just not good at it. So God, would you make us better? And God, would the only effort that we make towards loving you and others more, would the only effort that we make towards that be? To attempt to live in a knowledge that we are loved recklessly and endlessly by you. Would that reality transform our lives, our hearts, how we love, how we live? God, we thank you for your son, the personification of your love, the embodiment of your love, and how he was poured out for us. God, I pray that we would leave this room more certain that you love us, feeling more deeply what your love means than we did when we came in here today. Help us receive and offer your reckless love, Lord. In Jesus' name, amen.
Well, good morning, Grace. My name is Nate. I get to be one of the pastors here. If I haven't gotten the chance to meet you, I'd love to do that in the lobby after the service. I appreciate you being here on this October Sunday. This is the first Sunday where I'm really seeing a lot of sweaters and flannels, and it's just making me so, so very happy that it's cool weather finally. Nothing in my life requires the temperature to ever be above 70 degrees. So I'm very happy to be in the fall. We are wrapping up our series, as Kyle mentioned earlier, this Sunday called Transformed, where we're talking about God transforming us in different ways. This morning, we're going to be focused on transforming our love from conditional to unconditional love. How do we move from conditional love to being able to offer unconditional love, which is a lot more challenging than we might think at first. And in a way, the next series that we're doing is called The Songs We Sing, and it's one I told you about last week. I'm very excited about it because it's one that we've wanted to do for about two and a half years, I think. I've had it in the kitty. I've wanted to do it. We weren't sure the right time to deploy it, and we felt like this fall was the right time. This is what we want to do. And so it's really going to be a six-week series focused on worship. We're going to look at individual worship songs and where they come from in Scripture, imbue them with not more meaning, but the meaning that they had from the author that wrote them and see them in Scripture so that they can mean more to us and really move through a theology of worship learning why we do it. So I'm very excited for that series, and I hope it will be a very meaningful one in the life of Grace. This Sunday is almost like kind of part one of that. It's a transition between transformed and between the songs we sing because we just sang this song, Reckless Love, the reckless love of God. And that's where we're going to rest today. As we approach the idea, I wanted to share with you an idea about love that I encountered years ago, two, three years ago, and it stuck with me, and it's really, it's kind of transformed the way I think about love, and it definitely helps me as I counsel with couples who are going to get married as I do premarital counseling and all of those things, and you'll see why in a minute. But this idea that was presented to me about love is the concept that we all love with boundaries. We all offer our love with some boundaries around it. I'm going to love this person or this thing, but I'm going to love them within some parameters that I've set up. And if this person or thing ventures outside those parameters, I will no longer love you. I'm going to love this puppy until it goes to the bathroom on my bed. Then that is outside the parameters of love. I no longer love this puppy. That scarred me for my whole life, right? Maybe I wouldn't assume that all of you love me. I think some of you do. Maybe you feel kind thoughts towards me. I would hope that none of you exist in open hostility towards me, but maybe you have some affection for me as your pastor. But if I got up here next week and I told you how to vote next year, some of you would be like, that is outside my bounds of love. I no longer feel those feelings of affection towards you, right? There's plenty of things I could get up here and say that would be outside your boundaries of affection for me. There's things that could come up about stuff in the shadows that you would go, well, that's outside, that behavior is outside the bounds of love that I would have for a pastor, so I'm out. You see, we all love with boundaries. We all love with parameters. And this is just kind of as an aside, something that I always say to the couples that I'm doing premarital counseling with. It's important in our marriages to love with broad borders, big expansive boundaries, because the truth of marriage is people don't stay the same. When you get married, you're not just committing to loving that person that you're married, but you're committed to loving the version of them that unfolds 10 years down the road. When we walk the aisle, it fundamentally changes who we are as a person. When we have children, it fundamentally changes who we are as a person. When we get into our careers, when we start to learn ourselves a little bit more, new hobbies open up and those changes, new desires and passions open up and we evolve as people, or at least we should, and those changes. So even this notion in marriage of looking at your spouse and going, you're not who I married. Yeah, no kidding. This shouldn't be unless you married a real dud. So we love with broad borders and allow the person in our marriage to become whoever they need to become, whoever God designed them to be. And that's the love that we should offer to other people is borders that are broad and wide and generous and gracious where we allow God to work in the lives of these people and we don't set tight parameters of our love around the objects of our love. But you can also make an argument that we love with boundaries because these boundaries protect us. We love with these boundaries because life has taught us to love with boundaries. Because those boundaries protect us from hurt. When love goes unreciprocated, when you care a great deal for someone, and at no point in this for the rest of the day am I talking about a romantic love. I just want to be clear. I'm talking about phileo love, the brotherly love, an affectionate love. If we offer our love and affection to somebody over and over and over again and it goes unreciprocated, then eventually it's going to hurt too much to offer that love and we're going to stop. If we offer someone our love and trust and they betray us and they show us that they're not worthy of our love, enough times eventually it's going to hurt so much to offer it to them that we are going to stop. So we naturally develop these borders around the love that we offer to other people and to other things because after those things have hurt us enough or disappointed us enough, we withdraw our love because it hurts too much to extend it. I have a friend that I've had since high school. Really good buddy of mine. And it's probably four or five years ago now, it kind of came to light that his wife was an addict. She was addicted to pills. And it was profoundly impacting their marriage, obviously. And he, for years, had tried to love her in spite of, and eventually had to let other people in on the struggle that they carried together. And it led to her doing things that were not legal to acquire the things that she felt like she needed. And she became more and more distant from my friend. They together had three kids. She had a daughter from a previous relationship but was so close to my friend that she called him dad. So they ostensibly had four kids together and she was completely absent. And I watched him love her faithfully through that. I watched him think the best of her and hope the best of her. Continue to try to rehabilitate and rejuvenate her. And then the time came when she eventually broke down and she needed to go to rehab and rehab lasted several months for her. And I watched him hold together the pieces of his life, try to raise four kids that ran the gamut in age from elementary school to high school. I watched him try to hold everything together. He's an accountant. He had a really good job and his bosses knew what he was going through, but they had to pull him aside and be like, dude, we're not getting any productivity out of you. You can't do your job well right now. We need you to do better. And they worked with him and they worked with him and he felt the pressure and he felt bad. During the season of life, he and I would talk on the phone two and three times a week. And you could just see him spinning out of control and falling apart at the seams. And eventually his bosses came to him at work and they were like, we hate to do this, but you need to look for another job. Because if you stay here, we're going to have to fire you and we don't want to do that. His life was hard. And then in the middle of this, as she's gotten out of rehab and has started to go to different meetings throughout the week. What I felt was inevitable, unearthed as true, she was unfaithful to him as well with somebody in the rehab group. And even in the face of that reality, my friend continued to love her, continued to hope for her and for them and for their best future. And it was hard to watch. And I began to just gently tell him, it may be time to move away. It may be time to move on for your sake and for the sake of the kids. The language I didn't have was, she's ventured outside of any boundaries that should be required of you. And it may be time to admit that she's never coming back in. And he still couldn't do it, wouldn't do it. Still determined to love her. And one day we were on the phone and he said, man, it feels like I'm just throwing myself against a brick wall. And I get up and I dust myself off and I don't know what to do. And I said, dude, not to make it about me, but he decided it was time to make that decision. And so they separated and eventually divorced. And if you fast forward now, now he's living in the Brady Bunch. He married a lady. I think she has three kids. They have seven kids in this house. And it's nuts, but he's happy and she loves him well. And the whole experience actually brought him back to God. But there are times in life when those boundaries are necessary because they protect us. We offer very little boundless love. I can really only think of two situations where we approach offering limitless love to someone or something. The first is to our children. Most parents have incredibly generous borders around the love for their children, and this is a good model for how God loves us. The other place where we seem to have boundless borders around our love is in our sports fandom. We just, NC State fans, you know this. You know this well. Every year, every year, maybe they'll be good. Maybe they won't disappoint me. Maybe they'll take a step forward. And then they just slam into the brick wall of mediocrity. And what do you do? You get yourself up. You dust yourself off. The next year is going to be different. And here's what's awful. Here's what you do is you impart that on your children masochistically. These people that you love boundlessly, now you parade them to the game with you so it becomes a part of their soul. And now they're Wolfpack fans too. Great. They get to endure a life of pain. And I know this masochism well because Lily's a Georgia Tech fan. And I know that we had a big victory last night. Whoop-dee-doo. Guess what? We're still bad at football, and we're going to be bad at football for decades. We offer very little boundless love in our life. And because we are used to offering our love with boundaries, and we are used to receiving love with boundaries, we understand that when someone shows us affection and love and care, that there's some parameter, there's a fence that we need to stay inside of. We get that concept. Because we give and receive love with boundaries, we assume that God has boundaries too. We assume that there must be some parameters around the love that God offers to me because every other experience of love in my life carries those parameters and I know that I need to stay within them or offer within them, and so God must love me in that same way. And the thing that happens that I've seen being a Christian for as far back as I can remember is that when you're in, when you're in the church, when you've been a long-time Christian, you hear about the boundless and the reckless love of God, and you're like, yes, amen. That's absolutely true. To the sinner out there who's disappointing God with every word, thought, and action that they have, who's so far from God, they come to know him, and they get the good news, the good news of the gospel. Hey, God loves you boundlessly. He loves you recklessly. He loves you with no parameters at all. Just be swept up into that love and ushered into heaven. We love that message. That's a good message. That's the Christian message. That's the miracle of the gospel. The problem is that once we receive that love and feel that love, we move into the process of sanctification, becoming more like Christ in character, and we start to disappoint God, and we start to let him down down and we start to return to some of the sins that we employed previously and we slide into and out of fervency, into and out of spiritual attendedness, into and out of faithful pursuit of him. There are times when we run our race well. There are times when we take a breather and we walk and there are times when we just sit down and consider whether or not we want to continue the race at all. And we assume, Christians, that we have ventured outside the parameters of God's love. And the love that he once had for me, he still has, but not as much because I've tainted it. Because I should know better. Because I know what I'm going to go do. I know what I'm planning to go do. I know that if you put me in this situation with this group of people, what I am capable of doing. I know my private heart conditions. I know my prejudices and my biases, and I am not going to be letting those go anytime soon. So God must be disappointed in me. I think that's how most Christians go through their life. To put it more pointedly, if you were God, would you still love you? If you were God in heaven, would you still love you? Let's make you God and me you. And you offered for me the thing that you valued the most in all of your existence, your only son. You sent him and you watched him die for my sake. And I saw that gift and I saw your love and I saw your sacrifice and I saw his suffering, the same suffering that you watched and I I said, thanks for that. And I put it in my back pocket. And then for the rest of my days, I lived as if that weren't true. I lived outside of gratitude for it. I did whatever I wanted. You said, I'm doing this for you. Let me be the Lord of my life and I'll give you the best life possible. And I said, I'm going to accept your eternal life. I'm going to put that in my back pocket, save it for a rainy day. And I I'm actually gonna choose my version of a good life because I think I know what it is better than yours. Yours seems lame and boring. Mine is super awesome and fun. So I'm gonna do what I wanna do. And every now and again, I'm gonna lean towards Jesus. I'm gonna make it look to everyone around me like I've got my act together and I'm doing the right things and I read my Bible and I pray and I make wise choices. But you and I both know that I'm really not living under your lordship at all. But at the end of my life, when it comes time, I'm gonna pull out that card and be like, so I get in, right? Would you still love me? If that was my attitude towards your gift? There's a reason that most of us feel like God is disappointed in us. There's a reason why when I ask a question like, if God still loves you, if you were God, would you still love you? And it's because we've been programmed to assume that God's love works the same way ours does. That there's parameters, there's borders, that there's a limit. But thank God that this human God, this God that loves like a person, is not the God at all that's described in Scripture. Thank God that the God in Scripture is described as offering a love that is utterly impossible for us and unknown to us outside of knowing him. And I'm going to read some scriptures and go through and show you this never-ending reckless love of God from scripture. But as I do that, the temptation, I believe, for us Christians in the room is to say, I know that. Yeah, I know God loves me no matter what. I get it. He loves me no matter what. He loves me recklessly. He loves me to the end of the earth. He removes my sins as far as the east is from the west. Some of you can probably guess the verses that I'm going to use. I know God loves me. Yeah. Listen. You know God loves you here. But when's the last time you felt God's love here? We know intellectually he loves us. Do we walk filled with the love of God through our days and offering that freely and graciously to others? Do we live out that verse from his goodness? We have all received grace upon grace. The initial grace is God's And from his fullness, we receive that and we spill it out onto others. Do you walk through your days knowing here, deep in your soul, that God loves you and it's the only love that you ever need and you can stop chasing it in other places because he is all sufficient for you? Do you walk in a heart knowledge of God's relentless love of you? I don't. I know I don't. Because every now and again I do. And when I do, those days are different. When I walk with a soul knowledge that I am loved by the creator God, that he finds no fault in me because of his son, I'm a better husband, I'll tell you that. I'm a more patient father. I'm a more gracious friend. I'm a more diligent pastor. I'm a much more patient driver. Do you go through your days with some sort of mental assent that yes, there's a God and he loves me? Or do you go through your days feeling it beat in your chest and in your soul that God loves you deeply and there's nothing you can ever do to change that? So as I go through these verses, don't be the pious Christian that gives intellectual assent to what I'm going to say, but let God's love rest on your soul this morning. That you might know and accept and walk in the fact that you are loved deeply by your creator. This is what he says in Jeremiah 31.3. I've just got a list of passages here that I want you to hear this morning. The Lord appeared to him from far away. I have loved you with an everlasting love. Therefore, I have continued my faithfulness to you. Now he's speaking here in Jeremiah to God's people, to the Israelites, but we know that if we are Christians, if we profess a faith in Christ, then we are God's people too. And so this verse, and God's love applies to us, he loves us in an everlasting way. And so he remains faithful to us. Nehemiah says, back in the desert when you freed us from slavery and we were wandering around for those 40 years, we trampled on you. We rejected you. You gave us manna every day and we didn't care. You gave us laws and we didn't want them. You gave us provision and we didn't care for it. We wanted to actually go back to Egypt and worship their gods. We stubbed our, I don't know the right phrase. We snubbed our nose at you. Is that a thing? We refused your help. And by all rights, you should have rejected us. But you didn't. Because you're slow to anger and you're abounding in steadfast love and mercy. And he did not forsake them. And then John writes at the end of his life, 1 John chapter 4. Your notes have 9 through 11, but the first three words are from verse 8. God is love. In this, the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only son into the world so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God, but that he loved us and sent his son to be the propitiation of our sins. I mentioned the sacrifice of Christ earlier. That is the picture of love. That is love literally becoming flesh and suffering for us, with us, to bring us with him into eternal not suffering. And he leads off this section, John does, by saying God is love. He is the personification of love. You cannot think of pure love and be thinking not of God. Any person who's ever existed without a knowledge of God, who refuses to acknowledge the existence of God, when they think of love, when they feel love, they are thinking of God, they are feeling God, even if they don't realize it because God is love. He is found in that emotion. He is found in that desire and in that affection. God claims to be love itself. And if that's true, then I would like for you to allow me the license to reword Paul's famous poem on love in 1 Corinthians chapter 13. If we replace the word love, love is patient, love is kind, doesn't envy, does not boast. If we replace that with God, because God is love, then it reads like this and resonates with me. God is patient. God is kind. He does not envy. He does not boast. He is not proud. He does not dishonor others. God is not self-seeking. He is not easily angered. He keeps no record of wrongs. God does not delight in trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. God never fails. That's the love that your God offers to you. He loves you with an everlasting love. And because of that, he is steadfast in his faithfulness to you, even when you are unfaithful to him. He always persists. He always hopes in you. He never fails you. He keeps no record of your wrongs. We sing that song right before the sermon, the overwhelming, never-ending, reckless love of God. And it's funny to me, when that song first came out, there was debate in theological circles because theological circles like to have stupid debates to justify their existence. And there was a school of thought that the recklessness there was that shouldn't be in a worship song. We shouldn't attribute that to God. That's a negative thing. That means he's foolhardy. It's some sort of error that he's making in loving us. And I always thought that was absurd. God's love is reckless because he loves with no regard for himself. God's love for you is reckless because he's the only entity in eternity that can love with a boundless love with no parameters to protect himself. God will slam against the wall of your apathy over and over and over again for your entire life and get himself up and dust himself off and heal himself up and chase after you again. And eventually, I'm just going to tell you, he's going to Kool-Aid man through that brick wall of yours. He's going to get you. But in the meantime, he's going to keep coming. And our sin and our obstinance and our apathy can keep holding him at bay, but he's not going to stop following you. He's not going to stop pursuing you. He's not going to stop chasing you. You're not going to hurt him enough that he has to withdraw and retract and say, I just can't do it. It hurts too much to continue to love her. He's just going to keep coming because that's the love of God. I've gotten into this habit recently that I would honestly highly recommend for my Bible readers. When it's time for my reading time in the morning, I've started trying to figure out what's the thing I'm feeling or thinking about the most right now. And then I read the book of the Bible that I feel like most aligns with that. If the book's short enough, I just read the whole thing. And so this morning, knowing that I was preaching about this, I sat down to read Hosea. Some of my scholars in the room know that that's what the whole book of Hosea is about. An overview of the book of Hosea is there's a prophet, I bet you can guess his name, and he is told by God to go marry a lady of the night named Gomer, which could there be a more tempting name for a lady of the night than Gomer? God says, I want you to go marry her. I want you to make her an honest woman. Go pay the bride price, and I want you to marry her. And your marriage to her is to be a picture, is to be a picture of my marriage to Israel that has gone and been unfaithful to me and cheated on me with other gods and with other priorities and yet I'm still choosing them. So you're gonna go marry her as a picture for how I love you. They got married, They had three kids. After they had three kids, she left and she went back to her old ways. Because I think when you're in a lifestyle like that or others like that, that it's difficult to always fully depart from them. She went back to her old ways. And God said, Hosea, go pay her bride price and marry her again. And he did it. And then she left him again and he went and got her again. And the whole book is a picture of God's love for Israel, God's love for you and me. So I sat down to reread it this morning and I didn't even get through, I didn't even get it past the second chapter because in the second chapter we see, or it might be in the first chapter where she has the kids, yeah, it's the first chapter. Because in the second chapter, we see, or it might be in the first chapter where she has the kids. Yeah, it's the first chapter. She has the kids and God, whenever she gets pregnant, God tells Hosea what to name the child. And I don't remember the actual names. One is just real. I don't remember the rest. But the first name of the first child meant not my people. And he said, you're going to name your child not my people because Israel, not Judah, Israel has betrayed me. Israel has talked and acted and walked and thought as if they don't want to be my children, as if they don't care to be my people, so now they no longer will be my people. So you will name your first child as assigned to Israel, not my people. You will name your second child as assigned to Israel, not my God, because in word and thought and action, they have betrayed me as their God. They no longer want me as their God, so I'm going to grant them their wish. You name your second child, not my God. The third child, I want you to name no mercy, because through their words and through the thoughts and through their deeds, they do not want my mercy anymore. So name the child no mercy, for I will not show them mercy. And as you read it, you think, this makes sense. I know this love. I understand this judgment. I get this reciprocity. I offered myself to you. I made you my people. You acted as if you didn't want to be my people. Eventually, you're not. I made myself your God. You acted like you wanted other gods to worship Baal or whatever else. So eventually, I'm not your God. I offered you mercy. You said, no thanks, we don't need your mercy. Fine, I'm not going to offer you my mercy. And then you read chapter 2. Chapter 2 is this long poem. And in it, he details the unfaithfulness of his bride, Israel. And then all the things that he was doing behind the scenes to provide for her, care for her, love for her, that she didn't realize. And then ultimately, she still spat on him and who he was. But even after that, chapter two ends with this verse. It just sat me down right there in my seat. It just blew me back. Even after that, after Israel does nothing, they have not apologized. They have not looked at the example of Hosea and been like, oh no, what do we do? They are not repentant. They are not sorry. They have not come back to God at all. And in the midst of that, God says this, and I will have mercy on no mercy. And I will say to not my people, you are my people. And he shall say, you are my God. Even after not repenting, even after continuing to stomp on the love of God, continuing to betray it in word and in thought and in action, and reject it in word and thought and action, God says to those people, I am your God, you are my people, and I will show you mercy. And he says that to us. His love is overwhelming and never-ending and reckless. And he pursues you. And I don't want you to know it. I want you to feel it. Because here's what happens when you feel it and you walk as if you're loved by God. God's reckless love creates a protective sanctuary from which we are able to offer boundless love as well. How do we transform, transition from offering conditional love to unconditional love? By walking in the deep heart knowledge of the boundless love that Creator God has for us. When you can walk with it here, you can offer it everywhere. Reject me as many times as you like, brother. Creator God loves me. I don't need yours anyways. Say whatever you want to say about me. Betray my trust as many times as you need to before I wear you down and before you accept this love too because God loves me. I don't really need yours. I'm loving you for you. If we want to be transformed from offering human conditional love with boundaries to offering divine, holy, Jesus-enabled and Holy Spirit-inspired love to others, then what we must do is walk in a deep knowledge of the reckless love that God offers to us. I hope you'll go from this place and do that. Let's pray. God, every time I pray, personally or corporately, I pray that I or we love you. And we do. You know that we do. We're just not good at it. So God, would you make us better? And God, would the only effort that we make towards loving you and others more, would the only effort that we make towards that be? To attempt to live in a knowledge that we are loved recklessly and endlessly by you. Would that reality transform our lives, our hearts, how we love, how we live? God, we thank you for your son, the personification of your love, the embodiment of your love, and how he was poured out for us. God, I pray that we would leave this room more certain that you love us, feeling more deeply what your love means than we did when we came in here today. Help us receive and offer your reckless love, Lord. In Jesus' name, amen.
Well, good morning, Grace. My name is Nate. I get to be one of the pastors here. If I haven't gotten the chance to meet you, I'd love to do that in the lobby after the service. I appreciate you being here on this October Sunday. This is the first Sunday where I'm really seeing a lot of sweaters and flannels, and it's just making me so, so very happy that it's cool weather finally. Nothing in my life requires the temperature to ever be above 70 degrees. So I'm very happy to be in the fall. We are wrapping up our series, as Kyle mentioned earlier, this Sunday called Transformed, where we're talking about God transforming us in different ways. This morning, we're going to be focused on transforming our love from conditional to unconditional love. How do we move from conditional love to being able to offer unconditional love, which is a lot more challenging than we might think at first. And in a way, the next series that we're doing is called The Songs We Sing, and it's one I told you about last week. I'm very excited about it because it's one that we've wanted to do for about two and a half years, I think. I've had it in the kitty. I've wanted to do it. We weren't sure the right time to deploy it, and we felt like this fall was the right time. This is what we want to do. And so it's really going to be a six-week series focused on worship. We're going to look at individual worship songs and where they come from in Scripture, imbue them with not more meaning, but the meaning that they had from the author that wrote them and see them in Scripture so that they can mean more to us and really move through a theology of worship learning why we do it. So I'm very excited for that series, and I hope it will be a very meaningful one in the life of Grace. This Sunday is almost like kind of part one of that. It's a transition between transformed and between the songs we sing because we just sang this song, Reckless Love, the reckless love of God. And that's where we're going to rest today. As we approach the idea, I wanted to share with you an idea about love that I encountered years ago, two, three years ago, and it stuck with me, and it's really, it's kind of transformed the way I think about love, and it definitely helps me as I counsel with couples who are going to get married as I do premarital counseling and all of those things, and you'll see why in a minute. But this idea that was presented to me about love is the concept that we all love with boundaries. We all offer our love with some boundaries around it. I'm going to love this person or this thing, but I'm going to love them within some parameters that I've set up. And if this person or thing ventures outside those parameters, I will no longer love you. I'm going to love this puppy until it goes to the bathroom on my bed. Then that is outside the parameters of love. I no longer love this puppy. That scarred me for my whole life, right? Maybe I wouldn't assume that all of you love me. I think some of you do. Maybe you feel kind thoughts towards me. I would hope that none of you exist in open hostility towards me, but maybe you have some affection for me as your pastor. But if I got up here next week and I told you how to vote next year, some of you would be like, that is outside my bounds of love. I no longer feel those feelings of affection towards you, right? There's plenty of things I could get up here and say that would be outside your boundaries of affection for me. There's things that could come up about stuff in the shadows that you would go, well, that's outside, that behavior is outside the bounds of love that I would have for a pastor, so I'm out. You see, we all love with boundaries. We all love with parameters. And this is just kind of as an aside, something that I always say to the couples that I'm doing premarital counseling with. It's important in our marriages to love with broad borders, big expansive boundaries, because the truth of marriage is people don't stay the same. When you get married, you're not just committing to loving that person that you're married, but you're committed to loving the version of them that unfolds 10 years down the road. When we walk the aisle, it fundamentally changes who we are as a person. When we have children, it fundamentally changes who we are as a person. When we get into our careers, when we start to learn ourselves a little bit more, new hobbies open up and those changes, new desires and passions open up and we evolve as people, or at least we should, and those changes. So even this notion in marriage of looking at your spouse and going, you're not who I married. Yeah, no kidding. This shouldn't be unless you married a real dud. So we love with broad borders and allow the person in our marriage to become whoever they need to become, whoever God designed them to be. And that's the love that we should offer to other people is borders that are broad and wide and generous and gracious where we allow God to work in the lives of these people and we don't set tight parameters of our love around the objects of our love. But you can also make an argument that we love with boundaries because these boundaries protect us. We love with these boundaries because life has taught us to love with boundaries. Because those boundaries protect us from hurt. When love goes unreciprocated, when you care a great deal for someone, and at no point in this for the rest of the day am I talking about a romantic love. I just want to be clear. I'm talking about phileo love, the brotherly love, an affectionate love. If we offer our love and affection to somebody over and over and over again and it goes unreciprocated, then eventually it's going to hurt too much to offer that love and we're going to stop. If we offer someone our love and trust and they betray us and they show us that they're not worthy of our love, enough times eventually it's going to hurt so much to offer it to them that we are going to stop. So we naturally develop these borders around the love that we offer to other people and to other things because after those things have hurt us enough or disappointed us enough, we withdraw our love because it hurts too much to extend it. I have a friend that I've had since high school. Really good buddy of mine. And it's probably four or five years ago now, it kind of came to light that his wife was an addict. She was addicted to pills. And it was profoundly impacting their marriage, obviously. And he, for years, had tried to love her in spite of, and eventually had to let other people in on the struggle that they carried together. And it led to her doing things that were not legal to acquire the things that she felt like she needed. And she became more and more distant from my friend. They together had three kids. She had a daughter from a previous relationship but was so close to my friend that she called him dad. So they ostensibly had four kids together and she was completely absent. And I watched him love her faithfully through that. I watched him think the best of her and hope the best of her. Continue to try to rehabilitate and rejuvenate her. And then the time came when she eventually broke down and she needed to go to rehab and rehab lasted several months for her. And I watched him hold together the pieces of his life, try to raise four kids that ran the gamut in age from elementary school to high school. I watched him try to hold everything together. He's an accountant. He had a really good job and his bosses knew what he was going through, but they had to pull him aside and be like, dude, we're not getting any productivity out of you. You can't do your job well right now. We need you to do better. And they worked with him and they worked with him and he felt the pressure and he felt bad. During the season of life, he and I would talk on the phone two and three times a week. And you could just see him spinning out of control and falling apart at the seams. And eventually his bosses came to him at work and they were like, we hate to do this, but you need to look for another job. Because if you stay here, we're going to have to fire you and we don't want to do that. His life was hard. And then in the middle of this, as she's gotten out of rehab and has started to go to different meetings throughout the week. What I felt was inevitable, unearthed as true, she was unfaithful to him as well with somebody in the rehab group. And even in the face of that reality, my friend continued to love her, continued to hope for her and for them and for their best future. And it was hard to watch. And I began to just gently tell him, it may be time to move away. It may be time to move on for your sake and for the sake of the kids. The language I didn't have was, she's ventured outside of any boundaries that should be required of you. And it may be time to admit that she's never coming back in. And he still couldn't do it, wouldn't do it. Still determined to love her. And one day we were on the phone and he said, man, it feels like I'm just throwing myself against a brick wall. And I get up and I dust myself off and I don't know what to do. And I said, dude, not to make it about me, but he decided it was time to make that decision. And so they separated and eventually divorced. And if you fast forward now, now he's living in the Brady Bunch. He married a lady. I think she has three kids. They have seven kids in this house. And it's nuts, but he's happy and she loves him well. And the whole experience actually brought him back to God. But there are times in life when those boundaries are necessary because they protect us. We offer very little boundless love. I can really only think of two situations where we approach offering limitless love to someone or something. The first is to our children. Most parents have incredibly generous borders around the love for their children, and this is a good model for how God loves us. The other place where we seem to have boundless borders around our love is in our sports fandom. We just, NC State fans, you know this. You know this well. Every year, every year, maybe they'll be good. Maybe they won't disappoint me. Maybe they'll take a step forward. And then they just slam into the brick wall of mediocrity. And what do you do? You get yourself up. You dust yourself off. The next year is going to be different. And here's what's awful. Here's what you do is you impart that on your children masochistically. These people that you love boundlessly, now you parade them to the game with you so it becomes a part of their soul. And now they're Wolfpack fans too. Great. They get to endure a life of pain. And I know this masochism well because Lily's a Georgia Tech fan. And I know that we had a big victory last night. Whoop-dee-doo. Guess what? We're still bad at football, and we're going to be bad at football for decades. We offer very little boundless love in our life. And because we are used to offering our love with boundaries, and we are used to receiving love with boundaries, we understand that when someone shows us affection and love and care, that there's some parameter, there's a fence that we need to stay inside of. We get that concept. Because we give and receive love with boundaries, we assume that God has boundaries too. We assume that there must be some parameters around the love that God offers to me because every other experience of love in my life carries those parameters and I know that I need to stay within them or offer within them, and so God must love me in that same way. And the thing that happens that I've seen being a Christian for as far back as I can remember is that when you're in, when you're in the church, when you've been a long-time Christian, you hear about the boundless and the reckless love of God, and you're like, yes, amen. That's absolutely true. To the sinner out there who's disappointing God with every word, thought, and action that they have, who's so far from God, they come to know him, and they get the good news, the good news of the gospel. Hey, God loves you boundlessly. He loves you recklessly. He loves you with no parameters at all. Just be swept up into that love and ushered into heaven. We love that message. That's a good message. That's the Christian message. That's the miracle of the gospel. The problem is that once we receive that love and feel that love, we move into the process of sanctification, becoming more like Christ in character, and we start to disappoint God, and we start to let him down down and we start to return to some of the sins that we employed previously and we slide into and out of fervency, into and out of spiritual attendedness, into and out of faithful pursuit of him. There are times when we run our race well. There are times when we take a breather and we walk and there are times when we just sit down and consider whether or not we want to continue the race at all. And we assume, Christians, that we have ventured outside the parameters of God's love. And the love that he once had for me, he still has, but not as much because I've tainted it. Because I should know better. Because I know what I'm going to go do. I know what I'm planning to go do. I know that if you put me in this situation with this group of people, what I am capable of doing. I know my private heart conditions. I know my prejudices and my biases, and I am not going to be letting those go anytime soon. So God must be disappointed in me. I think that's how most Christians go through their life. To put it more pointedly, if you were God, would you still love you? If you were God in heaven, would you still love you? Let's make you God and me you. And you offered for me the thing that you valued the most in all of your existence, your only son. You sent him and you watched him die for my sake. And I saw that gift and I saw your love and I saw your sacrifice and I saw his suffering, the same suffering that you watched and I I said, thanks for that. And I put it in my back pocket. And then for the rest of my days, I lived as if that weren't true. I lived outside of gratitude for it. I did whatever I wanted. You said, I'm doing this for you. Let me be the Lord of my life and I'll give you the best life possible. And I said, I'm going to accept your eternal life. I'm going to put that in my back pocket, save it for a rainy day. And I I'm actually gonna choose my version of a good life because I think I know what it is better than yours. Yours seems lame and boring. Mine is super awesome and fun. So I'm gonna do what I wanna do. And every now and again, I'm gonna lean towards Jesus. I'm gonna make it look to everyone around me like I've got my act together and I'm doing the right things and I read my Bible and I pray and I make wise choices. But you and I both know that I'm really not living under your lordship at all. But at the end of my life, when it comes time, I'm gonna pull out that card and be like, so I get in, right? Would you still love me? If that was my attitude towards your gift? There's a reason that most of us feel like God is disappointed in us. There's a reason why when I ask a question like, if God still loves you, if you were God, would you still love you? And it's because we've been programmed to assume that God's love works the same way ours does. That there's parameters, there's borders, that there's a limit. But thank God that this human God, this God that loves like a person, is not the God at all that's described in Scripture. Thank God that the God in Scripture is described as offering a love that is utterly impossible for us and unknown to us outside of knowing him. And I'm going to read some scriptures and go through and show you this never-ending reckless love of God from scripture. But as I do that, the temptation, I believe, for us Christians in the room is to say, I know that. Yeah, I know God loves me no matter what. I get it. He loves me no matter what. He loves me recklessly. He loves me to the end of the earth. He removes my sins as far as the east is from the west. Some of you can probably guess the verses that I'm going to use. I know God loves me. Yeah. Listen. You know God loves you here. But when's the last time you felt God's love here? We know intellectually he loves us. Do we walk filled with the love of God through our days and offering that freely and graciously to others? Do we live out that verse from his goodness? We have all received grace upon grace. The initial grace is God's And from his fullness, we receive that and we spill it out onto others. Do you walk through your days knowing here, deep in your soul, that God loves you and it's the only love that you ever need and you can stop chasing it in other places because he is all sufficient for you? Do you walk in a heart knowledge of God's relentless love of you? I don't. I know I don't. Because every now and again I do. And when I do, those days are different. When I walk with a soul knowledge that I am loved by the creator God, that he finds no fault in me because of his son, I'm a better husband, I'll tell you that. I'm a more patient father. I'm a more gracious friend. I'm a more diligent pastor. I'm a much more patient driver. Do you go through your days with some sort of mental assent that yes, there's a God and he loves me? Or do you go through your days feeling it beat in your chest and in your soul that God loves you deeply and there's nothing you can ever do to change that? So as I go through these verses, don't be the pious Christian that gives intellectual assent to what I'm going to say, but let God's love rest on your soul this morning. That you might know and accept and walk in the fact that you are loved deeply by your creator. This is what he says in Jeremiah 31.3. I've just got a list of passages here that I want you to hear this morning. The Lord appeared to him from far away. I have loved you with an everlasting love. Therefore, I have continued my faithfulness to you. Now he's speaking here in Jeremiah to God's people, to the Israelites, but we know that if we are Christians, if we profess a faith in Christ, then we are God's people too. And so this verse, and God's love applies to us, he loves us in an everlasting way. And so he remains faithful to us. Nehemiah says, back in the desert when you freed us from slavery and we were wandering around for those 40 years, we trampled on you. We rejected you. You gave us manna every day and we didn't care. You gave us laws and we didn't want them. You gave us provision and we didn't care for it. We wanted to actually go back to Egypt and worship their gods. We stubbed our, I don't know the right phrase. We snubbed our nose at you. Is that a thing? We refused your help. And by all rights, you should have rejected us. But you didn't. Because you're slow to anger and you're abounding in steadfast love and mercy. And he did not forsake them. And then John writes at the end of his life, 1 John chapter 4. Your notes have 9 through 11, but the first three words are from verse 8. God is love. In this, the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only son into the world so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God, but that he loved us and sent his son to be the propitiation of our sins. I mentioned the sacrifice of Christ earlier. That is the picture of love. That is love literally becoming flesh and suffering for us, with us, to bring us with him into eternal not suffering. And he leads off this section, John does, by saying God is love. He is the personification of love. You cannot think of pure love and be thinking not of God. Any person who's ever existed without a knowledge of God, who refuses to acknowledge the existence of God, when they think of love, when they feel love, they are thinking of God, they are feeling God, even if they don't realize it because God is love. He is found in that emotion. He is found in that desire and in that affection. God claims to be love itself. And if that's true, then I would like for you to allow me the license to reword Paul's famous poem on love in 1 Corinthians chapter 13. If we replace the word love, love is patient, love is kind, doesn't envy, does not boast. If we replace that with God, because God is love, then it reads like this and resonates with me. God is patient. God is kind. He does not envy. He does not boast. He is not proud. He does not dishonor others. God is not self-seeking. He is not easily angered. He keeps no record of wrongs. God does not delight in trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. God never fails. That's the love that your God offers to you. He loves you with an everlasting love. And because of that, he is steadfast in his faithfulness to you, even when you are unfaithful to him. He always persists. He always hopes in you. He never fails you. He keeps no record of your wrongs. We sing that song right before the sermon, the overwhelming, never-ending, reckless love of God. And it's funny to me, when that song first came out, there was debate in theological circles because theological circles like to have stupid debates to justify their existence. And there was a school of thought that the recklessness there was that shouldn't be in a worship song. We shouldn't attribute that to God. That's a negative thing. That means he's foolhardy. It's some sort of error that he's making in loving us. And I always thought that was absurd. God's love is reckless because he loves with no regard for himself. God's love for you is reckless because he's the only entity in eternity that can love with a boundless love with no parameters to protect himself. God will slam against the wall of your apathy over and over and over again for your entire life and get himself up and dust himself off and heal himself up and chase after you again. And eventually, I'm just going to tell you, he's going to Kool-Aid man through that brick wall of yours. He's going to get you. But in the meantime, he's going to keep coming. And our sin and our obstinance and our apathy can keep holding him at bay, but he's not going to stop following you. He's not going to stop pursuing you. He's not going to stop chasing you. You're not going to hurt him enough that he has to withdraw and retract and say, I just can't do it. It hurts too much to continue to love her. He's just going to keep coming because that's the love of God. I've gotten into this habit recently that I would honestly highly recommend for my Bible readers. When it's time for my reading time in the morning, I've started trying to figure out what's the thing I'm feeling or thinking about the most right now. And then I read the book of the Bible that I feel like most aligns with that. If the book's short enough, I just read the whole thing. And so this morning, knowing that I was preaching about this, I sat down to read Hosea. Some of my scholars in the room know that that's what the whole book of Hosea is about. An overview of the book of Hosea is there's a prophet, I bet you can guess his name, and he is told by God to go marry a lady of the night named Gomer, which could there be a more tempting name for a lady of the night than Gomer? God says, I want you to go marry her. I want you to make her an honest woman. Go pay the bride price, and I want you to marry her. And your marriage to her is to be a picture, is to be a picture of my marriage to Israel that has gone and been unfaithful to me and cheated on me with other gods and with other priorities and yet I'm still choosing them. So you're gonna go marry her as a picture for how I love you. They got married, They had three kids. After they had three kids, she left and she went back to her old ways. Because I think when you're in a lifestyle like that or others like that, that it's difficult to always fully depart from them. She went back to her old ways. And God said, Hosea, go pay her bride price and marry her again. And he did it. And then she left him again and he went and got her again. And the whole book is a picture of God's love for Israel, God's love for you and me. So I sat down to reread it this morning and I didn't even get through, I didn't even get it past the second chapter because in the second chapter we see, or it might be in the first chapter where she has the kids, yeah, it's the first chapter. Because in the second chapter, we see, or it might be in the first chapter where she has the kids. Yeah, it's the first chapter. She has the kids and God, whenever she gets pregnant, God tells Hosea what to name the child. And I don't remember the actual names. One is just real. I don't remember the rest. But the first name of the first child meant not my people. And he said, you're going to name your child not my people because Israel, not Judah, Israel has betrayed me. Israel has talked and acted and walked and thought as if they don't want to be my children, as if they don't care to be my people, so now they no longer will be my people. So you will name your first child as assigned to Israel, not my people. You will name your second child as assigned to Israel, not my God, because in word and thought and action, they have betrayed me as their God. They no longer want me as their God, so I'm going to grant them their wish. You name your second child, not my God. The third child, I want you to name no mercy, because through their words and through the thoughts and through their deeds, they do not want my mercy anymore. So name the child no mercy, for I will not show them mercy. And as you read it, you think, this makes sense. I know this love. I understand this judgment. I get this reciprocity. I offered myself to you. I made you my people. You acted as if you didn't want to be my people. Eventually, you're not. I made myself your God. You acted like you wanted other gods to worship Baal or whatever else. So eventually, I'm not your God. I offered you mercy. You said, no thanks, we don't need your mercy. Fine, I'm not going to offer you my mercy. And then you read chapter 2. Chapter 2 is this long poem. And in it, he details the unfaithfulness of his bride, Israel. And then all the things that he was doing behind the scenes to provide for her, care for her, love for her, that she didn't realize. And then ultimately, she still spat on him and who he was. But even after that, chapter two ends with this verse. It just sat me down right there in my seat. It just blew me back. Even after that, after Israel does nothing, they have not apologized. They have not looked at the example of Hosea and been like, oh no, what do we do? They are not repentant. They are not sorry. They have not come back to God at all. And in the midst of that, God says this, and I will have mercy on no mercy. And I will say to not my people, you are my people. And he shall say, you are my God. Even after not repenting, even after continuing to stomp on the love of God, continuing to betray it in word and in thought and in action, and reject it in word and thought and action, God says to those people, I am your God, you are my people, and I will show you mercy. And he says that to us. His love is overwhelming and never-ending and reckless. And he pursues you. And I don't want you to know it. I want you to feel it. Because here's what happens when you feel it and you walk as if you're loved by God. God's reckless love creates a protective sanctuary from which we are able to offer boundless love as well. How do we transform, transition from offering conditional love to unconditional love? By walking in the deep heart knowledge of the boundless love that Creator God has for us. When you can walk with it here, you can offer it everywhere. Reject me as many times as you like, brother. Creator God loves me. I don't need yours anyways. Say whatever you want to say about me. Betray my trust as many times as you need to before I wear you down and before you accept this love too because God loves me. I don't really need yours. I'm loving you for you. If we want to be transformed from offering human conditional love with boundaries to offering divine, holy, Jesus-enabled and Holy Spirit-inspired love to others, then what we must do is walk in a deep knowledge of the reckless love that God offers to us. I hope you'll go from this place and do that. Let's pray. God, every time I pray, personally or corporately, I pray that I or we love you. And we do. You know that we do. We're just not good at it. So God, would you make us better? And God, would the only effort that we make towards loving you and others more, would the only effort that we make towards that be? To attempt to live in a knowledge that we are loved recklessly and endlessly by you. Would that reality transform our lives, our hearts, how we love, how we live? God, we thank you for your son, the personification of your love, the embodiment of your love, and how he was poured out for us. God, I pray that we would leave this room more certain that you love us, feeling more deeply what your love means than we did when we came in here today. Help us receive and offer your reckless love, Lord. In Jesus' name, amen.
We serve a God who's working through time to bring about His will and ultimately our good. We see the evidence of His sovereignty in the book of Genesis with the life of Joseph. To know and understand the story of Joseph is to get a glimpse into the very heart of God and to be assured that we can trust His plan. Now Joseph remains in prison after being falsely accused by Potiphar's wife. We learned last week that God's favor rested on Joseph, which resulted in his being in charge of the other prisoners. Two of the prisoners under his care were Pharaoh's cupbearer and baker. These two men had dreams that Joseph was able to successfully interpret. In exchange for the interpretations, Joseph asked that the cupbearer would remember him to Pharaoh so he could get out of prison. But the cupbearer forgot about Joseph, and so he remains a prisoner. Joseph must once again choose to trust God and cling to the hope that he has a plan. Morning. Thanks for being here and online. It's great to be with you all. My name's Doug Bergeson, and I'm a partner here at Grace. It's been one day shy of exactly a year since I last preached, so I hope I'm not too rusty. I was asked to speak this past April, but had to decline as I was having a full hip replacement. I only mention that because, and I didn't anticipate it was going to be dark, but if you had seen me spring up on stage, you would have reacted, wow, what quickness, what energy, what, for lack of a better word, cat-like agility. Though I looked like a janky, wrinkled, liver-spotted 64-year-old on the outside, on the inside, I'm now literally bionic, mostly titanium and advanced ceramics. So I just thought that was important for you to know. But getting back to not having preached for a year, I am clearly not the only one who was worried that I was going to be a little rusty. Now, I need to be careful here. I'm flattered and privileged to have been asked to speak. However, over a seven-week sermon series covering 26 chapters in the book of Genesis, Nate has asked me to speak on one verse, Genesis 41.1. Not one chapter, one verse. What's up with that? Now, not what I'd call a ringing endorsement or an unwavering vote of confidence, right? 26 chapters over seven weeks, and I get one verse. Not that anyone would be petty enough to count, but in a series in which Nate will preach on 872 verses, I've been asked to preach on one. And to be perfectly honest, that's not even that good a verse. This is what it says. When two full years passed, Pharaoh had a dream. You tell me, am I overacting? I don't think so. Thank goodness I have a phenomenally large ego, or else I might have been easily devastated by such an obvious slight. A lesser, weaker person, perhaps one humbler and more grounded, probably would have been. Frankly, I don't know what to say about this verse. I don't have much to add. So, and I know this is a little unusual, I'll read Genesis 41.1 one more time, and then I'm going to ask Steve and the band to come back up and lead us in worship for the remainder of the time. Now, for those of you who know me, when I said I had nothing to add, you immediately knew I was kidding. I always have something to add, even when I don't. However, this morning, I hope and pray I do have something to add and that it's helpful. In preparing for this morning and thinking about what I might have to add, I ran across a quote from Howard Hendricks who was a former pastor and professor of theology who passed away several years ago. Hendricks said, it is not too difficult to be biblical if you don't care about being relevant. It's not difficult to be relevant if you don't care about being biblical. But if you want to be both biblical and relevant in your teaching, it's a very difficult task indeed. So as we continue this week to move through one of the greatest stories in the Bible, Joseph from the book of Genesis, That is my goal, to be both biblical and relevant. And to begin, I'd like to open us in prayer using the Apostle Paul's words from his letter to the churches in and around Ephesus, written while he was in prison. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give us the spirit of wisdom and revelation so that we may know him better. Amen. Those two words, wisdom and revelation, are going to be key for us this morning. Wisdom, according to the Bible, is acknowledging and submitting to the fact that God is God and that we are not. And revelation is the process by which God makes something known that was previously secret or unknown. Although God can reveal things to us in other ways, such as through nature, the primary way he chose to reveal things to us is through his written word, the Bible. Now, for most of us who call ourselves Christians, that's not a very controversial statement. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, of course. The Bible is God's revelation to us. In fact, most Christians I've met or read or listened to hold the Bible in high regard and would make that claim without question. Yet it is also my experience that many of us, including me, who make that claim, take our eye off the ball a little bit and lose sight of just what it means for the Bible to be God's revelation to us. How do we take our eye off the ball? How do we lose sight of what it means for the Bible to be God's primary way of communicating and revealing himself to humankind? Well, we do it in a variety of ways. One popular method is by making Scripture primarily about us. How do I lead a good life? How do I raise my kids? How do I handle this or that problem? How do I have a God-centered marriage? Et cetera, et cetera. Now, don't get me wrong. Those aren't bad things to seek and to want to know. They just aren't the primary things, the first things we need to know. Another way we lose sight of what it means for the Bible to be God's revelation is when we make it say what we think it should say or what we want it to say. It's an easy and not uncommon thing to do. Happens all the time in churches. We interpret things a certain way, emphasize some things at the expense of others, ignore or downplay the historical, cultural, literary, and or biblical context of a passage to shape its meaning. When we do that, we read Scripture through our lens rather than God's. And that's not okay. Not if we profess the Bible to be God's revelation, God's word to us. This is no small point. What makes scripture the most valuable thing we will ever read is that it is God telling us about himself. This is who I am. This is what I'm like. This is what's important to me. This is how I operate. This is what I intend to do, and this is how I'm going to do it. It is God's take on things, his revelation, his perspective, his lens. The Bible is also history, but not any old history, not history for history's sake, but a very special history for, again, it's God's take on history, what he deems important, what he thinks we should know. And that is what gives Scripture authority over our lives. It is God's revelation of himself, his purposes, and his plans. Given that, the first question we should always ask ourselves when we read the Bible, the very first question is, what is this passage revealing to me about God? I'll say that again. When we read the Bible, the first question we should be asking ourselves is, what is this telling me about God? My favorite commentary series is the NIV application commentary. As I can't say it any better, I quote, there is nothing more fundamental to biblical revelation than the picture of God that it offers. If we set aside the picture of God affirmed in the text, we have lost our last foothold of authority, unquote. So, despite having been given only one verse, the reason I was still so excited to preach and so looking forward to this morning is that the story of Joseph has few, if any, equals in so clearly and powerfully revealing two giant things we need to know about our God. The first is that he's going to do what he intends to do, what he says he's going to do. And the second is that he's going to do it his way, not our way. Now let's turn back to our story and see the picture of God that it reveals and what it might mean for us today. As a quick recap, way back in time, long before Joseph, humankind had fallen into sin and self-destruction by choosing to reject their creator, the one and only true God, and the world was a complete mess. God began his magnificent plan to forgive, redeem, and restore fallen humanity by choosing one guy to whom God made a most lavish and unconditional promise. To this one guy, a man named Abraham, God promised land, a multitude of descendants who would become a great nation, and that through Abraham's offspring, all peoples in the world would be blessed. The remarkable promise was affirmed to Abraham's son Isaac, and again to his son Jacob. And this is where we are introduced to Joseph, the 11th of 12 sons born to Jacob and Jacob's absolute favorite. We meet Joseph when he is 17 and quickly learn that Jacob's unconcealed love and favor for Joseph, evidenced in part by a fancy robe, have poisoned the waters between Joseph and his older brothers. It probably didn't help that Joseph had given an unflattering report to his father about his brothers and the crummy job they were doing tending the flocks. And if that wasn't enough dysfunction for one family, and apparently it wasn't, Joseph thought it might be a good idea to share with everyone two separate dreams he had which both foretold of a time when the entire family would bow down to him. Scripture matter-of-factly states that his brothers hated him all the more. Imagine that. So the next time Joseph visited his brothers in the countryside, they conspired to kill him. At the very moment they were deciding Joseph's fate, a caravan of merchants heading to Egypt approached their camp. And the brothers had a brainstorm, kind of like a V8 moment. Rather than kill Joseph and deal with all that guilt, why not just sell him to these merchants and make a little cash to boot on the side? As an aside, the text seems to imply that you feel better about yourself and a lot less guilty if you simply sell a sibling into slavery rather than actually killing him. Just something to think about for those of you not getting along with all your brothers and sisters. Anyways, that's what they did. They sold Joseph, and they took his fancy robe, dipped it in goat's blood, and convinced their father that Joseph had been torn to pieces by a wild animal. The story continues with remarkable twists and turns, wild ups and downs for Joseph. He's first sold into Egypt to Potiphar, Pharaoh's captain of the guard. And when his new master sees that the Lord is with him and gives him success in everything he does, Joseph is put in complete charge and entrusted with all that Potiphar owned. But when, out of loyalty to Potiphar and fidelity to God, Joseph refuses the repeated advances of Potiphar's wife, she falsely accuses him of assault and he is thrown into prison. But once again, the Lord is with Joseph, this time prompting the prison's warden to eventually place Joseph in charge of the entire prison and all of its prisoners. Later, when the chief cupbearer and the chief baker both offend Pharaoh and are tossed in jail, they are attended by none other than Joseph. While in custody, both officials have disturbing dreams the very same night. When he heard the cupbearer's dream, Joseph explained that in three days, the cupbearer would be restored to his former position. And Joseph asked that when that happened, for the cupbearer to please remember him and plead his innocence before Pharaoh. Upon hearing such an upbeat interpretation for the cupbearer, the chief baker asked Joseph about his dream and was told that in three days Pharaoh would cut off his head and impale his body on a tree. Not as upbeat. Three days later, everything happened just as Joseph had said, and now, starting with the last verse of Genesis 40, we come to today's scripture. The chief cupbearer, however, did not remember Joseph. He forgot him. When two full years had passed, Pharaoh had a dream. So just halfway through our story, it's becoming increasingly clear that what God is revealing to us about himself, what he deems of tip-top importance for us to know, is that he's going to do what he says he's going to do no matter what. And he's going to do it his way, not our way. So that begs the question, the big question for us this morning, what is God's way of doing things? What does His way look like in practice? For starters, not like anything you or I would dream up. Steeped in mystery and far beyond our full comprehension, God's way uses people and circumstances which make little sense to us and which we would never choose. Operating according to his own timetable, God could pretty much care less about ours. Actively at work in all human decision and action, both good and evil, God's way by its very design frustrates and confounds human wisdom, intuition, and preference. And as an added kicker, not only won't we necessarily understand how God is at work in any given situation, oftentimes it won't even be obvious that he's working at all. Today's scripture may be short, but it is packed with significance as it illustrates God's way in action, focusing on the following three short snippets of text. The cupbearer forgot, two full years passed, Pharaoh had a dream. We see three defining features of God's way of doing things. All three are inextricably linked, all are shrouded in mystery, all are beyond our full understanding. And all are woven together in a way that ultimately and inevitably accomplish what God wants done. The first snippet of text, The Cupbearer Forgot, highlights the upside-down, counterintuitive nature of how God works. My first reaction is, what? The cupbearer forgot about Joseph? Are you kidding me? How is that helpful? Joseph did everything right. How is that fair? Yet almost without exception, we see in the story of Joseph and throughout all of Scripture, God's overwhelming preference to use people and circumstances that defy the odds and confound human wisdom and logic, devastating and demoralizing turns of events, great sorrows, constant obstacles and roadblocks, deeply flawed characters, good punished while evil seems to thrive, conflict, jealousy, forgotten obligations, in parentheses, see cupbearer. The list goes on. of the crummy circumstances that God seems to relish. Although we don't know all the reasons, Scripture does explain that God operates this way to humble us and to disabuse us of any notion that we deserve the credit, to make it perfectly clear that it is He who is responsible. He is the one in charge, and it is He who is at work. In 1 Corinthians 1, two full years past, illustrates what might be the most vexing and frustrating feature of God's way of doing things, his timing. It's now been 13 years since Joseph's brothers sold him into slavery. By all accounts, Joseph has done the right thing at every turn. It's even been obvious to those closest to him and in the best position to know yet here joseph still sits in prison and now when the tides of fortune finally appear to be moving in joseph's favor and he at last has an important advocate to plead his innocence before pharaoh the cupbearer completely forgets about Joseph, who then remains in prison for two more years. It's enough to want to pull your hair out, particularly if you're Joseph. But again, rather than being the exception, Joseph's experience with God's timing is more the rule in Scripture. Over and over again, we see periods of waiting, periods of silence, periods of struggle and sorrow, periods of absence and denial, periods of the wilderness, periods in exile. These occur on a grand global scale, as well as in the smallness and intimacy of individual lives and families. In the Bible, God reveals himself to be both a promise maker and a promise keeper. But just as we see with his magnificent promise to Abraham, which won't reach its complete fulfillment for another 2,000 years in the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus Christ, the Bible is really a story of the land in between. That time between promise and fulfillment, often very long. This is where the story of Joseph takes place. This is where God operates. And to further compound the mystery and complexity of God's timing, just as with his promise to Abraham, many of God's promises unfold over time, with some elements fulfilled sooner, while other elements of the very same promise must wait. We tend to focus on the ending and are anxious for its resolution. God, on the other hand, is all about playing the long game and is infinitely more patient, knowing that to achieve what he has ordained and promised, there is simply no substitute for the land in between. If given the chance, we would skip right past this land, avoiding its mystery, its uncertainty, its challenges, its obstacles, its disciplines, its heartbreak, disappointments. It's waiting. We hate wandering in the wilderness. I'm sure Joseph did too. Yet God's redemptive purposes don't happen without it. It's in the land in between that God shapes and changes us, redeems and refines us, preparing us for and moving us towards the ultimate promise fulfillment that will be eternity within. The third and final snippet of text is Pharaoh had a dream. And as we'll see next week, the dream prompts the cupbearer to finally remember Joseph. Was that just lucky that the Pharaoh had this dream? A coincidence? A bit of good fortune finally for Joseph? Not according to the Bible. This might be the most mysterious feature of how God operates. The scripture reveals that God sustains his creation and is involved and exerts his sovereign influence and control over all things. In so doing, God moves all of history steadily, inexorably, towards his appointed end. To be completely candid, even as I speak about it this morning, I struggle with this notion that God is involved in exerting his influence and control in and over all things. On the lighter side, I've been around church long enough to have heard the story of the person who, when going to Bible study on a rainy Wednesday morning, was late and praised God that a parking spot opened up right near the front door just as they pulled up. Isn't God great? Oh, all I can do is roll my eyes. Really? I don't want to be overly cynical, but come on. What about poor Sally who got there early and had to park all the way around the block and is now stopping wet? Was God judging her? Does he not favor and love her too? Is God really involved to that level of detail? But on a more serious note, what about all the terrible and tragic, unfair and absolutely evil things that happen in the world and sometimes in our lives? How can a just and loving God be involved in those things too? Now my go-to default answer has always been to ascribe all the bad things to the fact that we live in a fallen world, a world in which, for the time being, God accommodates the presence of evil and everything doesn't happen according to his will. But when I read the story of Joseph and reflect on the full testimony of scripture, I know my default answer is too simple, a bit too cut and dried. Our tendency is to want to attribute to God only the good things that happen and give him a pass on the bad things, explaining them away by saying it's a fallen world. However, God doesn't ever ask us for a pass. He doesn't need or want a pass from us. We might not intend to, but when we think he needs a pass, we shortchange and underestimate his mystery and his sovereignty. Rather than needing a pass, the story of Joseph affirms the picture of a God who is in control of all things and uses his influence in all things, even very bad and sinful things, to advance his redemptive plan. Very early on in the Bible, God is revealing that there is no human choice or decision that can derail what he intends on doing. In fact, we see God using those sinful choices to further rather than frustrate his plans. Scripture leaves the clear impression that more than simply allowing bad things to happen to Joseph, God is actively orchestrating, arranging, and in a sense, cooperating with those things. Joseph is only 17 when he is sold by his brothers, and he is 30 before things start turning around for him. Yet all those intervening events, conspiracy to murder, sold into slavery, framed and falsely accused, wrongly convicted, imprisoned, forgotten, all are woven together to bring us to this point in our story. The Bible teaches both God's sovereignty as well as human responsibility for our thoughts and actions. Now, if you find that difficult to reconcile, how can God be involved and in control and yet hold us accountable? If you can't tell where God's influence ends and human responsibility begins, if you find it even a bit frustrating that you can't fully understand or that it seems unfair, Scripture has a clear and consistent answer for you. Tough. Tough. I am God and you are not. It's of ironic, as we like to think we live in the age of science and enlightenment, but how enlightened are we really? As difficult as this idea might be for us to wrap our minds around, our modern minds around, it wasn't for Genesis' original audience, the Israelites. They didn't struggle with trying to figure out when, where, how, and if God intervened in human affairs. They did not think things unfolded naturally and that only on occasion, if at all, God might supernaturally intervene. Rather, they understood that things only happen naturally, like rain in its season, because God ordained it. In their worldview, nothing happened independently from God's cause and effect. Events and decisions were never either natural or supernatural, but always both and. Our way of looking at the world would seem odd and naive and perhaps even heretical to the Israelites, as if there was some dividing line between the natural and divine. They wouldn't spend much time trying to figure out if God was involved in a particular situation or not because they knew he was always involved somehow, some way. That doesn't mean that God and nature are one. They're not. But only that God is involved all the time. So we see in these three short snippets of text, the cupbearer forgot. Two full years passed. Pharaoh had a dream. God is revealing the mysterious and confounding methods, means, and timing of how he goes about accomplishing his purposes and plans. Reflecting on this, I was reminded of a Hertz car rental commercial from the 1990s. It opens with two businessmen, one an executive and his junior assistant, hustling out of a crowded airport. The boss says to his assistant, we've got to move fast, Kirby. I hope you've booked Hertz. Kirby replies, not exactly, but this company is fast. The boss asks, as fast as Hertz? Not exactly, but they do have a special place to pick up the car. Like Hertz? Not exactly, but it'll be waiting. Under a canopy with the keys in it? Not exactly, but they do have a special place to pick it up. Protected from the weather? Not exactly. The final scene is of the two men in their suits running to their car in the pouring rain. And the boss asks, counting on that promotion, Kirby? No, not exactly. I still love that commercial, even though I messed it up there, and have adapted it to the story of Joseph and what it means about God's way of working. Are we always going to understand what God is doing in our lives and how he's doing it? Not exactly. Is God concerned that everything makes sense to us? Not exactly. Does God care if everything seems fair? Not exactly. Does God want everything to go smoothly for us, avoiding obstacles and challenges that might confuse and discourage us? Not exactly. Doesn't God prefer to use mostly A-teamers, people who seem to have their acts together, rather than the weak, the flawed, and the foolish? Not exactly. Does God care if we're super busy or in a big hurry and have important things to do? Not exactly. Is God involved in control of only the good things in our lives? Not exactly. There is a sweeping passage from the book of Isaiah which captures in poetic language what the story of Joseph reveals and affirms so powerfully through story. Reading from the prophet Isaiah, chapter 55. For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord. As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts. He says, So God's thoughts are not our thoughts. His ways are not our ways. They are higher, better, eternal. And God's word that goes out from his mouth will not return to him empty, but will accomplish all that he intended and achieve the purpose for which he sent it. So when God says he's going to do something, he's going to do it. So why is this so important? Why should this matter to us today? Because God still works this way. Seeing the mysterious and perplexing way he operated in the life of Joseph, we should not be surprised when God operates that way in our lives. Why is this important? Why should this matter to us today? Because we live in the land in between. God's redemptive plan is ongoing, still somewhere between promise and fulfillment. I was raised in a church which taught that once you placed your faith and trust in Jesus Christ, that you were saved, sort of past tense, and you were pretty much good to go. I've since come to believe, based on a fuller reading of scripture, that's not really true. More accurately, I'm in the process of being saved. While now free from the penalty of sin, which Jesus bore on the cross on my behalf, the fullness of God's promise still lies in the future. When not only will the penalty of sin have been paid, but the very power and presence of sin and death will be vanquished, and we will be resurrected to new life. But for the time being, we are in the land in between, and God is still working in all things for good as he moves all of history towards his appointed end. Why is this so important? Why should this matter to us today? Because it frees us to trust in him. When we finally stop trying to fit God in a box that we can understand, when we stop foisting our expectations and preferences on him, when we finally accept the fact that we won't understand what he's doing most of the time, why he's doing it, or how it might possibly be good or redemptive, it's actually easier to let go, easier to trust, easier to rest in the knowledge that God's got this. In closing, we will never understand God's ways, how he operates to accomplish his purposes, but we don't need to, as he is always faithful and always true to his word. And like so many people of faith down through the ages, we can find great comfort and confidence knowing and trusting in that. Even Jesus' disciples had no clue what was happening or why at the end of Jesus' ministry and were completely overwhelmed and distraught at his death. Only later were they able to look back and understand that God was in control all along. The disciples explicitly acknowledged this when they prayed the following words. Indeed, Herod and Pontius Pilate met together with the Gentiles and the people of Israel in this city to conspire against your holy servant Jesus, whom you anointed. They did what your power and will had decided beforehand should happen. God, they only did what your power and will had decided beforehand should happen. In just a minute, the band is going to come back up here to perform a song, Promise Keeper. It's an absolutely gorgeous song, and as our closing prayer, and I'd like to ask you to bow your heads and close your eyes, I'm going to read a few stanzas of unfolding, with everything I've seen, how could I not believe? You are a promise keeper. Your word will never fail. My heart can trust you, Jesus. I won't be overwhelmed. I'll see your goodness in the land of the living. I'll see your goodness right here, right now. You know the ending before the beginning, and I know that you have worked all things out. Amen. Thank you.
